281. Will My Dysregulation Have a Lasting Impact on My Children? With Dr. Amber Thornton
Do you find yourself feeling dysregulated more often than you’d like? Dr. Amber Thornton, licensed Clinical Psychologist, is on the show today to talk with us about how we can recognize and work with the different triggers that can set us off. If you are someone who tends to stress about worst case scenarios that “might” happen, she has some tips for you. Or maybe you dread the infamous 2nd shift of parenthood; that time between school/daycare and bedtime? Dr. Thornton shares some strategies to help us cope with the overwhelm that can come at that time of day. She leaves us with realistic expectations we should be setting for ourselves and reminds us that at the end of the day, we aren’t going to be able to meet every single one of our child’s needs, and that’s okay. Links & Resources:LMNT: Free Sample Pack with purchase: drinkLMNT.com/HERSELF MAUI NUI: mauinuivenison.com/herselfCYMBIOTIKA: 20% off and free shipping on first order https://partners.cymbiotika.com/HERSELFFollow Dr. Amber Thornton on InstagramDr. Amber’s WebsiteOrder Dr. Amber’s Book; A Parent’s Guide to Self-RegulationLet’s connect!HERSELF PATREON: https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcastJoin our exclusive community for bonus episodes, extra video content, book club and more!HERSELF INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/herselfpodcastMEET AMY: http://instagram.com/ameskieferMEET ABBY: http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreenThis episode was brought to you by the Pivot Ball Change Network.
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280. Feeling Like Roommates? How to Reignite Romance & Connection with Dr. Morgan Cutlip
Dr. Morgan Cutlip, relationship expert, is no stranger to the HERself Podcast and we are so excited to have her back for another episode! Together we will be tackling “mental load” with tangible strategies that can actually work for you, your relationship, and your home. We talked with Dr. Morgan in episode 162, and in episode 163 we shared how we implemented her wisdom. But today, we’ll be diving deeper into our relationships to understand why sharing the mental load can prevent burnout and resentment and how to keep the spark alive to have a satisfying sex life. Like Amy and Colin, we know some of you in our community travel for work or have a spouse that travels for work. We acknowledge that this dynamic makes sharing the mental load challenging, and Dr. Morgan has some strategies to consider to foster communication while apart. Intimacy can play a major role in feeling connected to your partner too, so we encourage you to take to heart the details of Dr. Morgan’s interview with us today to nurture your relationship and feel connected outside and inside of the bedroom!Links & Resources:Free Shipping at GOODR with code ‘HERSELF’20% off at Vuori ClothingJoin us for Book Club starting soon, plus so much more in our private Patreon community!Follow Dr. Morgan Cutlip on InstagramDr. Morgan’s WebsiteOrder Dr. Morgan’s Book; “A Better Share: How Couples Can Tackle the Mental Load for More Fun, Less Resentment, and Great Sex”HERself Episode 162 - Dr. Morgan Cutlip Answers Our Top Relationship Questions HERself Episode 163 - Real Partnership: How We Implemented Dr. Morgan Cutlip’s Relationship WisdomLet’s connect!HERSELF PATREON: https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcastJoin our exclusive community for bonus episodes, extra video content, book club and more!HERSELF INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/herselfpodcastMEET AMY: http://instagram.com/ameskieferMEET ABBY: http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreenThis episode was brought to you by the Pivot Ball Change Network.
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279. From Shame to Self-Acceptance with Dr. Zoe Shaw
Today on the podcast, we are talking about a vulnerable topic and human experience: shame. While we know it’s not always comfortable to talk about, we also know we aren't alone in our experiences and that sharing is how we all learn and grow. To help us walk through the topic of shame, we have invited Dr. Zoe Shaw on to today’s episode. Dr. Zoe is a psychotherapist, author, podcast host, and speaker who is passionate about helping women through difficult relationships and helping them overcome complex shame and codependency. Dr. Zoe talks us through the difference between simple and complex shame, people who may be more inclined to experience complex shame, the part that shame may play in our romantic relationships, and how codependency can impact our shame cycles. Today’s episode is unlike any other episode. It is truly impactful and we will be thinking about this episode for weeks and months to come.Links & Resources:20% off your first order of Cymbiotika PLUS free shipping Team SuperCrew use code ‘HERSELF’ for 10% your purchase PLUS free gift10% off at BETTERHELPFollow on Dr. Zoe Shaw on InstagramDr. Zoe’s WebsiteListen to Dr. Zoe’s Podcast: Stronger In the Difficult PlacesPreorder Dr. Zoe’s Book; “Strong In the Difficult Places…”’Let’s connect!HERSELF PATREON: https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcastJoin our exclusive community for bonus episodes, extra video content, book club and more!HERSELF INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/herselfpodcastMEET AMY: http://instagram.com/ameskieferMEET ABBY: http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreenThis episode was brought to you by the Pivot Ball Change Network.
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278. The Keys To Healthy + Well Relationships with Dr. Thema Bryant
Relationships are at the foundation of our everyday connections. Friendship, family, and romantic relationships take dedication for both sides to feel validated and loved. We know relationships are hard, which is why we invited Dr. Thema Bryant to share with us her incredible knowledge and expertise. Dr. Thema is a psychologist, author, professor, and President of the American Psychological Association. Through her work as an educator, podcast host, and her newly released book, “Matters of the Heart”, Dr. Thema is leading the way in creating healthy relationships, healing traumas, and helping others overcome stress and oppression. This episode gave us a new way of thinking about our own relationships and we walked away with so many insightful new ways to shift our mindsets surrounding love and relationships. Dr. Thema’s answers to our deep and personal questions were so well spoken, we know you’re going to take away a lot from today’s episode too!(Trigger warning: emotional and sexual abuse discussed)Links & Resources:Free sample pack with purchase of LMNT30% off your first order of Cornbread Hemp using code ‘HERSELF’Get your first pack of Goodwipes for free!Free Shipping at GOODR with code ‘HERSELF’Follow Dr. Thema Bryant on InstagramDr. Thema’s WebsiteListen to Dr. Thema’s Podcast: The Homecoming PodcastPurchase Dr. Thema Bryant’s Book; “Matters of the Heart”Let’s connect!HERSELF PATREON: https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcastJoin our exclusive community for bonus episodes, extra video content, book club and more!HERSELF INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/herselfpodcastMEET AMY: http://instagram.com/ameskieferMEET ABBY: http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreenThis episode was brought to you by the Pivot Ball Change Network.
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277. The One Thing That Could Decrease Your Marital Disagreements
Today’s episode was inspired by our personal experiences and a blog post from The Gottman Institute all about perpetual versus solvable problems in long-relationships. As close friends, we’ve had a front seat to the common disagreements and issues that we each have in our 10-year long marriages. We often will talk through something and try to see the other partner’s side, while also working towards solutions - which is what you’ll get to hear in today’s episode. The Gottman blog post was so interesting to us because it made us realize that what may be a solvable problem for Abby and Colin, may be a perpetual problem for Amy and Drew and vice versa. According to The Gottman Institute, 69% of problems in relationships are perpetual with the most common topics being household chores, parenting, sex, and in-law relationships. We are digging into a couple of these topics today and breaking down whether this is a perpetual or solvable problem in our own relationship and what we’ve done to work on it together as a couple. We hope that from listening to our personal experiences in today’s episode, you’re able to reflect if your marital arguments are perpetual or solvable problems in order to evolve with your partner and be in a really happy marriage.Links & Resources:20% off your order of Cymbiotika PLUS free shipping 20% off your first order at Vuori ClothingCheck out the Maui Nui Venison products we’re loving!The Gottman Institute Blog Post, “Managing Conflict: Solvable vs Perpetual Problems”Let’s connect!HERSELF PATREON: https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcastHERSELF INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/herselfpodcastMEET AMY: http://instagram.com/ameskieferMEET ABBY: http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreenThis episode was brought to you by the Pivot Ball Change Network.
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