The Black Mother Wound Podcast

This week’s episode was recorded live at the 2026 Mental Wealth Expo hosted by Charlamagne Tha God and the Mental Wealth Alliance.
I’m joined by licensed therapist and author Minaa B for a conversation about the Black mother wound, sibling relationships and what happens when the mother who hurt you becomes the mother who needs your care.
We talk about:
-How the mother wound impacts self-trust, confidence and people pleasing
-Why siblings can grow up in the same house and have completely different experiences
-Favoritism, competition and emotional neglect between siblings
-How childhood roles follow us into our adult sibling relationships
-Caring for an aging or toxic mother without abandoning yourself
-Why caregiving does not have to mean sacrificing your mental health
-Setting boundaries with family while still showing compassion
-Letting go of the need to prove you’re a “good daughter”
Healing your mother wound is not about fixing your relationship with your mother. It’s about healing the relationship you have with yourself.
Keep the conversation going on Instagram @BlackMotherWound.
More about Minaa B: Minaa B. is a highly sought-after licensed therapist, author of Owning Our Struggles, and creator of The Siblinghood Theory, a relational framework that examines how sibling and peer relationships shape how we navigate belonging, conflict, and connection throughout life. An expert in her field, Minaa has been featured in numerous media outlets, including The TODAY Show, BBC, CNN, and more. She hosts This Feels Familiar, a podcast that explores the relational patterns that keep people stuck, and serves as a relationship expert for eharmony. Minnab.com Instagram
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What happens after you’ve spent years healing your mother wound?
At some point, you have to start living.
In this episode, I’m talking about having the audacity to go after the life you actually want, especially when you didn’t grow up with someone encouraging your dreams, believing in you or teaching you how to believe in yourself.
I share what this looks like in my own life as I return to the parts of myself that have always been there, including writing my first novel, working on a documentary and fully embracing myself as an artist.
We talk about:
Becoming someone different from who your mother expected you to be
• Why healing requires more than understanding your pain
• Building a community that supports who you’re becoming
• Learning to trust your dreams without needing everyone else to understand them
• Starting before you know exactly how everything will work
• Doing the thing because you love it, not because it has to immediately make money
• Giving yourself permission to change, pivot and want more
If you’ve been doing this work for a while, the question becomes: What are you healing for if you’re not going to change your life?
You don’t need the entire roadmap. You need to trust yourself enough to start and keep going.
Keep the conversation going on Instagram @JenniferArnise or @BlackMotherWound.
Here’s the link to ask your questions. And here’s the information about the Mental Wealth Alliance Expo
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This episode is a little different. You’re listening to audio from the live episode of the Black Mother Wound Podcast I recorded in June 2026 in front of a live audience.

And y’all came with the questions.

We talked about what healing actually looks like when your mother is still in your life, how the mother wound follows us into friendships and romantic relationships, rebuilding trust with our children and learning how to create safety within ourselves.

Because healing your mother wound is not about having a better relationship with your mother. It’s about having a better relationship with yourself.

We talk about:
• Setting boundaries when you’re still in contact with your mother
• Creating safety for your inner little girl
• Why healing can feel lonely when old relationships begin to fall away
• People pleasing, overgiving and learning when enough is enough
• Protecting your story when people judge your relationship with your mother
• Repairing relationships with your children after recognizing your own patterns
• Building confidence through evidence and experience
• Learning how to connect without overinvesting in relationships

Healing changes how you relate to your mother, but it also changes how you relate to yourself and everybody around you.

Keep the conversation going on Instagram @JenniferArnise or @BlackMotherWound.
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Do I ever regret the time you lost because of your mother wound?

I do.

When you start healing, you can look back and see just how much your relationship with your mother shaped your choices, relationships, confidence and the life you built. And there can be real grief in realizing what might have been different.

In this episode, I’m talking about what we do with that regret without getting stuck in resentment. Because grieving what you didn’t get doesn’t mean your life is over. Sometimes allowing yourself to finally feel that loss is exactly what makes room for joy, possibility and the parts of yourself you thought you lost.

I also share what healing has looked like for me lately, including returning to my creativity and finally writing the novel I’ve wanted to write since I was a teenager.

We talk about:
Regretting choices you made from an unhealed place
Grieving the life you thought you could have had
Why resentment can keep an emotional debt open that no one is going to repay
Learning to give yourself what your mother couldn’t give you
Returning to dreams and desires you abandoned years ago
How healing can give you a second chance at your own life

Your joy did not die because of your relationship with your mother. Your possibilities didn’t either.

So ask yourself: What is something you wanted earlier in your life that you can reach back for now?

Keep the conversation going on Instagram @JenniferArnise or @BlackMotherWound.

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In this episode of the Black Mother Wound Podcast, Jennifer answers a listener question about what happens when you ignore healing your mother wound and how to become more consistent in healing your inner little girl.
Jennifer breaks down a truth that sits at the center of this work: the mother wound is not just about the relationship you have with your mother. It is about the relationship you have with yourself. More specifically, it is about the relationship you have with your inner little girl.
This episode is a firm and loving call back to self. Jennifer explains how ignoring your healing causes you to repeat the same abandonment, rejection, dismissal, and lack of care that hurt you in the first place. When you ignore your needs, silence your body, chase approval, over give, people please, or abandon yourself to be seen as good, your inner little girl experiences that as another betrayal.
Jennifer challenges listeners to stop making healing conditional. You cannot only care for your inner little girl because you want a better relationship, a marriage, more money, peace, or a different outcome. She deserves care because she is yours. Period.
This conversation is for the Black woman who keeps showing up for everybody else but still struggles to show up for herself. It is for the woman who says she is tired of healing, but has not realized that taking a break from healing can sometimes mean leaving her inner little girl alone again. Jennifer reminds us that this work is not a trend, not a 30 day challenge, and not something you pick up only when life falls apart. It is a lifelong commitment.
Key Takeaways
The mother wound is not only about what your mother did. It is about what you now do to yourself because of what happened.
If you are abandoning, rejecting, dismissing, or withholding care from yourself, your inner little girl is still living inside the wound.
Approval addiction will have you sacrificing your inner little girl just so other people can see you as good.
Healing cannot be conditional. Your inner little girl does not need to perform, improve, or help you get something before she deserves care.
Your body is always giving you information. The tightness, fear, anxiety, anger, resentment, and numbness are not random. They are messages.
You may have been waiting for your mother to apologize, but you also owe your inner little girl an apology.
Consistency does not mean you never mess up. It means you keep coming back, repairing, listening, and choosing her again.
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