Dr. Becky on Becoming the Person (and Parent) You Needed
Dr. Becky Kennedy joins Forrest for a conversation about building better relationships, with ourselves, our partners, and our children. They talk about Dr. Becky’s framework of “good inside,” and how we can apply it to ourselves. Dr. Becky explains how many of the struggles parents face trace back to their own childhood experiences, and suggests how we can reparent ourselves by learning emotional regulation, working with shame, and becoming sturdier. They also cover the limits of behavioral control models, deeply feeling kids, maintaining boundaries when things get hard, and building connection capital.
About our Guest: Dr. Becky is a clinical psychologist, founder of Good Inside, and author of the book by the same name. She has over 4 million social media followers, and is one of the most influential people in the world of parenting today.
Key Topics:
0:00: Intro
1:51: Self-development and individual agency in parenting
7:37: Dr. Becky’s process for addressing problematic behaviors
12:48: Parenting as an opportunity for personal growth
16:26: Becoming “sturdy”
19:13: Two jobs of a parent: boundaries and empathy
28:29: Reparenting ourselves
38:40: Shame and deeply feeling kids
44:39: Building connection capital
50:06: Resilience over happiness
57:28: Does parenting content increase parental anxiety?
1:02:30: How to grow as a parent without shame or self-blame
1:07:06: Repair in relationships
1:13:27: Gentle parenting vs sturdy parenting
1:18:33: Recap
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Dealing with Guilt Trips, Boundaries, and Non-Monogamy: November Mailbag
Dr. Rick and Forrest open up the mailbag to answer listener questions about effective communication, healthy relationships, and contentment. They explore how defining boundaries, taking maximum reasonable responsibility, and extending an olive branch can help manage ongoing conflict without sacrificing your own needs. They then discuss the power dynamics, ethics, and practicalities of non-monogamy, emphasizing the importance of fairly balancing the rights and needs of everyone involved. Finally, they explore how to cultivate the habit of contentment, even amidst imperfect circumstances.
Key Topics:
0:00: Introduction
3:36: Question 1: “We had an argument and now they’re being mean to me!”
14:18: Question 2: “I set a boundary, and they’re being really passive aggressive”
27:32: Question 3: “My partner wants a non-monogamous relationship. What now?”
48:14: Question 4: “I can’t find contentment anywhere, help!”
1:03:51: Recap
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How to Be Yourself: Authenticity in Relationships with Elizabeth Ferreira
In this very fun episode, Forrest and Elizabeth discuss how to get on the same team in a relationship. They explore how conditions of worth, masking, and developmental trauma can get in the way of showing up authentically, and how falling into common relationship roles can reinforce this. Elizabeth talks about how healthy anger can actually be a productive force in a relationship, and how relationships change when both members start prioritizing the other’s wants and needs. Other topics include “dating yourself,” embracing the slightly weirder version of who you are, and celebrating self-exploration.
Key Topics:
1:48: Getting on the same team
3:34: “Conditions of worth,” and authenticity
16:13: Vulnerability in relationships
25:38: Wielding anger effectively
38:05: Fairness, and honoring your partner’s needs
42:49: Dating yourself
47:35: Celebrating self exploration
53:57: Changing our relationship with our parts
01:04:30: Recap
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Fighting the Loneliness Epidemic and the Power of Intergenerational Friendships: Feed Drop
Today we’re featuring an episode from another show I think you’re really going to connect with: Turning Points: Navigating Mental Health.
Can a meaningful friendship bridge a 51-year age gap and help combat social isolation? Meet Peter and Pooja; two unlikely companions whose intergenerational bond proves that friendships can flourish when we break down barriers and embrace human connection.
In this episode of Turning Points, explore how Peter and Pooja’s weekly conversations through Boston's FriendshipWorks program evolved from a simple volunteer match into a life-changing friendship filled with book launches, grocery runs, and life advice that flows both ways.
We also speak with Kyle Robidoux, Executive Director of FriendshipWorks. He shares insights on addressing social isolation and loneliness and how community-based friendship programs are strengthening social connections.
Peter and Pooja's transformative friendship shows that when we approach relationships without preconceived notions, we can unlock the healing power of human connection. Their story offers hope and practical wisdom for anyone struggling with loneliness or seeking to build deeper, more meaningful relationships.
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Trauma Masterclass: Understanding and Repairing Our Hidden Wounds
Today we’re revisiting some of our favorite episodes to explore one of the most salient topics in psychology today: trauma. We begin by tracing its developmental roots with Dr. Lindsay Gibson and Dr. Bessel van Der Kolk, before looking at how it can be passed down through family systems with Dr. Mariel Buqué, associate somatic therapist Elizabeth Ferreira, and author Stephanie Foo. Dr. Jacob Ham and Dr. Peter Levine then share new perspectives on healing, emphasizing the importance of getting out of the head and into the body. Finally, Dr. Gabor Maté discusses the cultural context of trauma, arguing that it's a symptom of a toxic culture.
Key Topics:
02:15: Dr. Lindsay Gibson on The Last Impact of Inconsistent Parenting and Lack of Attunement
23:16: Dr. Bessel van Der Kolk on Internalizing Abuse
39:34: Dr. Mariel Buqué on Intergenerational Trauma
58:54: Elizabeth Ferreira on Intergenerational Trauma, Complex PTSD, and Somatic Techniques
1:23:23: Stephanie Foo on Healing from Complex PTSD through Relationships
1:47:15: Dr. Jacob Ham on the Limits of Conceptualizing when treating Complex Trauma
2:06:52: Dr. Peter Levine on Somatic Experiencing and Moving Trauma Through Your Body
2:20:55: Dr. Gabor Maté and our Toxic Culture
2:43:55: Recap
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