Is your marriage in a rough season? Are you and your wife arguing more? Struggling to connect? You’re not the only one. In this episode of the All Pro Dad Podcast, host Ted Lowe is joined by BJ Foster to talk about difficulties in marriage, the fights that result, and how not to give up on the relationship.Why This MattersNo marriage is perfect, but all marriages are worth fighting for. 6 Ways to NOT Give Up on Your Marriage1. Ask a better question.Ask, “What am I doing to make this marriage work?”2. Get help.There’s no shame in going to counseling. 3. Take divorce off the table. For most couples, their marriage can be fixed!4. Take a vacation from your issues. Set aside time when you aren’t trying to figure out what is wrong and enjoy what is right. 5. Surround your marriage Surround your marriage with people who are for your marriage and not just you. 6. Be brave. Fight for the courage to do the hard, uncomfortable, and self-sacrificing things to save your family.Important Episode Timestamps00:00 – 02:05 | Little Fights Add Up02:05 – 04:17 | Small Annoyances Become Big Problems04:17 – 05:53 | Is This Worth Fighting For?05:53 – 07:43 | The Marriage Happiness U-Curve07:43 – 09:35 | The Four Horsemen That Destroy Marriages09:35 – 11:23 | Your Tone and Reactions Shape Conflict11:23 – 14:59 | Ask a Better Question14:59 – 20:15 | Don’t Wait to Get Help20:15 – 23:26 | Take a Vacation From Your Issues23:26 – End | Surround Yourself With Marriage-BuildersAPD Pro Move:Bravely, humbly, ask your wife, “What is one thing I can do to love and serve you this week?” (Once she responds, simply say, "Thanks for letting me know." Then do it. If your wife says it’s too late, talk to an expert.) All Pro Dad Resources:Episode 101 – How Does Having Kids Change Your Marriage?Episode 91 – Is There a Secret to Balancing Marriage and Fatherhood?How 4 Minutes 4 Times a Day Can ProteWe love feedback, but can't reply without your email address. Message us your thoughts and contact info!Connect with Us: Ted Lowe on LinkedIn Bobby Lewis on LinkedIn BJ Foster on LinkedIn Subscribe on Apple Podcasts Get All Pro Dad merch! EXTRAS: Follow us: Instagram | Facebook | X (Twitter)Join 200,000+ other dads by subscribing to the All Pro Dad Play of the Day. Get daily fatherhood ideas, insight, and inspiration straight to your inbox.This episode's blog can also be viewed here on AllProDad.com. Like the All Pro Dad gear and mugs? Get your own in the All Pro Dad store.Get great content for moms at iMOM.com
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How Much is Too Much to Spend on Kids?
Is my child too spoiled? If you’re even asking, that means you’re spending a good amount of money on your kids. We get it. Youth sports, music lessons, and all those extracurriculars add up, but does that equal a spoiled kid? In this episode of the All Pro Dad Podcast, host Ted Lowe is joined by BJ Foster and Bobby Lewis to talk about how much we’re spending on our children and if that’s even a bad thing. Why This MattersStewarding our money well is one way we love our families. Potential Problems of Overspending on Our Kids1. Kids may get used to receiving all the time.2. It demonstrates a lack of self-control by Dad. 3. It contributes to kids’ anxious feelings. 4. Parents may feel financial strain. 5. The line between need and want gets blurred. What Can Dads Do?Action Step 1: Take a hard look at your spending habits around your child. Is it excessive? Action Step 2: Take a hard look at what your spending habits around your kids is doing to you. Are you overextended and stressed out about money? Important Episode Timestamps00:00 – 01:19 | How Much Are We Really Spending on Our Kids?01:19 – 03:51 | Am I Overspending or Just Feeding Them?03:51 – 05:35 | Theme Parks, Passes, and Pricey Memories05:35 – 09:03 | Did Our Parents Overspend? Not Even Close09:03 – 10:37 | The Gas-Money Jar Strategy10:37 – 13:48 | “This Isn’t Fair!” and the Car Lesson That Stuck13:48 – 17:53 | Overspending Sets an Example—Good or Bad17:53 – 21:20 | Needs vs. Wants: The Hockey Equipment Breakdown21:20 – 25:57 | Am I Buying This for Them… or for Me?25:57 – End | Pro Move: Identify 2-3 significant items or experiences you’ve provided for your child, and ask yourself: What lesson is it teaching them about money, patience, and value? If the answer isn’t clear, or feels negative, hit the brakes and reconsider. All Pro Dad Resources Episode 56: Dale Alexander: How Do We Teach Our Kids About Money?Episode 57: Dale Alexander: What Should Ever Dad Know About Managing Money?3 Ways to Think Differently About YourWe love feedback, but can't reply without your email address. Message us your thoughts and contact info!Connect with Us: Ted Lowe on LinkedIn Bobby Lewis on LinkedIn BJ Foster on LinkedIn Subscribe on Apple Podcasts Get All Pro Dad merch! EXTRAS: Follow us: Instagram | Facebook | X (Twitter)Join 200,000+ other dads by subscribing to the All Pro Dad Play of the Day. Get daily fatherhood ideas, insight, and inspiration straight to your inbox.This episode's blog can also be viewed here on AllProDad.com. Like the All Pro Dad gear and mugs? Get your own in the All Pro Dad store.Get great content for moms at iMOM.com
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How Should We Teach Our Sons to Respect Women?
“She’s the most beautiful girl in town. That makes her the best, and don’t I deserve the best?” Remember that line from Gaston in Beauty and the Beast? It probably doesn’t register as disrespectful with kids, but it certainly is. In this episode of the All Pro Dad Podcast, host Ted Lowe is joined by BJ Foster and Bobby Lewis to talk about how to raise sons to respect women.Why This Matters· Boys have mothers and sisters, who are worthy of respect.· Boys will date girls, who are worthy of respect.· Boys may one day have wives, who will be worthy of respect.If you’re wondering what do to teach your sons about respecting women, you’re not alone. Start here:1. Point out problematic phrases directed at women:Objectifying, controlling, and sexualized language is not respectful. 2. Listen to girls/women: When a girl says “____,” respect her wishes. No means no.3. Set a standard:Model respect with the women you interact with. Show respect with your words, actions, and entertainment decisions. Your sons will see that. 4. Follow the standard, not the crowd:Remind kids that they don’t have to go along with what other boys accept, popularize, or glamorize about women. Important Episode Timestamps 00:00 – 01:20 | Hidden Messages Are Everywhere01:20 – 02:43 | Teaching Kids to See Value Beyond Looks02:43 – 04:42 | Reducing People to Appearances04:42 – 08:09 | Respect Starts at Home08:09 – 09:47 | A Friend’s Dating Frustration09:47 – 12:18 | Boys, Teasing, and Early Lessons in Respect12:18 – 15:25 | Is Respect Instinctive or Taught?15:25 – 17:33 | Setting Boundaries for Sons17:33 – 20:21 | Listen When Women Speak20:21 – End | Raising Sons Who Honor Future WivesAPD Pro Move:Challenge your son(s) to talk to a girl he knows and ask her if she feels respected by boys. Encourage him to listen and respond kindly.Listen Again:Episode 99 – Should Dads Be Worried About the Manosphere?4 Boy Stereotypes to Dispel For Your Son5 Ways toWe love feedback, but can't reply without your email address. Message us your thoughts and contact info!Connect with Us: Ted Lowe on LinkedIn Bobby Lewis on LinkedIn BJ Foster on LinkedIn Subscribe on Apple Podcasts Get All Pro Dad merch! EXTRAS: Follow us: Instagram | Facebook | X (Twitter)Join 200,000+ other dads by subscribing to the All Pro Dad Play of the Day. Get daily fatherhood ideas, insight, and inspiration straight to your inbox.This episode's blog can also be viewed here on AllProDad.com. Like the All Pro Dad gear and mugs? Get your own in the All Pro Dad store.Get great content for moms at iMOM.com
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How Do I Help My Kids Get Along?
We've all been there. Your kids are fighting AGAIN—this time over something even more frustrating than earlier today. The noise and sour feelings leave you wondering if there will ever be peace in your home. In this episode of the All Pro Dad Podcast, host Ted Lowe is joined by BJ Foster and Bobby Lewis to talk about the understandable reasons kids fail to get along and pitch ideas to fix it.Why This MattersKids who get along now are more likely to stay friends as adults. Kids Don’t Get Along Because…· They both want the same thing· They think it's not fair· They have different personalities· They're at different ages· They haven't learned how to share or solve problemsPractical Tips for Dads1: Get proactive.Model how to act during conflict, celebrate their strengths, make sure everyone gets “dad time,” talk about how to get along during calm moments, compliment them when they are getting along, and beware of how life events can impact behavior. 2: Get involved.Inject yourself when you need to, but stay calm, take breaks to avoid saying things you don’t mean, attack them problem (not them), and find solutions together. 3: Know when it is time to seek help.Sometimes, constant conflict requires professional help. Seek counsel if there is physical abuse in your home. Important Episode Timestamps 00:00 – 01:13 | Why Sibling Relationships Matter So Much01:13 – 02:35 | When “Horseplay” Crosses the Line02:35 – 03:09 | Every Family Deals With It03:09 – 05:04 | Why Kids Don’t Get Along05:04 – 07:15 | The Age Gap Struggle07:15 – 08:46 | Rejection Hurts Most at Home08:46 – 10:06 | Step 1: Model Healthy Conflict10:06 – 12:04 | Step 2: Create “Me and Dad” Time12:04 – 16:10 | Step 3: Teach Through Calm Moments16:10 – End | Step 4: Know When to Get HelpAPD Pro Move:Create a family rule or motto for how you plan to treat each other.All Pro Dad Resources10 Ways to Curb Sibling RivalryHow to Stop Backseat BickeringWe love feedback, but can't reply without your email address. Message us your thoughts and contact info!Connect with Us: Ted Lowe on LinkedIn Bobby Lewis on LinkedIn BJ Foster on LinkedIn Subscribe on Apple Podcasts Get All Pro Dad merch! EXTRAS: Follow us: Instagram | Facebook | X (Twitter)Join 200,000+ other dads by subscribing to the All Pro Dad Play of the Day. Get daily fatherhood ideas, insight, and inspiration straight to your inbox.This episode's blog can also be viewed here on AllProDad.com. Like the All Pro Dad gear and mugs? Get your own in the All Pro Dad store.Get great content for moms at iMOM.com
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How Does Having Kids Change Your Marriage?
Ever tried to have a quiet conversation with your wife while a toddler was around? Good luck. We love kids, but they sure can get in the way sometimes. In this episode of the All Pro Dad Podcast, host Ted Lowe is joined by BJ Foster and Bobby Lewis to talk about the threats parenting presents to marriage. Why This MattersMarriages change after you have kids. Men must prioritize their relationship with their wives in order to weather the challenges that parenting presents. Common Threats to Marriage After Becoming a Dad· Exhaustion: Kids wear us out physically, emotionally, and mentally. That impacts your marriage. · New areas of conflict: Arguments can get us thinking “me” not “we.”· Losing sight of each other: Don’t live like roommates. Set aside intentional time to connect with your wife. · Mis-ordered priorities: Our wives’ needs should always come before kids’. · Forgetting you’re a team: Work together with your wife to raise kids well. Important Episode Timestamps00:00 – 02:03 | Anniversary Plans Gone Wrong02:03 – 05:15 | When Kids Interrupt Everything05:15 – 07:02 | Life Before and After Kids07:02 – 09:20 | The Big Question: What Threats Do Kids Bring to Marriage?09:20 – 13:31 | Threat #1: Exhaustion13:31 – 17:12 | The Power of Prioritizing Date Night17:12 – 22:13 | Threat #2: New Arenas for Conflict22:13 – 26:33 | Threat #3: Living Like Roommates26:33 – 33:15 | Threat #4: Misordered Priorities33:15 – End | Pro Move of the Week: Put your wife first this week. Plan a date. Schedule quiet time together. Remind her that she is your top priority.All Pro Dad Resources:Episode 70 – What Do Happily Married Couples Think About?Episode 48 – How Do I Overcome Challenges in My Marriage?5 Threats Parenting Presents to Marriage5 Barriers to Fun in Your Marriage9 Ways to We love feedback, but can't reply without your email address. Message us your thoughts and contact info!Connect with Us: Ted Lowe on LinkedIn Bobby Lewis on LinkedIn BJ Foster on LinkedIn Subscribe on Apple Podcasts Get All Pro Dad merch! EXTRAS: Follow us: Instagram | Facebook | X (Twitter)Join 200,000+ other dads by subscribing to the All Pro Dad Play of the Day. Get daily fatherhood ideas, insight, and inspiration straight to your inbox.This episode's blog can also be viewed here on AllProDad.com. Like the All Pro Dad gear and mugs? Get your own in the All Pro Dad store.Get great content for moms at iMOM.com
On average, men switch jobs every four years, but one role guys will never outgrow, is dad. It’s a serious responsibility that lasts a lifetime and comes with highs, lows, and a ton of questions. It’s okay not to have all the answers… but the most committed dads are always chasing them. The All Pro Dad podcast helps men navigate their toughest parenting problems. Experienced dads tackle tough topics, share what's worked for them, and discuss how to love your kids well. We do it all with a combination of humor and humility. If you have more questions than answers, this is the place to be. Today’s the perfect day to become an All Pro Dad.
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