108. The Wild Robot wisdom we didn’t expect but need to hear!
I know this movie is from last year but I will watch it over and over again. It's so good! If you haven’t seen it, The Wild Robot will validate all of your parenting feelings! :) In this week’s episode I break down a scene where the main robot shares how she’s reprogrammed herself in order to show up for the child she needs to care for. It’s an incredible validation that we are globally stepping into a new knowledge of how this relationship thrives. We are no longer doing things because "that's the way they’ve always been done.” We are now consciously aware that this relationship takes work…but the work starts internally for us as the parent. Make sure you join my free workshop coming up on 8/26: Rewire Your Reactions!If you can’t join live, sign up for the replay and learn how to do this exact process yourself! Sign up here! https://responseableparenting.kit.com/rewire GET REGULATED! Inside the 30 Day Challenge FAST WAY TO REGULATE you will uncover the exact point (and reason why) you lose your cool, so that you can put a regulation tool in front of it and maintain your calm even in the toughest moments. You’ll learn practical strategies and systems so communication flows, the temperature of the house lowers as a whole, and everyone is more regulated! We kick off LIVE as a group July 1-30th. Don’t miss out! https://www.responseableparenting.com/regulate JOIN S.T.U.C.K. to S.T.R.O.N.G. For years our ADHD kids need us to be their “external world” until their internal skills are solid. But we can’t do that when OUR internal world is stuck, shaky, and under-skilled. I help you create internal safety and strength so the external chaos doesn’t phase you. The support you NEED. The skills your child REQUIRES! https://www.responseableparenting.com/strong Get EVERYTHING when you join THE COMMUNITY! Inside The ResponseAble Parenting Community you have access to EVERYTHING! Plus you have a weekly opportunity to talk to me 1:1 and get personalized support! Join now to have access to every course, including my signature courses S.T.U.C.K. TO S.T.R.O.N.G. and FAST WAY TO REGULATE but also every workshop, guest appearance and more. Don’t forget to use code PODCAST for $10 off your first month! https://responseableparenting.kit.com/community BE A GUEST ON THE PODCAST! If you would like to be a guest on the podcast and troubleshoot what's going on for you in real time, please fill out the podcast submission form. I look forward to connecting with you! Submit here: https://bit.ly/4c57Tx5 FREE GUIDES!Get the cheat codes to “stack” regulation practices throughout your day! No time to meditate? No problem. Grab this simple system and add ZERO time to your day! https://responseableparenting.kit.com/zero Discover how PLAY can rapidly transform unwanted behavior and restore peace in your home in this free training! https://responseableparenting.kit.com/playvideo Make sure you grab my Free Guide to Managing Meltdowns: 4 steps to get you through your kid’s meltdown without snapping! https://responseableparenting.ck.page/meltdown You absolutely need my Free Guide To Stop Yelling: This guide will walk you through the process of staying regulated and give you tools to use during high stress moments. https://responseableparenting.ck.page/yelling Does it feel impossible to access playful, connected strategies when you’re not getting the cooperation you need in the moment? Grab this free guide where I share 70 play based starter phrases! https://responseableparenting.kit.com/play
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107. Shift Happens when we look for the "try"
It is so easy to correct our kids over and over. Especially when it’s the same repetitive behavior that is beyond annoying. However this is RESULTS focused correction. And when we don’t get the results we want, we get angry, we get annoyed, and OUR default pattern of reaction comes pouring out. *And lets be honest, probably with greater intensity than it deserves because of our emotional trigger. In this week’s shift happens episode I talk about shifting away from the results and looking more towards the TRY. When we notice our kids trying we can see that they are in fact shifting in the direction of the results we’re after. But we’re giving it time and we’re not loading on the shame. This is a quick mental reframe and I hope it serves you as much as it served me! GET REGULATED! Inside the 30 Day Challenge FAST WAY TO REGULATE you will uncover the exact point (and reason why) you lose your cool, so that you can put a regulation tool in front of it and maintain your calm even in the toughest moments. You’ll learn practical strategies and systems so communication flows, the temperature of the house lowers as a whole, and everyone is more regulated! We kick off LIVE as a group July 1-30th. Don’t miss out! https://www.responseableparenting.com/regulate JOIN S.T.U.C.K. to S.T.R.O.N.G. For years our ADHD kids need us to be their “external world” until their internal skills are solid. But we can’t do that when OUR internal world is stuck, shaky, and under-skilled. I help you create internal safety and strength so the external chaos doesn’t phase you. The support you NEED. The skills your child REQUIRES! https://www.responseableparenting.com/strong Get EVERYTHING when you join THE COMMUNITY! Inside The ResponseAble Parenting Community you have access to EVERYTHING! Plus you have a weekly opportunity to talk to me 1:1 and get personalized support! Join now to have access to every course, including my signature courses S.T.U.C.K. TO S.T.R.O.N.G. and FAST WAY TO REGULATE but also every workshop, guest appearance and more. Don’t forget to use code PODCAST for $10 off your first month! https://responseableparenting.kit.com/community BE A GUEST ON THE PODCAST! If you would like to be a guest on the podcast and troubleshoot what's going on for you in real time, please fill out the podcast submission form. I look forward to connecting with you! Submit here: https://bit.ly/4c57Tx5 FREE GUIDES! Get the cheat codes to “stack” regulation practices throughout your day! No time to meditate? No problem. Grab this simple system and add ZERO time to your day! https://responseableparenting.kit.com/zero Discover how PLAY can rapidly transform unwanted behavior and restore peace in your home in this free training! https://responseableparenting.kit.com/playvideo Make sure you grab my Free Guide to Managing Meltdowns: 4 steps to get you through your kid’s meltdown without snapping! https://responseableparenting.ck.page/meltdown You absolutely need my Free Guide To Stop Yelling: This guide will walk you through the process of staying regulated and give you tools to use during high stress moments. https://responseableparenting.ck.page/yelling Does it feel impossible to access playful, connected strategies when you’re not getting the cooperation you need in the moment? Grab this free guide where I share 70 play based starter phrases! https://responseableparenting.kit.com/play
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106. Defend Young Minds - A very important conversation about pornography
This was an incredible conversation with Kristen Jenson - author of the best selling book GOOD PICTURES BAD PICTURES. Please check out more info on Kristen and her books below. I learned so much about our children’s accessibility and vulnerability to images that can have a huge impact on their brain development. I also had no idea it could start so young. Even if your children are in Kindergarten or below, please take a listen to prepare for the reality that faces our kids at a very young age - especially when they have access to ipads or phones. Kristen Jenson Website/Books: www.defendyoungminds.com/books Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/DefendYM/ Instagram: @defendyoungminds X: @defendYM LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/company/defend-young-minds GET REGULATED! Inside the 30 Day Challenge FAST WAY TO REGULATE you will uncover the exact point (and reason why) you lose your cool, so that you can put a regulation tool in front of it and maintain your calm even in the toughest moments. You’ll learn practical strategies and systems so communication flows, the temperature of the house lowers as a whole, and everyone is more regulated! We kick off LIVE as a group July 1-30th. Don’t miss out! https://www.responseableparenting.com/regulate JOIN S.T.U.C.K. to S.T.R.O.N.G. For years our ADHD kids need us to be their “external world” until their internal skills are solid. But we can’t do that when OUR internal world is stuck, shaky, and under-skilled. I help you create internal safety and strength so the external chaos doesn’t phase you. The support you NEED. The skills your child REQUIRES! https://www.responseableparenting.com/strong Get EVERYTHING when you join THE COMMUNITY! Inside The ResponseAble Parenting Community you have access to EVERYTHING! Plus you have a weekly opportunity to talk to me 1:1 and get personalized support! Join now to have access to every course, including my signature courses S.T.U.C.K. TO S.T.R.O.N.G. and FAST WAY TO REGULATE but also every workshop, guest appearance and more. Don’t forget to use code PODCAST for $10 off your first month! https://responseableparenting.kit.com/community BE A GUEST ON THE PODCAST! If you would like to be a guest on the podcast and troubleshoot what's going on for you in real time, please fill out the podcast submission form. I look forward to connecting with you! Submit here: https://bit.ly/4c57Tx5 FREE GUIDES! Get the cheat codes to “stack” regulation practices throughout your day! No time to meditate? No problem. Grab this simple system and add ZERO time to your day! https://responseableparenting.kit.com/zero Discover how PLAY can rapidly transform unwanted behavior and restore peace in your home in this free training! https://responseableparenting.kit.com/playvideo Make sure you grab my Free Guide to Managing Meltdowns: 4 steps to get you through your kid’s meltdown without snapping! https://responseableparenting.ck.page/meltdown You absolutely need my Free Guide To Stop Yelling: This guide will walk you through the process of staying regulated and give you tools to use during high stress moments. https://responseableparenting.ck.page/yelling Does it feel impossible to access playful, connected strategies when you’re not getting the cooperation you need in the moment? Grab this free guide where I share 70 play based starter phrases! https://responseableparenting.kit.com/play
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105. Why is it easier to be compassionate to others?
Have you noticed it’s so much easier to be there for someone else than it is to show up for yourself? There’s a reason for that! In this week’s episode I give you a challenge. I want you to explore your own patterns and programming and see if you can track it to the unmet need that’s screaming out to you! When you find it shoot me a DM on Instagram @responseableparenting and tell me what you uncovered!! GET REGULATED! Inside the 30 Day Challenge FAST WAY TO REGULATE you will uncover the exact point (and reason why) you lose your cool, so that you can put a regulation tool in front of it and maintain your calm even in the toughest moments. You’ll learn practical strategies and systems so communication flows, the temperature of the house lowers as a whole, and everyone is more regulated! We kick off LIVE as a group July 1-30th. Don’t miss out! https://www.responseableparenting.com/regulate JOIN S.T.U.C.K. to S.T.R.O.N.G. For years our ADHD kids need us to be their “external world” until their internal skills are solid. But we can’t do that when OUR internal world is stuck, shaky, and under-skilled. I help you create internal safety and strength so the external chaos doesn’t phase you. The support you NEED. The skills your child REQUIRES! https://www.responseableparenting.com/strong Get EVERYTHING when you join THE COMMUNITY! Inside The ResponseAble Parenting Community you have access to EVERYTHING! Plus you have a weekly opportunity to talk to me 1:1 and get personalized support! Join now to have access to every course, including my signature courses S.T.U.C.K. TO S.T.R.O.N.G. and FAST WAY TO REGULATE but also every workshop, guest appearance and more. Don’t forget to use code PODCAST for $10 off your first month! https://responseableparenting.kit.com/community BE A GUEST ON THE PODCAST! If you would like to be a guest on the podcast and troubleshoot what's going on for you in real time, please fill out the podcast submission form. I look forward to connecting with you! Submit here: https://bit.ly/4c57Tx5 FREE GUIDES! Get the cheat codes to “stack” regulation practices throughout your day! No time to meditate? No problem. Grab this simple system and add ZERO time to your day! https://responseableparenting.kit.com/zero Discover how PLAY can rapidly transform unwanted behavior and restore peace in your home in this free training! https://responseableparenting.kit.com/playvideo Make sure you grab my Free Guide to Managing Meltdowns: 4 steps to get you through your kid’s meltdown without snapping! https://responseableparenting.ck.page/meltdown You absolutely need my Free Guide To Stop Yelling: This guide will walk you through the process of staying regulated and give you tools to use during high stress moments. https://responseableparenting.ck.page/yelling Does it feel impossible to access playful, connected strategies when you’re not getting the cooperation you need in the moment? Grab this free guide where I share 70 play based starter phrases! https://responseableparenting.kit.com/play
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104. Threats on a road trip
On a 5 hour road trip my boys started fighting over the most benign thing…a book. I share the annoying details, the default patterns we fell into when we hit our breaking point, and ultimately what I did to recover the moment. It highlighted for me just how important it is to have regulation practices built into the day. How they cannot be back burner, “if I can get to it today” actions. These moments in parenting show us our tolerance level. And we are only as effective as we are regulated. Knowing that everything is tied to the nervous system it’s crucial we adopt nervous system regulation practices as parents. It’s the way through the tough moments. If you haven’t already joined, head over to Fast Way To Regulate (just below) and dive in. You’ll get a masterclass in regulation practices and be able to read your patterns faster and faster as you begin to embody regulation practices into your life. GET REGULATED! Inside the 30 Day Challenge FAST WAY TO REGULATE you will uncover the exact point (and reason why) you lose your cool, so that you can put a regulation tool in front of it and maintain your calm even in the toughest moments. You’ll learn practical strategies and systems so communication flows, the temperature of the house lowers as a whole, and everyone is more regulated! We kick off LIVE as a group July 1-30th. Don’t miss out! https://www.responseableparenting.com/regulate JOIN S.T.U.C.K. to S.T.R.O.N.G. For years our ADHD kids need us to be their “external world” until their internal skills are solid. But we can’t do that when OUR internal world is stuck, shaky, and under-skilled. I help you create internal safety and strength so the external chaos doesn’t phase you. The support you NEED. The skills your child REQUIRES! https://www.responseableparenting.com/strong Get EVERYTHING when you join THE COMMUNITY! Inside The ResponseAble Parenting Community you have access to EVERYTHING! Plus you have a weekly opportunity to talk to me 1:1 and get personalized support! Join now to have access to every course, including my signature courses S.T.U.C.K. TO S.T.R.O.N.G. and FAST WAY TO REGULATE but also every workshop, guest appearance and more. Don’t forget to use code PODCAST for $10 off your first month! https://responseableparenting.kit.com/community BE A GUEST ON THE PODCAST! If you would like to be a guest on the podcast and troubleshoot what's going on for you in real time, please fill out the podcast submission form. I look forward to connecting with you! Submit here: https://bit.ly/4c57Tx5 FREE GUIDES! Get the cheat codes to “stack” regulation practices throughout your day! No time to meditate? No problem. Grab this simple system and add ZERO time to your day! https://responseableparenting.kit.com/zero Discover how PLAY can rapidly transform unwanted behavior and restore peace in your home in this free training! https://responseableparenting.kit.com/playvideo Make sure you grab my Free Guide to Managing Meltdowns: 4 steps to get you through your kid’s meltdown without snapping! https://responseableparenting.ck.page/meltdowYou absolutely need my Free Guide To Stop Yelling: This guide will walk you through the process of staying regulated and give you tools to use during high stress moments. https://responseableparenting.ck.page/yelling Does it feel impossible to access playful, connected strategies when you’re not getting the cooperation you need in the moment? Grab this free guide where I share 70 play based starter phrases! https://responseableparenting.kit.com/play
We come to parenting with all the patterns we learned in our own childhood. Together in this podcast, we uncover the roots of our reactivity and grow in education, capacity, awareness, and skills so we will be able to respond vs. react to our strong-willed children. The beauty of this process is as you become a ResponseAble Parent, the “misbehavior” of your children will lessen, the yelling will fall away and a new level of companionship and cooperation will take its place. Welcome to the journey of ResponseAble Parenting. Take a deep breath in, slow exhale out, and let’s get to work.
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