Results Don’t Lie: Become the Parent Your Kids Believe
Are you torn between protecting your kids’ mental health and preparing them for real-world stress?Most parents feel this tension—and many swing too far toward pressure or protection. In this video, Greg & Rachel share a better path: don’t inflict pressure—be the anchor while your kids face it. You’ll learn how to build grit through trust, identity, and modeling, so challenge actually strengthens your bond instead of breaking it.What we cover:Identity over willpower: why saying “I’m not a smoker” beats “I’m trying to quit.”Anchor, don’t apply pressure: your job is safety + modeling, not manufactured hardship.Results don’t lie: how your life becomes the proof your kids can’t ignore.Trust first, then stretch: push to the “next rock,” then keep your promise and carry them.Adjust your strategy: when you “get punched in the face,” learn, adapt, iterate.Do hard things yourself: kids spot hypocrisy—lead from the front.Make discomfort enjoyable: turn tough conversations, workouts, and cold plunges into shared wins.Big Idea: Grit grows in connection. When kids know you’ll both challenge and carry them, they lean in, try again, and adopt a new identity that sustains lifelong habits.Key Takeaways✅ Be the anchor, not the pressure. Safety + example > force.✅ Model hard things. If you don’t, they won’t.✅ Identity drives habits. Become the family who does the hard, good things.✅ Keep promises. Stretch to the “next rock,” then carry—that’s how trust is built.✅ Iterate, don’t implode. When it’s not working, change your approach, not your ideals.Chapters00:00 New Beginnings and Reflections03:18 Goal Setting and Identity Transformation03:31 Preparing Kids for Life's Challenges05:02 The Balance of Comfort and Growth05:30 Building Resilience Through Experience08:44 Adapting to Life's Punches09:59 The Journey of Parenting and Education12:19 Embracing Failure in Business and Parenting13:59 The Importance of Adaptability and Learning17:21 Influence Through Results and Personal Example19:32 Living an Extraordinary Life as a Family22:34 Teaching Resilience Through Real-Life Challenges24:58 Iterative Learning and Effective Communication28:39 The Power of Persistence in ParentingMemorable Quotes🗣 “Be the anchor—don’t be the pressure.”🗣 “Results don’t lie. Pass the silent film test.”🗣 “Identity changes behavior more than willpower.”🗣 “Stretch, then carry. That’s how trust grows.”Want help implementing this at home? Our new parenting course gives you the step-by-step systems to build trust, invite buy-in, and raise resilient kids—without yelling, punishment, or power struggles. Join the Extraordinary Parent Mentoring Method class here.RESOURCES:Let us help you in your extraordinary family life journey.How We Raised 7 Well-Adjusted Kids - Without Yelling, Tantrums, Punishments or Power Struggles (+ get THE CHECKLIST: Things We Do Every Day to Raise Well-Adjusted Kids)Rachel’s Must-Read Booklist for Well-Read MomsGreg's Recommended Reading List for Parents & YouthFollow us on Instagram: @worldschoolfamily or @greg.denningDon’t miss out on the Extraordinary Parent Mentoring Method class!Get Rachel's Family Systems & ChartsGet Rachel’s Extraordinary Family Life PlannerJOIN GREG'S 90-DAY HEALTH & FITNESS CHALLENGE! Join the Formidable Family Man Masterclass and TribeGather with us at the World School Family (Beach & Farm) Resort in Portugal
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