In this deeply personal and reflective episode, I and Lorna share an intimate look at a truly special life event "Jocelin’s wedding", and the powerful mindset lessons it uncovered.
After an unexpected break from the podcast, we discuss what it really means to be present, how disconnection from distractions can unlock richer experiences, and why creating moments that set your heart on fire is more important than ever, both in life and in riding.
From the quiet beauty of a Swedish haven to the joyful chaos of Midsummer celebrations, this episode explores:
The surprising parallels between riding mindset and real-life presence.
Why your phone might be blocking your best experiences.
The importance of training your attention, but also following your curiosity.
Why daring to "do the crazy things" could be your biggest growth move.
How to stop waiting for “one day” and start creating a meaningful life now.
If you’ve ever felt caught in the rat race, disconnected during big moments, or unsure whether it’s okay to pause and fully enjoy the life you’re building, this episode is your reminder to stop, feel, and dare more boldly.
Tune in for a beautiful blend of inspiration, vulnerability, and practical mindset insights that go beyond the saddle.
Resources mentioned:
🧠 Receive our weekly mindset & performance hacks: www.mindeq.eu/weeklyhacks
Follow us on Instagram: www.instagram.com/jocelinlillienau
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16:15
How to Keep Going After a Bad Competition- #191
Welcome back to another powerful episode of the Equestrian Performance Mindset Podcast with I and Lorna. In this raw and relatable conversation, We dive deep into what happens when competition doesn’t go as planned, and how to mentally regroup when your best efforts still fall short.
Lorna shares her recent and emotionally intense experience at a dressage competition where things spiraled out of control, despite months of hard work and preparation.
We unpack the rollercoaster of emotions, from frustration and self-doubt to shame and anger, that follow a disappointing performance.
You’ll learn:
Why mental toughness isn’t about “having it all together” but rather your ability to navigate discomfort.
How to process disappointment without judgment and move forward with compassion.
The power of reframing failure and reconnecting with your “why.”
Why sitting with your emotions is not weakness, it’s part of growth.
How community, connection, and vulnerability can help you feel less alone in the journey.
Whether you’ve had a tough weekend or are questioning your path, this episode is for every rider who's ever walked out of the arena thinking, “What’s the point?” You'll leave feeling seen, supported, and equipped with tools to take one small step forward, even on the hardest days.
Resources mentioned:
🧠 5 Mental Tools: https://www.mindeq.eu/mentaltools
Follow us on instagram: www.instagram.com/jocelinlillienau
If you loved this episode: Please leave a rating and review! It helps so much and helps us spread the message to more riders like you.
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From Self-Doubt to 3* Eventing - #190
This is not just another episode, this is a milestone moment. Join me as I take you behind the scenes of one of the most significant events in my riding career: my debut at 3* eventing with my 7-year-old horse, Echo vd Vrombautshoeve Z.
What started as a distant dream becomes a breathtaking reality, and in this special documentary-style episode, you'll experience the week with me, from nervous packing to the elation of crossing the final finish line.
You'll hear:
Why I chose Maarsbergen for my first 3*, despite it being known as a huge and demanding track
How I handled mindset wobbles, doubts, and the pressure of stepping up a level
What it was like riding the bold and sassy Echo through dressage, show jumping, and cross-country
The unexpected lessons I learned from two poles down in the SJ, and why it was exactly what I needed
The emotional highs of going clear cross-country, and the deep appreciation for the community around me.
We don’t have the perfect starting point, the perfect style, or the perfect horse. But we get the job done, and that’s what makes it so special.
Whether you're dreaming of your first 3*, battling self-doubt, or needing a reminder that progress is possible no matter where you're starting from. this episode will hit you in the heart.💚 Real. Raw. Inspiring.
Want to see the round? Check out my Instagram for behind-the-scenes footage and mindset insights.
Resources mentioned:
🧠 Receive our weekly mindset & performance hacks: www.mindeq.eu/weeklyhacks
Follow us on Instagram: www.instagram.com/jocelinlillienau
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The Real Reason You're Not Moving Up - #189
In this empowering episode, we dive into one of the most common fears holding ambitious riders back: the fear of not seeing a distance, and what it really means when you're scared to step up a level. Whether you're hovering at 1.10m and terrified of even thinking about 1.15m, or constantly waiting to feel "ready" before pushing yourself forward, this conversation is for you.
We unpack:
Why fear of failure (and not fear of injury) is usually what’s really holding you back
The illusion of perfection, and how chasing it keeps you stuck
What to do when fear is real (like after a fall), and how to work through it safely
The mindset shift from “Ready, Aim, Fire” to “Fire, Aim, Ready”
Why confidence is not a precondition to action, it’s a result of taking it
💬 Plus, we share our personal stories, mindset hacks, and a serious call to action: if this episode lights a fire under your saddle, let us know! We want to hear from YOU.
If you're tired of feeling like you need to “see every stride” before you move up, if you're stuck in the loop of waiting until you feel confident, or if you're comparing yourself to a mythical perfect round, you need to listen to this episode.
Resources mentioned:
🧠 Receive our weekly mindset & performance hacks: www.mindeq.eu/weeklyhacks
Follow us on Instagram: www.instagram.com/jocelinlillienau
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How To Reframe Mistakes & Ride With Confidence - #188
Ever found yourself halfway around a course and suddenly thinking, “Only five fences to go, just keep the time”, only to realize you’re more busy with the resume that with riding your horse?
Yeah... same here. In this raw and real episode, I share exactly what happened at my last event when I got caught chasing the result instead of riding to the best of my ability.
Spoiler: It got chaotic. I almost missed a fence, scrambled through a combination, and it could’ve haunted me for weeks. But it didn’t. Why? Because I reframed it. Today, I’m walking you through the mindset tool that saved me, and can do the same for you.
Reframing isn’t about sugarcoating. It’s about choosing a story that serves your confidence, your learning, and your future as a rider.
Inside this episode:
Why focusing on the result sabotages your performance
What I learned from almost riding past a jump
The three reframes that turned a shaky round into the most valuable ride of the season
A mindset technique you can use today to bounce back after a rough round
Whether you’re prepping for your next step up, doubting if you’re ready, or just feeling the weight of perfectionism, this episode is your permission to be human, and your toolkit for becoming a better one in the saddle.
Resources mentioned:
🐎 Apply for coaching with us: https://www.mindeq.eu/coaching
🧠 Receive our weekly mindset & performance hacks: www.mindeq.eu/weeklyhacks
Follow us on Instagram: www.instagram.com/jocelinlillienau
Remember: Reframing your thoughts is not about fluff. It’s about finding your power again.
The Equestrian Performance Mindset podcast is teaching equestrians how to get the most out of themselves by training their mind alongside their riding skills. It provides actionable tips on how to: Improve performance, Reframe failure, Build courage & confidence and how to Achieve success, happiness & fulfillment in and out of the saddle. Tune in today to start making strides towards your dreams! Inspired by my own two favorite podcasts The Mindset Mentor and EquiRatings Eventing podcast! Connect with me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jocelinlillienau/
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