Feminist Wellness

Tenderoni Hotline #20: Hello, my love, and welcome back to the Tenderoni Hotline. Today, I’m joined by the luminous and deeply grounded Rose Zeeland, financial planner, death doula, and a radiant graduate of the Anchored program.

In this powerful and heartfelt conversation, Rose shares her journey from emotional flashbacks, perfectionism, and the chronic belief that she was “broken”… to a place of embodied healing, nervous system safety, and radical self-acceptance.

We talk about what it means to move beyond just talking about healing and into the felt sense of coming home to yourself. Rose opens up about learning the language of her nervous system, redefining boundaries with love, and how she stopped outsourcing her worth to others and started honoring her full humanity, on her own terms.

Together, we explore healing from internalized shame, the magic of being witnessed in community, and why this work isn’t about fixing what’s “wrong” with us but remembering what’s always been whole within us.

If you’ve ever felt like you were the only one who couldn’t figure it out, the only one “too much” or “not enough,” this episode is for you. So get cozy, press play, and come be held by this beautiful story of reclamation, resilience, and return with Rose.

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#365: Have you ever noticed how often the word sorry slips out of your mouth before you’ve even decided whether you’ve done anything wrong?

Sorry for asking. Sorry for taking up space. Sorry for having a feeling. Sorry for existing. If that reflex feels familiar, this episode is for you.

This week, I explore why default sorry has nothing to do with politeness and everything to do with a nervous system that learned safety through shrinking. You’ll learn how the habit of saying sorry gets wired into the nervous system, why insight and willpower alone don’t make it stop, and what actually helps your body feel safe enough to take up space.

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Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://beatrizalbina.com/365

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If you’re ready to break away from anxiety and codependent relationships so you can live a life of joy and confidence, Anchored is for you. This is my 6-month high-touch, high-results coaching program, and we’re currently enrolling.

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Tenderoni Hotline #19: Hello my love, and welcome back to the Tenderoni Hotline, our soft and spacious corner of the Feminist Wellness Podcast where we explore your most tender questions about healing, nervous system care, and returning home to yourself.

In today’s episode, we’re moving through three questions that speak right to the heart of healing for emotionally outsourced humans:

First: What do I do when someone ignores my boundary? We’ll talk about how to respond with clarity and compassion, the difference between miscommunication and disregard, and how to stay rooted in self-trust when boundary-setting feels heartbreaking.

Next: Why do I cry so much? And is that actually okay? We’ll explore the nervous system science behind emotional tears, how crying can shift your internal state, and why there is no shame in your body’s brilliant and built-in ways of processing emotion.

And finally: What if I’m too broken for any of this to work? Whether you’ve secretly believed you’re the exception to healing or worry you’ve tried everything, this part of the episode is a love letter to the part of you that feels beyond help and the truth that you’re not.

You’ll walk away with a deeper understanding of how boundaries, emotions, and old protective beliefs all tie back to your nervous system’s wisdom. And most importantly, how to meet yourself with grace, curiosity, and care when things feel hard. So go ahead and grab your softest blanket, pour something grounding, and settle in. I’m so glad you’re here.

Got a question for the Tenderoni Hotline? Send it to me at: [email protected]

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#364: In this episode, I’m joined by Susan Klunder, a recent graduate of Anchored, my six-month coaching and somatics program. Susan shares her lived experience of moving from chronic people-pleasing, perfectionism, and emotional outsourcing into a life that feels grounded, joyful, and genuinely her own.

We talk about what it was like before Anchored, when she had done years of therapy, coaching, and personal development, but still felt overwhelmed, disconnected, and driven by fear rather than trust. Susan reflects on how Anchored helped her understand her nervous system patterns in real time, shift out of overfunctioning, and develop deep self-trust without losing her drive, ambition, or care for others.

This conversation is a powerful example of what becomes possible when nervous system healing happens in community. Join us as Susan shares how Anchored changed her work life, her relationships, her parenting, and her capacity for joy. If you’ve ever wondered what’s actually on the other side of emotional outsourcing, this episode offers a grounded, honest look at what healing can create.

Click here to check out Anchored: https://beatrizalbina.com/anchored/

Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://beatrizalbina.com/364

Order your copy of End Emotional Outsourcing here: https://beatrizalbina.com/book/

Follow me here: https://www.instagram.com/beatrizvictoriaalbinanp/?hl=en
Mentioned in this episode:
Join Anchored!
If you’re ready to break away from anxiety and codependent relationships so you can live a life of joy and confidence, Anchored is for you. This is my 6-month high-touch, high-results coaching program, and we’re currently enrolling.

Click here to find out more: https://feminist-wellness.captivate.fm/anchored

Join Anchored

Tenderoni Hotline #18: Hello my love, and welcome back to the Tender Hotline, the soft and spacious corner of the Feminist Wellness Podcast where we explore your most intimate and layered questions about healing, nervous system care, and reclaiming your self-trust.

In this episode, we’re diving into three powerful questions that so many emotionally outsourced folks grapple with: Do I have to fully love myself before I’m ready for real love? How do I know if I’m truly healing or just coping while everything stays the same? And is focusing on myself while the world feels like it’s falling apart actually selfish?

Together, we unpack the myth that healing has to happen in isolation. You’ll hear why real love isn’t reserved for the “fully healed,” and how our capacity for connection grows not in perfection, but in proximity and presence. We also explore how nervous system regulation can sometimes turn into a strategy for tolerating the intolerable, and how to shift from performative calm to embodied clarity and action.

We talk about how emotional outsourcing, or looking to others for your sense of safety, belonging, and worth, distorts love and keeps you stuck in survival mode. And we name the ways that focusing on your own healing and self-connection is not selfish, but a radical act of reclamation that serves both you and the collective. So my love, go ahead and grab your softest blanket, pour something warm and grounding, and settle in. I’m so glad you’re here.

Got a question for the Tenderoni Hotline? Send it to me at: [email protected]

Learn more about Anchored and apply here: https://www.beatrizalbina.com/anchored

Follow me here: https://www.instagram.com/beatrizvictoriaalbinanp/?hl=en