Does it feel like you're constantly striving to be enough but never quite reaching that point? Maybe you've been told that the key to feeling worthy is to keep achieving more and more, but deep down, you still struggle with feelings of inadequacy. The pain of not feeling like you're good enough can impact every aspect of your life, from relationships to work and your overall well-being. If you're tired of constantly chasing validation and want to experience greater self-acceptance and inner peace, then keep listening.
In this episode, you will be able to:
* Embrace self-acceptance and inner peace for a more fulfilling life.
* Explore the impact of not feeling enough and unlock your true potential.
* Begin your journey towards self-love and find inner contentment.
* Address limiting beliefs for personal transformation and growth.
* Discover the importance of emotional exploration and awareness for a more balanced life.
"You're here to take up space, meaning to be you, to be with who you are right now in this moment. Why? Because you're opening your future up to be amazing then, because that is how magic happens." ~ Tracy Crossley
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#824: Attachment is Greed, Not Love
Think attachment is about love? It's not. It's about greed, power, and control. Whether you're hoarding love, money, or status—it all comes from the same place: feeling empty inside and thinking that getting the thing will finally make you whole.
We excuse behavior in others when we think it benefits us. We make our lives complicated with our own bureaucracy—rules and patterns that keep us stuck on a merry-go-round of grasping for control we never had.
In this episode, Tracy explores:
* Why attachment is really about greed and scarcity, not love
* How hoarding (love, money, status) comes from feeling hollow
* The difference between attachment and actual love
* Living from the inside out instead of filling yourself from the outside in
* Taking emotional risks instead of grasping for control
"We excuse the behavior in others when we think it somehow benefits us." ~ Tracy Crossley
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#823: What If...
You know what we all do? We look at people through the filter of what we want them to be. Your parents. Your kids. Your partner. Even yourself.
We're so busy projecting our expectations, our fears, our own experiences onto everyone else that we never actually see them. And here's the kicker—they can't see you either. Not really. Not if you can't see yourself.
This isn't about getting people to understand you. It's about getting curious—about them, about yourself—without the agenda of trying to fix or control the outcome.
In this episode, Tracy explores:
* Why learning who someone is matters more than trying to change them
* How your judgment of others is really about your own fear
* The difference between seeing someone and wanting validation from them
* Why shame keeps you separate even when you're in a relationship
* What it means to feel your feelings without running from the anxiety
"We judge others out of fear." ~ Tracy Crossley
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#822: Ignoring Red Flags Because You See the Good (REBROADCAST)
Yes, there is good in all of us. But that doesn’t mean you should ignore red flags in a relationship because you want to see the good in people. And it certainly doesn’t mean it’s your job to make those red flags go away; to shine that diamond in the rough! When you tell yourself what an amazing person you are for seeing the good in someone, that’s your ego talking. It’s the false part of yourself seeing the false part of others. And it’s totally rooted in insecure attachment. Emotionally healthy people don’t sacrifice their own wellbeing for others.
When you believe this martyr story and ignore or excuse red flags, you sell yourself short. You do NOT deserve a “broken” person who needs rescuing. That road leads to unhappiness because it’s an impossible journey, and you’ll never find what you’re looking for. Focusing on the other person means you’re avoiding yourself. In today’s podcast we’ll explore this story we tend to create, and how to change it. Ignoring red flags doesn’t make you noble. Let’s dispel that belief so you can shift to the real work: the work that begins with you.
WISDOM NUGGET (#wisdomnugget)
You are your own red flag. Surrender to reality, stop the story and be that hero for yourself.
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#821: Judgement Keeps You Lonely
Are you constantly beating yourself up for past decisions? Judging every choice you've made and wondering why you feel so isolated?
Here's the truth: We judge because it was meant to keep us alive. But now we use it to tear ourselves apart. And that harsh inner critic? It's keeping you lonely as hell.
When you're constantly judging yourself, you don't want anyone close because you're terrified they'll judge you too. You hide parts of yourself, thinking you're protecting yourself, but you're actually cutting yourself off from real connection.
In this episode, Tracy explores:
* Why judgment was meant for survival, not self-torture
* How harsh self-judgment creates emotional isolation
* Why everything is actually neutral until you assign meaning to it
* The difference between having an experience and judging an experience
* How to catch your judgment patterns before they spiral
* Why your past "mistakes" aren't mistakes at all
"Everything is neutral. It's what we assign to it, what we judge it to be. That's bad. That's good. Don't do that. That's good. Do that instead of, okay, this is what's happening." ~ Tracy Crossley
A lot of us live in our head, disconnected from our feelings and intuition. This podcast touches on releasing insecure attachment, accepting your authentic self and getting “unstuck” by connecting to how you FEEL instead of how you THINK. I’ve been there, and discuss sensitive subjects using my own experiences with a lot of laughs and even more empathy… because we’re all flawed humans.
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