Bucket Emptying: When Parental Guilt Drives Your Decisions
Do you suffer from parental guilt?Do you often guilt yourself into doing things you know you shouldn’t do?Does this guilt manifest in material stuff like toys and treats?You don’t need to feel embarrassed, we’ve all been there. It’s so easy to feel that guilt, and then we do whatever it takes to make that guilt disappear.If you think your parental guilt is getting better of you, I’m here to help.So find a comfy seat, pour yourself a cuppa, and enjoy the conversation…Highlights from this episode:00:31 - The dictionary defines guilt as…03:22 - You can flex the rules04:34 - How we can check ourselves07:03 - Ask yourself these two questions09:51 - Shifting from guilt to reason💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025 - https://onemillionmoments.org/💚 Let’s grow our village together, please share with at least one friendDISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
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How to Turn Homework into a Game and Make Learning Fun
Today’s episode is a massive treat, as I am joined by Sophie David, a play guru, influencer and now author of Read, Write, Play: 100 Easy Ways to Make Phonics Fun for Children Aged 3-7.In this conversation, Sophie explains how she implements all of the information and resources on her website, to create a fun learning environment for her kids, from phonics and reading to homework, screen time, and more!As Mary Poppins once sang:In every job that must be doneThere is an element of funYou find the fun and snap!The job's a gameThe same applies to our kids’ education, and it begins at home, with us. Learning is as fun as we choose to make it, and our job as parents is to unlock the curiosity in our children and help them want to learn.So find a comfy seat, pour yourself a cuppa, and enjoy the conversation…Additional Resources:Little Happy Learners: https://www.littlehappylearners.co.uk/ Sophie’s book, available now: https://geni.us/readwriteplay Connect with Sophie on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/littlehappylearners/ Highlights from this episode:03:10 - Sophie’s journey09:00 - You are your baby’s best friend15:16 - Monkey see monkey do20:26 - There is no normal26:28- Phonics is not just about ABC32:38 - Managing screen time37:48 - Learning is experiential41:50 - Mum, businesswoman, funlover, and author45:27 - Where do we start?💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025 - https://onemillionmoments.org/💚 Let’s grow our village together, please share with at least one friendDISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
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Bucket Emptying: Overcoming Our Fears and Leaving Our Children in Someone Else's Care
Leaving your child with someone else is one of the hardest things a parent will do.What if they need me and I’m not there?Am I just being a bad parent?What if they don’t like the babysitter?These are all rational concerns, but they shouldn’t stop you because, as we’ve discussed before, you cannot look after your children if you don’t look after yourselves.That’s why in this bucket emptying episode, I’m going to share four rational fears you might have when you leave your kids in someone else’s care, and what you can do to overcome them.So find a comfy seat, pour yourself a cuppa, take the next 46 minutes to relax, and enjoy the conversation…Read Dr. Maryhan’s article in Bubble Life, as mentioned in this episode, Navigating Separation Anxiety: https://joinbubble.com/for-parents/navigating-separation-anxiety-expert-tips-from-dr-maryhan_29690.html Highlights from this episode:01:09 - Common myths are getting in your way!02:43 - Are you being selfish?05:23 - What if something goes wrong?07:58 - What if they feel abandoned?11:4 - What if my child doesn't get on with this? 💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025 - https://onemillionmoments.org/💚 Let’s grow our village together, please share with at least one friendDISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
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The Invisible Load; Why You're So Tired (and How to Stop Resenting Everyone!)
Is your brain always on?You’re brushing your teeth, but also mentally planning meals, remembering the pickup times and wondering if you’ve RSVP’d to the latest birthday party?Parenting is tough, and the burnout is real. I’m here to tell you not to be ashamed about that, but to talk about it, because every parent out there is feeling it!To talk more about this invisible load, and the impact it can have on your life, work, mental and physical health,,I’m joined by Rania Robinson, the CEO of Quiet Storm, a mum of two children and she also happens to be my sister, so trust me when I tell you she knows a thing or two about juggling that invisible load!We had an amazing chat about the ups and downs of balancing parenthood with a career, and why it can feel like being a mum and an employee simply doesn’t co-exist.We also discuss how gender roles can pile more pressure on you as a mum because, let’s face it, you’re probably the one who keeps track of everything… and everyone!So find a comfy seat, pour yourself a cuppa, take the next 46 minutes to relax, and enjoy the conversation…Highlights from this episode:00:54 - Taking control of your own destiny07:38 - A thankless role12:26 - Heartbreaking22:05 - Gender differences and family dynamics28:16 - Resentment building32:29 - Navigating mumspeak37:08 - Mad mum moments💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025 - https://onemillionmoments.org/💚 Let’s grow our village together, please share with at least one friendDISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
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Help! My Seven Year Old Has a Boyfriend.
It’s a moment most parents dread, but it’s inevitable for all of us… when your child tells you, for the first time, that have a boyfriend or girlfriend.And for many of us, this might be much sooner than we’d expect. Not teenagers, but while they’re still in primary school.When this happens, it’s so important to deal with it head on, and I’m here to tell you exactly how to do this. And, if you find this bucket emptying episode useful, listen out for an episode coming very soon where I dive into the topic of sex education and relationships in far more detail.So find a comfy seat, pour yourself a cuppa and enjoy the conversation…Highlights from this episode:01:05 - Going down the rabbit hole03:06 - Be curious and interested06:07 - Where are they getting their information?08:38 - Correct the knowledge gaps💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025 - https://onemillionmoments.org/💚 Let’s grow our village together, please share with at least one friendDISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
Hello, I'm psychologist and parenting expert Dr Maryhan and this is How Not To Screw Up Your Kids, the podcast for parents, grandparents, educators, and anyone else who wants to be part of a movement to raise confident children who grow up believing in themselves.Follow now for twice weekly episodes - on Monday's you'll find shorter Bucket Emptying episodes, with longer episodes each Thursday.The greatest gift we can give our children is self-belief. It will get them further in life than any qualification and is absolutely possible for each and every child; we just need the right information and support around us to teach them.The old saying ‘it takes a village to raise a child” couldn’t be more true than now. Parenting has got a whole lot harder; not just because we are busier than ever but because our children are growing up in an ever changing, fast-paced world, which is so different to the one we grew up in. Our children have more pressure to be better, look better, do better, and in a world where lives are so publicly scrutinised and commented on through social media it’s really no wonder we’re seeing mental health problems sky rocketing amongst children, teens, and young adults. What you can expect from this podcast are honest conversations about parenting.We’ll talk confidence resilience, anxiety, managing tech, and all the topics you’d expect as well blowing the lid off the widely help misconception that children are innately resilient. They’re not!This podcast is for people who want to get real about parenting. You understand it can get messy sometimes and aren’t afraid to admit it. I have had more than my fair share of messy and I will no doubt share these with you along the way. I won’t dress things up but I will always give you something practical to take away and use in each and every episode. My guests and experts will be real people who have overcome their own adversities and bring with them a message to us as parents, as well as inspiring stories.So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation... Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
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