006- Stop Wanting the Love of Someone Who Doesn't Want You
Send us a textSo many of us carry the belief that we have to earn love. That if we change who we are, give more of ourselves, or abandon our own needs, then maybe, just maybe, someone will finally choose us. But true love isn’t an audition.In this powerful episode of Beyond Words, we explore what it means to stop chasing after the bare minimum. Together, we’ll look at why we cling to those who only offer us crumbs of attention, and how to shift toward a love that meets us where we are: whole, worthy, and enough.If you’ve ever found yourself asking: Why don’t they love me the way I love them? Why do I have to prove myself just to be seen? this conversation is for you.You’ll be reminded:Why abandoning yourself for love is never true love.How to recognize when you’re living on crumbs instead of the feast you deserve.That you don’t need to beg for love that was promised. The right person will see your worth without conditions.Stop auditioning for people’s lives. Stop surviving on scraps. You are worthy of a love that stays, grows, and lets you rest safely in it.Timestamps & Show Notes:0:00 – Introduction Why so many of us grow up believing love must be earned, and how that belief drives us to self-abandonment.2:45 – The Illusion of Earning Love The cycle of chasing crumbs of affection and mistaking them for a feast.6:30 – The Cost of Auditioning The exhaustion and heartache of performing to be chosen, and why it never leads to real security.10:15 – What Real Love Is (and Isn’t) A reflection on conditional love versus love that sees your essence without demands.15:00 – Reclaiming Your Worth Steps to move away from scarcity and toward embodying worthiness.19:20 – Closing Reflections An affirmation to stop auditioning for people’s lives — and rest in the truth that you are already enough.
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005- How to Move On After Betrayal
Send us a textWhat do you do when the life you were building with someone turns out to be an illusion? When the love you believed in crumbles in an instant. And all that’s left is dust?This episode is for the moments after the betrayal. For when your heart is shattered but you're being told to "just move on." For when you’re still carrying the weight of dreams that will never happen. And wondering why you're the one left with all the pain.Najwa walks you through the reality of betrayal. Not just the event, but the after. The instability. The shame. The self-blame. The hiding. And most importantly… the healing.If you’ve ever questioned your worth because someone lied to you, cheated on you, or shattered your trust, this episode will meet you exactly where you are.Timestamps & Show Notes:0:00 — She thought she built a castle with someone. In one moment, it turned to dust. 1:00 — What betrayal really takes from you — and why pretending you’re fine won’t help 3:00 — Why we become avoidant after betrayal (and why it makes sense) 5:00 — The story of Jana and Kenny: When everything you believed crumbles 8:00 — You’re not weak for feeling the pain. You’re human. 10:00 — Stop surrounding yourself with people who shame you for still hurting 13:00 — Walking on unstable ground and blaming yourself for not being steady 17:00 — What true friendship and support looks like after betrayal 20:00 — You were saved by their inability to be who they claimed they were 22:00 — Stop blaming yourself for being “too much.” You were just too much for the wrong person. 27:00 — Betrayal isn’t your responsibility to fix — even if it shattered everything 31:00 — Why love without visibility isn’t love — it’s invisibility 36:00 — Stop trying to fix what was never yours to fix 40:00 — The real way through: feel it, honor it, and reclaim your worth 42:00 — A final reflection: write down 3 things you now know to be true about yourself
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004- Let Them Think What They Want to Think
Send us a textWhat happens when you're seen through a lens that distorts your truth? When you're cast as the villain in someone else's story despite showing up with honesty, loyalty, and love? In this episode, Najwa explores the emotional weight of being misunderstood and offers a liberating framework for letting go of the need to correct how others perceive you.This is for the people who’ve spent too long defending themselves, explaining their intentions, and begging to be seen accurately. It's time to stop proving. It's time to start living.Timestamps & Show Notes:00:00 – The danger of defining yourself through someone else's eyes 01:00 – When they see you as the worst version of yourself 02:00 – Acknowledging the pain of being misunderstood 03:20 – The trap of trying to prove your worth to someone committed to misunderstanding you 04:50 – "I am who I think you think I am": the identity distortion 06:00 – Reclaiming your power by prioritizing your own opinion of yourself 07:00 – Your responsibility is to be, not to convince 08:30 – Why people-pleasing leads to emotional emptiness 09:40 – The cost of carrying emotional baggage that was never yours 10:50 – The guilt of saying “no” and rewriting the belief that self-protection is selfish 12:00 – Self-sacrifice as a disguised cry for validation 14:00 – Being seen vs. truly being known 16:00 – When people need you to be the villain so they can feel like the hero 18:20 – The ego’s need to distort your image to avoid accountability 20:00 – Letting go of what their circle thinks too: your truth is not up for debate 21:30 – Why trying to correct every lie drains your power 23:00 – One person who truly sees you is worth more than a thousand who only know your name 24:30 – The toxicity of living a life just to be seen a certain way 25:50 – Before you share, ask: Is this real, or am I seeking validation? 27:10 – The freedom that comes from detachment 28:00 – Let your truth speak louder than the lies 29:10 – You don’t need to warn others: rotten fruit falls on its own 30:00 – Final recap: 5 strategies to let them think what they want5 Strategies to Let Them Think What They Want:Acknowledge the pain of being misunderstoodRelease the responsibility to change their opinionsStop trying to rewrite the role they’ve assigned you in their storyFocus on living your life—not proving your worthLet your truth speak louder than the narratives they pushIf this episode spoke to you, share it with someone who needs the reminder to stop chasing validation and start standing in their truth. Subscribe, leave a rating or a review—it means the world and helps others find Beyond Words.Until next time, may you continue to find healing… beyond words.
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003- How to Heal After a Narcissist
Send us a textIf you’ve ever blamed yourself for how someone mistreated you, this episode is for you.Najwa dives deep into the emotional aftermath of narcissistic abuse: how it distorts your reality, erodes your self-trust, and leaves you questioning your worth. She explains why gaslighting, love bombing, triangulation, and emotional confusion are tools of control, not love. And she reminds you of the most important truth:You were never hard to love. You were simply hard to control.This episode offers three powerful healing strategies to help you stop blaming yourself, find closure without their apology, and reclaim your power, your clarity, and your peace.Timestamps & Show Notes:00:00 – “It wasn’t that bad” – how we gaslight ourselves after narcissistic abuse 01:00 – Why naming the harm matters more than labeling the person 03:10 – Love bombing is not love - it’s control wrapped in affection 04:50 – The slow emotional erosion: how you ended up in a drought 06:00 – Why narcissists teach you to minimize your own pain 07:10 – What gaslighting really is - and why it leaves you doubting your reality 09:00 – When you start gaslighting yourself to keep the peace 10:00 – The invisible contract: love offered, control delivered 13:00 – Word salad, deflection, and emotional confusion as tools of manipulation 17:00 – You weren’t too attached - you were attached to the wrong person 18:50 – The marionette effect: how narcissists condition and control you 20:00 – Stop blaming yourself for their decision to hurt you 22:00 – Closure doesn’t come from them -it comes from truth 25:40 – Triangulation: when they gave others what you yearned for 27:00 – Clarity is your healing. Confusion was their goal. 28:00 – You were never hard to love. You were hard to control. 30:00 – Reclaim your reflection, your voice, your power 33:50 – This is your closure. You didn’t deserve any of it.
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002- The Power of Saying Nothing
Send us a textWe often believe we need to speak to be heard. But sometimes, silence is the most powerful voice we have.In this episode, Najwa explores five moments where choosing not to speak is not weakness, but self-respect. Whether you're being dismissed, unfairly accused, or stuck in spaces where your words are used against you, this episode teaches you how to reclaim your power without saying a word.You don’t owe everyone a response. You owe yourself peace.Timestamps & Show Notes:00:00 – When dismissal becomes normal: how silence protects you 01:07 – Why responding isn’t always empowering 03:09 – 5 times when silence speaks louder than words 04:47 – #1: When you're being devalued, dismissed, or insulted 07:20 – The emotional cost of tolerating the silent treatment 10:19 – What happens when words are used to chip away at you 12:01 – The moment you stop defending yourself 14:48 – “If it’s not your poop, don’t clean it up” (therapy wisdom) 17:05 – Why you don’t need to defend your goodness anymore 18:04 – #2: When you're accused of something you didn’t do 22:13 – #3: When your words don’t have a safe space to land 25:12 – How to protect yourself in unsafe emotional environments 27:39 – #4: When you don’t know what to say, pause instead of proving 30:19 – Don’t confuse people by staying in confusion 31:27 – #5: When it’s not your story to share, walk away from gossip 34:52 – Hold yourself to the same standard you want from others 37:12 – Recap of the 5 moments when silence is the answer
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