Mastering Midlife with Heidi

• 74. 5 Hard Truths About Being the ‘Nice One’ — and Why People Pleasing Pushes Others Away

  What if your “niceness” is actually pushing people away?In this powerful episode, I unpack a viral Reddit post where one woman asked, “Please just help me understand why people pleasers are disliked.” The 29 pages of raw, honest responses revealed painful truths about what people-pleasing really looks like from the outside — and why it keeps us stuck in guilt, exhaustion, and disconnection.I break down five hard truths about people-pleasing — how it can come across as fake, create weak boundaries, attract toxic people, and erode your sense of self. You’ll learn why saying “yes” when you mean “no” teaches people how to treat you, and how to start reclaiming your peace and power, one honest boundary at a time.I also share a touching tribute to Diane Keaton, who reminded us that, “The goal is to continue in good and bad, all of it.” Because healing isn’t about getting it right — it’s about showing up real, even when it’s messy.🎧 Listen now to learn what your ‘niceness’ might really be costing you—and how to take your life back.👇Free resources:Book a call with me here: Heidi's calendarTake the Boundaries Blind Spot Quiz hereDownload the guide: 20 Ways to Say No Without Feeling GuiltySend us a text

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• 73. Tired of Feeling Drained After Every Conversation? 3 Ways to Protect Your Peace from Toxic People

  Do you walk away from certain people feeling small, anxious, or wondering what you did wrong? That’s not an accident — it’s the effect of toxic energy slowly eroding your peace and confidence.Here’s the truth: you don’t feel horrible because you messed up. You feel horrible because their behavior crosses boundaries - boundaries you were never taught to create and hold - and   and it chips away at your self esteem.In this episode, you’ll discover:Why toxic people twist your “no” into guilt (and how to stop falling for it)The most powerful way to protect your energy without apology or over-explaining3 practical boundary strategies you can use right now to feel calm, clear, and unshakably confidentIf you’re tired of second-guessing yourself, replaying conversations, or shrinking to keep the peace, this episode will help you take back your power — and protect your peace — for good.RESOURCES:Want to know where your boundaries need some attention? Take the FREE Boundaries Blind Spot Quiz here.Want to dive deeper into boundaries on your own time with my guidance? Take the Empower Your Life Boundaries Roadmap Challenge. 👈 Info and sign up here.Related YouTube video: She Makes You Feel Guilty? 3 Ways to Take Back Your PowerWant some easy ways to say no in your back pocket? Download my free guide: 20 Ways to Say No Without Feeling GuiltyWant to chat about where you feel stuck and how I can help? Book a free 30-minute consultation call on my calendar.Send us a text

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• 72. Afraid of Seeming Selfish? The Dark Side of People Pleasing: How to Stop

  Do you bend over backwards to avoid being called selfish? For people pleasers, that word feels like the worst insult of all — and it’s exactly why so many of us swallow our truth, say yes when we mean no, and lose ourselves in the process.But here’s the dark truth: the very behaviors we think make us “nice” are actually manipulative — and they’re keeping us stuck.In this episode, I share:The hidden ways people pleasers morph and control situations without realizing itWhy constant apologizing and over-explaining erode real connectionHow saying yes when you want to say no breeds resentment and disconnectionThe sneaky habits (like hinting or testing others) that keep you invisible and frustratedIf you’ve ever thought of yourself as “easygoing” but ended up drained, resentful, or invisible, this conversation will hit home. And the good news? You’ll also get simple, practical steps you can start using today to stop the cycle and reclaim your voice.Grab my free guide with 20 ways to say no (without feeling like the bad guy) — link below:20 Ways to Say NO GuideA Dark Truth About People Pleasing YouTube videoIf you'd like support on breaking free of people pleasing, schedule your free consultation and let's chat about how I can help you. Schedule time here on my calendar. Or you can email me at [email protected] us a text

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• 71. Keep Saying Yes When You Mean No? 5 Steps to Finally Set Boundaries Without Guilt.

  Do you feel guilty, selfish, or even wrong every time you try to set a boundary? You’re not alone. For so many women, people pleasing has been conditioned into us since childhood — and breaking free from it is the only way to protect your time, energy, and peace.In this episode, I’ll share why saying no feels so hard, how people pleasing is NOT who you are (it’s just a habit), and the five steps that helped me finally set boundaries without guilt.Here’s what you’ll learn when you listen:The real reason you keep saying yes (even when your gut is screaming no)How to set boundaries without explaining yourself — and why explanations keep you stuckThe game-changing mindset shift that makes boundaries finally stick for goodIf you’ve been exhausted from people pleasing, struggling with guilt or resentment, or afraid of disappointing others, this episode will show you the path to inner peace and stronger boundaries.Boundaries Roadmap:Boundaries Blind Spot Quiz (FREE) See where your boundaries could be stronger.Empower Your Life Boundaries Challenge (use code EP71 to save $20!) Take the 30-day email challenge for healthier boundaries in just 1 month!Other Free Resources:Join my email newsletter and stay up-to-date on everything "Mastering Midlife" by downloading my FREE guide: 20 Ways to Say "NO" Without GuiltIf you'd like support on breaking free of people pleasing, schedule your free clarity call and let's chat about how I can help you. Schedule time here on my calendar. Or you can email me at [email protected] us a text

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• 70. Exhausted From Always Feeling ‘Not Good Enough’? Retrain Your Inner Critic with 2 Simple Steps

  Are you your own worst enemy, bullying yourself with negative self talk? Do you feel overly self-critical despite being nice to everyone else? If your inner voice is filled with negative thoughts, you’re not alone — and you don’t have to stay stuck in the cycle of feeling “not good enough.”In this episode, you’ll learn:Why your inner critic is so harsh (and why it’s not your fault)A simple technique to calm negative thoughts in just minutes a dayHow to retrain your inner voice with 2 easy steps so you can finally feel more peace and confidenceWatch this episode on YouTube: The SECRET to Silence Your Inner Critic & Stop Doubting Yourself!Get on my email list and stay up-to-date on all the happenings by downloading my FREE guide: 20 Ways To Say "No" Without GuiltSchedule a free consultation here on my calendar.Send us a text

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