What Really Matters: Everyday Spirituality

In order to grow spiritually forgiveness is one of the most important tasks we need to accomplish. And forgiving ourselves is a necessary step before we can fully forgive others. In a companion Soulcode Post I've written about why self-forgiveness is so hard to do. In this episode I share some practical steps to actually move through letting go of self-blame and guilt. This episode includes:
Why self-compassion is needed before we start this work
Taking an honest look at our past actions that may have done harm
How to separate guilt from shame
The need to repair what can be repaired
Allowing our past mistakes to become our teachers
Creating a ritual for self-forgiveness

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This special Father's Day episode is a companion to my latest post on Soulcode: We Need Another Word for Grief. I'm sharing some thoughts about how grief grows and changes over time by telling the story of my niece who died too soon of cancer, and a synchronicity involving roses after she died. This episode includes:
How Father's Day is a complicated day for many of us and has arrived with the solstice this year
How the anniversary of Tracey's death has converged on this day as well
Encountering roses during times of grief
My ritual with flowers for Tracey
How life goes on and we carry our grief, eventually recognizing that everything is connected.

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This episode is a companion to two previous EOLU Podcast episodes and a Substack post on Medical Aid in Dying. Here I share the story of a colleague with ALS who wanted to use MAID and my thoughts about grief after a chosen death. This episode includes:
Obstacles faced by many who want to use MAID
Ambiguous grief after death by MAID
Grief when the ending feels unfinished
Remembering not to postpone saying goodbye
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This episode is a companion to the previous 3 episodes on Levels of Consciousness (173), Kindness (174) and Presence (175.) I share how what we pay attention to in our environment shapes our experience of reality and why we need tools to help us expand our awareness. This episode includes:
How the brain is wired to focus on negative events in order to protect us from danger
How to shift our attention to more positive occurrences around us
Why this is not the same as Toxic Positivity
How presence helps us stabilize our nervous system so we can notice more possibilities
How flexible attention allows to see more kindness in the world
How kindness reinforces our regulated nervous system
Micro-practices for training our attention to hold both the negative and positive events of life
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In this episode I talk about the foundational skill of Presence: being able to focus on the present moment and also remaining calm in the midst of difficulties. This episode includes:
Why calm presence is contagious
How having greater presence helps you practice kindness
How humans are hard-wired to co-regulate their nervous systems
Practices for developing greater Presence
How to return to calmness after being triggered emotionally
Book recommendation: Present Through the End by Kirsten DeLeo
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