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It Has to Be Me

Tess Masters
It Has to Be Me
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  • It Has to Be Me

    Where is your line in the sand? | 096

    05/03/2026 | 1h
    Where is your line in the sand? The moment when you say: “Enough—it has to be me,” and fight for change in your life and in the world?
    In this solo episode, I explore why our actions often fall short of our values, and the fears and dynamics that hold us back from advocating for ourselves and others. Weighing up the costs of staying silent, I go on to the importance of staying informed, using critical thinking, and having the courage to listen to our intuition even when it challenges what the people we love and trust are saying.
    We dive into the power of adding our voices to the collective, the responsibility that brings, and the consequences of our actions and endorsements. Upgrading our interest and investment in both expands our impact.
    I share the non-negotiables that dictate where my line is, and where I put energy and resources, with the aim of closing the gap between how things are and how they ought to be.
    Our commitment to the collective directly reflects our regard for ourselves. How bad does the pain have to get before we prioritize our health and quality of life, go into action, and go after what we want?
    We have influence without wielding power. If we just use our agency.
    TESS’S TAKEAWAYS:
    Suffering grows in the gap between our values and actions.
    We don’t control the world. We do play a part in creating it.
    Speaking up is the beginning of change.
    Be mindful about your participation. You magnify what you endorse.
    Personal responsibility expands agency. Blame relinquishes it.
    Upgrade the level of investment in your own life and the collective.
    Regulation comes before response so we manage our reactivity.
    Create more than you consume.
    MEET TESS MASTERS:
    Tess Masters is an actor, presenter, health coach, cook, and author of The Blender Girl, The Blender Girl Smoothies, and The Perfect Blend, published by Penguin Random House. She is also the creator of the Skinny60® health programs.
    Health tips and recipes by Tess have been featured in the LA Times, Washington Post, InStyle, Prevention, Shape, Glamour, Real Simple, Yoga Journal, Yahoo Health, Hallmark Channel, The Today Show, and many others.
    Tess’s magnetic personality, infectious enthusiasm, and down-to-earth approach have made her a go-to personality for people of all dietary stripes who share her conviction that healthy living can be easy and fun. Get delicious recipes at TheBlenderGirl.com.
    CONNECT WITH TESS:
    Website: https://tessmasters.com/
    Podcast: https://ithastobeme.com/
    Health Programs: https://www.skinny60.com/
    Delicious Recipes: https://www.theblendergirl.com/
    Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/theblendergirl/
    Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theblendergirl/
    YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/user/theblendergirl
    LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/tessmasters/
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  • It Has to Be Me

    The Enneagram: What Are Our 9 Personality Types? | 095

    26/02/2026 | 2h 1 mins.
    Peter O’Hanrahan gives a masterclass in the Enneagram of Personality—the system that helps us understand our core beliefs, motivations, and fears so we can break the patterns that keep us stuck.
    Peter starts with his decision, in the upheaval of the 70’s, to drop out of college and work as a counselor at a crisis center. That led to burnout. Moving to Berkeley, he studied holistic therapies and bodywork, and eventually opened a wellness center applying these modalities.
    Enneagram pioneer Helen Palmer invited him to attend the first Enneagram class, which became a turning point for Peter. The insight into behaviors that the Enneagram gave him provided a window into the processes of trauma. Peter embarked on a lifelong study of the Enneagram system, teaching it to thousands in diverse parts of the world, and training over 800 practitioners.
    Laying out the basic principles of the system, Peter walks us through the 9 personality types. From there, he turns to the adjacent types (wings), 3 centers of intelligence, and 3 instinctual sub-types. Collectively, these inform how we think and feel and relate. We cover the strengths of each type, as well as the shadow tendencies and obstacles. Peter emphasizes that while we are more than our patterns, knowing them is a starting point to understanding what drives us.
    Moving onto practical application, he provides everyday examples of how using the Enneagram tools deepens the relationship to self and others, improves group dynamics, enhances collaborations and partnerships, enables conscious parenting, and advances intentional leadership.
    The Enneagram helps us stop fighting our instincts and habits, and build awareness and emotional intelligence so we can manage them, responding mindfully with respect and empathy.
    This conversation with Peter offers powerful strategies for leaning into “It Has To Be Me.”

    TESS’S TAKEAWAYS:
    The Enneagram system maps human psychology via nine personality types.
    The Enneagram looks at core motivations, fears, desires, patterns, not just behavioral traits.
    The nine types are grouped by their dominant centers of intelligence: body, heart, and head.
    Influencing each type is its adjacent types (wings)—personality shifts in stress or security.
    The subtypes (self-preservation, one-to-one, or social) inform personality expression.
    Each type has a superpower and a shadow. Growth comes from integrating them.
    Understanding your type can shift automatic reactions to conscious responses.
    Psychology, culture, and family background shape the expression of your Enneagram type.


    ABOUT PETER O’HANRAHAN
    A leading Enneagram teacher and trainer in the United States, Peter O’Hanrahan began his Enneagram study in 1978, when Dr. Kathleen Speeth taught the first class in Berkeley.
    Peter has facilitated hundreds of workshops for businesses, nonprofits, universities, and churches all over the world, and is a certified teacher with the Enneagram Professional Training Program. He serves on the faculty of the Narrative Enneagram School, and as a member of the International Enneagram Association, has presented at many conferences.
    Using the Enneagram in his practice as a holistic counselor and body therapist, Peter has developed further approaches and applications. His programs and articles can be found at: TheEnneagramAtWork.com.
    He lives in Northern California with his wife—and fellow Enneagram practitioner—Pat.

    CONNECT WITH PETER
    Website: https://theenneagramatwork.com/
    Enneagram Workshops: https://theenneagramatwork.com/teaching-schedule/
    Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/peter.ohanrahan.52
    Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theenneagramatwork/
    LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/peter-o-hanrahan-9078486/
    MEET TESS MASTERS:
    Tess Masters is an actor, presenter, health coach, cook, and author of The Blender Girl, The Blender Girl Smoothies, and The Perfect Blend, published by Penguin Random House. She is also the creator of the Skinny60® health programs.
    Health tips and recipes by Tess have been featured in the LA Times, Washington Post, InStyle, Prevention, Shape, Glamour, Real Simple, Yoga Journal, Yahoo Health, Hallmark Channel, The Today Show, and many others.
    Tess’s magnetic personality, infectious enthusiasm, and down-to-earth approach have made her a go-to personality for people of all dietary stripes who share her conviction that healthy living can be easy and fun. Get delicious recipes at TheBlenderGirl.com.

    CONNECT WITH TESS:
    Website: https://tessmasters.com/
    Podcast: https://ithastobeme.com/
    Health Programs: https://www.skinny60.com/
    Delicious Recipes: https://www.theblendergirl.com/
    Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/theblendergirl/
    Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theblendergirl/
    YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/user/theblendergirl
    LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/tessmasters/

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  • It Has to Be Me

    What’s The Story You’re Sharing? The Perspective Of A Filmmaker | 094

    19/02/2026 | 1h 22 mins.
    We explore the value of storytelling and amplifying other voices with photographer and filmmaker Deborah Anderson.
    She takes us back to her childhood, and her father’s ability to captivate her with stories. Inspired by his work as a musician, she sang on his albums and performed at the Royal Albert Hall before she was 10. This early imprint shaped how she sees creativity: an organic weaving of stories in various mediums.
    Deborah leads us through the labyrinth of her career, from breaking out with solo albums, to collaborations with DJ Shadow, to clothing design in London and Paris, and then into photography. When a craftsman who’d developed film for a legendary photographer recognized her work, something clicked, and she saw her path was in capturing images of people.
    Planning a portrait exhibition at the Leica gallery in Los Angeles led her to South Dakota. She spent months with Lakota women and made the documentary Women of the White Buffalo. What had begun as a photo show became a divine detour, with Deborah traveling and interviewing women from indigenous communities worldwide for her latest project, The Lost Language Of Her.
    Listening to elders who speak the language of spirit and nature we safeguard feminine wisdom and legacy. Through this shared storytelling, we connect in ways that transcend language and culture.
    Deborah’s story reminds us that it’s not a straight path or a solo journey. And sometimes, It Has To Be Me is really It Has To Be Them.
    TESS’S TAKEAWAYS
    Provoking thought and moving us into action, art can be a messenger of change.
    Creativity in any medium has a common thread—the artist’s perspective.
    The expectation that art is selfless negates the inevitability of perspective.
    Admitting there will be perspective enables celebration of multiple perspectives.
    Ancient and indigenous stories connect us with spirit, nature, and the divine feminine.
    Self-doubt is intrinsically feminine, and pushes us to go beyond where we’ve been.
    Lean into your dynamism. Trust in the magic of your offer.
    Trust in your capability, and never stop refining your craft.

    ABOUT DEBORAH ANDERSON
    Filmmaker and photographer Deborah Anderson has spent the last decade amplifying the voices of women and indigenous communities, exploring identity, memory, and healing.
    Her documentary about Lakota women preserving their culture, Women Of The White Buffalo, received critical acclaim, including Best Feature Documentary film at the Red Nation Film Festival, Best Director of a documentary at the LA Independent Women Film Awards, and four accolades at the Idyllwild International Film Festival. She also champions women’s stories in the feature Aroused and the short films My Revolution with Eve Ensler and Rosario Dawson and Rise with Thandie Newton for the One Billion Rising organization.
    Deborah’s photographs have appeared on covers of albums by Pink and other artists, and been featured in Vogue, Vanity Fair, Rolling Stone, and exhibited around the world, including at the Leica Galleries which hosted her Women Of The White Buffalo portrait series.
    The central aim of her work is to bear witness and build bridges, provoking audiences to imagine a more compassionate and connected future.

    CONNECT WITH DEBORAH
    Website: https://deborahanderson.com/
    Website: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Deborah_Anderson
    Women Of The White Buffalo: https://womenofthewhitebuffalo.com/
    The ORA Pathway: https://theorapathway.com/
    My Revolution: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tL36jjF6-DI
    Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/deborahandersoncreative
    LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/deborah-anderson-6825b7354/

    MEET TESS MASTERS:
    Tess Masters is an actor, presenter, health coach, cook, and author of The Blender Girl, The Blender Girl Smoothies, and The Perfect Blend, published by Penguin Random House. She is also the creator of the Skinny60® health programs.
    Health tips and recipes by Tess have been featured in the LA Times, Washington Post, InStyle, Prevention, Shape, Glamour, Real Simple, Yoga Journal, Yahoo Health, Hallmark Channel, The Today Show, and many others.
    Tess’s magnetic personality, infectious enthusiasm, and down-to-earth approach have made her a go-to personality for people of all dietary stripes who share her conviction that healthy living can be easy and fun. Get delicious recipes at TheBlenderGirl.com.

    CONNECT WITH TESS:
    Website: https://tessmasters.com/
    Podcast: https://ithastobeme.com/
    Health Programs: https://www.skinny60.com/
    Delicious Recipes: https://www.theblendergirl.com/
    Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/theblendergirl/
    Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theblendergirl/
    YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/user/theblendergirl
    LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/tessmasters/

    Thanks for listening!
    If you enjoyed this conversation and think others would benefit from listening, share this episode. And, please post your comments or questions below. I’d love to hear what you think.
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  • It Has to Be Me

    Simplicity, Creativity, and Ritual | 093

    12/02/2026 | 1h 22 mins.
    Are you in the driver’s seat of your story? Shiva Rose reflects on how she leveraged her everyday experiences to create a successful company and build a more diverse and fulfilling life.
    We trace Shiva’s career from actress to wellness writer to skincare entrepreneur. A public divorce and life-threatening autoimmune conditions forced her to seek major life change. The power of food, a renewed relationship with nature and spirit, and ancient rituals became vital allies in her healing journey.
    Learning to trust her body and intuition and stay open to transformation helped her recognize the unique medicine she possessed. She takes us inside how food and the alchemy of herbs awakened her senses. But, it was tea ceremonies that helped quieten her mind, and taught her patience and presence. Ritual, Shiva says, keeps us focused and grounded, especially when life takes a destabilizing turn.
    We celebrate the arts as a powerful tool for nurturing connection with self and others, and explore creativity as a living force that doesn’t disappear when circumstances change—we give it new forms. Shiva urges us to stay in the dream state, not to escape reality but to meet it.
    Her call: You are the writer, director, and producer of your story. Decide that it will be extraordinary.
    TESS’S TAKEAWAYS:
    Living creatively is about leaning into curiosity, possibility, and discovery.
    Chronic illness can be a doorway into listening, not just symptom management.
    Healing begins when you listen, engage, and activate your own medicine.
    Seek out the wisdom, power, and unique medicine of women.
    Connection with nature and spirit move grief and emotion when words fall short.
    Rejection is often just bad timing, not a judgment of readiness or worth.
    Suffer what there is to suffer and enjoy what there is to enjoy.
    Making each moment intentional creates extraordinary lives in everyday realms.

    ABOUT SHIVA ROSE
    Shiva Rose is the author of Whole Beauty and founder of the natural skincare company Shiva Rose Beauty.
    Life-threatening autoimmune diseases prompted her pursuit of healing through clean living. To document her journey, she started a lifestyle website, The Local Rose. Her skincare line evolved from that. Shiva is also passionate about Kundalini practice and the Chinese way of tea, Cha Dao.
    Through her two courses, The Power Of Lunar Energy and The Waterways Of The Feminine Mystique, she helps women connect with nature and spirit.
    She lives with her daughter and her partner in the mountains of New Mexico and the hills of Texas.
    CONNECT WITH SHIVA
    Shiva Rose: https://www.shivarose.com/
    Shiva Rose Beauty: https://www.thelocalrose.com/
    Whole Beauty: https://www.amazon.com/Whole-Beauty-Rituals-Lifelong-Wellness/dp/1579657729/
    Substack: https://thehouseofmagdalena.substack.com/
    Courses: https://shivarose.podia.com/
    Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/localrose
    Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/shivarosebeauty/
    YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/user/localrose
    LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/shiva-rose-79b62249/
    MEET TESS MASTERS:
    Tess Masters is an actor, presenter, health coach, cook, and author of The Blender Girl, The Blender Girl Smoothies, and The Perfect Blend, published by Penguin Random House. She is also the creator of the Skinny60® health programs.
    Health tips and recipes by Tess have been featured in the LA Times, Washington Post, InStyle, Prevention, Shape, Glamour, Real Simple, Yoga Journal, Yahoo Health, Hallmark Channel, The Today Show, and many others.
    Tess’s magnetic personality, infectious enthusiasm, and down-to-earth approach have made her a go-to personality for people of all dietary stripes who share her conviction that healthy living can be easy and fun. Get delicious recipes at TheBlenderGirl.com.
    CONNECT WITH TESS:
    Website: https://tessmasters.com/
    Podcast: https://ithastobeme.com/
    Health Programs: https://www.skinny60.com/
    Delicious Recipes: https://www.theblendergirl.com/
    Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/theblendergirl/
    Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theblendergirl/
    YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/user/theblendergirl
    LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/tessmasters/
    Thanks for listening!
    If you enjoyed this conversation and think others would benefit from listening, share this episode. And, please post your comments or questions below. I’d love to hear what you think.

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    Sketch by Sketch: Process Your Emotions Through Creativity | 092

    05/02/2026 | 1h 57 mins.
    Sheila Darcey’s Sketch By Sketch changed my life. So, we’re talking about the book, and how the daily sketch practice she’s developed for herself and thousands of others helps us process emotions when words fall short.
    And before you back away with “I can’t even draw a stick figure” (like I did), hold on. This isn’t about drawing or creating art, it’s about connecting with your unconscious wisdom to create marks of free expression that precede and transcend language.
    Sheila starts her story with the fear of flying that became her doorway to sketching, not just as an artistic pursuit, but as a somatic tool. This daily practice became an effective way to get out of her head and into her body, process trauma, and build a sense of safety that other methods hadn’t provided.
    Having grown up in an environment distorted by addiction and fear, Sheila recalls how creativity helped expand her emotional vocabulary, and reconnect with parts of herself she had abandoned. We talk about childhood survival, and how many of us disconnect from our bodies simply to cope. Leaning into curiosity and creativity help dissolve the judgment that gets in the way of compassion.
    We cover why sketching with a pen not a pencil helps us beat back perfectionism and performance, and leap into the unknown. Through sketching, we can transmute shame and other oppressive emotions into feelings that strengthen possibility.
    Sheila invites us to reframe boredom, rest, stillness, imagination, and innovation, and consider our generational and energetic imprints. Healing is not about fixing ourselves, but about relating to ourselves differently.
    Sheila’s key point: Creativity is not a luxury but a necessity.
    TESS’S TAKEAWAYS
    Creativity expands our emotional lexicon.
    Creativity helps us connect to the parts of ourselves we’ve ignored or abandoned.
    Part of the creative process is leaping into the unknown and inviting co-creation.
    Sketching can be a therapeutic practice to identify and process thoughts and emotions.
    Sketching can be a daily embodiment practice like meditation or yoga.
    Sketching is fast and loose—you don’t have to get attached.
    “Letting go” is not an act of releasing, but accepting what has been there.
    Sketches are modern-day hieroglyphics—marks that transcend language.
    ABOUT SHEILA
    Founder of SketchPoetic®, and author of Sketch By Sketch, artist Sheila Darcey teaches a transformational sketching practice that enables people to access emotional healing through intuitive expression.
    Sheila created the Living Canvas Foundation™, a nonprofit supporting healing, connection, and social impact through creativity. She serves as its executive director.
    Through her art, workshops, community-based art initiatives, and innovative use of technology, Sheila creates spaces where people can access their creativity as a pathway to connect with emotions and gain personal insight.
    Her work bridges art, wellness, and consciousness, tapping into personal and collective storytelling, and is rooted in the belief that every life is a dynamic canvas.
    CONNECT WITH SHEILA
    Sketch Poetic®: https://www.sketchpoetic.com/
    Living Canvas Foundation™: https://livingcanvasfoundation.org/
    Sketch By Sketch Book: https://www.amazon.com/Sketch-Creative-Emotional-Transformation-SketchPoetic/dp/1250773873/
    Substack: https://sheiladarcey.substack.com/
    Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sketchpoetic/
    Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/livingcanvasfoundation/
    YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@livingcanvasfoundation
    MEET TESS MASTERS:
    Tess Masters is an actor, presenter, health coach, cook, and author of The Blender Girl, The Blender Girl Smoothies, and The Perfect Blend, published by Penguin Random House. She is also the creator of the Skinny60® health programs.
    Health tips and recipes by Tess have been featured in the LA Times, Washington Post, InStyle, Prevention, Shape, Glamour, Real Simple, Yoga Journal, Yahoo Health, Hallmark Channel, The Today Show, and many others.
    Tess’s magnetic personality, infectious enthusiasm, and down-to-earth approach have made her a go-to personality for people of all dietary stripes who share her conviction that healthy living can be easy and fun. Get delicious recipes at TheBlenderGirl.com.
    CONNECT WITH TESS:
    Website: https://tessmasters.com/
    Podcast: https://ithastobeme.com/
    Health Programs: https://www.skinny60.com/
    Delicious Recipes: https://www.theblendergirl.com/
    Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/theblendergirl/
    Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theblendergirl/
    YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/user/theblendergirl
    LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/tessmasters/
    Thanks for listening!
    If you enjoyed this conversation and think others would benefit from listening, share this episode. And, please post your comments or questions below. I’d love to hear what you think.
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About It Has to Be Me

What are your “It has to be me” moments? Those key points in your life where you know “This is what I want to do” and you go for it! I’m Tess Masters and I’m getting the skinny from people who are smashing their fears and doubts to make the things they want happen. Let’s dive in, get fired up, and go after your next “It Has To Be Me!”
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