On Purpose with Jay Shetty

• Sleep Expert Matthew Walker: Do THIS to Sleep Through The Night And Never Wake Up Tired Again

  How well did you sleep last night? Do you wake up feeling rested? Today, Jay welcomes renowned neuroscientist, sleep expert, and bestselling author Dr. Matthew Walker to unpack the profound importance of sleep and how it shapes every facet of our health and wellbeing. Bestselling author of Why We Sleep, Dr. Matthew Walker brings scientific rigor and heartfelt clarity to one of the most misunderstood and underestimated aspects of our lives. Matthew opens the discussion by challenging the myth of the 'eight-hour rule.' While the average adult does best with seven to nine hours of sleep, the focus quickly shifts beyond just duration. Instead, Matthew introduces a more holistic four part framework—Quantity, Quality, Regularity, and Timing, or QQRT. This framework highlights how sleep is not simply about how long one sleeps, but also how deeply, how consistently, and how well it aligns with our natural biological rhythms. Jay and Matthew's conversation also tackles common disruptors of restorative sleep, including caffeine, alcohol, and excessive exposure to artificial light. Dr. Walker discusses how these elements can interfere with the brain’s ability to enter deep and REM sleep, the latter being especially important for emotional processing, hormonal regulation, and memory consolidation. Sleep, it turns out, influences far more than individual health. In this interview, you'll learn: How to Know If You’re Getting Enough Sleep How to Improve Sleep Using the QQRT Formula How to Align Your Sleep With Your Body’s Internal Clock How to Avoid Waking Up Tired Every Morning How to Optimize Your Evening Routine for Better Sleep How to Fall Back Asleep After Waking Up at Night How to Diagnose Sleep Apnea at Home With scientific insight and practical wisdom, the episode paints a vivid picture of how sleep, when prioritized and protected, can serve as a catalyst for healing, clarity, and sustainable energy. With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty Join over 750,000 people to receive my most transformative wisdom directly in your inbox every single week with my free newsletter. Subscribe here. Join Jay for his first ever, On Purpose Live Tour! Tickets are on sale now. Hope to see you there! What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 01:12 The Four Metrics That Define Great Sleep 06:03 Can You Actually Change Your Sleep Cycle? 09:45 Why You Wake Up Tired—Even After a Full Night’s Sleep 14:29 What Sleep Apnea Really Is and Why It’s Often Missed 19:21 The Body-Wide Damage Caused by Sleep Loss 23:20 The Hormone That Increases Late-Night Cravings 28:42 Best Types of Food to Eat Before Bed 33:48 How Late-Night Eating Disrupts Your Sleep Rhythm 37:23 The Truth About Melatonin Supplements 40:47 Should You Give Melatonin To Your Children? 44:25 The Evolution of Sleeping Pills Explained 52:36 The Best Nighttime Routine For Optimal Sleep 55:07 Three Practical Tricks to Fall Back Asleep 01:04:58 What It Really Takes to Clear Caffeine From Your System 01:08:01 Surprising Health Benefits of Drinking Coffee 01:10:02 How Alcohol Quietly Ruins Your Sleep 01:13:06 Can Sleeping Well Actually Make you More Successful? 01:16:40 The Real Risks of Losing Just One Hour of Sleep 01:21:16 What Regular Sleep and a Digital Detox Can Do For Your Life 01:22:45 Why Weekend “Catch-Up” Sleep Doesn’t Work 01:24:09 The Overlooked Link Between Sleep and Mental Health 01:27:32 How Poor Sleep Fuels Loneliness and Disconnection 01:30:58 Why Self-Forgiveness Might Be the Ultimate Sleep Tool Episode Resources: Matthew Walker | Website Matthew Walker | Instagram Matthew Walker | LinkedIn Matthew Walker | X The Matt Walker Podcast Why We Sleep: Unlocking the Power of Sleep and DreamsSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

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• Stop Chasing Love! (How to Shift Your Mindset to Start Attracting It) With Tinx

  How do you know when someone is truly right for you? Have you ever confused attention for love? In this special crossover episode, Jay Shetty steps out of his usual host role and joins media personality Tinx on her podcast, Office Hours, for a candid and profoundly enriching conversation. Jay opens up about his journey with meditation, relationships, and personal well-being. He breaks meditation down into simple, approachable practices like breathwork, visualization, and mantra, making it accessible to anyone who’s ever felt like they ‘can’t meditate.’ Jay and Tinx go deeper, unpacking the digital overwhelm of the constant pings, nonstop news, and the pressure of staying connected. Jay shares practical strategies for reclaiming your peace, especially in the crucial first moments of the day. From changing how we wake up to choosing when and how we consume news, he emphasizes building rituals that foster clarity rather than chaos. Jay explains the concept of love through the three key relationship types: the firework, the candle, and the mirror. He challenges the idea of “one soulmate,” suggesting instead that the people we attract reflect where we are in our own growth and emotional state. The conversation is filled with insight into how to find peace in your singlehood, develop a deeper understanding of yourself, and create a life that naturally attracts meaningful connection. In this conversation, you'll learn: How to Start Meditating When You Feel Stuck How to Use Breathwork to Calm Anxiety Instantly How to Build a Tech-Free Morning Routine How to Consume News Without Feeling Overwhelmed How to Create Real Human Connection in a Digital World Remember, peace shouldn't be something you have to chase—it’s something you can create, right here, right now. With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty Join over 750,000 people to receive my most transformative wisdom directly in your inbox every single week with my free newsletter. Subscribe here. Join Jay for his first ever, On Purpose Live Tour! Tickets are on sale now. Hope to see you there! What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 01:48 Building Purpose Through the Calm Community 03:38 Struggling with Meditation? Start Here 08:26 Simple Breathing Practice to Calm Your Mind 11:05 Managing News and Notifications Without Losing Peace 18:16 Inside Jay’s Grounding Morning Routine 23:14 The Interview That Changed Jay’s Perspective 25:09 When Interviews Get Deep and Emotional 27:06 Must-Listen Episodes to Start With 29:48 Jay’s Ultimate Dream Guest Revealed 30:36 The Three Types of Love You’ll Experience 34:25 How Jay Met His Wife, Radhi 35:43 What to Look For When Searching for Love 44:37 The Root of Desperation in Dating 45:27 What to Expect from the On Purpose Live Tour 46:46 Preparing Mentally and Physically for Live Shows 48:55 Jay’s Favorite Guilty Pleasures Episode Resources: Tinx | Podcast Tinx | Instagram Tinx | TikTok Hotter in the HamptonsSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

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• If You’re a People Pleaser Listen to This! (Why Putting Yourself First Isn’t Selfish, It’s Necessary For Real Connection)

  Do you feel guilty when you put your needs before others by saying no? When was the last time you chose yourself—just because you needed it, not because you earned it? Today, Jay is joined by Meggan Roxanne, writer, entrepreneur, and founder of the globally loved platform The Good Quote. Known for curating some of the internet’s most powerful and inspiring affirmations, Meggan now steps into the spotlight with her own voice, sharing a remarkable personal story of loss, resilience, and transformation. From growing up in a warm and loving home to experiencing a heart-wrenching moment at just four years old, when a grandparent told her they didn’t love her, Meggan opens up about how early trauma shaped her emotional world. Following her mother’s final wish, Meggan became the caretaker for her estranged grandfather, the very man who once wounded her deeply. Through that act of grace, she discovered the true meaning of forgiveness, empathy, and unconditional love. Throughout the episode, Meggan and Jay explore the difference between people-pleasing and creating space for authentic connection, how emotional boundaries protect our well-being, and what it takes to stop repeating the pain we’ve inherited. She candidly discusses the challenges of grief, especially after losing her mother, her best friend, her guide, and how that loss forced her to reimagine her identity and rebuild from the ground up. In this episode, you'll learn: How to Forgive Someone Who Hurt You Deeply How to Set Boundaries Without Feeling Guilty How to Heal After Losing a Parent How to Reconnect with Your Intuition How to Break Generational Cycles of Trauma How to Build Confidence Through Self-Respect Even in the darkest of seasons, you have the power to find peace, reshape your path, and step into a life guided by intention, healing, and light. With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 00:30 The Pain of Feeling Unloved by Family 04:12 Would You Take Care of Someone Who Doesn't Love You? 10:20 How Do You Enforce Your Boundaries? 16:20 Are You a Chronic People Pleaser? 23:06 How The Good Quote Started 34:59 Do You Trust Your Intuition? 43:49 Your Intuition is Your Best Guide 45:20 How Do You Reconnect with Your Intuition? 50:52 How Meditation Helps Calm Down Your Day 53:10 Dealing with Grief, Depression, & Losing a Loved One Episode Resources: Meggan Roxanne | Instagram Meggan Roxanne | LinkedIn The Good Quote | Instagram The Good Quote | Facebook The Good Quote | Tumblr How to Stop Breaking Your Own Heart: THE SUNDAY TIMES BESTSELLER. Stop People-Pleasing, Set Boundaries, and Heal from Self-SabotageSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

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• Sadia Khan: Stop Ignoring Red Flags! (How to Train Your Brain to Know When To Walk Away)

  Does anything in your life feel a little “off” right now? Do you feel like you're settling for less than you deserve? Today, Jay sits down with Sadia Khan, psychotherapist and relationship expert, for a deep and unfiltered conversation on love, commitment, and emotional healing in the modern age. Known for her bold and counterintuitive insights, Sadia brings clarity to the often murky waters of dating, self-worth, and relationship dynamics. Sadia shares her powerful perspective on the importance of being able to walk away from disrespect, and how this one shift can transform who you attract and how you're treated. She challenges conventional dating advice by focusing not on what you attract—but what you entertain—highlighting the role of self-esteem in relationship choices. She explains why emotional unavailability feels attractive, how ghosting reflects poor communication habits, and why your dating app rejection might not be what you think it is. Jay and Sadia dive into the core issues many of her clients face, including infidelity, fear of commitment, and men struggling with masculinity. She unpacks how a lack of male role models, the ability to set boundaries, and people-pleasing behaviors can derail modern masculinity—and how both men and women can break these cycles to build healthier love. Sadia introduces the "Three A’s" women need to fall in love—Attraction, Admiration, and Adoration—and the "Three L’s" men need—Lust, Labor, and Loyalty—exploring how balance in these elements creates deep, lasting connection. She also breaks down why women might cheat on “nice” men and how misunderstanding emotional needs can lead to betrayal. In this episode, you’ll learn: How to Attract and Maintain Healthy Relationships. Why Self-Worth is the Foundation of Love. How to Avoid the Trap of Emotional Immaturity. What Makes Men and Women Truly Commit. The Real Reasons Behind Infidelity. How to Build Masculine Strength in a Healthy Way. Why Peace is Better than Constant Pleasure in Love. This conversation is a masterclass in emotional intelligence and healing. If you're navigating heartbreak, struggling with self-worth, or seeking a deep, lasting relationship—this episode is for you. With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 01:17 How to Stop Fearing Conflict and Start Choosing Yourself 02:24 Why We Fall for the Emotionally Unavailable 05:31 The Hidden Dangers of Dating Apps 07:01 Is Wanting Similarity the Same as Settling? 08:40 How to Stop Getting Ghosted in Modern Dating 09:31 The Early Signs of a Healthy Relationship 11:19 The Two Most Common Relationship Struggles: Infidelity and Commitment 12:19 What Happens When Men Lack Masculinity 15:25 Why Men Need Stronger Role Models 18:21 The Unspoken Contract Behind People-Pleasing 19:25 How to Show Love Without Seeking Approval 21:12 The Real Reason Women Cheat on Good Men 24:55 How to Teach Others How to Treat You 26:14 The Three A’s Every Woman Needs to Fall in Love 32:45 The Three L’s Every Man Needs to Stay in Love 36:10 How to Avoid Being Just a Temporary Fling 37:49 Why the Person You Date Isn’t Always the One You Marry 40:42 Sexual Discipline: Why It’s Essential for Self-Respect 42:29 What True Psychological Intimacy Really Looks Like 45:15 Lowering Your Standards May Cost You More Than You Think 46:10 Is Getting Cheated On Ever Partly Your Fault? 48:59 How to Recognize When You’re Being Disrespected 50:13 Are You Loyal to the Marriage or Just the Person? 52:45 The Most Honest Marriage Vow No One Talks About 56:50 Why Some Men Keep Choosing the Wrong Women 59:40 How to Know If You’re Afraid of Commitment 01:04:23 Can a Broken Relationship Be Fixed? 01:06:59 Why Knowing Your Deal Breakers Is Crucial 01:09:03 The Worst Thing to Say to Someone After a Breakup 01:09:56 Why So Many People Stay Stuck in Heartbreak 01:11:43 How to Find Closure Without an Apology 01:15:59 Not Everything You Want Is Good for You 01:66:54 Sadia on Final Five Episode Resources: Sadia Khan | Website Sadia Khan | Instagram Sadia Khan | TikTok Sadia Khan | YouTubeSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

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• Do THIS to Stop Spiraling (7 Steps to Instantly Break the Cycle of Negative Thoughts)

  What’s been on your mind today? Do you ever catch yourself spiraling with negative thoughts? Today, Jay dives into the everyday negative thoughts we all wrestle with—and how we can stop letting them control us. Whether it's replaying awkward moments, spiraling into self-doubt, or feeling stuck in patterns of fear and criticism, negativity can quietly undermine our confidence and cloud our perspective. But what if those thoughts were just noise—and you didn’t have to carry them anymore? In this episode, Jay shares seven transformative steps to help you build a healthier, more resilient relationship with your mind. Rooted in both spiritual insight and modern science, Jay walks you through powerful shifts—like recognizing your thoughts without letting them define you, challenging your inner critic with evidence, and reframing your day-to-day experiences with intention. With the clarity of a teacher and the care of a friend, Jay helps you see that awareness is not just the first step—it’s your greatest protection. In this episode, you'll learn: How to Stop Believing Every Negative Thought How to Challenge Thoughts That Aren’t True How to Use Mindfulness to Calm Mental Overload How to Build a Mental Shield Against Criticism and Stress We can’t always stop negative thoughts from showing up, but we can learn to move through them with clarity, self-kindness, and strength—one thought at a time. With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty Join over 750,000 people to receive my most transformative wisdom directly in your inbox every single week with my free newsletter. Subscribe here. Join Jay for his first ever, On Purpose Live Tour! Tickets are on sale now. Hope to see you there! What We Discussed: 00:00 Intro 01:06 How Do You Deal With Negative Thoughts? 02:20 #1: Recognize and Acknowledge Your Thoughts 07:30 #2: Challenge Your Negative Thoughts 11:22 #3: Start Reframing Your Thoughts 15:52 #4: Practice Mindfulness and Meditation 18:14 #5: Engage in Joyful Activities 20:12 #6: Look After Your Body 21:28 #7: Limit Your Exposure to NegativitySee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

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