The Adult Chair Podcast with Michelle Chalfant

In this episode, I'm talking about one of the questions I hear all the time: What do we do with negative emotions?
So many of us have been taught to push away, numb, judge, or "get rid of" emotions like anger, grief, sadness, fear, rage, and frustration. But the truth is, emotions are not bad. They are part of being human, and they are meant to move through us.
I talk about why we develop resistance to certain emotions, especially when we grew up receiving messages that our feelings were too much, wrong, annoying, or unsafe. When we are not taught how to process emotions, we often reach for ways to numb out, distract, avoid, or blame others for what we are feeling.
Key Takeaways
Emotions are part of being human, and we are meant to feel a full range of them
Many of us learned to block, judge, or numb our emotions because of messages we received growing up
"Negative emotions" are not bad. They are simply emotions on the fear end of the emotional spectrum
Fear can protect us, anger can help us access power, and sadness can give us important information about our inner world
Emotions are energy, and when we allow them to move through the body, they can shift and transform
The 90-second rule reminds us that intense emotions can move through us quickly when we do not block them or attach a story to them
Journaling helps us witness our inner world, process emotions, and gain clarity
MORE MICHELLE CHALFANT
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In this episode, I'm talking about the art of manifesting and how we can begin creating the reality we truly want.
Manifesting is not just about thinking positive thoughts or saying an affirmation once and hoping something appears. The law of attraction is always working, just like gravity, but many of us have subconscious beliefs that block the very things we are trying to create. These beliefs may sound like, "I'm not good enough," "I don't deserve that," "money is hard to make," or "people will judge me if I have too much." When those beliefs are running underneath the surface, they can cancel out the conscious desires we are trying to manifest.
I walk you through a powerful process for discovering and clearing the inner blocks that may be keeping you from receiving what you want. I also share how to get clear on your desire, notice what happens in your body when you imagine having it, shift your mindset, align your energy, and act as if your creation is already on its way.
Key Takeaways
Manifesting is always happening because we are always creating with our thoughts, beliefs, words, and energy
The law of attraction is always on, just like the law of gravity
Subconscious beliefs can block the things we consciously want to create
Many people are more comfortable talking about what they do not want than clearly naming what they do want
Guilt, shame, overwhelm, unworthiness, or tightness in the body can reveal a subconscious block
The body can show us where our energy is contracted around a desire
Parts work can help us communicate with the part of us that is blocking a creation
Alignment means tuning your energy to the same frequency as the thing you want to create
Your mindset, words, and daily focus matter when manifesting
It is important to protect a new creation from other people's doubts, projections, or fears
Acting as if your creation is already coming helps you stay aligned with it
Patience and consistency are key when creating something new
MORE MICHELLE CHALFANT
Website: https://www.michellechalfant.com
Membership: The Adult Chair® Collective
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Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/themichellechalfant
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheMichelleChalfant
The Adult Chair® Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair
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Today I'm talking about one of my favorite topics and one of the most important parts of becoming a healthy adult: learning how to feel your feelings.
So many of us were never taught how to tune into what is happening inside of us. We learned to think, perform, push through, numb out, fix others, or disconnect from our feelings altogether. But when we do not know how to feel, we also lose connection with our intuition, empathy, self-trust, and the inner parts of us that need our attention.
In this episode, I break down why feeling your feelings matters, how it helps us become whole, and why it is such an important part of healing codependency, connecting with the inner child, and becoming more emotionally intelligent. I also share practical ways to begin, including body scans, journaling, inner child work, and gently working with the parts of you that may feel blocked or resistant.
Key Takeaways
Feeling your feelings helps you become a more whole and connected human
Many of us learned to numb, suppress, or avoid our feelings because we were never taught what to do with them
Emotional intelligence is just as important as intellectual intelligence
Feeling your feelings helps strengthen intuition and inner guidance
Empathy grows when we are able to feel and understand our own internal experience
Codependency begins to heal when we redirect our energy back to ourselves instead of constantly focusing on others
Feelings only stay stuck when we attach stories, assumptions, or meaning to them
Journaling can help move feelings out of the body and onto the page
Inner child work is a powerful way to reconnect with your feelings
Resistance to feeling is often a protective part that needs compassion, not judgment
Resources from this Episode:
Inner Child Meditation
 
MORE MICHELLE CHALFANT
Website: https://www.michellechalfant.com
Membership: The Adult Chair® Collective
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Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheMichelleChalfant
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If you've ever wondered what your birth chart says about your life purpose, relationships, karma, or soul path, this episode is for you.
I'm joined by evolutionary astrologer Jill Brown for a fascinating conversation about astrology, soul purpose, karma, past lives, and the deeper blueprint we each carry into this lifetime.
We talk about how astrology is so much more than your sun sign. Jill explains that evolutionary astrology is not about predicting every detail of your life or giving your power away. Instead, it is a tool for self-understanding, helping us see our soul's blueprint, karmic patterns, life lessons, relationship dynamics, parenting insights, career themes, and the places where we may be invited to grow.
Jill also shares what she sees in the astrology of 2026, including why this year may feel like the beginning of a new era. We talk about nervous system regulation, discernment, technology, AI, Uranus in Gemini, and how we can stay grounded during seasons of collective change.
Key Takeaways
A birth chart can be used as a tool for self-understanding, healing, and personal growth
Evolutionary astrology looks at the "chart behind the chart" to explore karmic memory, soul lessons, and life purpose
Jill's journey into astrology began through personal healing, motherhood, family patterns, and a powerful chart reading
Karma can be understood as memory, imprint, or an invitation to make new choices
Saturn returns can bring major life transitions, identity shifts, and deeper questions about purpose
Understanding a child's birth chart can help parents better support their unique needs, communication style, and life path
Your chart can offer insight into your work, relationships, balance, purpose, and what feels aligned for you
Nervous system regulation can help us respond instead of react during uncertain times
Resources from this Episode:
Jill Brown's Website
Book an Evolutionary Astrology Reading with Jill & use code MICHELLE for $25 off your reading.
MORE MICHELLE CHALFANT
Website: https://www.michellechalfant.com
Membership: The Adult Chair Collective
https://www.michellechalfant.com/collective 
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/themichellechalfant
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheMichelleChalfant
The Adult Chair® Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant

In this episode, I'm joined by Nicole Kalil for a powerful and practical conversation about confidence.
Nicole has spent years studying, researching, and teaching confidence, and she breaks it down in such a grounded way. Instead of seeing confidence as something we fake, perform, or get from the outside world, Nicole defines confidence as firm and bold trust in self.
We talk about how confidence is something many of us are born with, but begin to lose as we absorb expectations, criticism, people-pleasing, perfectionism, comparison, and what Nicole calls "head trash." She shares the five confidence builders that help us rebuild trust with ourselves, including taking action, moving through fear and failure, giving ourselves grace, choosing confidence, and building internal trust one step at a time.
This conversation is such a beautiful reminder that confidence is not about looking perfect or never feeling afraid. It is about knowing who you are, owning who you are not, and choosing to trust yourself as you take the next right step.
Key Takeaways
Confidence is not about looking confident. It is about building firm and bold trust in yourself
Many of us are born trusting ourselves, but life, expectations, criticism, and social conditioning can disconnect us from that trust
Confidence is built through action, especially small, consistent steps toward what matters most
Failure, fear, mistakes, and doubt can build deeper confidence when we learn to move through them instead of avoid them
Giving yourself grace and practicing self-compassion are essential parts of building confidence
Confidence is a choice we can practice moment by moment until the feeling begins to catch up
"Head trash" is the unkind and often untrue inner dialogue that chips away at our self-trust
Perfectionism, comparison, overthinking, and seeking confidence externally can derail confidence
Keeping commitments to yourself helps build internal trust
Real confidence comes from knowing who you are, owning who you are not, and embracing all of it
Resources from this Episode:
Nicole Kalil's Website
Nicole's Podcast, This Is Woman's Work


MORE MICHELLE CHALFANT
Website: https://www.michellechalfant.com
Membership: The Adult Chair Collective
https://www.michellechalfant.com/collective 
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/themichellechalfant
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheMichelleChalfant
The Adult Chair® Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant