Kylie Lately

Have you ever lost the spark with your partner (or even just in life?) and wondered if it’s possible to get it back?  Have you felt frustrated or resentful with a partner who doesn't seem to grow with you? or listen to your needs?
In this episode, I’m joined by Cinda, a shadow work coach and Aaruka therapist, for an honest conversation about relationships, attraction and the patterns we carry from childhood into love.
We talk about why your relationship is often your biggest mirror, how fear of abandonment can show up even if you were never physically abandoned, and why so many capable, overfunctioning women end up attracted to partners who need fixing. I also open up about my own relationship history, the belief I carried that my worth was in how I looked, and why a safe, stable partner felt so uncomfortable at first.
Cinda also answers questions sent in by a friend going through a separation, including how to tell genuine attraction from an old wound, and if attraction can return in a long-term relationship.
In this episode, we cover:
How to get the spark back in a long-term relationship
Why your relationship is a mirror of unhealed patterns
Childhood wounds, fear of abandonment and attachment in relationships
Why safe love can feel uncomfortable, and how self-sabotage shows up
Overfunctioning, the mental load and why control often comes from anxiety
How to communicate your needs clearly to your partner
Why understanding a partner’s trauma doesn’t mean excusing their behaviour
Emotional availability, and why we attract what we are
Chemistry versus familiarity when dating after divorce or separation
What to do when you’re growing and your partner seems to be standing still
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This week I’m dipping back into the archives with one of the most relistened episodes of Almost 40: a conversation with my mum. It started as a joke. My podcast manager suggested I ask mum the questions you’d want answered before the end of someone’s life. Mum was 57 at the time of recording! What unfolded surprised me. Mum shares why her proudest achievement isn’t her kids or grandkids, but the sharp left turn she took into a whole new career despite a lifelong fear of exams and a belief that she wasn’t smart enough. We talk about what it was like having two babies by 19, the day I rolled off a hospital bed at twelve weeks old (yes, I’m the fractured skull child), and why “I don’t know how you do it” rarely lands the way people intend.
We also unpack something I can’t stop thinking about: why women call their achievements luck. Mum bought her own home after her divorce and is now mortgage free, and her first instinct was to call herself lucky rather than proud. Becoming a mum myself changed how I see her, and this conversation changed it again.
In this episode:
• The career change my mum made in midlife and the self-doubt she pushed through
• Being a young mum at 19 and how you cope when there’s no other option
• Why “I don’t know how you do it” lands differently when you’re in survival mode
• Luck versus pride: how women talk themselves out of their own achievements
• The one thing mum would do differently, and what it reveals about parenting, guilt and work ethic
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Dr Lara Goode opens up about her recent realisation and diagnosis about of what her psychologist called "severe combined type ADHD" at 35. Lara runs her own allied health clinic, is a Mum of two boys and she’s only now meeting herself for the first time - at 35. 
In this episode, Lara and I unpack what a late ADHD diagnosis actually feels like: the relief, the rage, and the question she now asks herself every day - is this actual Lara, or performing Lara?
We talk about:
Getting diagnosed with ADHD at 35 and grieving the years it was missed
Good girl conditioning, people pleasing and having no boundaries
Masking, mirroring and being a chameleon in relationships
Why anger in women is treated as “unbecoming”, and why our mid-thirties is when the rage shows up
Burnout, high standards and genuinely believing in bandwidth you don’t have
Postnatal anxiety and the undoing that motherhood brings
What Lara would say to her younger self
Whether or not ADHD is part of your story, if you’ve ever felt like you’ve spent your life performing a version of yourself, this one is for you.
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What makes a Miserable Mum? Is it linked to life satisfaction? If you’re feeling overwhelmed, burnt out, carrying the mental load, or struggling to enjoy family life, this episode is for you.
In this episode of Almost Forty, Kylie is joined by Alison from Our Neurodiverse Family for an honest conversation about the recent social media trend surrounding "Things we do because we refuse to be Miserable Mum's". This conversation is all about motherhood, parenting, family systems, resentment, unrealistic expectations and the hidden factors that contribute to mum burnout.
Together they explore why so many women feel exhausted by the pressure of being a “good mum” and why the answer isn’t necessarily becoming a better parent - it’s identifying what actually matters, letting go of what doesn’t, and redesigning the systems that are creating friction in everyday family life.
Topics discussed include:
• The mental load of motherhood
• Family dinners and parenting expectations
• Mum guilt and resentment
• Family systems that reduce overwhelm
• Neurodivergent families and practical supports
• Teaching kids independence and life skills
• Fend For Yourself Dinner (FFYD)
• Letting go of perfectionism
• Finding more joy and life satisfaction as a parent
Whether you’re navigating motherhood, parenting neurodivergent children, feeling overwhelmed by family responsibilities, or simply looking for practical ways to make family life feel easier, this episode is packed with relatable stories, permission slips and actionable ideas.
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In this personal solo episode of Almost Forty, I’m taking a moment to reflect on the first six months of the year and unpack some of the changes. This is an honest conversation about where I was in January compared to where I am now, in Mid June.
This episode is also packed with reflective prompts to help you pause, check in with yourself and consider what progress you’ve made, what you’re still carrying, and what you want the second half of the year to look like.
In this episode:
Reflecting on the first six months of the year
Burnout, over-functioning and hypervigilance
Financial goals and taking responsibility for the things that matter
Relationships, self-trust and letting people in
Work, purpose and creating a life that feels more aligned
Why your camera roll can reveal more than you realise
Journal prompts for a mid-year reset and reflection
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Topics discussed: mid-year reset, personal growth, burnout recovery, self-trust, relationships, journaling, goal setting, reflection, ADHD, mindset, women’s wellbeing, personal development.
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