You’re Not in Control of Your Teen (and That’s the Best News Ever)
"Send Ben a text"You’re not in control of your teen—and that’s actually the best news ever.In this episode, Ben and Cortni dive deep into what happens when parents try to control their teens and why it almost always backfires. Drawing from the book Leadership and Self-Deception, they unpack the idea of “being in the box” and how it shows up in family life.You’ll hear real stories about morning workouts, teenage excuses, and even tacos—all tied to one powerful truth: you can’t control your teen, but you can control you.When you stop trying to manage every decision your teen makes and instead focus on your own thoughts, emotions, and actions, something amazing happens. You become a calm, confident leader. You show up as the parent you want to be. And your teen starts to respond differently—because you’re different.If you’ve ever felt stuck, frustrated, or powerless in your parenting, this episode will help you find freedom in letting go and peace in leading with love and awareness.🎧 Tune in to learn how to:Spot self-deception and get out of “the box”Lead your teen without trying to control themBuild trust and influence through your exampleBring more peace, connection, and joy into your homeIt’s time to stop trying to control your teen—and start becoming the kind of parent they actually want to follow.Are You Caught in the Parent Trap? Discover the hidden patterns that are keeping you stuck—and how to break free. Take this quick (and eye-opening) quiz to uncover which common parenting trap you’re falling into with your teen. Get a personalized roadmap to help you parent with more clarity, confidence, and connection—starting today. https://benpughcoaching.com/parenttrapquiz
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The Thing That Is Secretly Wrecking Your Relationship with Your Teen
"Send Ben a text"You love your teen. You try to help. You want things to get better. But what if you’re accidentally doing something that’s quietly sabotaging your connection?In this episode, Ben and Cortni unpack one of the most powerful ideas from Leadership and Self-Deception—the hidden mindset that keeps parents and teens stuck in conflict, frustration, and blame.You’ll learn: 👉 What “being in the box” really means (and how it shows up in your family) 👉 Why trying to “fix” your teen often makes things worse 👉 The self-deception trap every parent falls into—and how to get out of it 👉 How awareness can break the cycle and rebuild trustIf you’ve ever felt like your teen is the problem, this episode might lovingly show you otherwise.🎧 Listen now and discover the thing that’s secretly wrecking your relationship—so you can finally rebuild it stronger than ever.Are You Caught in the Parent Trap? Discover the hidden patterns that are keeping you stuck—and how to break free. Take this quick (and eye-opening) quiz to uncover which common parenting trap you’re falling into with your teen. Get a personalized roadmap to help you parent with more clarity, confidence, and connection—starting today. https://benpughcoaching.com/parenttrapquiz
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Stop Trying to Fix Your Teen — Fix This Instead
"Send Ben a text"Most parents secretly wish their teen would just change — listen more, argue less, clean up, do homework, be respectful, etc.But here’s the truth: 👉 You can’t change your teen. 👉 You can only change you.In this episode, Ben and Cortni unpack one of the most powerful parenting principles of all time — “Be the change you want to see.”You’ll learn:Why trying to “fix” your teen backfires every timeHow to stop giving away your powerThe difference between victim and hero parentingWhy awareness always comes before choiceHow real change happens from the roots up, not the fruit down 🍑If you’ve ever felt frustrated, powerless, or stuck in a cycle of conflict with your teen… this episode will help you reclaim your peace, your power, and your purpose as a parent.🎧 Listen now and start being the change you want to see.Are You Caught in the Parent Trap? Discover the hidden patterns that are keeping you stuck—and how to break free. Take this quick (and eye-opening) quiz to uncover which common parenting trap you’re falling into with your teen. Get a personalized roadmap to help you parent with more clarity, confidence, and connection—starting today. https://benpughcoaching.com/parenttrapquiz
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Why Your Teen’s Confidence Crumbles (and How to Fix It)
"Send Ben a text"In this episode, I break down the difference between false confidence—the kind that’s tied to wins, grades, or outside approval—and foundational confidence—the kind built on preparation, effort, and real experience.Many teens (and parents) ride the emotional rollercoaster of false confidence. One good play or test score, and they’re on top of the world. One mistake, and it all crashes down. The problem? Mindset and “positive thinking” alone can’t hold up under pressure.True, lasting confidence comes from stacking bricks—daily actions, preparation, and choices that build a solid foundation over time.What You’ll Learn:The key differences between false and foundational confidenceWhy mindset alone isn’t enough (and what’s missing)How athletes can build confidence that won’t crumble under pressureSimple ways parents can model and build lasting confidence at homeHow to start “stacking bricks” today—one action at a timeConfidence isn’t luck. It’s built, brick by brick.Are You Caught in the Parent Trap? Discover the hidden patterns that are keeping you stuck—and how to break free. Take this quick (and eye-opening) quiz to uncover which common parenting trap you’re falling into with your teen. Get a personalized roadmap to help you parent with more clarity, confidence, and connection—starting today. https://benpughcoaching.com/parenttrapquiz
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Why ‘Good vs. Bad Parenting’ Is a Dangerous Myth
"Send Ben a text"Do you ever wonder if you’re a “good” parent… or fear that you might be a “bad” one? You’re not alone. Many parents live under the weight of these labels, and it can feel heavy and confusing.In this episode, Ben Pugh explains why “good vs. bad parenting” is a dangerous myth. These labels pull you into comparison, chasing approval, and trying to prove yourself to others. The truth is, parenting isn’t about being “good” or “bad.” It’s about being intentional, living your values, and connecting with your teen.You’ll learn how to shift your focus from what you can’t control—like your teen’s grades or behavior—to what you can control, like your love, confidence, and curiosity. Stop worrying about approval, and start becoming the parent of your dreams.Are You Caught in the Parent Trap? Discover the hidden patterns that are keeping you stuck—and how to break free. Take this quick (and eye-opening) quiz to uncover which common parenting trap you’re falling into with your teen. Get a personalized roadmap to help you parent with more clarity, confidence, and connection—starting today. https://benpughcoaching.com/parenttrapquiz
This podcast will help parents of teens keep life's struggles as a teen, and as a parent of a teen, in perspective. Parents will learn real tools to help them help their teens. They will learn how to build a rock solid relationship with their teen so they will have a powerful impact and a positive influence on their teen's life.
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