Deep Within with Marina Triner, The Compassionate Somatic Coach

If you've ever caught yourself silencing your needs in a relationship because somewhere along the way you learned that you were "too much," this conversation is for you. I sat down with Mia Amini, a certified trauma-informed psychotherapist and NARM Practitioner based in Denmark who works online with clients around the world, to talk about how growing up with emotionally immature parents shapes the way we date, love, and handle rejection as adults. Mia shares the example of a sensitive child who learns to bottle everything up, and how that same strategy quietly follows her into adult relationships, as avoidance, anxious over-explaining, or simply enduring in silence.
We talk about what healing actually looks like (spoiler: it's more like going to the gym than flipping a switch), how to meet yourself when someone rejects you, and the continuum of emotional immaturity, from the openly toxic to the well-meaning parent who simply couldn't see their child. Mia also opens up about her own story of becoming the performer who never asked for help, why she believes estrangement doesn't always have to be the final chapter, and what she'd say to parents whose adult children have stepped away. I love how honest and gentle this one is.
Connect with Mia:
https://www.aminiterapi.dk/
https://www.instagram.com/mia.aminitherapy/
https://www.youtube.com/@MiaAmini

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Stay or Go: 5 Clarity Questions to Reconnect with Your Inner Knowing: https://marinatriner.com/stay-or-go-guide

Attatchment Practice: Discover the actual blocks beneath the surface so you can actually have the deep intimacy you crave: https://marinatriner.com/attachment-practice 

Connect & Ground: 10 Incredible Somatic Practices for Nervous System Regulation: https://marinatriner.com/connect-and-ground

Alive & Aligned: 7 Embodiment Practices For Self Connection: https://marinatriner.com/alive-and-aligned

Trigger to Rooted: A step by step process of working with your triggers: https://marinatriner.com/trigger-2-rooted 

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Top Episode Quotes:
"When we are in a relationship, we should be able to express our needs. That's why we go into a relationship with another human being." - Mia Amini

"It's a journey. When we go to the gym, we don't become fully muscular the first time we visit." - Mia Amini

"Can it be true that I can love myself even when I'm rejected, even when I'm not wanted by the person I really want?" - Mia Amini

"They are the same people. Nothing has changed within them. But I have worked through these emotions." - Mia Amini

"If your adult child is putting in the effort and the money, it's a sign that they want you in their life. The least you can do is show up." - Mia Amini

emotionally immature parents, childhood emotional neglect, relational trauma, attachment healing, anxious attachment, avoidant attachment, fear of rejection, people pleasing, self worth, estrangement from parents, adult children of emotionally immature parents, boundaries, inner child healing, nervous system regulation, trauma healing, self trust, deep within podcast, Mia Amini

If you didn't have a safe, present caregiver you could go to and simply be witnessed by, and your life carries a deep sense of void and loneliness, this episode is for you. I sat down with Dr. Maria-Elena Lukeides, a clinical psychologist and meditation teacher based in Sydney with nearly three decades of experience, to talk about how we can build that attunement now, as adults, and what it means to become a compassionate observer of our own distress.
We explore why anxiety, overachieving, shutdown, and depression are often not separate problems but different faces of the same unattuned wound, why many of our parents couldn't attune to us even when they loved us, and why the goal isn't to get rid of how we feel but to grow our capacity to hold ourselves while we feel it. Dr. Maria-Elena also guides a short practice in the middle of our conversation that I found so deeply relaxing I almost fell asleep on my own podcast. Please don't do the practice while driving or doing anything that needs your full attention. Find somewhere safe to soften, and let it find you.
💌Your free practice: https://www.drmariaelenalukeides.com.au/your-special-gift
Connect with Dr. Maria-Elena:
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/maria-elena-lukeides-270379a5/
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thewellnessfountain/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/thewellnessfountain/
Website: https://www.drmariaelenalukeides.com.au/
Book: https://link.amazon/B08ubURbL

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Stay or Go: 5 Clarity Questions to Reconnect with Your Inner Knowing: https://marinatriner.com/stay-or-go-guide

Attatchment Practice: Discover the actual blocks beneath the surface so you can actually have the deep intimacy you crave: https://marinatriner.com/attachment-practice 

Connect & Ground: 10 Incredible Somatic Practices for Nervous System Regulation: https://marinatriner.com/connect-and-ground

Alive & Aligned: 7 Embodiment Practices For Self Connection: https://marinatriner.com/alive-and-aligned

Trigger to Rooted: A step by step process of working with your triggers: https://marinatriner.com/trigger-2-rooted 

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Top Episode Quotes:
"The point isn't to get rid of how I feel. It's to increase our capacity to hold space for ourselves when we're that anxious." - Dr. Maria-Elena Lukeides

"It wasn't a superpower. It was a super anxiety power, because I was never able to switch off and feel safe." - Dr. Maria-Elena Lukeides

"How do we soundproof it even more so we don't hear that baby crying? Most of our self-help is about that." - Dr. Maria-Elena Lukeides

"When we brace against that, it is a rejection of that part of us. It's closing the door on the child." - Dr. Maria-Elena Lukeides

"Let's just stop fighting ourselves and start bringing all the parts of ourselves into our internal field of love and attunement." - Dr. Maria-Elena Lukeides

attunement, emotional neglect, childhood emotional neglect, hypervigilance, parts work, compassionate self, nervous system regulation, anxiety and depression, hyper independence, overachieving, burnout, mindfulness, guided meditation, inner child healing, self compassion, deep within podcast, Dr Maria-Elena Lukeides

If you're stuck in the question of whether to stay or go, anxious, exhausted, and wondering why your partner isn't doing the work, this conversation is for you. I sat down with Becky Aste, trauma-informed marriage coach, somatic practitioner, CEO of I Do Breakthrough, and host of the Your Breakthrough Blueprint Podcast, who took her own marriage from the brink of divorce to thriving after a decade of trying every mainstream modality.
Becky shares the story of the "chase and run" dance she and her husband were locked in, why ten years of talk therapy, books, and couples counseling gave her a lot of language but very little change, and what finally shifted when she started working from the body up. We talk about how to tell the difference between replay and reality when you're triggered, why you can change a relational dynamic even when your partner isn't on board, how to work with resentment, and why codependency may have an expiration date as an identity. Becky also walks through simple, practical tools you can use on your own, in your own room, starting today. You don't have to figure out the answer from your head. Your body knows more than you've been allowed to trust.
Connect with Becky:
https://www.idobreakthrough.com
https://www.instagram.com/becky_aste

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Stay or Go: 5 Clarity Questions to Reconnect with Your Inner Knowing: https://marinatriner.com/stay-or-go-guide

Attatchment Practice: Discover the actual blocks beneath the surface so you can actually have the deep intimacy you crave: https://marinatriner.com/attachment-practice 

Connect & Ground: 10 Incredible Somatic Practices for Nervous System Regulation: https://marinatriner.com/connect-and-ground

Alive & Aligned: 7 Embodiment Practices For Self Connection: https://marinatriner.com/alive-and-aligned

Trigger to Rooted: A step by step process of working with your triggers: https://marinatriner.com/trigger-2-rooted 

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Top Episode Quotes:
"A lot of language, not a lot of change." - Becky Aste

"Is there an actual bear in the room, or does this just remind me of that feeling I had in my body back when there actually was a bear in the room?" - Becky Aste

"Resentment always points to an area of your life where you have an unspoken boundary." - Becky Aste

"Intuition is settled. It's not shouting. It's not loud. It's this deep, deep knowing." - Becky Aste

"You are not codependent. You are not anxiously attached. You're so much more than that." - Becky Aste

should I stay or go, saving a marriage, somatic healing, nervous system regulation, anxious attachment, codependency, relational patterns, triggers, replay or reality, self trust, boundaries, resentment, self abandonment, deep within podcast, Becky Aste

If you were the one in your family who saw the dysfunction clearly, named it, and then somehow ended up carrying all the shame for it, this episode is for you. I sat down with Dr. Deniz Ahmadinia, licensed clinical psychologist and trauma survivor, to talk about the scapegoat role: what it costs the person who sees clearly, and what it actually takes to take your power back.
We get into how systems, whether a family, a workplace, a religion, or a government, use the same tactics to maintain control: gaslighting, invalidation, silencing, blame-shifting. Dr. Deniz walks through why it can take years, or a big life event like a divorce, before someone has enough safety to actually see their own family's dysfunction, and how chronic invalidation disconnects us from our own bodies and inner knowing. We also talk about the difference between a past wound and a present harm, why self-regulation alone isn't enough if you're regulating your way through ongoing mistreatment, and what it means to finally come home to yourself. This conversation is honest, tender, and genuinely reparative.

Connect with Dr. Deniz:
https://www.drdeniz.com/
https://www.instagram.com/drdenizpsyd/

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Attatchment Practice: Discover the actual blocks beneath the surface so you can actually have the deep intimacy you crave: https://marinatriner.com/attachment-practice 

Connect & Ground: 10 Incredible Somatic Practices for Nervous System Regulation: https://marinatriner.com/connect-and-ground

Alive & Aligned: 7 Embodiment Practices For Self Connection: https://marinatriner.com/alive-and-aligned

Trigger to Rooted: A step by step process of working with your triggers: https://marinatriner.com/trigger-2-rooted 

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Top Episode Quotes:
"The person or people who are in that role as a scapegoat have an up close and personal experience with the dysfunction in a way that is less veiled than the other members of the family." - Dr. Deniz Ahmadinia

"It's never gone though. It's just waiting till it's safe enough to return to it." - Dr. Deniz Ahmadinia

"Am I just self-regulating and trying to find safety so I can keep tolerating the same condition?" - Dr. Deniz Ahmadinia

"We need more truth tellers. We need more truth speakers. And that is both the burden and the gift of being a scapegoat." - Dr. Deniz Ahmadinia

"Taking our power back for me comes through the body. This is where our knowing, our truth, our wisdom, our intelligence lives." - Dr. Deniz Ahmadinia

scapegoat role, dysfunctional family systems, systems of power, gaslighting, invalidation, inner child healing, parts work, trauma healing, self abandonment, nervous system regulation, taking your power back, narcissistic family, deep within podcast, Dr Deniz Ahmadinia

Why do we keep ending up with people who hurt us, even when we swear it won't happen again? I sat down with Dr. Galit Atlas, renowned psychoanalyst, faculty member at NYU's Postdoctoral Program in Psychotherapy and Psychoanalysis and at Columbia University, and author of the international bestseller Emotional Inheritance, to talk about exactly that. Her new book, Come Closer: Childhood Wounds, Adult Love and the Secrets of Emotional Intimacy, releases the same day this episode airs.
We get into Freud's concept of repetition compulsion, why the familiar so often gets mistaken for safety, and why changing a pattern can feel like losing your own identity. Dr. Atlas introduces the different "children" that live inside all of us (the frightened child, the guilty child, the invisible child, and more) and how giving each of them a seat at the table is the real path to change. We also talk about self-abandonment, what it actually means to hold two people in mind during conflict, and why over-functioning is so often a defense against vulnerability. This conversation is rich, honest, and full of the kind of insight that makes you see your own patterns differently.

Connect with Dr. Galit Atlas:
https://www.galitatlas.com/
https://www.instagram.com/galit_atlas
https://wildanalysiswithgalitatlas.substack.com/
Come Closer Book: https://www.galitatlas.com/home-1-1 

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Stay or Go: 5 Clarity Questions to Reconnect with Your Inner Knowing: https://marinatriner.com/stay-or-go-guide

Attatchment Practice: Discover the actual blocks beneath the surface so you can actually have the deep intimacy you crave: https://marinatriner.com/attachment-practice 

Connect & Ground: 10 Incredible Somatic Practices for Nervous System Regulation: https://marinatriner.com/connect-and-ground

Alive & Aligned: 7 Embodiment Practices For Self Connection: https://marinatriner.com/alive-and-aligned

Trigger to Rooted: A step by step process of working with your triggers: https://marinatriner.com/trigger-2-rooted 

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Top Episode Quotes:
"We go to the same place with the fantasy that not only is this time going to be different, this is going to repair everything that ever happened to us." - Dr. Galit Atlas
"The familiar is not more safe than the stranger. It's more threatening, but it's not more dangerous." - Dr. Galit Atlas
"When I change a pattern, I am not the same person. And what am I going to do without me?" - Dr. Galit Atlas
"Why do you need permission to leave a place that is hurtful?" - Dr. Galit Atlas
"Rigidity is what makes us fragile." - Dr. Galit Atlas

repetition compulsion, relational patterns, why we choose the same partners, childhood trauma, self abandonment, inner child work, emotional inheritance, come closer book, psychoanalysis, attachment healing, vulnerability, self worth, deep within podcast, Dr Galit Atlas