Don't Depend On Daddy

Being an adult is so hard because of the constant, low-level decisions that never stop - the scheduling, the errands, the emails, the meals, the maintenance, and the mental load that quietly piles up in the background of daily life. In this episode, I’m breaking down the systems and skills that have made my adult life feel calmer, more predictable, and more manageable. Instead of relying on motivation or discipline, these are practical frameworks I use to reduce decision fatigue, lower stress, and support my nervous system through everyday life. We talk about scheduling in a way that actually works, why maintenance prevents burnout, how to manage life admin without overwhelm, why feeding yourself consistently matters more than you think, and how self-regulation ties everything together. This episode is about building a life that feels lighter - not by doing more, but by creating systems that support you when things get busy.

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TIMESTAMPS:
00:00 – Why adulthood feels overwhelming in the small moments
03:10 – The hidden mental load no one teaches you to manage
06:05 – Why willpower fails and systems actually work
09:10 – Scheduling as a tool for mental relief, not control
13:40 – How weekly planning reduces daily overwhelm
18:05 – Why maintenance prevents burnout before it starts
23:10 – Managing life admin so it stops hanging over you
28:30 – Feeding yourself without stress as an adult skill
33:45 – Self-regulation and reducing constant overstimulation
38:10 – Building a calmer, more manageable adult life

As I think about 2026, I’ve realized that for the first time ever, I’m not craving more ambition, more structure, or more systems. I’m craving less, and I want to create more peace and calm in my daily life. In this episode, I’m sharing why regulating my nervous system has become one of my biggest personal goals this year, and how I’m intentionally becoming more analog to support that. We talk about overstimulation, doom scrolling, decision fatigue, and how constant input has quietly become normalized in our lives. I walk through the practical shifts I’m making - from using paper instead of apps, reading physical books, sitting in silence, reducing phone time, and creating calmer mornings and evenings - along with the mental patterns I’m unlearning around productivity, stimulation, and burnout. This is a grounded, honest conversation about slowing down, reducing noise, and creating space to actually feel calm again.

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TIMESTAMPS:
0:00 – Why I’m craving less, not more, in 2026
2:10 – Becoming more analog and why nervous system regulation matters
4:00 – Doom scrolling, stimulation, and why silence feels uncomfortable
6:30 – Living alone, constant input, and mental exhaustion
9:00 – Choosing physical cues over digital ones
11:00 – Using paper, notebooks, and writing things out
13:30 – Capturing less and letting moments exist
16:00 – Reading physical books and learning with intention
18:00 – Sitting in silence, sauna time, and walks without headphones
21:00 – Calmer mornings, evenings, and reducing decision fatigue

January is the one month of the year where I intentionally slow down, simplify, and refocus on my health and wellness without turning it into a rigid challenge or restrictive reset that I can't stick to. In this episode, I walk you through my full January wellness protocol - a flexible, realistic framework I use to rebuild momentum after the holidays, regulate my nervous system, and reset my habits in a way that actually sticks. Instead of forcing myself into things like 75 Hard or Whole30, I focus on daily non-negotiables and weekly add-ons that reduce decision fatigue and support my energy, digestion, sleep, and routines. I break down my daily wellness anchors, my weekly focus habits, how I think about discipline versus forcing, and why January is the easiest month of the year to build sustainable momentum. This episode is meant to feel grounding, practical, and adaptable - whether you’re listening in January or any time you need a gentle reset.

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0:00 – Why I don’t do New Year’s resolutions and how I use January instead
2:00 – Why January is the easiest month to build momentum
3:30 – What I actually mean by a “wellness protocol”
5:30 – Discipline vs forcing yourself into restrictive challenges
7:00 – The structure: daily anchors vs weekly focus habits
8:30 – My morning wellness lineup and digestion routine
10:30 – Skincare, body care, and slowing down in winter
12:30 – Fiber, movement minimums, and realistic fitness expectations
14:00 – Sleep hygiene, phone boundaries, and winding down
16:30 – Weekly add-ons: sauna, face masks, juicing, and organizing

The start of a new year comes with a lot of pressure - to rebrand, overhaul your life, and fix everything all at once. In this episode, I’m sharing why I don’t believe in New Year’s resolutions, why I think they fail most people, and how I approach resetting in a way that actually lasts.

We walk through a real reflection on 2025: what changed my life, what habits worked, what didn’t, and where I got in my own way. Then I share how I’m setting themes (not resolutions) for 2026 across money, wellness, routines, home, and career - plus the systems I’m putting in place to support them.

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TIMESTAMPS:
00:00 — Intro: why I hate the pressure of New Year rebrands
02:00 — Why New Year’s resolutions don’t work (and abandonment day)
04:00 — No-buy years vs. no-buy January (and why extremes fail)
06:00 — How I think about change: slow, intentional, lifestyle-based
08:00 — Reflecting on 2025: what changed my life
12:00 — Habits that worked: phone boundaries, sleep, cleanliness
15:00 — What didn’t work: cooking ruts, hermit mode, adjustment periods
19:00 — Setting themes for 2026 instead of resolutions
23:00 — Who I want to be by the end of 2026
30:00 — January rituals, documentaries, and closing reflections

In this annual State of the Union episode, I’m sharing what’s officially in and out for me in 2026 - from habits and routines to mindset shifts, consumption patterns, and how I want my life to feel going into the new year. We talk about de-centering excessive scrolling, refining consumption, prioritizing sleep and mental health, and leaning harder into hobbies, creativity, and long-form content. I also share the wellness routines, lifestyle shifts, and creators that are inspiring me right now as I move into a slower, more intentional season.

This episode is less about resolutions and more about direction — what I’m choosing to give energy to, and what I’m consciously letting go of.

🎧 Topics include:
👉🏻 My 2026 “outs” (habits, patterns, and energy drains)
👉🏻 My 2026 “ins” (routines, hobbies, wellness, and creativity)
👉🏻 De-centering scrolling, drinking, and over-committing
👉🏻 Sleep hygiene, mental health, and early mornings
👉🏻 Analog hobbies, classes, and learning for joy
👉🏻 Creators I’ve been loving lately (on IG/TT)
@glowwithella , @thewellnessprocesspod , @beccahimsworth , @gabrielleaihara , @kayliestewart, @plantbasedbaby

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💸 NEW RENT VS. BUY CALCULATOR
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💳 Tools + Cards I Use:
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AmEx Platinum: https://tinyurl.com/mpf7u7uy
Bilt Rewards: https://tinyurl.com/4kd8s33a
Blue Cash Everyday: https://tinyurl.com/yrcbr2ac

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TIMESTAMPS:
0:00 – Welcome + 2026 State of the Union overview
2:30 – Gratitude, podcast growth, and leaning into long-form content
5:15 – OUT: Excessive scrolling and low-value TikTok consumption
8:45 – OUT: Drinking culture, over-committing, and overworking
12:30 – OUT: Overconsumption and low-quality spending habits
16:00 – OUT: Anxiety patterns, late nights, and decentering dating
20:30 – IN: Elevated casual living and daily luxuries
23:45 – IN: Tea rituals, bricking my phone, and analog hobbies
27:15 – IN: Early mornings, reading, sauna, and wellness routines
30:00 – Creators I’ve been loving + closing thoughts for 2026