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In this episode, Wendy sits down with Kathleen Conner, coach and host of the Chasing Purpose Podcast. Kathleen spent years presenting a perfect image to the world while feeling deeply out of sync internally, until one moment of disgust became her catalyst for change.
They explore:
Why your vibrational baseline attracts the people and experiences around you
How to recognize when you're performing instead of being authentic
The "basket" metaphor: why women carry everyone's load and how to put it down with kindness
Kathleen talks about moving from perfectionism to alignment, making small daily choices (being 1% better), and raising interdependent children instead of independent ones. She shares how breaking your own patterns is the only way your children will do things differently.
This is a conversation about getting honest with yourself when your outside doesn't match your inside, and choosing alignment over image.
Connect with Kathleen:
Website: chasingpurpose.com
Her Podcast, Chasing Purpose: w4wn.com
Instagram: instagram.com/chasingpurpose_lifecoaching/
Facebook: facebook.com/share/14H2fWoKfc1/ 
Wendy's appearance on Chasing Purpose: podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/satisfaction-its-time-to-stop-faking-it/id1870973280?i=1000751665394
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Interested in being a guest on the show?
Send your pitch to [email protected]
Podcast Production By Shannon Warner of Resonant Collective
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Fan Mail: Tell Wendy how you're saying yes to yourself!
Join Wendy for her dreamy Summer Solstice White Party on Saturday June 20, 2026 —an al fresco evening of delicious food, intention-setting, and celebration at the Phineas Wright House. Wear white, gather at the long table in the field, and toast to the season ahead. 
Save you seat here: phineaswrighthouse.com/the-shop/p/summer-solstice-white-party
In this episode, Wendy sits down with Darshana Avila, somatic experiencing practitioner and body-based trauma healer. Darshana is a recovering people pleaser who's spent years unwinding the cultural scripts we're all handed unknowingly: the ones about gender roles, perfectionism, and who we're supposed to be.
They explore:
Why people pleasing is rooted in cultural conditioning (and how to recognize the script you've been reading)
How trauma lives in your body and healing means changing your present relationship to the past
Why forgiveness is a beautifully selfish act that frees you from resentment
Darshana talks about softening into embodiment, surrender as a practice, and what happens when we embrace our wholeness. This is a conversation about unwinding the people-pleasing patterns we didn't know we were practicing, and what becomes possible when we soften into our bodies and choose to lay down our armor.
Connect with Darshana:
Website: darshanaavila.com
Instagram: instagram.com/darshana_avila
Deeper with Darshana Podcast: darshanaavila.com/podcast
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Connect with Wendy:
Linkedin
Instagram: @wendy.harrop
Facebook: Phineas Wright House
Website: Phineas Wright House
PWH Farm Stays
PWH Curated Experience and Travel
Interested in being a guest on the show?
Send your pitch to [email protected]
Podcast Production By Shannon Warner of Resonant Collective
Want to start your own podcast? Let's chat!
If this episode resonated, follow Say YES to Yourself! and leave a  5-star review. It helps more women in midlife discover the tools, stories, and community that make saying YES not only possible, but powerful.

Fan Mail: Tell Wendy how you're saying yes to yourself!
Join Wendy for her dreamy Summer Solstice White Party on Saturday June 20, 2026 —an al fresco evening of delicious food, intention-setting, and celebration at the Phineas Wright House. Wear white, gather at the long table in the field, and toast to the season ahead. 
Save you seat here: phineaswrighthouse.com/the-shop/p/summer-solstice-white-party
In this episode, Wendy sits down with Laurie Maddalena, leadership consultant who started her business nearly two decades ago and has raised three children while building it. Laurie spent years wrestling with the question: Can I be ambitious and a great mom? 
They explore:
Why asking for support isn't weakness—it's healthy modeling for your children
How to confront the narrative that "I'm the mom so I should do it all"
Why intentionality matters more than perfection when juggling multiple roles
Laurie struggled to write her book for years until her husband said, "Just go away a few nights a month and work on it." She couldn't believe he was offering. Her internal narrative was screaming: I'm the mom, I'm the person who should be doing these things. But she did it anyway, finished the book, and is still doing the work of believing she doesn't have to do it all alone.
This is a conversation about leaning into support and remembering that being ambitious doesn't come at the expense of being a great mom.
Connect with Laurie:
Website: LaurieMaddalena.com
Get her book, The Elevated Leader: https://amzn.to/49HTvLS
LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/lauriemaddalena
Instagram: instagram.com/lauriemaddalena
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Connect with Wendy:
Linkedin
Instagram: @wendy.harrop
Facebook: Phineas Wright House
Website: Phineas Wright House
PWH Farm Stays
PWH Curated Experience and Travel
Interested in being a guest on the show?
Send your pitch to [email protected]
Podcast Production By Shannon Warner of Resonant Collective
Want to start your own podcast? Let's chat!
If this episode resonated, follow Say YES to Yourself! and leave a  5-star review. It helps more women in midlife discover the tools, stories, and community that make saying YES not only possible, but powerful.

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Cognac Jewelry School, France
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In this episode, Wendy sits down with Randi Crawford, coach and speaker who works with young adults and their moms. Moms constantly ask Randi: How do I help my daughter build confidence? Her answer: You can't hand it out. She has to build it herself through small wins.
They explore:
Why confidence comes from doing little things, not big performative moments
Why moms need their own lives so they're not overly involved in their children's identities
Why there's no group of cool girls to fit into—you are the cool girl
Randi thought she'd be coaching menopausal women but ended up working with their daughters instead. Now she helps both: teaching girls to find who they are in a world trying to tell them who they should be, and teaching moms to step back and get their own lives.
This is a conversation about building real confidence and helping the next generation do the same.
Connect with Randi:
Website: RandiCrawfordCoaching.com
TikTok: tiktok.com/@randicrawfordcoaching
Instagram: instagram.com/randicrawfordcoaching
Referenced in this Episode: 
Jay Shetty: www.jayshetty.me
National Charity League: www.nationalcharityleague.org
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Connect with Wendy:
Linkedin
Instagram: @wendy.harrop
Facebook: Phineas Wright House
Website: Phineas Wright House
PWH Farm Stays
PWH Curated Experience and Travel
Interested in being a guest on the show?
Send your pitch to [email protected]
Podcast Production By Shannon Warner of Resonant Collective
Want to start your own podcast? Let's chat!
If this episode resonated, follow Say YES to Yourself! and leave a  5-star review. It helps more women in midlife discover the tools, stories, and community that make saying YES not only possible, but powerful.

Fan Mail: Tell Wendy how you're saying yes to yourself!
Join Wendy for her dreamy Summer Solstice White Party on Saturday June 20, 2026 —an al fresco evening of delicious food, intention-setting, and celebration at the Phineas Wright House. Wear white, gather at the long table in the field, and toast to the season ahead. 
Save you seat here: phineaswrighthouse.com/the-shop/p/summer-solstice-white-party
In this episode, Wendy sits down with Debbie Spence, who just turned 65 and is rewiring everything. Her 42-year marriage ended two years ago, and she had to ask herself: Who do I want to be? Not who am I, but who do I want to be for the rest of my life?
They explore:
Why you get brand new neurons every morning that don't know what you believed yesterday
How to plant seeds for the future (not just live in the present)
The difference between telling your story from a scar vs. from a wound
Debbie spent four years writing a book about saying yes to herself through travel and wanderlust, weaving in stories of other people who stepped out in faith. She had almost finished it when her husband left. She could have abandoned it—the story she'd told suddenly felt untrue—but she came back and wrote the last chapter from the vulnerability. 
Tune in for a conversation that will inspire you to choose who you'll be for the rest of your life.
Connect with Debbie:
Get her book, Searching for Home: amzn.to/4u6pvS1
Instagram: instagram.com/debbiespence_author
Referenced in this Episode:
The Numerology of Endings & Renewal | Dina Berrin: buzzsprout.com/1872382/episodes/18106144
Marie Kondo Method: konmari.com
Malcom Gladwell Tipping Point: amzn.to/4uRvE4M
Saying YES to French Lifestyle with Beeta Hashempour Founder of Mon Petit Four®: buzzsprout.com/1872382/episodes/11858194
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Connect with Wendy:
Linkedin
Instagram: @wendy.harrop
Facebook: Phineas Wright House
Website: Phineas Wright House
PWH Farm Stays
PWH Curated Experience and Travel
Interested in being a guest on the show?
Send your pitch to [email protected]
Podcast Production By Shannon Warner of Resonant Collective
Want to start your own podcast? Let's chat!
If this episode resonated, follow Say YES to Yourself! and leave a  5-star review. It helps more women in midlife discover the tools, stories, and community that make saying YES not only possible, but powerful.