The Mother Wound Project

• 25 Boundaries Every Daughter of an Emotionally Immature Mother Needs

  If you grew up with an emotionally immature or narcissistic mother, boundaries didn’t keep you safe—people-pleasing did. And somewhere along the way, you started disappearing inside her expectations, her moods, and her guilt trips. This episode is how you stop that cycle… for good.Today on The Mother Wound Project Podcast, we’re diving into 25 powerful boundaries every daughter needs to protect her peace, rebuild self-trust, and stop being the emotional caretaker in her family system. You’ll learn:The real definition of a boundary (and why most daughters unknowingly try to use boundaries as emotional negotiations)The exact phrases that shut down guilt trips, passive aggression, and manipulationHow to set boundaries around contact, conversations, privacy, holidays, emotional labor, money, and your homeWhy your mother will likely push back and how to hold firm without collapsing into guiltThe internal shift every daughter must make: you stop trying to earn your mother’s approvalThese boundaries aren’t about punishing her. They’re about finally choosing you.Whether you’re dealing with criticism disguised as concern, the silent treatment, emotional dumping, triangulation, or constant invasiveness, this episode gives you the tools to reclaim your life one boundary at a time.If your nervous system has been running in survival mode for years, this episode will feel like oxygen.If you need more support: www.themotherwoundproject.com

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• Criticism Disguised as Help: How Emotionally Immature Moms Use “Concern” to Control You

  If your mom has ever said, “I’m just trying to help” while your stomach drops and your chest tightens… this episode is for you.In this episode of The Mother Wound Project Podcast, Tandi breaks down how emotionally immature and narcissistic mothers use criticism disguised as concern to control, shame, and manage their daughters. We’ll talk about why she comments on your parenting, your body, your house, your life choices—and why it never actually feels supportive, no matter how “innocent” it sounds.You’ll learn the psychology behind this pattern: identity enmeshment, image management, and externalized shame. We’ll walk through the telltale signs it’s not help but covert criticism, what happens when you confront her (hello, “you’re too sensitive” and DARVO), and how to finally trust your body’s response instead of gaslighting yourself.You’ll also get practical scripts and tools:How to tell the difference between real support and controlNon-engagement, boundary, and exit lines that keep you out of the dramaSimple nervous-system tools to re-regulate after a triggering commentMindset shifts to stop internalizing her judgment as truthBy the end of this episode, you’ll be able to say: “Her criticism is not a reflection of my worth, it’s a reflection of her unresolved shame.”Ready to go deeper with this work?🔹 Download the Mother Wound Survival Kit Get grounding practices, nervous-system tools, and powerful scripts for navigating criticism, guilt trips, and emotional manipulation.🔹 Join the Daughters Rising Inner Circle A 12-month healing community for women with emotionally immature or narcissistic mothers. Live coaching, sister circles, and a full curriculum to help you untangle the mother wound and reclaim yourself.🔹 Work With Me 1:1 (Hypnotherapy + Coaching) Release guilt, calm your nervous system, and rewrite the inner narrative that keeps you stuck in the “good daughter” role.👉 Learn more at www.themotherwoundproject.com 👉 Come say hi on Instagram: @themotherwound.project

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• You’re Not the Villain: The Hidden Reality of Going Low Contact with Your Mother

  When you go low contact with an emotionally immature or narcissistic mother, no one tells you what really happens next. In this episode of The Mother Wound Project Podcast, Tandi breaks down the real-life reality of what it looks like to set boundaries with a toxic mom—and how it can trigger guilt, escalation, and emotional chaos before peace finally comes.You’ll learn: 🌪️ Why emotionally immature mothers see boundaries as threats, not limits. 📞 What “low contact” actually looks like in practice—less calls, fewer visits, and more peace. ⚡ How behavior escalates when she realizes you’re stepping back—guilt trips, flying monkeys, and victim narratives. 💔 The hidden emotional cost of protecting yourself (grief, doubt, and family backlash). 🧘‍♀️ How to stay grounded through it all with scripts, affirmations, and support systems that keep you centered and calm.Tandi also shares her personal story of how going low contact led to gaslighting, guilt trips, and scripture weaponization—and how she learned to hold her ground and heal.If you’ve ever wondered why protecting your peace feels so painful, this episode will help you understand you’re not the problem—you’re breaking the pattern.✨ Mentioned in this Episode: → Download the Mother Wound Survival Kit (boundary scripts + emotional regulation tools): www.themotherwoundproject.com → Join the Daughters Rising Inner Circle for live coaching, community, and healing support. → Book a 1:1 Hypnotherapy or Coaching Session for guidance on navigating guilt and boundaries. → Follow on Instagram @themotherwound.project🕊️ “You’re not cruel for creating distance—you’re courageous for protecting your peace.”

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• How to Spot a Guilt Trip in Real Time (Before You Get Pulled In)

  If your mother has ever said, “After everything I’ve done for you…” and you felt your stomach drop, this episode is for you. You’ve spent years being conditioned to keep the peace, avoid conflict, and carry the emotional load for everyone around you. So when guilt trips show up, your nervous system reacts before you even realize what's happening.In this episode, I’m breaking down exactly how to recognize a guilt trip in real time, the subtle phrases emotionally immature mothers use to pull you back into compliance, and why your body reacts the way it does. You’re going to learn how to respond without over-explaining, without defending yourself, and without getting sucked into the argument she wants you to have.This is the moment you start reclaiming your voice. This is the moment you learn, “I’m not responsible for her feelings about my choices.”What you’ll learn today:The most common guilt-trip phrases and why they hit so hardHow guilt is used as emotional manipulationThe psychology behind why you freeze, panic, or complySimple responses that protect your peaceHow to stay grounded after the conversation endsWhy breaking this pattern is key to healing the mother woundIf you’re ready for deeper support, here’s where to start:👉 Grab the Mother Wound Survival Kit: scripts, tools, and nervous system support to break the guilt cycle. 👉 Join the Daughters Rising Inner Circle: the 12-month healing container for women who are done carrying generational pain. 👉 Work with me 1:1: hypnotherapy + coaching to rewire guilt, calm your nervous system, and rebuild your identity from the inside out.Everything is at www.themotherwoundproject.com and daily support is on Instagram @themotherwound.project

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• She Needed a Villain, So She Chose You: Escaping the Family Scapegoat Role

  In toxic family systems, someone always has to carry the blame, and if you were the family scapegoat, that someone was probably you.In this episode of The Mother Wound Project Podcast, Tandi exposes the truth behind scapegoating in emotionally immature and narcissistic families. You’ll learn how mothers offload their shame, guilt, and insecurity onto one child, the truth teller, the sensitive one, the empath, and why you were never the problem.✨ In this episode, we’ll cover:What scapegoating looks like in emotionally immature and narcissistic family systems.Why daughters become the “identified problem” or “too sensitive one.”The painful psychological effects that carry into adulthood, self-doubt, guilt, and feeling like you don’t belong.Real-life examples from Tandi’s story that show how this dynamic plays out in families.How to heal from being scapegoated through inner child work, hypnotherapy, and nervous system regulation.You’ll walk away understanding the psychology behind scapegoating, how to set boundaries with flying monkeys, and the exact tools to reclaim your truth, your voice, and your peace.💡 Resources Mentioned: 🌿 Download the Mother Wound Survival Kit → www.themotherwoundproject.com 💫 Join the Daughters Rising Inner Circle for deep healing, coaching, and sisterhood. 💛 Book a 1:1 Hypnotherapy or Coaching Session to finally release the guilt and reprogram the subconscious patterns that keep you stuck. 📸 Follow on Instagram → @themotherwound.project🕊️ “You were never the problem—you were simply the one brave enough to see the truth.”

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