Caught in a cycle of blaming others for how you feel? You might think self-acceptance comes from others accepting you first. Wrong. That approach builds walls, creates resentment, and slowly kills your relationships.
Codependency, anyone? Giving the remote control to your emotions to someone else NEVER leads to self acceptance.
In this episode, Tracy explores:
* Why you feel resentment rather than acceptance
* What is a trigger that leads you to a world of hurt?
* How to actually accept yourself.
"Where there is judgment, love is not happening in those moments ~ Love of yourself or the other person." ~ Tracy Crossley
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#808: Nobody Cares About Your Feelings
You keep ignoring your gut to please everyone else. Reacting to what others want instead of tuning into what YOU need. Sound familiar? When was the last time you actually checked in with yourself before jumping through hoops to meet someone else's expectations?
We're taught to react to others, to do "the right thing" according to everyone but ourselves. Your worth becomes tied to how well you anticipate and please the people around you. Meanwhile, your true feelings get buried deeper with each fake smile, each time you say "yes" when you mean "no."
In this episode, Tracy explores:
* Why we abandon our feelings to meet others' expectations
* How "doing the right thing" disconnects you from yourself
* The myth of mind-reading in relationships
* Three ways you dismiss your feelings daily
* Recognizing when you're reacting vs. honoring yourself
"As long as you don't give a f*** about your feelings, nobody else will. You teach people how to treat you." ~ Tracy Crossley
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#807: Don't Be A Gumby
Ever notice how you contort yourself to fit what someone else wants? When you play small, hide parts of yourself, or pretend to be something you're not just to have a relationship?
You can't have happiness when you're living a half-life. Subservience to an ideal—whether it's a relationship, a lifestyle, or some fantasy version of yourself—is just another prison you've built.
Ready to stop contorting yourself into someone else's idea of perfect? This episode will help you recognize where you're sacrificing your authenticity and how to reclaim the real you.
In this episode, Tracy explores:
* Why suppressing your authentic self guarantees relationship failure
* How avoidants develop "imposter syndrome" in relationships
* The exhausting pattern of hiding who you are to please others
"No one who wants to suppress you and you wanting to suppress you makes nobody happy. Remember that. Happy people don't need another person to make them happy."
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#806: Getting Over Your Narcissistic Parents
Do you carry a burden of guilt and responsibility that doesn't belong to you? Feel like something's wrong with you even when everything in your life is going right? That's the lasting impact of growing up with a narcissistic parent—where their stories become your emotional prison.
In this raw and revealing episode, Tracy explores her own journey with her narcissistic mother and the breakthrough moment that finally released her from decades of guilt. Ready to drop the weight you've been carrying?
In this episode, Tracy explores:
* The guilt that follows you everywhere
* Why communication attempts always fail
* When you realize it was never your fault
* Moving from knowledge to emotional freedom
* Taking emotionally risky action
"There is not one damn thing I could have ever done as a child or as an adult that she could have been a different person or would react differently. I just saw her in her own little bubble."
~ Tracy Crossley
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#805: My life is good, but something is missing (REBROADCAST)
Something's missing in your life. You feel it. You know it.
But you keep telling yourself everything's fine.
That gnawing emptiness? The one you try to fill with advice from friends about your dating life or career choices? It's not going away until you face what's really happening.
You're trapped in patterns YOU created.
In this raw conversation, Tracy digs into why you keep hitting the same walls in relationships and life. It's not about getting more advice—it's about finally seeing the truth about yourself.
In this episode, Tracy explores:
* Why your emotions keep you stuck in destructive patterns
* How self-deception blocks authentic connections
* The uncomfortable work of real self-awareness
* Breaking through fear to build genuine relationships
* Using soul plan readings to uncover your true purpose
"Your patterns aren't happening TO you. They're happening THROUGH you." ~ Tracy Crossley
A lot of us live in our head, disconnected from our feelings and intuition. This podcast touches on releasing insecure attachment, accepting your authentic self and getting “unstuck” by connecting to how you FEEL instead of how you THINK. I’ve been there, and discuss sensitive subjects using my own experiences with a lot of laughs and even more empathy… because we’re all flawed humans.
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