Freedom from Attachment

Ever think you should've had your big spiritual awakening by now? The one moment that everything is crystal clear? That's not how it works.

Tracy's been on this path for over 30 years, and she still wakes up almost daily to something new. Some of it she's happy about. Some of it, not so much.

Being highly sensitive as a kid meant she absorbed things that were never hers to carry, and spent years believing something was wrong with her because she couldn't find the flaw that she was told she possessed.

This episode gets into three things she's learned along the way: what isn't yours will keep weighing on you until you name it as separate, growth isn't a hierarchy but an uncovering, and a decision made from self-love looks nothing like one made from fear.

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You have one. The relationship that's never worked, no matter how hard you tried to fix it, understand it, or earn your way into it. Is it Mom or Dad? Bro or Sis? Who are you stuck with?

Nobody has their shit together, not even the gurus. What some people have is more awareness, and awareness isn't a badge you earn, it's honesty you can't hide from.

That honesty means admitting you've spent years feeling responsible for a relationship that was never yours to fix. It means letting go of who you thought you were through someone else's eyes.

Tracy shares three decades of trying to make an impossible relationship work, and how she finally became an audience member instead of a performer in it.

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How long does it take you to decide what you’re wearing each day? What you’re having for breakfast, etc. Or any decisions that are focused on the little things

I used to believe many of my choices were life or death, at least they felt that way!

Don't disrupt, don't upset anyone, just go along with it.

That was my 20s, and it never got me what I wanted, and that wasn’t clear either…what did I want?

The ego doesn't care if you're happy. It only cares that you survive, so it drives you to win, to please, to avoid conflict, and calls it a decision.

I watched my mother do this in real time — always to gain control, punish or prove a point. Unfortunately, most of it is self-sabotage, and she called it freedom.

Surviving and being happy are not the same goal. Winning equals surviving. Happiness is something else entirely. Just because you won doesn’t mean you’re happy.

Check out this episode on what actually matters for a happy and meaningful life.

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The problem child. The difficult one. Black sheep. The one who just couldn't get it right.

It’s really not your story, even if you feel it deep inside.

I thought it was my story for years. Being the scapegoat in your family means you have all sorts of peculiar labels that don’t belong to you. Like a pair of ill-fitting shoes, you made it work as you were hobbling along.

Let’s talk about how perceptive we are as scapegoats and the spiritual path it takes you on. Cosmic Intelligence doesn’t grow without the contrast of being in survival mode. You, like myself, know the truth, so listen in to hear what may resonate with you.

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I bet you’re self-aware if you are reading this; you’re probably highly sensitive too and perceptive. Your awareness developed from observing the narcissistic parent in your life.

Growing up with a personality-disordered parent doesn't just leave marks, it truly is a “normalized” operating system; the guilt, the shame, the belief that their chaos was somehow yours to fix.

In having been on a spiritual journey of self discovery, and at one point wanting to stop anxiety, and other out of control feelings in Tracy’s life, this was one of the harder points of pain to get to the bottom of…..

It was reflected in relationships, socially and professionally. The conditioning that made everything difficult when you believe you deserve nothing.

Join Tracy as she shares a story of how the lunacy continues through a nutty story.

Learn how her perspective has completely changed from feeling the familiar pull of a painful dynamic along with the blame for things that never belonged to her and into the present with the cosmic value of what she learned.

Just one story for today.

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