Being Well with Forrest Hanson and Dr. Rick Hanson
Rick Hanson, Ph.D., Forrest Hanson
Forrest Hanson is joined by clinical psychologist Dr. Rick Hanson and a world-class group of experts to explore the practical science of lasting well-being. Con...
What to Do When Your Worst Fears Come True: Mailbag
Dr. Rick and Forrest open up the mailbag and answer questions from listeners, many of which focused on anxiety experiences. They start by discussing “dreaded experiences,” and how we can respond when our worst fears come true. Rick then shares how we can respond effectively to feedback, before answering a short question about taking in the good. Forrest and Rick then answer three questions related to different kinds of anxiety: social anxiety, managing different levels of concern in a relationship, and anxiety brought on by slowing down.
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Key Topics:
0:00: Introduction
1:00: How do you handle situations where you really fear something, and then it actually happens?
10:45: How can I become more receptive to feedback, and respond with less defensiveness?
19:00: How long do I need to “take in the good” for?
22:55: How can I work with my anxious parts when navigating social anxiety?
29:20: How can I support a partner who experiences a lot of anxiety?
40:40: Why am I struggling so hard with mindfulness meditation?
48:00: Recap
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1:01:16
Learning to Trust Yourself: How to Stop Self-Abandonment
In this special episode, Dr. Rick and Forrest explore how we can become more self-reliant, and learn to trust ourselves. This helps us be resilient in the face of life’s challenges, and it’s a key resource for people who tend to abandon their wants and needs. They start by discussing why some people struggle with self-trust, the difference between inside-out and outside-in safety, and changing the model we have of ourselves. Forrest introduces a framework for developing self-trust based on self-efficacy, flexibility, self-advocacy, and accurate appraisal, and Rick applies this to how we can build self-worth and feel strong and capable.
You can watch this episode on YouTube.
Key Topics:
0:00: Introduction
1:10: Why some people have an easier time trusting themselves than others
4:30: An outside-in vs, inside-out sense of safety, and feeling reliable
9:50: Welcoming positive feedback, and psychological flexibility
14:10: Sticking up for yourself
19:55: Stabilizing yourself when feeling helpless
25:00: Evaluating internal stories, and living moment to moment
30:15: Feeling like someone who matters, and feeling seen by others
35:00: Three aspects of self-regulation, and self-appraisal
41:35: Object relations, and focusing attention on your inner world
48:55: Seeing yourself as the creator of your world, and authenticity
55:15: Recap
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1:08:57
Everything I've Learned (so far): A Guide to Personal Growth
In this special episode, Forrest focuses on the key lessons from 400 episodes of Being Well, giving you a crash course in personal growth and development. If you’re just getting into the show, or are looking for a good episode to share with people who are new to this kind of content, this is a great place to start.
You can watch this episode on YouTube.
Key Topics:
0:00: Introduction
1:10: Change is possible, but change is hard
3:00: Focus on what you can control
4:30: The consistency principle
6:05: Punishing ourselves is a losing strategy
7:45: What are you pursuing?
9:30: The negativity bias
11:40: Why you don't have self-worth
13:40: Change the beliefs you have about yourself
17:05: Forming a coherent narrative
19:50: Set reasonable expectations
22:45: The middle path
24:30: Homeostasis and social pressure
26:30: How to get good at anything
27:45: Willpower, and avoiding willpower
28:25: Don’t know mind
31:25: The trap of self-awareness
32:35: Risking disappointment
34:10: The function of our bad habits
36:00: Look for those who support you
37:15: Changing our models of relationship
40:00: Authenticity
41:50: Embrace good conflict
44:40: Contempt
46:20: Start by joining
48:40: Experiencing out
49:55: Joining with the defense
51:15: Moving toward to move away
52:40: Learning to trust yourself
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57:46
Letting Go: Rumination, Breakups, and How to Stop Feeling Attached
Forrest and Dr. Rick focus on one of life's most challenging but essential skills - letting go. Whether you're trying to break free from repetitive thoughts, move on from a relationship, or change an old pattern of behavior, this episode will help you learn how to release what no longer serves you.
They start by exploring why letting go is so difficult, the nature of the brain and how it gets in our way, and how to start opening up to a new way of being. They then discuss different practical approaches to letting go, how to work with the feeling of “giving up,” and staying on your own side when facing resistance.
You can watch this episode on YouTube.
Key Topics:
0:00: Introduction
3:05: Rumination and the comfort of familiarity
7:00: Allowing for shifts in identity
14:25: An example of working with a pattern
29:40: Being on your own side when you feel resistance from others
34:45: Letting go vs. giving up, and orienting toward our own fulfillment
43:35: The destabilization phase, and learning about yourself
51:05: Recap
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Support the Podcast: We're now on Patreon! If you'd like to support the podcast, follow this link.
Sponsors
Head to acorns.com/beingwell or download the Acorns app to start saving and investing for your future
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1:00:52
Healing Attachment Wounds with Elizabeth Ferreira
Attachment wounds are emotional injuries that develop based on painful experiences with those we care about. These experiences create a kind of blueprint we carry around for how relationships work, and when that internal model is based on fear and pain, it's hard for our relationships to thrive. Somatic therapist Elizabeth Ferreira joins the show to help us understand how we can heal old wounds and develop more secure forms of relating.
Elizabeth and Forrest explore how early experiences shape our relationships, with a particular focus on a common paradox: deeply wanting connection while simultaneously fearing intimacy. They discuss fearful attachment, how Elizabeth approaches working with attachment wounds in clinical practice, complex PTSD, self-abandonment, facing our dreaded experience, setting healthy boundaries, and navigating relationships where fearful attachment patterns are present.
About our Guest: Elizabeth Ferreira is an Associate Marriage and Family Therapist working in California. She specializes in somatic approaches to trauma work.
You can watch this episode on YouTube.
Key Topics:
0:00: Introduction
1:05: Elizabeth’s personal experience of fearful attachment
7:40: Working with a therapist to heal attachment
11:55: Elizabeth’s experience learning to create boundaries
21:35: Internal Family Systems, and how to dialog with our parts
27:15: Working with our protective part, and self-criticism
31:00: Dialoguing with our inner child without a therapist
38:15: Healthy anger, grief, and patience
42:25: What helped Elizabeth be vulnerable in relating to Forrest
53:10: Disorganized moments, identifying needs, and taking in the good
1:00:20: Intent, impact, and reasonable limits
1:05:20: Becoming your own secure attachment figure, and healing in community
1:09:10: Recap
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Support the Podcast: We're now on Patreon! If you'd like to support the podcast, follow this link.
Sponsors
Head to acorns.com/beingwell or download the Acorns app to start saving and investing for your future
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About Being Well with Forrest Hanson and Dr. Rick Hanson
Forrest Hanson is joined by clinical psychologist Dr. Rick Hanson and a world-class group of experts to explore the practical science of lasting well-being. Conversations focus on the key insights from psychology, science, and contemplative practice that you need to build reliable inner strengths, overcome your challenges, and get the most out of life. New episodes every Monday.
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