EP. 22: ADHD People-Pleasing Explained - When 'Being Nice' Is Really About Staying Safe | ADHD with Jenna Free
You can get your free ADHD Regulation Guide here - adhdwithjennafree.com/adhdguide Chapters 00:00 Understanding the Fawn Response in ADHD 02:59 The Impact of Survival Mode on Relationships 07:07 Breaking Free from the Fawn Response 12:11 Practical Strategies to Overcome People-Pleasing 19:16 Embracing Vulnerability and Taking Up Space Summary In this episode of the ADHD with Jenna Free podcast, I explore the often-overlooked fawn response in survival mode. I discuss how this response manifests in behaviors like people-pleasing and avoiding conflict, and how to recognize and address these patterns for regulation and increased executive functioning. I go over practical strategies for you to break free from the fawn response, advocate for yourself, and foster genuine connections with others. Takeaways Fawn is a response to feeling unsafe and is often overlooked. Being in survival mode can lead to people-pleasing behaviors. Setting boundaries is essential for regulation Asking for help is a crucial step in overcoming the fawn response. Taking up space and expressing needs creates connections. Practicing vulnerability can lead to stronger relationships. It's safe to say no and prioritize your own needs. Connect with Jenna Instagram TikTok
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EP. 21: Why Can't ADHDers Ever Relax? The Fight-or-Flight Trap That Follows You on Vacation | ADHD with Jenna Free
You can get your free ADHD Regulation Guide here - adhdwithjennafree.com/adhdguide Chapters 00:00 Understanding ADHD and Rest 00:49 The Impact of Dysregulation on Enjoyment 04:26 Chronic Fight or Flight and Its Effects 07:44 Challenging Thoughts and Beliefs 11:08 Nervous System Regulation Strategies 13:56 All or Nothing Thinking in Rest 16:35 Finding Balance in Rest and Productivity 19:30 Transitioning Between Tasks 25:51 Overcoming Barriers to Rest Summary In this episode of the ADHD with Jenna Free podcast, I dive into rest and ADHD, exploring the struggle between dysregulation and the ability to relax. I get into how external factors often get blamed for difficulties in resting, while the real issues may lie within our thoughts, beliefs, and nervous system regulation. I talk about how to challenge all-or-nothing thinking, the importance of finding balance in daily life, and practical strategies for achieving a more regulated state that allows for genuine enjoyment and rest. Takeaways Rest is often hard for those with ADHD due to dysregulation. Chronic fight or flight states hinder relaxation. External factors are not the sole cause of our inability to rest. Nervous system regulation is crucial for relaxation. Slowing down can help manage dysregulation. All or nothing thinking can prevent effective rest. Regulated rest is about balance, not extremes. Rest should be integrated into daily life, not seen as a reward. Connect with Jenna Instagram TikTok
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EP. 20: The Missing Piece in ADHD Treatment - How Nervous System, Thoughts & Behavior Work Together | ADHD with Jenna Free
Learn more about the ADHD, Regulation and Intuitive Eating workshop here - adhdwithjennafree.com/ieworkshop You can get your free ADHD Regulation Guide here - adhdwithjennafree.com/adhdguide Chapters 00:00 Understanding ADHD Regulation 05:25 Dysregulation and Emotional Responses 08:39 The Impact of Fight or Flight on ADHD 11:30 The Theory of ADHD Regulation 14:32 The Dysregulation Cycle 17:16 Finding Balance in Regulation 20:17 Three Types of Regulation 23:07 The Path to a Regulated Life Summary In this episode of the ADHD with Jenna Free podcast, I discuss the complexities of ADHD regulation, diving into the dysregulation cycle and the impact of being in a constant state of fight or flight. I share the need for a three prong approach that includes nervous system regulation, cognitive restructuring, and behavioral changes to achieve lasting change. Takeaways ADHD regulation involves more than just nervous system regulation. Emotional dysregulation is often a symptom of a system in fight or flight. Understanding the dysregulation cycle is crucial for change. Working on your thinking and beliefs can help alleviate dysregulation. Regulation work is a gentle but long-term process. Connect with Jenna Instagram TikTok
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EP. 19: ADHD & Food - Why ADHDers Struggle & The Intuitive Eating Solution | ADHD with Jenna Free
Check out the ADHD and Intuitive Eating workshop here - adhdwithjennafree.com/ieworkshop You can get your free ADHD Regulation Guide here - adhdwithjennafree.com/adhdguide Chapters 00:00 Introduction to ADHD and Food Relationships 04:29 Understanding Unhealthy Relationships with Food 09:47 My Personal Journey with Food and ADHD 15:58 Principles of Intuitive Eating 21:36 The Role of Dysregulation in Eating Habits 24:36 Workshop Announcement!! Summary In this episode of the ADHD with Jenna Free podcast, I discuss the complex relationship between ADHD and food. I dive into the challenges faced by ADHDers regarding their eating habits, including unhealthy relationships with food, binge eating, and the impact of dysregulation. I share my personal journey from dieting to intuitive eating and how you can use intuitive eating and regulation to begin building a more balanced and healthy relationship with food. Takeaways ADHD can significantly impact your relationship with food. Many individuals with ADHD struggle with binge eating and dysregulation. A healthy relationship with food involves nourishment and enjoyment, not punishment. Intuitive eating can help create balance in eating habits. Ditching diet culture is essential for a healthy food relationship. No foods should be labeled as good or bad to avoid moral judgments. Regular eating can help regulate emotions and prevent binge eating. Connect with Jenna Instagram TikTok
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EP. 18: The ADHD Negative Self-Talk Trap - Why Your Brain Thinks Criticism Keeps You Safe | ADHD with Jenna Free
Check out ADHD Groups here - adhdwithjennafree.com/groups You can get your free ADHD Regulation Guide here - adhdwithjennafree.com/adhdguide Chapters 00:00 Understanding Negative Self-Talk in ADHD 04:00 The Impact of Negative Self-Talk on Regulation 07:26 Shifting from Negative to Neutral Self-Talk 12:01 Learning from Mistakes and Reflection 16:51 Embracing a Kinder Inner Dialogue Summary In this episode of the ADHD with Jenna Free podcast, I discuss the pervasive negative self-talk among ADHDers. I explore the reasons behind this, and share how it stems from a dysregulated state and serves as a misguided defense mechanism. I provide practical strategies for you to shift your mindset from negative self-talk to a more neutral perspective, encouraging self-compassion and reflection on mistakes without harsh judgment. The conversation highlights the importance of awareness and the need to create a positive mindset to improve overall well-being and reduce ADHD symptoms. Takeaways Most ADHDers experience a lot of negative self-talk. Negative self-talk serves as a misguided motivator. You are safe without negative self-talk. Shifting to neutral thinking can help reduce self-criticism. Curiosity about mistakes leads to better understanding. You deserve to live a life that's enjoyable and easier. Negative self-talk hinders personal growth and happiness. Connect with Jenna Instagram TikTok
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