Sunday School Dropouts

On today’s episode of Sunday School Dropouts we will be talking to Cody Harman, a certified fitness coach and nutritionist! Cody shares his story of growing up within evangelicalism and purity culture being socialized female, coming out and transitioning. Cody’s lets us in on his process of healing from the shame and harm that was caused by high control religion and offers encouragement and hope on the journey of healing. You can find Cody at the following places:
• Instagram: @mrcoachcody_scoobyprep
• TikTok: @mrcoachcody
• Facebook: Cody Harman
• Twitter: @mrcoachcody
YouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/@Codytalks11/featured
• Website: www.codyharman.com
This podcast is brought to you by the Center for Trauma Resolution and Recovery: an online trauma coaching company whose practitioners are trauma informed and trauma trained to work with individuals, couples and families who have experienced high control religion, cults, and religious trauma. For more information on the support that CTRR provides, for resources–including courses, workshops, and more–head to traumaresolutionandrecovery.com or follow us on Instagram: @traumaresolutionandrecovery 
The views and opinions expressed by Sunday School Dropouts are those of the hosts and not necessarily reflect the official policy or position of the Center for Trauma Resolution and Recovery. Any of the content provided by our guests, sponsors, authors, or bloggers are their own ideas and opinions.
The Sunday School Dropouts podcast is not anti-religion but it is anti -harm, -power and control, -oppression and, -abuse and will speak to the harmful practices and messaging of fundamentalist groups. 
Follow Andrew on Instagram and TikTok @deconstruct_everything 
Follow Laura on Instagram and TikTok @drlauraeanderson or on her website: www.drlauraeanderson.com 
Music by Benjamin Faye Music @heytherebenji 
Editing and Production by Kevin Crowe

In this episode, Laura is joined by Dan Miller for his fifth visit to the show to dissect the complex intersections of modern masculinity and religious extremism. Using Senator Josh Hawley's book as a primary case study, the discussion explores why certain conservative movements choose the biblical figure of Adam over Jesus as their primary archetype for manhood. This shift reflects a broader desire for a dominant alpha male figure that aligns more closely with imperial power than the humble and sacrificial themes found in the Gospels. The conversation examines how this ideological framework feeds into a larger pipeline connecting the secular manosphere with high control religious environments, offering men a sense of certainty and hierarchy in an increasingly unstable world.
The dialogue also addresses the genuine social crises contributing to male loneliness and identity loss, such as economic shifts and a lack of community purpose. Rather than providing constructive solutions, these movements often redirect valid frustrations toward marginalized groups or a nostalgic, mythic vision of the Roman Empire. Miller and Laura explore the psychological defense mechanisms of aggression and the difficulty many men face when sitting with insecurity or trauma. The episode concludes by highlighting healthier alternatives to traditional patriarchy, emphasizing the importance of vulnerability, collaborative parenting, and the quiet strength found in caring professions and civic engagement.
Share your purity culture stories with us by leaving a voicemail or sending your story to us!
This podcast is brought to you by the Center for Trauma Resolution and Recovery: an online trauma coaching company whose practitioners are trauma informed and trauma trained to work with individuals, couples and families who have experienced high control religion, cults, and religious trauma. For more information on the support that CTRR provides, for resources–including courses, workshops, and more–head to traumaresolutionandrecovery.com or follow us on Instagram: @traumaresolutionandrecovery 
The views and opinions expressed by Sunday School Dropouts are those of the hosts and not necessarily reflect the official policy or position of the Center for Trauma Resolution and Recovery. Any of the content provided by our guests, sponsors, authors, or bloggers are their own ideas and opinions.
The Sunday School Dropouts podcast is not anti-religion but it is anti -harm, -power and control, -oppression and, -abuse and will speak to the harmful practices and messaging of fundamentalist groups. 
Follow Andrew on Instagram and TikTok @andrew_kerbs
To begin working with Andrew as a coach, schedule your FREE inquiry call here
Follow Laura on Instagram and TikTok @drlauraeanderson or on her website: www.drlauraeanderson.com 
To work with Laura as a coach, therapist, consultant, or to inquire about other services, you can do so here
Hosts: 
Laura Anderson and Andrew Kerbs
Music by Benjamin Faye Music @heytherebenji

In this deep dive into the Hulu phenomenon The Secret Lives of Mormon Wives, host Laura is joined by licensed marriage and family therapist Ashley Buckner to peel back the layers of drama and reveal the complex psychological machinery underneath. The duo explores how the Mormon influencer pipeline was born from a culture of polished aesthetics and public testimony, and why the sudden shift in financial power—where women become primary breadwinners in patriarchal households—creates such volatile relational friction. From the Momtok aesthetic to the systemic roots of oversharing, this episode examines how religious conditioning prepares women for the camera while simultaneously stifling their personal development.
Beyond the viral TikToks, the conversation tackles the heavy reality of identity foreclosure and arrested development, explaining why early marriage often leads to acting out later in life. Buckner provides a compassionate, trauma-informed perspective on the cast's experiences, specifically looking at somatic symptoms of sexual trauma and the ways purity culture inflates and weaponizes the concept of cheating. Whether you are a fan of the show or a survivor of a high-control group, this episode offers a frank discussion on generational trauma, the lack of boundaries inherent in confession culture, and why some therapists actually recommend this reality TV trainwreck as a legitimate tool for deconstructing religious trauma.
Share your purity culture stories with us by leaving a voicemail or sending your story to us!
This podcast is brought to you by the Center for Trauma Resolution and Recovery: an online trauma coaching company whose practitioners are trauma informed and trauma trained to work with individuals, couples and families who have experienced high control religion, cults, and religious trauma. For more information on the support that CTRR provides, for resources–including courses, workshops, and more–head to traumaresolutionandrecovery.com or follow us on Instagram: @traumaresolutionandrecovery 
The views and opinions expressed by Sunday School Dropouts are those of the hosts and not necessarily reflect the official policy or position of the Center for Trauma Resolution and Recovery. Any of the content provided by our guests, sponsors, authors, or bloggers are their own ideas and opinions.
The Sunday School Dropouts podcast is not anti-religion but it is anti -harm, -power and control, -oppression and, -abuse and will speak to the harmful practices and messaging of fundamentalist groups. 
Follow Andrew on Instagram and TikTok @andrew_kerbs
To begin working with Andrew as a coach, schedule your FREE inquiry call here
Follow Laura on Instagram and TikTok @drlauraeanderson or on her website: www.drlauraeanderson.com 
To work with Laura as a coach, therapist, consultant, or to inquire about other services, you can do so here
Hosts: 
Laura Anderson and Andrew Kerbs
Music by Benjamin Faye Music @heytherebenji

In this deep dive into the Hulu phenomenon The Secret Lives of Mormon Wives, host Laura is joined by licensed marriage and family therapist Ashley Buckner to peel back the layers of drama and reveal the complex psychological machinery underneath. The duo explores how the Mormon influencer pipeline was born from a culture of polished aesthetics and public testimony, and why the sudden shift in financial power—where women become primary breadwinners in patriarchal households—creates such volatile relational friction. From the Momtok aesthetic to the systemic roots of oversharing, this episode examines how religious conditioning prepares women for the camera while simultaneously stifling their personal development.
Beyond the viral TikToks, the conversation tackles the heavy reality of identity foreclosure and arrested development, explaining why early marriage often leads to acting out later in life. Buckner provides a compassionate, trauma-informed perspective on the cast's experiences, specifically looking at somatic symptoms of sexual trauma and the ways purity culture inflates and weaponizes the concept of cheating. Whether you are a fan of the show or a survivor of a high-control group, this episode offers a frank discussion on generational trauma, the lack of boundaries inherent in confession culture, and why some therapists actually recommend this reality TV trainwreck as a legitimate tool for deconstructing religious trauma.
This podcast is brought to you by the Center for Trauma Resolution and Recovery: an online trauma coaching company whose practitioners are trauma informed and trauma trained to work with individuals, couples and families who have experienced high control religion, cults, and religious trauma. For more information on the support that CTRR provides, for resources–including courses, workshops, and more–head to traumaresolutionandrecovery.com or follow us on Instagram: @traumaresolutionandrecovery 
The views and opinions expressed by Sunday School Dropouts are those of the hosts and not necessarily reflect the official policy or position of the Center for Trauma Resolution and Recovery. Any of the content provided by our guests, sponsors, authors, or bloggers are their own ideas and opinions.
The Sunday School Dropouts podcast is not anti-religion but it is anti -harm, -power and control, -oppression and, -abuse and will speak to the harmful practices and messaging of fundamentalist groups. 
Follow Andrew on Instagram and TikTok @andrew_kerbs
To begin working with Andrew as a coach, schedule your FREE inquiry call here
Follow Laura on Instagram and TikTok @drlauraeanderson or on her website: www.drlauraeanderson.com 
To work with Laura as a coach, therapist, consultant, or to inquire about other services, you can do so here
Hosts: 
Laura Anderson and Andrew Kerbs
Music by Benjamin Faye Music @heytherebenji

In this episode of Sunday School Dropouts, Andrew and Laura deconstruct the complex intersection of high control religion and the controversial labels of sex and porn addiction. They explore how purity culture utilizes shame-based language and abstinence-only messaging to pathologize normal sexual development, often through influential texts like Every Man’s Battle. The discussion clarifies that neither the DSM nor the WHO recognizes sex addiction as a clinical diagnosis. Instead, the hosts look at Compulsive Sexual Behavior Disorder through a scientific lens, focusing on impulse control and the nervous system rather than moral failure. By examining how these behaviors often serve as attempts to self-regulate in the face of ADHD, trauma, or anxiety, the episode reveals how the church frequently creates the very cycles of secrecy it claims to cure.
The conversation further examines the profound damage these teachings inflict on individuals and their relationships. For men, this often results in a fragmented identity and a narrative of being inherently predatory, while women are frequently burdened with hypervigilance and the responsibility of monitoring male behavior. These dynamics replace genuine intimacy with surveillance and enmeshment, eroding trust between partners. Andrew and Laura shift the focus toward a healthier path to healing that prioritizes somatic work, internal coping skills, and the reclamation of personal agency. By moving away from the "just stop" approach that consistently backfires, listeners are invited to consider a more compassionate, evidence-based understanding of sexual health and recovery.
This podcast is brought to you by the Center for Trauma Resolution and Recovery: an online trauma coaching company whose practitioners are trauma informed and trauma trained to work with individuals, couples and families who have experienced high control religion, cults, and religious trauma. For more information on the support that CTRR provides, for resources–including courses, workshops, and more–head to traumaresolutionandrecovery.com or follow us on Instagram: @traumaresolutionandrecovery 
The views and opinions expressed by Sunday School Dropouts are those of the hosts and not necessarily reflect the official policy or position of the Center for Trauma Resolution and Recovery. Any of the content provided by our guests, sponsors, authors, or bloggers are their own ideas and opinions.
The Sunday School Dropouts podcast is not anti-religion but it is anti -harm, -power and control, -oppression and, -abuse and will speak to the harmful practices and messaging of fundamentalist groups. 
Follow Andrew on Instagram and TikTok @andrew_kerbs
To begin working with Andrew as a coach, schedule your FREE inquiry call here
Follow Laura on Instagram and TikTok @drlauraeanderson or on her website: www.drlauraeanderson.com 
To work with Laura as a coach, therapist, consultant, or to inquire about other services, you can do so here
Hosts: 
Laura Anderson and Andrew Kerbs
Music by Benjamin Faye Music @heytherebenji