Do You F*cking Mind?

How to Reclaim Your Power Without Controlling Anyone

In this episode, I break down the psychology behind control. Why we try to manage other people’s behaviour, emotions, and choices, and how that quietly drains our power, peace, and sense of self.

We talk about:


Why trying to control others makes you feel more powerless, not less


How victim mentality keeps you dependent on other people’s energy and validation


The ways control shows up as guilt, emotional pressure, or “needs”


Why boundaries are about your behaviour and not changing someone else’s


How letting go of control reduces anxiety and emotional exhaustion


Why focusing only on yourself feels uncomfortable but creates real change


How to stop feeling guilty, indebted, or responsible for other people’s emotions


The mindset shift that helps you reclaim your power without force, manipulation, or emotional labour

This episode is for anyone who feels drained by relationships, stuck in cycles of guilt or resentment, or exhausted from trying to hold everything together.

You don’t need more control.
You need your power back.
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Why do you keep comparing yourself to everyone else, even people you love?
Why does competition creep into friendships, relationships, work, and social media… even when you know it’s making you feel worse?

In this episode, I break down the psychology of comparison and competition. Why your brain gets stuck in it, why some situations trigger you more than others, and how to end the comparison cycle permanently, not just “manage” it.

We talk about:


Why comparison isn’t the problem, loss of self-trust is


How triggers reveal where you’ve outsourced your worth


The difference between healthy ambition and toxic competition


Why comparing yourself to friends and siblings hurts the most


How social media intensifies insecurity without you realising


The psychology behind competing for validation, attention, and approval


How to stop competing in friendships, dating, and everyday life


The mindset shift that makes comparison lose its power for good

This episode is for anyone who feels behind, constantly measures themselves against others, or is exhausted by the quiet mental competition they can’t seem to turn off.

If comparison is draining your confidence, affecting your relationships, or keeping you stuck, this episode will help you understand why it happens and exactly how to step out of it for good.
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BONJOUR! Head Noise today!

So many questions coming through so we are ramping up these Head Noise episodes.

Today we cover dating curses and how to break out of them, issues with friends who have given you the silent treatment, how to advance at work and stop being a soggy lemon and what to do when you take a step back for the sake of your mental health but it causes your mental health to continue to suffer because of the dreaded identity crisis.

Lets get into it!!
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On this HN episode, I get to answer your questions and they are GOOD. ⁠We get to the bottom of:

Why you may be so bad at picking the right partner, how to change something within you to make better choices moving forward.

Why you do not have to feel guilty for cutting a friend off even if they have zero friends (ahem, accountability)

How to deal with a painfully negative mother (whom you adore and do not want to cut out)

And what to do if you are at the 7 year mark, unsure if you should stay or leave when there is a house and 2 dogs involved.

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If rejection (or even perceived rejection) feels physically painful, overwhelming, or impossible to shake, this episode is for you.

In this episode, we explore the psychology behind Rejection Sensitivity Dysphoria (RSD) a widely recognized experience (though not a formal diagnosis) that’s especially common in people with ADHD, and anyone who struggles with intense emotional reactions to rejection, criticism, or disapproval.

This episode covers:


What RSD actually feels like and why it can feel physically painful


The difference between real rejection and perceived rejection


Common triggers (and why perception matters more than reality)


What’s happening in the brain during an RSD spiral


Signs you may be experiencing RSD


Why people-pleasing, avoidance, overachievement, and rumination don’t actually help


How RSD differs from “normal” emotional sensitivity


The link between RSD, ADHD, and emotional dysregulation

This episode isn’t about “toughening up” or stopping emotions from happening.

It’s about learning how to move through rejection without losing yourself to it and rebuilding a sense of control, safety, and self-trust.

If you’ve ever thought, “I know this is irrational, but it feels unbearable,” this conversation will help you understand why and what to do next.

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