Better Loving, by Laura Ellen

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Episode Summary:
Starting again isn’t triumphant for me, it’s tender, resistant, and quietly/very confronting. In this episode, I reflect on what it’s been like to return to public creation after three years of choosing privacy, growth, and a life lived largely off the internet. Responding to your AMA questions, I share why I stepped away, what I had to let go of, and how I’m learning to hold creativity, visibility, and integrity without self-abandonment. This is a conversation about shame, courage, and allowing ourselves to be seen again.
Key Topics:
- Resistance, fear, and desire when starting again
- Life beyond internet attention and external validation
- Why I stepped away — and what that time made possible
- Integrating growth through action, not just insight
- Holding both visibility and integrity as a therapist
- Reclaiming creativity without shame
- The courage it takes to be seen

Disclaimer
This podcast is intended for general educational and reflective purposes only and is not a substitute for individual mental health care. The topics discussed are broad in nature and cannot account for individual circumstances or nuance. Listeners are encouraged to take what resonates, leave what doesn’t, and seek appropriate professional support where needed. If you have any questions or concerns, please contact [email protected].
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Episode Summary:Cue that moment when you realise you might actually be the common denominator in your relationships. This episode dives into why we lose our power when we stay stuck in victim mentality, drama cycles, and blame, and how embracing radical self-responsibility and self-ownership can transform the way you relate to others. I explore the importance of healthy boundaries, secure attachment, and releasing anger and resentment, offering insights into how owning your 50% can unlock more empowered, authentic relationships across friends, family, money, and lovers.

Key Topics:
Victim mentality and its impact on personal power
Recognising drama cycles in relationships
Radical self-responsibility and self-ownership
Healthy relationships and secure attachment
Releasing anger and resentment
Setting and maintaining boundaries
Ending blame and reclaiming your power

Disclaimer:
This podcast is intended for general educational and reflective purposes only and is not a substitute for individual mental health care. The topics discussed are broad in nature and cannot account for individual circumstances or nuance. Listeners are encouraged to take what resonates, leave what doesn’t, and seek appropriate professional support where needed. If you have any questions or concerns, please contact [email protected].
© Laura Ellen. All rights reserved.


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Music by PIANIKA, a New Zealand based producer, creating capsules of sound and energy. Listen here.

Episode Summary:
Sexual energy is more than something to discharge or “get over with.” In this episode, Laura explores sexual energy as a vital life force—one that can either deplete us or actively nourish our creativity, confidence, and capacity to take meaningful action. Drawing from embodied wisdom and reflective inquiry, this conversation invites listeners to become more conscious of how they relate to arousal, desire, and pleasure, and how that energy can be intentionally directed toward connection, self-trust, creative expression, and personal power. This episode is an invitation to relate to sexuality with greater awareness, agency, and depth.

Key Topics Covered:
Depletive sex versus nourishing sex
Sexual energy as a creative and life-enhancing force
Mindfully choosing where and how you invest your sexual energy
Sexuality beyond performance or release
Cultivating power, vitality, and embodied confidence
Using arousal as fuel for creativity, clarity, and bold action

Disclaimer:
This podcast is intended for general educational and reflective purposes only and is not a substitute for individual mental health care. The topics discussed are broad in nature and cannot account for individual circumstances or nuance. Listeners are encouraged to take what resonates, leave what doesn’t, and seek appropriate professional support where needed. If you have any questions or concerns, please contact [email protected].
© Laura Ellen. All rights reserved.



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Music by PIANIKA, a New Zealand based producer, creating capsules of sound and energy. Listen here.

Episode Summary:
In this episode, we explore the question many people quietly live inside of: Should I stay, or should I go? Rather than offering a definitive answer, this conversation invites deeper self-responsibility around indecision, ambivalence, and commitment in intimate relationships. We look at how lack of clarity erodes connection, how toxic dynamics are co-created, and what it actually takes to relate from a secure, conscious place. This episode supports listeners to slow down, ask better questions, and discern whether they are choosing from fear, habit, or genuine devotion—before making life-altering relationship decisions.

Key Topics Covered:
Conscious relating and secure attachment
Indecision, ambivalence, and the cost of not choosing
Toxic relationship dynamics and shared responsibility
Devotional love, commitment, and emotional maturity
Conflict, blame, and drama cycles
Trying to change your partner vs accepting reality
Compromise vs self-abandonment
Consenting vs accommodating
Knowing when to stay, when to leave, and how to tell the difference
Breakup realities and relational discernment
Better questions to ask yourself before ending (or deepening) a relationship

Disclaimer:
This podcast is intended for general educational and reflective purposes only and is not a substitute for individual mental health care. The topics discussed are broad in nature and cannot account for individual circumstances or nuance. Listeners are encouraged to take what resonates, leave what doesn’t, and seek appropriate professional support where needed. If you have any questions or concerns, please contact [email protected].
© Laura Ellen. All rights reserved.



This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit bylauraellen.substack.com/subscribe

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Work with Laura
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Music by PIANIKA, a New Zealand based producer, creating capsules of sound and energy. Listen here.

Episode Summary:
This episode explores what it really takes to move beyond performative sexuality and into a sex life—and sense of self—that feels authentic, embodied, and fulfilling. We look at how body confidence, anxious attachment, shame, and inherited sexual narratives can quietly shape how we show up in intimacy, often keeping us disconnected from our power and desire. Through honest reflection and practical insight, this conversation invites listeners to reclaim their sexuality as a place of agency, self-trust, and self-discovery—where sex works for you, not against you, and where being fully yourself is no longer negotiable.

Key Topics Covered:
Body confidence and sexual self-trust
Anxious attachment and how it shows up in intimacy
Releasing shame-based sexual conditioning
Moving out of fear and into personal power
Authentic self-expression in relationships and sex
Intentional, pleasure-led sexuality
Accessing deeper, instinctual (primal) states safely
Courage, rejection, and self-ownership
Sexual fulfillment beyond external validation

Disclaimer:
This podcast is intended for general educational and reflective purposes only and is not a substitute for individual mental health care. The topics discussed are broad in nature and cannot account for individual circumstances or nuance. Listeners are encouraged to take what resonates, leave what doesn’t, and seek appropriate professional support where needed. If you have any questions or concerns, please contact [email protected].
© Laura Ellen. All rights reserved.



This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit bylauraellen.substack.com/subscribe