The Adult Chair Podcast with Michelle Chalfant

Anxiety can feel overwhelming, but when we understand what is really underneath it, we can begin to take our power back.
In this episode, I'm talking about how to end anxiety and become empowered. In The Adult Chair®, I define anxiety as the physical manifestation of unfelt emotions. Anxiety often shows up in the body through symptoms like shortness of breath, tightness in the throat, knots in the stomach, racing thoughts, or a rattled nervous system. But underneath those physical symptoms, there are usually emotions that need our attention.
When we are anxious, the ego often tells us to do more, fix more, think more, or keep pushing. But that only keeps us on the treadmill. The way out is to slow down, turn inward, and begin noticing what is happening emotionally and physically inside of us.
I walk you through two simple steps and five tools to help calm anxiety and bring you back into your Adult Chair®. These tools include mindfulness, deep belly breathing, time in nature, meditation, and journaling. Each one helps regulate the nervous system, move emotions through the body, and reconnect you with your power.
Key Takeaways
In The Adult Chair®, anxiety is defined as the physical manifestation of unfelt emotions
Anxiety often shows up through physical symptoms in the body
Thoughts can direct us into the past or future, which can create emotions that rattle the nervous system
Becoming aware of what anxiety really is helps us step back into our power
Feeling emotions is one of the most important steps in calming anxiety
The ego often tells us to do more, but the real healing begins when we slow down
Mindfulness helps bring us into the present moment and back into the Adult Chair
Slow belly breathing helps regulate the nervous system and activate the parasympathetic nervous system
Nature can help calm the body, mind, and energy field
Meditation teaches us to observe thoughts without reacting to them
Journaling helps move stuck thoughts and emotions out of the body and onto paper
Taking action is what helps us feel empowered
MORE MICHELLE CHALFANT
Website: https://www.michellechalfant.com
Membership: The Adult Chair® Collective
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The Adult Chair® Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair
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Your true self is the authentic, pure essence of who you were before the world taught you to become someone else.
Today, I'm talking about what the true self really is and how we can begin reconnecting with it. When we are born, we come in with our true essence. But as we grow up, we begin adapting, changing, and creating a false self so we can feel loved, accepted, safe, and like we belong.
Over time, this false self can cover up the truth of who we really are. We may lose touch with what we feel, what we need, what nourishes us, and what helps us feel connected to ourselves. But the good news is that anyone can begin to rediscover and live from their true self.
In this episode, I'm sharing five simple ways to reconnect with your true self: getting in touch with your emotions, tuning into your needs, practicing self-care, using breathwork, and journaling. These practices help us slow down, listen inward, and begin claiming the parts of ourselves we may have hidden, forgotten, or pushed away.
Key Takeaways
The true self is your authentic self, the pure essence of who you were born as
The false self develops as we adapt to feel safe, loved, accepted, and like we belong
Many of us disconnect from our emotions because we were never taught how to feel them
Reconnecting with your emotions helps you access deeper parts of yourself
Your needs are different from your wants, and learning to identify them is essential
Asking for what you need is part of living from your true self
Self-care is not selfish. It is self-loving
Practicing self-care supports self-worth and helps you reconnect with who you really are
Breathwork can help release stuck emotions and take you deeper into yourself
Journaling helps you access your unconscious mind, higher self, and deeper inner wisdom
Rediscovering your true self happens through awareness, validation, and small daily practices
MORE MICHELLE CHALFANT
Website: https://www.michellechalfant.com
Membership: The Adult Chair® Collective
https://www.michellechalfant.com/collective 
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/themichellechalfant
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheMichelleChalfant
The Adult Chair® Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant

In this episode, I'm talking about one of the questions I hear all the time: What do we do with negative emotions?
So many of us have been taught to push away, numb, judge, or "get rid of" emotions like anger, grief, sadness, fear, rage, and frustration. But the truth is, emotions are not bad. They are part of being human, and they are meant to move through us.
I talk about why we develop resistance to certain emotions, especially when we grew up receiving messages that our feelings were too much, wrong, annoying, or unsafe. When we are not taught how to process emotions, we often reach for ways to numb out, distract, avoid, or blame others for what we are feeling.
Key Takeaways
Emotions are part of being human, and we are meant to feel a full range of them
Many of us learned to block, judge, or numb our emotions because of messages we received growing up
"Negative emotions" are not bad. They are simply emotions on the fear end of the emotional spectrum
Fear can protect us, anger can help us access power, and sadness can give us important information about our inner world
Emotions are energy, and when we allow them to move through the body, they can shift and transform
The 90-second rule reminds us that intense emotions can move through us quickly when we do not block them or attach a story to them
Journaling helps us witness our inner world, process emotions, and gain clarity
MORE MICHELLE CHALFANT
Website: https://www.michellechalfant.com
Membership: The Adult Chair® Collective
https://www.michellechalfant.com/collective 
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/themichellechalfant
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheMichelleChalfant
The Adult Chair® Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant

In this episode, I'm talking about the art of manifesting and how we can begin creating the reality we truly want.
Manifesting is not just about thinking positive thoughts or saying an affirmation once and hoping something appears. The law of attraction is always working, just like gravity, but many of us have subconscious beliefs that block the very things we are trying to create. These beliefs may sound like, "I'm not good enough," "I don't deserve that," "money is hard to make," or "people will judge me if I have too much." When those beliefs are running underneath the surface, they can cancel out the conscious desires we are trying to manifest.
I walk you through a powerful process for discovering and clearing the inner blocks that may be keeping you from receiving what you want. I also share how to get clear on your desire, notice what happens in your body when you imagine having it, shift your mindset, align your energy, and act as if your creation is already on its way.
Key Takeaways
Manifesting is always happening because we are always creating with our thoughts, beliefs, words, and energy
The law of attraction is always on, just like the law of gravity
Subconscious beliefs can block the things we consciously want to create
Many people are more comfortable talking about what they do not want than clearly naming what they do want
Guilt, shame, overwhelm, unworthiness, or tightness in the body can reveal a subconscious block
The body can show us where our energy is contracted around a desire
Parts work can help us communicate with the part of us that is blocking a creation
Alignment means tuning your energy to the same frequency as the thing you want to create
Your mindset, words, and daily focus matter when manifesting
It is important to protect a new creation from other people's doubts, projections, or fears
Acting as if your creation is already coming helps you stay aligned with it
Patience and consistency are key when creating something new
MORE MICHELLE CHALFANT
Website: https://www.michellechalfant.com
Membership: The Adult Chair® Collective
https://www.michellechalfant.com/collective 
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/themichellechalfant
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheMichelleChalfant
The Adult Chair® Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant

Today I'm talking about one of my favorite topics and one of the most important parts of becoming a healthy adult: learning how to feel your feelings.
So many of us were never taught how to tune into what is happening inside of us. We learned to think, perform, push through, numb out, fix others, or disconnect from our feelings altogether. But when we do not know how to feel, we also lose connection with our intuition, empathy, self-trust, and the inner parts of us that need our attention.
In this episode, I break down why feeling your feelings matters, how it helps us become whole, and why it is such an important part of healing codependency, connecting with the inner child, and becoming more emotionally intelligent. I also share practical ways to begin, including body scans, journaling, inner child work, and gently working with the parts of you that may feel blocked or resistant.
Key Takeaways
Feeling your feelings helps you become a more whole and connected human
Many of us learned to numb, suppress, or avoid our feelings because we were never taught what to do with them
Emotional intelligence is just as important as intellectual intelligence
Feeling your feelings helps strengthen intuition and inner guidance
Empathy grows when we are able to feel and understand our own internal experience
Codependency begins to heal when we redirect our energy back to ourselves instead of constantly focusing on others
Feelings only stay stuck when we attach stories, assumptions, or meaning to them
Journaling can help move feelings out of the body and onto the page
Inner child work is a powerful way to reconnect with your feelings
Resistance to feeling is often a protective part that needs compassion, not judgment
Resources from this Episode:
Inner Child Meditation
 
MORE MICHELLE CHALFANT
Website: https://www.michellechalfant.com
Membership: The Adult Chair® Collective
https://www.michellechalfant.com/collective 
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/themichellechalfant
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheMichelleChalfant
The Adult Chair® Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant