Mastering Midlife with Heidi

• 71. Keep Saying Yes When You Mean No? 5 Steps to Finally Set Boundaries Without Guilt.

  Do you feel guilty, selfish, or even wrong every time you try to set a boundary? You’re not alone. For so many women, people pleasing has been conditioned into us since childhood — and breaking free from it is the only way to protect your time, energy, and peace.In this episode, I’ll share why saying no feels so hard, how people pleasing is NOT who you are (it’s just a habit), and the five steps that helped me finally set boundaries without guilt.Here’s what you’ll learn when you listen:The real reason you keep saying yes (even when your gut is screaming no)How to set boundaries without explaining yourself — and why explanations keep you stuckThe game-changing mindset shift that makes boundaries finally stick for goodIf you’ve been exhausted from people pleasing, struggling with guilt or resentment, or afraid of disappointing others, this episode will show you the path to inner peace and stronger boundaries.Boundaries Roadmap:Boundaries Blind Spot Quiz (FREE) See where your boundaries could be stronger.Empower Your Life Boundaries Challenge (use code EP71 to save $20!) Take the 30-day email challenge for healthier boundaries in just 1 month!Other Free Resources:Join my email newsletter and stay up-to-date on everything "Mastering Midlife" by downloading my FREE guide: 20 Ways to Say "NO" Without GuiltIf you'd like support on breaking free of people pleasing, schedule your free clarity call and let's chat about how I can help you. Schedule time here on my calendar. Or you can email me at [email protected] us a text

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• 70. Exhausted From Always Feeling ‘Not Good Enough’? Retrain Your Inner Critic with 2 Simple Steps

  Are you your own worst enemy, bullying yourself with negative self talk? Do you feel overly self-critical despite being nice to everyone else? If your inner voice is filled with negative thoughts, you’re not alone — and you don’t have to stay stuck in the cycle of feeling “not good enough.”In this episode, you’ll learn:Why your inner critic is so harsh (and why it’s not your fault)A simple technique to calm negative thoughts in just minutes a dayHow to retrain your inner voice with 2 easy steps so you can finally feel more peace and confidenceWatch this episode on YouTube: The SECRET to Silence Your Inner Critic & Stop Doubting Yourself!Get on my email list and stay up-to-date on all the happenings by downloading my FREE guide: 20 Ways To Say "No" Without GuiltSchedule a free consultation here on my calendar.Send us a text

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• 69. Don't Trust Your Gut? Why People Pleasers Struggle to Say “I Changed My Mind” | How to Start Speaking Up for Yourself

  Ever said 'yes' to something and then felt guilty when you needed or wanted to change your mind -- even when it no longer felt right? This exact thing happened to me recently.In this episode, I share why people pleasers (even recovering ones like me) struggle to change our mind and say no when we already said yes, how pushing people manipulate your guilt, and why changing your mind and trusting your gut is so important for your inner peace and self respect.If you’ve ever stayed in a situation just to avoid disappointing someone else, this episode is for you. I spent years believing that being dependable meant sticking it out, even if it cost me my peace. But keeping your word at the expense of your well-being isn’t integrity—it’s self-abandonment.In this episode, I share the powerful shifts that helped me stop overriding my gut, let go of guilt, and start honoring what’s true for me. We’ll talk about:how people-pleasing keeps you from changing your mind,why changing your mind isn’t flaky, andhow to confidently say no even when someone is guilt-tripping you.Schedule a free consultation here on my calendar. I'll help you see your blind spots.Take the FREE Boundaries Blind Spot QuizWatch the YouTube video here: "Is it okay to SAY NO after you already said YES?"Send us a text

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• 68. Tired of Pretending & Perfecting Just to Be Liked? 2 Steps to Stop People Pleasing & Be Yourself

  Are you afraid that if people saw the real you, they’d walk away?If you’ve ever felt like you had to wear a mask just to be accepted, this episode is for you. I spent over 50 years shape-shifting into who I thought others needed me to be—just to avoid rejection. But all that time, I was quietly rejecting myself.In this episode, I share the two powerful shifts that helped me finally drop the mask, stop people-pleasing, and start living as the real me—without apology. We’ll talk about:the high cost of fake acceptance,how to reframe rejection, andwhat it really takes to build self-trust and authentic connection.Watch the YouTube video: How I let go of the fear of rejection to finally be happy!If you'd like to know more about what coaching with me looks like, please email me at [email protected] or schedule a Clarity Call on my calendar here.Get on my email list and stay up-to-date on all the happenings by downloading my FREE guide: 20 Ways To Say "No" Without GuiltSend us a text

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• 67. People Pleasing: How to Break Free Without Guilt; 20 Things I Refuse to Feel Guilty About in Midlife

  Are you constantly feeling guilty for saying no, putting yourself first, or just needing a break? I used to feel that way too. Guilt whispered that I was selfish, lazy, or letting people down. So I kept over-giving, over-doing, and over-apologizing… until I finally said "enough."I faced decades of saying yes when I meant no, repressing my own needs, and living under the weight of other people’s expectations. In this episode, I’m diving into the 20 things I finally stopped feeling guilty about—and how each one helped me:Break the cycle of people‑pleasing in midlifeOvercome guilt and shame around setting boundariesReclaim my time, energy, and self‑worth, andLive more joyfully—without resentmentIf you're tired of feeling invisible, drained, or like you don't deserve simple pleasures (like rest, choice, and pride in your own life), this episode is for you.If you'd like to know more about what coaching with me looks like, please email me at [email protected] or schedule a free Clarity Call: https://calendly.com/heidi-gustafson/30minSpecific YouTube video mentioned in episode: "This people-pleasing habit destroys your confidence"More resources on my YouTube channel: https://www.youtube.com/@MasteringMidlifeWithHeidiGet on my email list and stay up-to-date on all the happenings by downloading my FREE guide: 20 Ways To Say "No" Without GuiltSend us a text

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