Self-Conscious with Chrissy Teigen

Dr. Shefali—world-renowned clinical psychologist and creator of Conscious Parenting—joins Chrissy to explain why so many parents feel overwhelmed: we’re raising kids with the old tools we inherited, even when those tools don’t work anymore. Together, they unpack the “hidden traps” that pull us into control, shame, and reactivity—and how to shift toward connection, emotional safety, and real repair after we mess up. This conversation is ultimately about raising yourself first—so you can truly see your child, break generational patterns, and build a home where everyone feels grounded.

Key Takeaways
Conscious parenting starts with the parent. The real work isn’t “fixing” your child—it’s noticing what your child triggers in you and healing that.
Kids don’t need more stuff—they need attunement. Consistent, present, emotionally safe caregiving matters more than money, perfection, or performance.
Your child is not your “movie.” A huge trap is projecting your script onto who your child should be, instead of supporting who they already are.
Discipline isn’t domination. Real boundaries are calm, clear, and tied to real-life consequences—not punishment meant to restore a parent’s power.
Five core practices: release control, look within, slow down and witness, collaborate instead of rule, and prioritize your own healing.

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Daniel Coyle joins Chrissy to unpack why so many of us feel productive but disconnected—and what it actually means to flourish. Drawing from his bestselling book Flourish, Daniel explains how joyful, meaningful growth comes not from big life changes, but from small moments of presence, shared rituals, and real connection. Together, they explore simple ways to shift attention, build community, and feel more alive in the life you’re already living.

Key Takeaways
Flourishing isn’t happiness or success — it’s joyful, meaningful growth shared with others, built through everyday interactions.
Modern life traps us in “narrow attention” (productivity, control, certainty), which can leave us efficient but emotionally undernourished.
Wide, relational attention fuels connection — pausing, listening, noticing, and letting go of control restores meaning.
Community grows through shared imperfection — messiness, experimentation, and even annoyance are signs you’re doing it right.
Look for “yellow doors” — unexpected opportunities just outside your comfort zone that can quietly reshape your life.
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Dr. Jessica Zucker—bestselling author of I Had a Miscarriage and Normalize It—joins Chrissy for a raw and honest conversation about the things women are rarely encouraged to say out loud. They talk openly about miscarriage, terminating a pregnancy for medical reasons, postpartum anxiety, body image, and the pressure to seem “fine” while quietly falling apart. Jessica shares her simple UPEND framework to help listeners name what happened, tell their story without shame, and move toward real self-compassion.

Listener Advised: This episode includes conversations about pregnancy loss, postpartum grief, anxiety, depression, and terminating a pregnancy for medical reasons.

Key takeaways
Why silence → stigma → shame is a cycle that quietly harms women’s mental health—and how naming the truth disrupts it.
What “Normalize It” really means: making space for the full spectrum of women’s experiences (periods, fertility struggles, miscarriage, TFMR, postpartum, menopause) without secrecy or self-blame.
The emotional reality of pregnancy loss: why time speeds up in hospitals, and why people often later regret not taking more time, asking more questions, or having more softness.
What not to say to someone grieving (no “at least,” no “God has a plan,” no platitudes)—and what actually helps: presence, consistency, and “I don’t know what to say, but I’m here.”
How grief can show up as postpartum anxiety/depression, sometimes months later—and why “looking put-together” can still hide real suffering.

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Carl Radke—known for years as the “fun one” on Bravo’s Summer House—opens up to Chrissy about what happens when the party persona that kept everything light starts quietly destroying your life. In a raw, funny, and brutally honest conversation, Carl traces the pressure to perform, the role alcohol and cocaine played behind the scenes, and the moment he realized he had to save his own life—even if it meant disappointing everyone. He shares what recovery actually looks like in real life, why it isn’t linear, and how his memoir Cake Eater helped him reclaim “childhood Carl” and build a life that doesn’t require numbing to get through it.

Key Takeaways

Why “being the fun one” can become a survival strategy—and how it turns into a trap when your identity depends on keeping the party going.
How sobriety forces an identity rebuild: who you are when alcohol, nightlife, and performance are no longer your personality.
What rock bottom can look like when you’re high-functioning and hiding it well, including the ways addiction shows up off-camera.
Why recovery isn’t a straight line—and what helped Carl find real support (therapy, AA, sponsors, community, and accountability).
How grief, family addiction, and trauma shaped his emotional life, including the impact of losing his brother and the “that’ll never be me” illusion.

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Gretchen Rubin shares insights from her new Audible Original, Get It Done: Complete Your Dream Project, reframing procrastination not as laziness but as a mismatch between strategies and personality. She offers listeners a framework for understanding their tendencies and unlocking the right tools to finally move forward on stalled projects.

Key Takeaways
Procrastination isn’t laziness — often, we’re simply using the wrong approach for our natural tendencies.
Personality matters — knowing your type helps you choose the strategies that will actually stick and motivate you.
Small wins build momentum — breaking projects into manageable steps makes daunting tasks feel achievable.
Self-awareness is a productivity tool — understanding your triggers and habits can help you avoid the guilt cycle of avoidance and self-blame.
The right system brings relief — when your tools match your personality, stalled projects become energizing rather than overwhelming.
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