Into Deep

How do you grieve someone who's still alive?
For Sabrina Treffiletti, it's a question she lives with every day.
In Episode 40 of Into Deep, Geoff sits down with mother of three and parental alienation advocate Sabrina Treffiletti, who shares her experience of losing contact with her two eldest daughters.
After leaving an abusive and controlling marriage, Sabrina rebuilt her life, rediscovered her self-worth and found love again. But in January, her two eldest daughters moved 900 kilometres away. What followed, according to Sabrina, was a devastating breakdown in their relationship, leaving her unsure when she'll see or speak to them again.
She describes it as "a grief with no funeral."
Together, Geoff and Sabrina explore the emotional impact of parental alienation, the lasting effects of domestic abuse, and how Sabrina has found purpose in sharing her story while holding onto hope of being reunited with her daughters.
In this episode:
💔 Grieving children who are still alive
👩‍👧‍👧 Parental alienation and family estrangement
🚩 Recognising emotional abuse and controlling relationships
❤️ Rebuilding self-worth after an abusive relationship
👧 The impact of family conflict on children and siblings
🌱 Turning pain into purpose and finding hope through grief
A raw conversation about motherhood, loss, resilience and a mother's determination to never give up on her children.
Content note: This episode discusses domestic violence, emotional abuse and family estrangement.
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Have you ever achieved something you thought would make you happy — only to get there and realise it still wasn’t enough?
In this episode of Into Deep, Geoff sits down with coach and entrepreneur Lewis Huckstep for a raw conversation about why so many of us spend our lives chasing success, validation and the next achievement — without ever feeling like we’ve arrived.
Growing up, Lewis struggled to fit in. Diagnosed with autism, ADHD and anxiety, he describes feeling rejected, misunderstood and unsafe, including a difficult relationship with his father that would go on to shape much of his life.
By 22, Lewis owned three gyms and was building successful businesses. From the outside he was achieving, but underneath was a drive to prove that he was enough.
Together, Geoff and Lewis explore how childhood experiences shape our adult identity, what our triggers can reveal about us, the difference between achievement and fulfilment, and how to live according to your own values rather than somebody else's expectations.
The conversation then becomes deeply personal when Lewis takes Geoff through a live coaching exercise that uncovers something Geoff hadn't fully recognised in himself — leading to an emotional breakthrough and tears.
In this episode:
🧠 How childhood experiences shape our identity
🪞 What our triggers can teach us about ourselves
🏆 Why achieving more doesn't always make us happier
💭 The hidden need to prove that we're enough
❤️ How childhood wounds show up in adult relationships
👨‍👧 How fatherhood changed Lewis's perspective on life
🔥 Finding purpose through pain
🥹 Geoff's unexpected emotional breakthrough with Lewis
🌱 Living by your own values instead of other people's expectations
Content note: This episode includes discussion of family violence and suicide.
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Why does great sex seem to get harder the longer we’re with someone — and what does it actually take to keep desire alive?
In this episode of Into Deep, Geoff sits down with world-leading sexologist and Authentic Sex host Juliet Allen for an honest conversation about sex, intimacy, desire and how to experience more pleasure in life.
Juliet believes our sex lives rarely exist in isolation. Stress, shame, unresolved emotions, communication, parenthood and the way we feel in our own bodies can all shape our capacity for intimacy and pleasure.
Together, Geoff and Juliet explore why desire can fade in long-term relationships, how to talk to your partner when your sex life isn’t working, and why having better sex often starts well outside the bedroom.
But this conversation goes deeper than sex.
Juliet opens up about her own life, relationships and motherhood, including the premature birth of her youngest daughter and the six weeks that followed in NICU — one of the most challenging experiences of her life.
They also dive into pornography, monogamy and non-monogamy, postpartum desire, raising children with a healthy relationship to sexuality, phone addiction and Juliet’s own struggle to slow down in a world that constantly encourages us to do more.
Ultimately, this is a conversation about sex — but also about connection, intimacy, communication and creating a life in which we allow ourselves to experience more pleasure.
In this episode:
❤️ Why desire changes in long-term relationships
🔥 How to experience more pleasure inside and outside the bedroom
🗣️ How to talk to your partner when your sex life isn’t working
🧠 How stress, shame and unresolved emotions can affect desire
👶 Sex, intimacy and libido after having children
📱 Pornography and its impact on young people
💍 Monogamy, non-monogamy and modern relationships
🌿 Why slowing down could help you experience more pleasure
👩‍👧 Juliet’s journey through motherhood and six weeks in NICU
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What happens when you spend years telling everyone you’re okay — while everything inside you is slowly building towards breaking point?
For much of his life, Find Ya Feet founder Tommy Herschell struggled with low self-worth, disconnection and emotions he didn’t know how to express. Instead of saying “I’m struggling,” he turned to alcohol, anger and looking after everyone around him.
At 35, the pressure finally exploded.
Tommy opens up about the night years of suppressed emotion came pouring out, the mate who finally refused to enable his behaviour, and the following day when he walked into a treatment centre and simply said, “I need help.”
Today, Tommy takes what he learned into schools, sporting clubs and elite sporting environments through Find Ya Feet — creating the kind of honest conversations that can change, and sometimes even save, lives.
Through his work, Tommy has seen what can happen when one person has the courage to go first. When people drop the mask and talk honestly about what they’re carrying, it gives others permission to do the same — and reminds them they’re not as alone as they thought.
Having worked with organisations including the Melbourne Storm and Manly Sea Eagles, Tommy also shares what the best high-performing cultures have in common — and why belonging, vulnerability and genuine human connection can be just as important as talent and standards.
Together, Geoff and Tommy explore self-worth, masculinity, bullying, suicide prevention, parenting and why simply telling people to “speak up” isn’t enough. Sometimes, it’s the conversations we’re most afraid to have that matter the most.
In this episode:
🧠 Bottling up emotions and reaching breaking point
💬 How honest conversations can change — and sometimes save — lives
🎭 Why the people who seem happiest may still be struggling
🤝 The power of being the first person to open up
🏆 What Melbourne Storm, Manly and other high-performing teams get right
🛑 What Tommy has learned from working with bullying in schools
👨‍👩‍👧 Raising emotionally resilient kids through vulnerability
Content note: This episode contains discussions of suicide, suicidal thoughts and mental health struggles.
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When Nick Perry’s daughter was born prematurely at just 30 weeks, fatherhood began in a way he could never have imagined — watching his tiny newborn spend six weeks in neonatal intensive care while he wrestled with fear, helplessness and a desperate instinct to protect her.
In this episode, Rhythm Health founder Nick Perry opens up about the emotional impact of that experience and how becoming a father fundamentally changed his relationship with vulnerability, love and what it meant to be a man.
Nick shares the fear and protective rage he carried during his daughter’s time in NICU, and how men’s work eventually gave him a space to access emotions and grief he hadn’t fully processed — including unresolved grief following the death of his own father.
Together, Geoff and Nick explore fatherhood, modern masculinity, identity and emotional suppression. They unpack the King, Warrior, Magician and Lover archetypes, why strength doesn’t mean shutting down emotion, and what can happen when we continually suppress the parts of ourselves we don’t know how to express.
The conversation also explores Nick’s own identity reckoning. After years of helping others create meaningful change, he entered what he calls an “inner winter” — questioning his career, beliefs and the expectations he had inherited through family, religion and society.
From people pleasing and self-abandonment to becoming a stepfather, navigating a blended family and learning to trust himself, Nick shares what it has taken to stop living according to who he thought he should be and start coming home to himself.
What You’ll Learn:
🏥 Nick’s experience of his daughter being born at just 30 weeks
 ❤️ How six weeks in NICU changed him as a father
 💭 The fear, helplessness and protective rage he struggled to process
 💔 How men’s work helped Nick access suppressed emotion and unresolved grief
 🧠 How fatherhood can challenge our identity and sense of self
 👑 The King, Warrior, Magician and Lover archetypes of masculinity
 ⚡ Why people pleasing can become a form of self-abandonment
 👨‍👩‍👧 The realities of step-parenting and raising a blended family
 ✨ Why “nobody gets you before you get you”
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