Just Follow Joy

We've all heard it: to manifest what you want, "act as if." 
 
Act as if you're the person who has what you want. 
Act as if you're already there.
Act as if your desired reality is your current reality.
 
Which IS great advice!
 
But what if what you want is 💸money 💸 and "acting as if" would mean that you're spending in ways your bank account can't support right now? 
 
What if it would put you into an even more stressful situation, like debt (or more debt)? What if you know you're already dealing with an overspending habit? What if this just, IDK, feels wrong?
 
The good news is you can still do this – WITHOUT making risky financial decisions, getting into debt, or getting into *more* debt.
 
In this week's episode, I'm giving you a simple solution you can use at any time to "act as if" (and manifest what you want), no matter where you are financially right now.
 
🕒 TIMESTAMPS 🕒
 
00:00:00 - Why I'm recording this
00:01:34 - It all comes down to THIS
00:04:48 - The real reason we tell you to act as if
00:07:26 - For it to work, you gotta know this… 
00:09:16 - Two stories
00:12:41 - The solution! (3 steps)
00:15:59 - I "shouldn't" do this, but I do.
00:16:49 - Intuition vs scarcity mindset
00:17:38 - What feels good right now?
00:18:41 - Q+A!
 
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For most of us, detaching from our desires (i.e., releasing our vulcan grip on them) is the key to getting what we want.
But! It's also one of the TOUGHEST things for us to do. 
So even if you *know* it's the one thing you need to do in order to finaaaaaally get what you want, it can be a lot easier said that done.
Thats why in this episode, I'm explaining how and why detachment works, what it really looks like in practice, along with real-life advice for how to actually do it -- even if the idea of "letting go" freaks you the fuck out.
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🕖 TIMESTAMPS 🕖
00:00:00 - Juanes ruined my life
00:02:38 - Detaching… when it freaks you out
00:05:37 - What detaching really is (and what it isn't)
00:08:02 - Why it works 
00:09:31 - Your desires are already coming to you
00:13:59 - We don't manifest things, we manifest *these*
00:17:49 - Why attachment creates resistance
00:22:26 - "But I can't just do nothing!"
00:24:37 - "I'm ALREADY doing nothing! And look at me!"
00:25:53 - What aren't you letting yourself feel?
00:29:08 - Detaching = living "as if"
00:30:18 - What if it's a given?
00:33:34 - THIS is when you get what you want
00:34:29 - She made $600M by detaching
00:37:05 - From waiting tables to winning Emmys
00:38:12 - Why doesn't detaching work for some people?
00:41:14 - You can just let the f*ck go now
00:42:03 - Learn more!
 
👉🏼Manifesting through presence interview (w/ Sam Schneider): https://youtu.be/TJ3Wkw6Tqfc?si=akWSnePjGL0sMMYM
👉🏼 High Vibin't it Detachment episode: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/high-vibin-it-manifesting-self-love-for-spiritual-women/id1467828055?i=1000743983970 
 
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In Human Design, your Incarnation Cross is your core life theme, or what you might call your life's purpose. In one way or another, it's what you're here to get done.
But, like, what if you read the description, and… 
The job/career/life experiences you want don't seem to fit into that?

You feel drawn to something, but aren't sure if it's "correct" according to your cross?

You can't see how it applies to you?

Your cross is vague or doesn't make any sense?

Or (worst of all) your cross sounds, like, SUPER BORING???? 
Do you have to change jobs? Do you need to move countries? Do you need to turn your entire life upside down?
Nope 😀
Probably none of that (unless you actually feel called to).
The Incarnation Cross is cool, but it's not something you ever have to effort your way into.
Instead, you want to focus somewhere else entirely – and that's exactly what we're going to talk about today!
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🕓 TIMESTAMPS 🕓
00:00:00 - Help! My IC doesn't "fit" my dream job
00:01:01 - Incarnation Crosses (overview)
00:01:02 - The biggest misunderstanding
00:03:54 - Mystery celeb IC #1
00:08:23 - Mystery celeb IC #2
00:11:59 - You're always living your design
00:12:58 - How to actually "use" your IC
00:14:51 - What NOT to do
00:16:03 - Purpose is the byproduct, not the goal
00:17:37 - How to know if you're meant for a certain job/career
00:18:47 - My IC and my work
00:19:32 - If your IC doesn't sound like your dream job
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Conflict. Woof. 
As someone who was raised in a home with constant conflict (but no model for how to actually deal with it in a healthy or productive way), I learned to see it as completely destructive – and to be avoided, at all costs. 
But, as I bop along in life, one thing has become clear to me:
If you want to hit your goals, do what you love, and be yourself… you gotta learn how to handle this stuff. 
I know it can be tough (I'm right there with you), so today I'm talking to Dr. Jen Fry, who's got this on lock ✊🏼
Jen is a Sports Geographer, tech founder, TEDx speaker, and sought-after speaker and educator. Her firm, JenFryTalks, specializes in transforming organizational dynamics by addressing how conflict and culture shape leadership and overall business outcomes. 
She's also the author of I Said NO: How To Have Boundaries And Backbone While Not Being A Jerk: The No-Bullsh*t Guide to Setting Boundaries, Speaking Up, and Being Unbothered by Other People's Feelings.
An expert on conflict and confrontation, in this episode she explains what conflict really tells us, and how to deal with it – in a way that serves everyone.
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🕙TIMESTAMPS 🕙
 
00:00:00 - Intro
00:02:40 - Sports Geography, intersectionality, and conflict
00:07:40 - Why Jen decided to get into "conflict work"
00:12:37 - Gate 6 (Conflict) in HD
00:17:06 - The #1 reason conflicts don't resolve
00:18:29 - What Jen asks people to help them feel heard
00:19:16 - How to answer someone's question when they seem hostile
00:23:38 - How to address aggressive behavior w/o being reactive
00:29:07 - The solar plexus, emotions + confrontation
00:31:27 - Growing up in a non-conflict household
00:34:51 - Before reconciling, ALWAYS do THIS
00:36:27 - Success stories!
00:39:31 - Do you really need to resolve it…?
00:42:23 - What to do if people don't support you doing what you love
 
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💻Jen's website: https://jenfrytalks.com/ 
📷Jen's IG: https://www.instagram.com/jenfrytalks/ 
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The other day, I got a comment on a YouTube video asking if there's anything "physical" thing I do (not just mindset based) to manifest what I want. 
The answer is: yes! 
In this quickie episode, I tell you what that is – but more importantly, I tell you how I know what to do in the first place, and how you can do that, too. Because at the end of the day, it always comes down to what's right for YOU.
Here's the video I mentioned: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=y2XL57qd3Dw&pp=0gcJCR0AztywvtLA 
 
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