Still Not Straight

Class is in session, babies.
This week, Tessa & Shan present The Gentlewoman’s Guide to Being a Better Partner, aka all the things women wish their partners just got without having to be asked.
Think less grand romantic gestures and more: notice the overflowing bin. Know her coffee order. Make the reservation. Put your phone down. Kiss her when she gets home. Keep dating her. Listen when she needs to vent. And please, for the love of God, take some initiative.
Tessa brings her very scientific DON’T BE A DICK framework, Shan brings an actual slideshow, and together they cover the little things that can make a very big difference in a relationship.
Because as the girls realise, the secret isn't actually that complicated: notice your person, know your person and don't wait until they have to ask.
Whether you're a girlfriend, boyfriend, wife, husband, partner or currently very single, there might be something in here for you.
Welcome to The Gentlewoman’s Guide.

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We promised we’d go deeper on our taboo topics… so naturally, we’re dedicating an entire episode to SEX.
What actually counts as lesbian sex? How often should couples be doing it? Is scheduling sex actually a good idea? Should you ever fake an orgasm? How important is foreplay? And is “lesbian bed death” even real?
There’s also a questionable step-by-step lesson in foreplay, some deeply personal confessions, and a rapid-fire round that probably tells you far too much about both of them.
Nothing is off limits. You’re welcome, babies.
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We’re back and after a quick debrief of the SNS Social Club (which absolutely popped off), we’re talking about all the things you’re apparently not supposed to talk about.
Money. Relationships. Religion. Aliens. Nothing is off limits.
How important is money in a relationship? What do we actually believe? Are there some things you just shouldn’t say out loud? And, naturally, do we believe there’s something else out there?
We go there and Shan may or may not be the reason we’re not here next week.
It’s chaotic, questionable and very SNS.
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We thought what happened in Europe stayed in Europe…
Apparently not. Tessa’s back and recapping the entire trip, the good, the gay, the unexpected homophobia, and the story she genuinely thought she’d never tell.
Oh, and apparently we need to address the Sarah rumours too.
We’re back babies.
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Shan is back on the couch, solo, with a stack of questions and she's ready. Well. She says she didn't get cunty enough. You can be the judge.
Welcome to Episode 4 of Shan Says - the mini-series where you send in your questions and Shan tells you exactly what she thinks, even when it's not what you want to hear.
This episode:👻 She had a 10/10 first date. Kissed. Got the "I had an amazing time" text. Then the texting went weird, he forgot their second date entirely, and now complete silence. Did she get ghosted or did she accidentally ghost herself? Shan investigates.
🏳️‍🌈 She's a lesbian who's only attracted to femme-presenting women, has zero game in real life, and lives in a small town in New Zealand where the queers are few and far between. Shan has a PSA for any gay femmes in NZ listening right now.🥹
Her best friend cancels on her constantly but loses it when she makes plans without her. Shan has two words: absolutely not.📧
A coworker keeps reply-alling the entire team to correct her tiny mistakes in front of everyone. Shan calls it what it is and tells her exactly what to do about it.🚩
Her partner likes his ex's posts within 30 seconds of them going up. She thinks she's overthinking. Shan doesn't think she's overthinking.
Also: Pete Wicks gets a mention and Shan owes him an apology.📱
Her 14-year-old is begging for Snapchat because literally everyone has it. Shan has opinions about Snapchat. Strong ones.🌟
Her friend posts nonstop "living my best life" content online then texts her at midnight falling apart. Do you say something or just keep showing up? Shan is not here for the highlight reel.💔
She was in a relationship for a year. She did school pickups. She built a little family. She was always kept a secret. She walked away when it wasn't enough. Then she found out her ex has been telling people they haven't dated anyone since their divorce — five years ago.
Shan gets personal on this one.
Plus: Shan announces Tessa might be back next week and genuinely seems conflicted about it.📩
Got a question for Shannen? Send it in - relationships, coming out, family drama, the stuff you can't say to anyone in your actual life. We want to hear it. Email: hello@stitchupstudios.com.au DM us: Instagram
🎙️ Shan Says is a mini-series from Still Not Straight, produced by Stitch Up Studios.
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