You’re Allowed to Have Needs—Even in Submission | Submissive Guide
Like the show? Let us know! Comments, suggestions are open.In this episode, we’re unpacking one of the most common—and most misunderstood—pieces of advice given to submissives: “Know your wants and needs.” But what does that really mean, and how do you figure out the difference? You’ll learn how to identify your core needs, why honoring them is essential to a healthy D/s relationship, and what happens when you settle for less than what truly fulfills you.We’ll also explore common submissive-specific needs, how to communicate them, and how to check in with yourself (and your partner) as those needs evolve. Whether you're new to submission or deepening your dynamic, this episode will help you reflect, realign, and reclaim your right to have your needs met.📝 Topics covered:The difference between wants and needWhy needs matter more than you thinkHow unmet needs impact submission and mental healthNeeds specific to D/s and power exchangeWhy settling is harmful (even if the dynamic feels “good enough”)Tools for identifying and ranking your needsReflection prompts and next stepsRead the full version on Submissive Guide 🎧 Leave a review or share this episode with someone you care about. Every listen helps more submissives find the tools they need to thrive. ---- Become a member and get more from Submissive Guide today.►http://patreon.com/subguideA very special thank you to all who have joined our Patreon. You have helped transform Submissive Guide into one of the leading BDSM education sources online. We're overwhelmed with your generosity and support. Thank you._____Looking for Submissive Guide elsewhere?►Site: http://www.submissiveguide.com►Twitter: http://www.twitter.com/subguide►Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/subguide►FetLife: http://fetlife.submissiveguide.com►YouTube: http://www.youtube.com/user/subguide►Patreon: https://patreon.com/subguide►Discord: http://subgui.de/chatCheck Out My Books!►https://subgui.de/store
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Perfection Isn’t the Goal: Finding Joy in Your Unique Submissive Journey | Submissive Guide
Like the show? Let us know! Comments, suggestions are open.This episode challenges the myth of the “perfect submissive” and explores how chasing flawlessness can lead to burnout, self-doubt, and disconnection. Instead of striving for an impossible ideal, submissives are encouraged to embrace authenticity, growth, and the beauty of their unique journey. Real submission isn’t about being perfect—it’s about being present, vulnerable, and enough just as you are. 🎧 Leave a review or share this episode with someone you care about. Every listen helps more submissives find the tools they need to thrive. ---- Become a member and get more from Submissive Guide today.►http://patreon.com/subguideA very special thank you to all who have joined our Patreon. You have helped transform Submissive Guide into one of the leading BDSM education sources online. We're overwhelmed with your generosity and support. Thank you._____Looking for Submissive Guide elsewhere?►Site: http://www.submissiveguide.com►Twitter: http://www.twitter.com/subguide►Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/subguide►FetLife: http://fetlife.submissiveguide.com►YouTube: http://www.youtube.com/user/subguide►Patreon: https://patreon.com/subguide►Discord: http://subgui.de/chatCheck Out My Books!►https://subgui.de/store
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After “Red”: How to Manage the Emotional Aftermath When You’ve Used Your Safeword | Submissive Guide
Like the show? Let us know! Comments, suggestions are open.Using your safeword is never something to be afraid of. While it may sometimes mean stopping the scene, it also prevents you from going to places you’re not ready to explore. Yet, guilt or self-disappointment can make using a safeword feel like a failure for many. Fortunately, there are ways to address the guilt, disappointment, or fear around using or not using your safeword when it truly matters.Thoughts to PonderWhat is your opinion about safewords? What value do they have in a relationship?If you have withheld a safeword in the past, why did you do it? What were you trying to gain by doing so?What other issues arise from using your safeword?Interesting LinksThings You Need to Know: Why Safewords Are Not SafeSome Thoughts About Safewords 🎧 Leave a review or share this episode with someone you care about. Every listen helps more submissives find the tools they need to thrive. ---- Become a member and get more from Submissive Guide today.►http://patreon.com/subguideA very special thank you to all who have joined our Patreon. You have helped transform Submissive Guide into one of the leading BDSM education sources online. We're overwhelmed with your generosity and support. Thank you._____Looking for Submissive Guide elsewhere?►Site: http://www.submissiveguide.com►Twitter: http://www.twitter.com/subguide►Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/subguide►FetLife: http://fetlife.submissiveguide.com►YouTube: http://www.youtube.com/user/subguide►Patreon: https://patreon.com/subguide►Discord: http://subgui.de/chatCheck Out My Books!►https://subgui.de/store
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Breaking the Apology Habit: Alternatives to Overusing ‘I’m Sorry’ | Submissive Guide
Like the show? Let us know! Comments, suggestions are open.Most people say ‘sorry’ or ‘I’m sorry’ far too often. You’re probably aware of whether this is an issue for you. If you struggle with frequent apologizing, you may need to take a different approach to find ways to express what you really mean.The Art of Apology Series - Submissive Guide 🎧 Leave a review or share this episode with someone you care about. Every listen helps more submissives find the tools they need to thrive. ---- Become a member and get more from Submissive Guide today.►http://patreon.com/subguideA very special thank you to all who have joined our Patreon. You have helped transform Submissive Guide into one of the leading BDSM education sources online. We're overwhelmed with your generosity and support. Thank you._____Looking for Submissive Guide elsewhere?►Site: http://www.submissiveguide.com►Twitter: http://www.twitter.com/subguide►Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/subguide►FetLife: http://fetlife.submissiveguide.com►YouTube: http://www.youtube.com/user/subguide►Patreon: https://patreon.com/subguide►Discord: http://subgui.de/chatCheck Out My Books!►https://subgui.de/store
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Some of the Best Kept Secrets to Sub Drop Recovery | Submissive Guide
Like the show? Let us know! Comments, suggestions are open.Sub drop is a natural part of the BDSM experience, but it doesn't have to derail your enjoyment. Learn how to recognize the signs, prevent severe symptoms, and create a personalized aftercare plan that supports both your physical and emotional recovery. From building a drop kit to mastering self-care strategies, this guide empowers you to take control of your well-being and embrace every part of the journey with confidence.Hormone Junkies Series:AdrenalineOxytocinTestosteroneEndorphinsMore Resources:Sub Drop in Long-term relationshipsWhat is Aftercare, Why Do You Need It, and How to Ask for ItSix Important Activities to Include in Your Aftercare RoutineSelf-AftercareSubmissive Guide FetLife GroupGet Your Copy of “Becoming a Service Submissive” Today! 🎧 Leave a review or share this episode with someone you care about. Every listen helps more submissives find the tools they need to thrive. ---- Become a member and get more from Submissive Guide today.►http://patreon.com/subguideA very special thank you to all who have joined our Patreon. You have helped transform Submissive Guide into one of the leading BDSM education sources online. We're overwhelmed with your generosity and support. Thank you._____Looking for Submissive Guide elsewhere?►Site: http://www.submissiveguide.com►Twitter: http://www.twitter.com/subguide►Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/subguide►FetLife: http://fetlife.submissiveguide.com►YouTube: http://www.youtube.com/user/subguide►Patreon: https://patreon.com/subguide►Discord: http://subgui.de/chatCheck Out My Books!►https://subgui.de/store
We are a podcast sharing BDSM articles from Submissive Guide. We believe education and shared knowledge are key to learning and exploring BDSM and D/s relationships.Since 2009, Submissive Guide's mission has been to provide down to earth educational BDSM content that can really help people learn and explore kink and D/s relationships in a healthy way. That is our continued goal.No matter where you are in your submissive journey, we'll be there.
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