Constellations and all that...

In this rich and deeply reflective conversation, I’m joined by Nir Esterman teacher of Family Constellations, embodiment practitioner, and developer of Shadow Constellations.
Together, we explore what happens beneath the surface of our work as facilitators, therapists, and helping professionals. What we are not in touch with doesn’t simply disappear; it shapes the field. It shapes our clients’ experience. And sometimes, it shapes what becomes possible in a session… or what remains stuck.
Nir shares openly about:
Growing up as a second-generation to Holocaust survivors
How intergenerational trauma lives in the body and the field
Blind spots and facilitator responsibility
The rescuer–victim–perpetrator dynamic
Helplessness and the “silent accomplice”
Cultural shadows and collective trauma
Sexuality, death, and the themes we often avoid
How shadow work increases safety in the room
This episode is an invitation into maturity, into acknowledging what is present, even when it is uncomfortable, and into understanding that the facilitator is always part of the field.
As Nir so beautifully expresses, this work is not about blame. It is about awareness. And awareness creates safety.
Upcoming Trainings with Nir Esterman
1. India – Early Prenatal & Incarnation Shadows
🗓 Early April (2.5-day workshop)
2. Shadow Constellations Training – Bali
📍 Ubud, Bali
 🗓 April 17–22, 2026 (6 days, in person)
Connect with Nir
🌐 Website: www.niresterman.com
(You can also search “Shadow Constellations”)
Facebook: Nir Esterman
I’d love to hear what resonates with you—drop me a message on Instagram @tracy.cartwright  and for more insights visit my website at tracycartwright.co.nz
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🎙️ Want to join the constellation community or learn more? Visit: anzci.nz

In this heartfelt and expansive conversation, Tracy sits down with Chayanika Bhiwaniwala, a facilitator and trainer from India whose work weaves together Family Constellations, transpersonal regression, and a deep devotion to self-love. 
Chayanika shares how Constellations transformed her life from emotional disconnection to embodied feeling and why she believes this work has the power to shift generations of suffering into connection and meaning. 
Together they explore: 
• What Family Constellations truly are beyond theory
• Hidden family dynamics and transgenerational entanglements
• The role of miscarried siblings in family systems
• The Orders of Love and why history matters
• Cultural shifts in India and how they influence healing work
• Meeting Bert Hellinger in Germany and receiving a life-changing constellation
• Why Constellations are sacred work, not entertainment
• Self-love as the foundation of structural healing 
This episode is for anyone curious about the deeper layers of Family Constellations and the structural healing of generations. 
Connect with Chayanika:
Instagram: @chayanika_bhiwaniwala
I’d love to hear what resonates with you—drop me a message on Instagram @tracy.cartwright  and for more insights visit my website at tracycartwright.co.nz
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🎙️ Want to join the constellation community or learn more? Visit: anzci.nz

In this episode, Tracy sits down with family constellations facilitator, somatic practitioner, and holistic counsellor Yulia Ilchyk for a deeply human conversation about how this work doesn’t always arrive through searching; sometimes, it finds us. 
Yulia shares her first, powerful experience as a constellation representative, where her body carried a story she didn’t consciously know. One that later revealed an ancestral truth in her own family line. 
Together, Tracy and Yulia explore how Family Constellations intersect with somatic work, the nervous system, and embodiment, and why healing often happens in layers, over time, and without force. 
This episode is an invitation to listen to what wants to emerge, trust the wisdom of the body, and honour the unseen forces shaping our lives. 
Connect with Yulia:
Yulia works with clients online and in person in the Washington DC area.
Website: familyconstellationsdc.com
Instagram: @yulia.ilchik
I’d love to hear what resonates with you—drop me a message on Instagram @tracy.cartwright  and for more insights visit my website at tracycartwright.co.nz
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🎙️ Want to join the constellation community or learn more? Visit: anzci.nz

In this week’s conversation, Tracy is joined by Kristina Dryža for a deep and thoughtful exploration of what happens when the structures we rely on begin to fall away.
Together, they speak into the spaces many of us find ourselves in moments where certainty dissolves, familiar identities no longer fit, and life invites us into the unknown. Rather than rushing to fix or make sense of these moments, this conversation gently reframes them as meaningful thresholds.
Kristina brings a mythic and archetypal lens to the discussion, sharing why stories, symbols, and ancient ways of understanding the human experience matter now more than ever. Tracy weaves this together with her lived experience and constellation perspective, exploring how meaning, ancestry, and belonging support us when logic alone is not enough.
This episode is an invitation to slow down, listen, and consider how healing can emerge not from certainty, but from learning to walk alongside uncertainty with curiosity and respect.
Kristina also references her TEDx talk, “Archetypes and Mythology: Why They Matter Even More So Today”, which beautifully complements this conversation:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2o4PYNroZBY
If you are navigating a season of not-knowing, questioning old narratives, or sensing that something deeper is asking for your attention, this conversation offers a spacious place to rest and reflect.
Connect with Kristina:
IG:  @kristinadryza
I’d love to hear what resonates with you—drop me a message on Instagram @tracy.cartwright  and for more insights visit my website at tracycartwright.co.nz
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🎙️ Want to join the constellation community or learn more? Visit: anzci.nz

In this episode, Tracy is joined by Miranda Claire, The Soulmate Coach, for a rich and embodied conversation exploring love, loss, lineage, and the unseen forces that shape our relationships. 
Miranda shares from both lived experience and her work as a relationship coach specialising in love, loss, and ancestral patterns. 
The conversation moves through themes of the father line, masculine and feminine energies, armouring and openness, and what becomes possible when we allow ourselves to meet love with honesty rather than protection. 
This episode is an invitation to slow down and listen to what is moving through you, in your body, your relationships, and your lineage, and to consider how honouring what came before can open the door to more authentic love and connection. 
An episode for anyone navigating relationship, grief, or longing, and for those curious about constellation work as a pathway to meeting love with greater presence and truth. 
Connect with Miranda:
IG:  @thesoulmatecoach
I’d love to hear what resonates with you—drop me a message on Instagram @tracy.cartwright  and for more insights visit my website at tracycartwright.co.nz
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🎙️ Want to join the constellation community or learn more? Visit: anzci.nz