The Adult Chair Podcast with Michelle Chalfant

In this episode, I'm joined by Ashleigh DiLello, the founder and creator of BioEmotional Healing, for a powerful conversation about the brain, body, nervous system, chronic pain, trauma, and what it really takes to heal.
Ashleigh shares her incredible story of becoming severely ill at just 13 years old, living between life and death for years, and eventually finding her way back to health, dance, and life. After building a successful career as a professional dancer, TV and Broadway performer, wife, and mother, she faced another life-altering health crisis after a failed hip surgery launched her body into chronic pain.
We talk about how the nervous system stores our life experiences, why stress responses can show up as anxiety, perfectionism, chronic pain, autoimmune issues, gut issues, and other symptoms, and why regulating the nervous system is only part of the healing process.
Key Takeaways
The brain-body connection plays a major role in chronic pain, trauma, anxiety, and healing
Long-term survival mode can become familiar to the nervous system, even after the original threat is gone
Stress responses can show up in many ways, including pain, anxiety, perfectionism, depression, OCD behaviors, autoimmune symptoms, gut issues, and more
Regulation helps calm the nervous system in the moment, but rewiring changes the deeper patterns that keep the stress response active
Self-compassion is essential for nervous system rewiring because harsh self-criticism keeps the brain in a protective state
Healing requires rebuilding trust with yourself, your body, and your ability to create a new identity
We can honor what we have been through without allowing it to define the rest of our lives

Resources from this Episode:
Ashleigh DiLello's Website
Free Brain-Body Blueprint
Instagram: @ashleighdilello
 
MORE MICHELLE CHALFANT
Website: https://www.michellechalfant.com
Membership: The Adult Chair Collective
https://www.michellechalfant.com/collective 
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/themichellechalfant
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheMichelleChalfant
The Adult Chair® Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant

Today, I'm breaking down a topic that comes up all the time: narcissism.
This is a word we hear everywhere now, especially online and on social media, but it is often misunderstood and overused. In this episode, I explain what narcissism really is, what narcissistic traits can look like, where they come from, and how to know the difference between narcissistic tendencies and narcissistic personality disorder.
I also answer some of the biggest questions I receive around this topic: Can someone heal from narcissism? How do you know if you are a narcissist? Why do you keep attracting narcissistic relationships? Can you change a narcissistic partner? And how do you navigate a relationship with a narcissistic parent?
This episode is not about labeling or blaming. It is about understanding the deeper shame, wounding, and identity patterns underneath narcissism, while also learning how to protect your energy, build your self-worth, and create healthier relationships from your Adult Chair.
Key Takeaways
Narcissism is a term that is often overused, especially online and on social media
Narcissistic traits can include needing to be the center of attention, lacking empathy, deflecting criticism, and struggling to take responsibility
Underneath narcissistic behavior is often deep shame and a false identity built around being seen as special, perfect, or superior
Narcissism can develop when a child is placed on a pedestal or when a child is neglected and creates a false self to survive
Narcissistic traits exist on a spectrum, and narcissistic personality disorder is at the far end of that spectrum
If someone is genuinely worried they may be a narcissist, that awareness is often a hopeful sign
You cannot change a narcissistic partner unless they truly want to do their own inner work
Repeatedly attracting narcissistic relationships often points to old wounds, beliefs, and patterns that need to be updated
When a parent is narcissistic, healing often requires grief, boundaries, self-worth work, and sometimes no contact
Resources from this Episode:
Free Self-Worth Course
The Adult Chair® Collective
MORE MICHELLE CHALFANT
Website: https://www.michellechalfant.com
Membership: The Adult Chair Collective
https://www.michellechalfant.com/collective 
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/themichellechalfant
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheMichelleChalfant
The Adult Chair® Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant

In this episode, I'm joined by Jeffrey Stegman and Clayten Stedmann, the co-founders of FLFE, which stands for Focused Life Force Energy.
This is such a fascinating conversation about consciousness, energy, EMFs, and what happens when we create a higher-consciousness environment in our homes, businesses, and everyday lives. Jeffrey and Clayten share the story of how FLFE began, how they came together through business coaching and consciousness work, and how this technology is designed to support a field of unconditional love in a specific location.
We talk about the Hawkins Scale of Consciousness, how environments can affect our nervous system, why EMFs may be impacting us more than we realize, and how high-consciousness fields can support calm, sleep, forgiveness, emotional regulation, and a greater sense of well-being.
This conversation is a beautiful reminder that we are energy first, and the spaces we live in matter more than we often realize.
Key Takeaways
FLFE is designed to support a high-consciousness field in a home, business, or around a cell phone
Jeffrey and Clayten describe FLFE as a technology that associates focused life force energy with a specific location or identifier
Our environments can deeply influence our nervous systems, emotions, sleep, focus, and overall well-being
EMFs from Wi-Fi, cell phones, smart meters, appliances, and other modern technology may contribute to dysregulation for some people
A high-consciousness environment can help support peace, calm, emotional regulation, and a greater ability to shift negative thoughts
The Hawkins Scale of Consciousness offers a way to understand different emotional and energetic states, from shame and fear to love, peace, and enlightenment
Michelle shares her personal experience using FLFE after living near power lines and noticing a major shift in her energy
Consciousness work invites us to become more curious about the energy around us and how it affects our lives
Resources from this Episode:
FLFE Free Trial: Get your 15-day free trial here.
Visit the FLFE website
 
MORE MICHELLE CHALFANT
Website: https://www.michellechalfant.com
Membership: The Adult Chair Collective
https://www.michellechalfant.com/collective 
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/themichellechalfant
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheMichelleChalfant
The Adult Chair® Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant

In this solo episode, I'm sharing a very personal update about the evolution of the podcast, the deeper meaning behind its new name, and what this next chapter means for all of us. I talk about why I had to step away in order to see more clearly, what I discovered about my relationship with The Adult Chair, and how coming back to it from a new place of clarity and wholeness changed everything.
I also explore two powerful teachings that are at the heart of this work: the illuminated path and the importance of feeling your emotions. I share how learning to stay grounded, present, and connected to yourself can transform every relationship in your life, because the most important relationship you will ever have is the one you have with yourself.
Key Takeaways
Growth is ongoing, and we are always evolving into new versions of ourselves.
Peace is a more sustainable goal than chasing temporary moments of happiness.
Every relationship reflects something about our relationship with ourselves.
The illuminated path is the path of the higher self, where each next step becomes clear when we stay present and grounded.
The ego wants certainty about the future, but real alignment comes from trusting the next step.
Feeling your emotions requires being in the body, not just living in the mind.
Grounding, body awareness, and curiosity are essential tools for emotional healing and inner clarity.
Resources from this Episode:
Grounding meditation resource
Inner child resource 
 
MORE MICHELLE CHALFANT
Website: https://www.michellechalfant.com
Membership: The Adult Chair Collective
https://www.michellechalfant.com/collective 
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/themichellechalfant
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheMichelleChalfant
The Adult Chair® Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant

In this episode, I'm joined by Harmony Slater for a soulful conversation about the body, the breath, energetic healing, and the hidden patterns that can keep us out of alignment with who we really are. We talk about how the body holds emotional experiences, why so many of us feel disconnected from ourselves, and how healing happens when we slow down enough to listen to what our body has been trying to tell us all along.
Harmony shares her personal journey through yoga, mysticism, energy work, and healing from autoimmune symptoms and chronic fatigue. We also explore the mind-body connection, the role of the nervous system, and how unconscious beliefs, emotional patterns, and old wounds can shape the way we show up in our lives. This is a grounded and expansive conversation about coming back into wholeness through breath, awareness, and deep inner healing.
In this episode, you'll learn: 
Harmony's journey from religious studies and philosophy into yoga, meditation, and energy work
What Ashtanga yoga is and how it shaped her path
How spinal energetics works and why it can be such a powerful healing modality
How emotional pain, trauma, and unconscious beliefs can build up in the body over time
How old experiences can create hidden patterns that still affect us today
The connection between the body, the unconscious mind, and emotional healing
Simple ways to use breath and nature to feel more grounded and supported each day
Why spiritual practice can become another form of control if we are not aware of what is really driving it
Harmony Slater is a masterful teacher, breathwork guide, spiritual mentor, and one of only a handful of certified Ashtanga yoga teachers worldwide. Her work weaves together ancient wisdom, energetic healing, nervous system support, and modern transformation to help people reconnect with themselves and live in greater alignment.
Resources from this Episode:
Harmony's website: harmonyslater.com
Instagram: @harmonyslaterofficial
Podcast: Finding Harmony
MORE MICHELLE CHALFANT
Website: https://www.michellechalfant.com
Membership: The Adult Chair Collective
https://www.michellechalfant.com/collective 
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/themichellechalfant
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheMichelleChalfant
The Adult Chair® Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant