The Thais Gibson Podcast

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If you feel like your Dismissive Avoidant partner is slowly disappearing — saying less, reaching out less, and emotionally checking out, you’re not imagining it.

Most Dismissive Avoidants don’t leave with a dramatic breakup.
They detach quietly first.

In this episode, you’ll learn the 3 clearest signs a Dismissive Avoidant is pulling away and preparing to leave, the real fear driving this behavior, and how a securely attached person responds in ways that protect their nervous system, boundaries, and self-worth.

This isn’t about chasing, over-functioning, or blaming yourself.
It’s about clarity, emotional safety, and responding from security, not panic.

🧠 In This Episode, You’ll Learn:
Why Dismissive Avoidants often detach before they leave
How reduced bids for connection signal emotional exit
Why focusing on “flaws” helps avoidants justify distancing
The neuroscience behind avoidant deactivation
What a secure response sees early and acts on calmly
How exit narratives form long before a breakup happens

⏱️ Timestamps

00:00 – 3 Signs A Dismissive Avoidant Is Pulling Away & About to Leave
00:58 – 1. They Stop Making Bids for Connection
03:36 – 2. They Vocalize Flaws in the Relationship
05:07 – The Neuroscience Behind Dismissive Avoidant Detachment
06:05 – Key Pillars for a Secure Relationship Promo
06:25 – 3. They Begin to Build an Exit Narrative

Meet the Host
Thais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School and a world leader in attachment theory. With a Ph.D. and over a dozen certifications, she’s helped more than 70,000 people reprogram their subconscious and build thriving relationships.

Helpful Resources:
🧠 Take the Free Attachment Style Quiz
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📚 Read the Learning Love Book
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📝 Read the PDS Blog
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If you resonate with intense emotional highs and lows in relationships, fear both abandonment and commitment, or feel overwhelmed by closeness yet terrified of distance, you may have a Fearful Avoidant (Disorganized) Attachment Style.

This episode breaks down the signs, clearly, compassionately, and at the subconscious level, so you can finally understand what’s happening inside you and how to heal it.

 

Episode Summary

Fearful avoidant attachment is one of the most emotionally complex attachment styles, often shaped by early experiences of inconsistency, chaos, or unpredictability in relationships. In this episode, Thais Gibson walks through the top 10 signs of fearful avoidant attachment, explaining why these patterns form and how they show up in adult relationships.

You’ll learn why fearful avoidants flip-flop between closeness and distance, struggle with emotional regulation and boundaries, jump to worst-case conclusions, and experience deep guilt, shame, and empathy—all while longing for safety and connection. Most importantly, you’ll discover how somatic healing and nervous-system regulation can help you feel secure, grounded, and emotionally safe again.

 

Key Takeaways

Why fearful avoidants fear abandonment and commitment

How activation–deactivation cycles form in relationships

Why you may push people away even when you want closeness

The link between empathy, boundary struggles, and emotional overwhelm

Why vulnerability can feel unsafe—even when you’re sharing

How guilt, shame, and emotional dysregulation develop

Why somatic healing is essential for lasting attachment repair

 

Timestamps

00:00:00 – Intro
00:01:47 – Sign #1: Flip-Flopping Between Fear of Abandonment and Commitment
00:04:38 – Sign #2: Actively Pushing Away
00:05:19 – Sign #3: Jump to Worst-Case Conclusions
00:07:24 – Sign #4: Terrified of Feeling Helpless
00:08:49 – Sign #5: Tend to Be Highly Empathetic
00:11:12 – Sign #6: Struggle with Boundaries
00:12:21 – Sign #7: Difficulty Regulating Emotion
00:13:35 – 7-Day Free Trial + Somatic Course
00:15:01 – Sign #8: May Seem Vulnerable without Actually Sharing
00:17:10 – Sign #9: Frequently Experience Guilt and Shame
00:17:50 – Sign #10: Strong Activation-Deactivation

 

Meet the Host
Thais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School and a world leader in attachment theory. With a Ph.D. and over a dozen certifications, she’s helped more than 70,000 people reprogram their subconscious and build thriving relationships.

 

Helpful Resources:
🧠 Take the Free Attachment Style Quiz
https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=attachment-quiz&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast

📚 Read the Learning Love Book
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🎧 Discover Podcast Episodes
https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/podcast?page=1

📝 Read the PDS Blog
https://blog.personaldevelopmentschool.com/

 

Let’s Connect on Socials:
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💼 LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/

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If Your Daughter Has Stopped Talking to You…

It’s easy to believe that silence means rejection, but in most cases, it means hurt, confusion, and protective walls, not a lack of love.

Drawing from her personal story and over a decade of clinical experience, Thais explains why children disconnect, what not to do when trying to reconnect, and how small, consistent actions can begin rebuilding emotional safety.

What You’ll Learn in This Video:
Why silence doesn’t mean your relationship is doomed
How learned helplessness keeps reconnection stuck
The hidden danger of over explaining your side
How to reconnect through your child’s emotional needs
Why processing your own hurt is essential
How accountability rebuilds trust over time

TIMESTAMPS
00:00 – If Your Daughter Has Stopped Talking to You
01:01 – Your Relationship Isn’t Doomed Forever
01:42 – Thais’ Story
10:06 – 1. You Have to Get Out of Learned Helplessness
13:10 – 2. Explaining Your Point of View Can Take the Focus Away From Your Child
16:51 – Somatic Course Promo
17:11 – 3. Learn to Connect to Your Child’s Needs
19:26 – 4. Process Your Own Hurt Around the Situation
24:39 – 5. Honor and Be Accountable for Your Past Mistakes

Meet the Host
Thais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School and a world leader in attachment theory. With a Ph.D. and over a dozen certifications, she’s helped more than 70,000 people reprogram their subconscious and build thriving relationships.

Helpful Resources:
🧠 Take the Free Attachment Style Quiz
https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=attachment-quiz&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast

📚 Read the Learning Love Book
https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/learning-love?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=learning-love&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast

🎧 Discover Podcast Episodes
https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/podcast?page=1

📝 Read the PDS Blog
https://blog.personaldevelopmentschool.com/

Let’s Connect on Socials:
📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/
📘 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool
🎵 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thaisgibson
💼 LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/

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If you’re caught in cycles of emotional pain, overthinking, or fear of getting close again, this episode will help you understand what’s really happening beneath the surface, and how to start healing at the root.

 

Episode Summary

Breakups don’t just hurt emotionally; they can activate deep attachment wounds that keep us stuck in fear, rumination, and self-doubt. In this episode, we explore why commitment can feel so threatening after heartbreak, how the subconscious mind enters “flaw-finding mode,” and why the boomerang effect can pull us back into unhealthy dynamics.

You’ll learn how to separate genuine feelings from fear-based reactions, why holding no contact is so powerful for healing, and how to begin rewriting old emotional stories so you can create secure, healthy relationships moving forward.

 

Key Takeaways

Why fear of commitment often intensifies after a breakup

How to distinguish real feelings from subconscious fear responses

What “flaw-finding mode” is and how it sabotages the connection

The boomerang effect and why it keeps pulling you back

Why holding no contact supports nervous system regulation

How routines help rewire old attachment patterns

Practical steps to heal emotionally and move forward with clarity

 

Timestamps

00:00:00 – Intro
00:01:31 – A Fear of Commitment
00:02:40 – Feelings Minus Fears
00:04:31 – Flaw Finding Mode
00:05:56 – Boomerang Effect
00:08:50 – IAT Promo
00:09:43 – Hold No Contact
00:10:44 – Rewrite Our Old Stories
00:11:46 – Find a Routine
00:12:30 – Conclusion / How to Heal From a Breakup

 

Meet the Host
Thais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School and a world leader in attachment theory. With a Ph.D. and over a dozen certifications, she’s helped more than 70,000 people reprogram their subconscious and build thriving relationships.

 

Helpful Resources:

🧠 Take the Free Attachment Style Quiz
https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=attachment-quiz&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast

📚 Read the Learning Love Book
https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/learning-love?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=learning-love&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast

🎧 Discover Podcast Episodes
https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/podcast?page=1

📝 Read the PDS Blog
https://blog.personaldevelopmentschool.com/

 

Let’s Connect on Socials:
📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/
📘 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool
🎵 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thaisgibson
💼 LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/

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If you’re dealing with someone who acts emotionally involved but pulls away when commitment comes up, or if you resonate with the dismissive avoidant attachment style, this episode will bring clarity, relief, and a clear path forward.

 

Episode Summary

Dismissive Avoidants often desire connection, but without the vulnerability and commitment that deeper relationships require. In this episode, Thais Gibson breaks down the core subconscious reasons behind this pattern, including unmet emotional modeling in childhood, fear of vulnerability, difficulty resolving conflict, and feeling misunderstood or criticized in relationships.

You’ll learn how these attachment wounds form, why they lead to commitment resistance, and how healing your attachment style can help you build emotionally secure, fulfilling relationships, without losing your sense of independence.

 

Key Takeaways

What defines the dismissive avoidant attachment style

How unmodeled emotional connection impacts adult relationships

Why vulnerability can feel unsafe or threatening

How unresolved conflict fuels fear of commitment

Why dismissive avoidants often feel misunderstood or criticized

How attachment-style healing creates safety, clarity, and deeper intimacy

 

Timestamps

00:00:00 – Intro
00:00:27 – The Dismissive Avoidant Attachment Style
00:01:05 – Reason #1: Unmodeled Pillars Of Emotional Connection
00:04:26 – Reason #2: Struggle With Vulnerability
00:06:41 – 7-Day Free Trial: Dismissive Avoidant In The 6 Stages Of A Relationship
00:07:02 – Reason #3: Unable To Resolve Conflict
00:10:15 – Reason #4: Feeling Misunderstood And Criticized
00:12:32 – Summary

 

Meet the Host
Thais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School and a world leader in attachment theory. With a Ph.D. and over a dozen certifications, she’s helped more than 70,000 people reprogram their subconscious and build thriving relationships.

 

Helpful Resources:

🧠 Take the Free Attachment Style Quiz
https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=attachment-quiz&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast

📚 Read the Learning Love Book
https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/learning-love?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=learning-love&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast

🎧 Discover Podcast Episodes
https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/podcast?page=1

📝 Read the PDS Blog
https://blog.personaldevelopmentschool.com/

Let’s Connect on Socials:
📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/
📘 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool
🎵 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thaisgibson
💼 LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/