Roll With The Punches

Two ADHD-ers walk into a podcast studio... what could possibly go wrong?
Well, once we got past flamethrowers and weed killing, eventually we went down the rabbit hole of what happens when you finally understand how your brain actually works.
Patrick was recently diagnosed with ADHD, and the diagnosis has given him a completely different lens on a whole bunch of things he's done throughout his life. The distractions... hyperfocus... inability to sit still... endless interests... the ridiculous number of things he manages to cram into a weekend... and the fact that when something genuinely grabs him, he'll move heaven and earth to do it.
We compared notes on being the 'disruptive' kid at school, being labelled lazy or difficult, and what can happen when you're simply in the wrong environment or being asked to learn in a way that doesn't work for you.
We also talked about medication, executive function, motivation, finding the right career fit, taking risks, trying shit just because you're interested in it, and why I reckon we can do ourselves a fair bit of damage when we start believing someone else's story about who we're supposed to be.
Patrick has had one hell of an eclectic life, from journalism and radio to Tai Chi, technology, paragliding and community radio.
If that kind of feels relatable for you... maybe you're not flaky. Maybe you're curious.
Maybe you're not incapable of sticking at something. Maybe you just haven't found the thing that keeps you interested.
And maybe... just maybe, being a little bit different isn't something that needs fixing at all.

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Narcissism gets thrown around so much these days that I was really bloody interested to get underneath the label and actually talk about what we know, what we don't know, and where we've potentially got it very wrong.
Dr Peter Salerno has worked clinically with people who meet the criteria for severe personality disorders and now works predominantly with survivors of pathological relationships. We got into narcissism, psychopathy, manipulation, why highly intelligent and successful people can still get completely caught in these dynamics, and why telling someone to 'just leave' massively oversimplifies what can actually be happening to their brain and nervous system.
We also got into the nature versus nurture debate, genetics, trauma, empathy, confirmation bias, why some people actively target others, and whether you can actually break these patterns and future proof yourself from ending up in another toxic relationship.
There's a LOT in this one. And some of Peter's explanations completely challenge the way we usually talk about narcissism and abusive relationships.

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Imagine being a rambunctious & ridiculously active weapon one minute, and one who's barely able to walk from the car to the supermarket without your heartrate sky-rocketing the next...

Well, welcome to the world of Claire Clark... Claire was a paramedic, PT, yoga teacher, retreat organiser, ridiculously active human and basically someone who just kept doing all the things she could dream up. Until a back injury at work lead to a cascade of events that eventually saw her diagnosed with POTS.
She spent years of not being believed and being told her tests were 'normal', losing the career she'd worked so bloody hard for, watching friendships change, and having to completely rethink what her life was actually for.
I sure can't imagine the mental gymnastics of waiting so long for a diagnosis on an invisible illness in a body that's capacity to perform and function can change from one day to the next...
Chatting with Claire sure holds the mirror up when it comes to how we so often measure our life by how much we can do, how much we earn, or what we achieve.
These days it's all about 'finding the glimmers'... which sounds like a pretty bloody good philosophy if you ask me!
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What happens when we stop guessing and actually start paying attention to what our body is telling us?
This was one of those conversations where I could've kept talking for another three hours. Dr. Kristen Holmes is the Global Head of Human Performance and Principal Scientist at Whoop, and she works with some of the best athletes and teams in the world, including Ferrari F1 and Paris Saint-Germain.
We got into data, HRV, recovery, overtraining, women's health, perimenopause, sleep, fuelling, the menstrual cycle and why being absolutely farkin' exhausted shouldn't be considered normal. We also went deep on the psychology of performance, self-efficacy, trauma and the weird ways the things that once helped us survive can become the things that hold us back.
And then I shared with Kristen the slightly uncomfortable realisation for me that a lot of what I thought was toughness in my boxing years may actually have been me being chronically under-recovered and under-fuelled.
Kristen is ridiculously knowledgeable, but she's also incredibly open about her own story, including childhood trauma, elite sport, burnout and learning how to move from achievement and fear towards actually living with more joy and agency.
Basically, there's a LOT in this one. Data nerds, athletes, women over 40, high performers and anyone who's ever worn exhaustion like a badge of honour, you're going to LOVE this one.
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What happens when our body starts changing - particularly around 40 and beyond, and why do so many of us keep trying to live like we're still 35 when our biology is screaming, "Yeah, nah, we're not doing that anymore, bro"
In this ep with Dr. Cam McDonald, we talked perimenopause, stress, hormones, exercise, food timing, nervous system regulation, emotions, subconscious stories and why sometimes the answer isn't to push harder, but to actually back the fark up and recover.
Cam shared some pretty fascinating case studies where tiny changes to training, meal timing, daily rhythm and stress completely changed people's symptoms. We also got into the way we interpret our feelings, why sadness doesn't have to mean something is wrong, and how easily we can create stories about ourselves that simply aren't true.
At the end of the day, this is a conversation about how our body isn't our enemy and it's not trying to sabotage us. It's constantly giving us information about what's going on... We just tend to ignore it, smash another coffee and carry on.
So yep, there's plenty in this one for the over-40 crowd, but honestly, this is about understanding your body as an individual rather than trying to follow someone else's rulebook.
And apparently, we all need more rest. Annoying, right... but there it is.

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