You Are Not Broken

In this episode of You Are Not Broken, I sit down with Dr. Sunny Smith — physician, coach, and fierce advocate for women in medicine — for a conversation that felt both deeply personal and urgently necessary.

We talk about the transformative power of coaching and why so many high-achieving women still struggle with self-doubt. If you’ve ever downplayed your accomplishments, hesitated to speak up in a room full of men, or questioned whether you’re “expert enough,” this episode is for you.

Dr. Smith and I share personal stories from our own careers that highlight the subtle (and not-so-subtle) gender dynamics embedded in medical culture. We explore how women physicians are often socialized to overwork, over-give, and under-claim their authority — and how that conditioning impacts not only our careers, but our health.

This conversation is about agency.

It’s about recognizing that your thoughts create your feelings, your feelings drive your actions, and your actions determine your results. If you believe you’re “not ready,” you’ll play small. If you believe you belong, you’ll act differently — and the world will respond differently.

We also talk about:


Why coaching works (especially for high-achieving professionals)


How women are conditioned to minimize their expertise


The cost of self-abandonment in medicine


Gender bias in healthcare — both as physicians and as patients


What it actually means to advocate for yourself


Why questioning limiting beliefs is a radical act


The ripple effect of empowered women physicians

This episode isn’t about blaming the system. It’s about understanding it — and then deciding who you want to be inside of it.

Because when women own their expertise, take up space, and stop apologizing for their ambition, everything changes — for us, for our patients, and for medicine itself.

You are not broken.
You are powerful.
And you’re allowed to act like it.

Dr. Smith's Empowering Women Physician Website

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In this episode of You Are Not Broken, I sit down with Dr. Lisa Miller — psychologist, researcher, and author — to talk about something we don’t discuss enough in medicine: spirituality as a measurable, protective force in women’s lives.

Not religion.
Not dogma.
But spirituality — the innate human capacity to feel connected, guided, and held in meaning.

And friends… this one is powerful.

Dr. Miller shares the science behind spirituality, including data showing that an active spiritual life can dramatically reduce the risk of depression, substance use, and hopelessness. We talk about how spirituality isn’t fluffy — it’s neurologically real, biologically protective, and especially alive in women.

I loved this conversation because it reframes struggle. So many of us think our hardest seasons mean we’re broken. What if they’re actually the doorway?

We discuss:


Why every woman is a Ferrari — powerful, finely tuned, and built for depth


The research showing spirituality cuts depression and addiction risk


How crisis can become spiritual awakening


The concept of “high counsel” — the guidance that is available to us when we’re willing to listen


Why engaging with our feelings (instead of bypassing them) is the path forward


The unique spiritual intelligence women carry


Why men often struggle differently in their spiritual development


Post-traumatic spiritual growth


And how to cultivate your innate spirituality without subscribing to anyone else’s rulebook

One of my favorite takeaways?
Spirituality isn’t something you earn. It’s something you remember.

We talk about how women are often socialized to disconnect from their inner voice — from intuition, from knowing. Reconnecting to that voice is not indulgent. It’s medicine.

This episode isn’t about telling you what to believe.
It’s about reminding you that you are wired for meaning.

And that you are never alone in your becoming.

If you’ve been walking through something hard…
If you’ve felt unmoored…
If you’ve wondered whether there’s something more…

This conversation is for you.

The Awakened Brain by Dr. Miller

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In this episode of You Are Not Broken, I sit down with Dr. Kate White and Jay White to talk about something we don’t discuss enough: what actually happens to marriages in midlife.

Because midlife isn’t just hot flashes and hormones. It’s identity shifts. Career pivots. Aging parents. Changing bodies. Evolving desire. And if we don’t talk about it, it can quietly unravel connection.

We explore how hormonal changes — especially in perimenopause and menopause — can significantly impact intimacy, mood, and relational dynamics. When libido shifts or sex becomes uncomfortable, couples often misinterpret it as rejection instead of biology. That misunderstanding creates distance.

We talk about how communication — real, vulnerable, scheduled communication — is essential. Not just “How was your day?” but “How are we doing?” So many couples assume the other person should just know what they need. They don’t. Curiosity is a skill.

We also discuss:


Why midlife is often framed negatively — but can actually be deeply transformative


The common pattern of women initiating divorce when they feel unseen or unheard


The difference between sex and intimacy — and why emotional closeness fuels physical connection


How counseling can create a safe space to untangle resentment and rebuild trust


Why adapting to change — instead of resisting it — is key to long-term partnership

One of the most powerful themes of this episode is that midlife doesn’t destroy marriages. Silence does.

When couples understand what’s happening — hormonally, emotionally, relationally — they can respond with compassion instead of blame.

Marriage in midlife requires evolution. It requires honesty. It requires both people staying curious about who their partner is becoming.

And when that happens? Midlife can be a season of deeper connection — not disconnection.

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In this episode of You Are Not Broken, I sit down with urologist Dr. Una Lee to talk about what women actually need in midlife care — and why the system still makes it so hard to get.

We dive into the importance of patient-centered research — studying what truly matters to women: quality of life, sexual health, urinary symptoms, and comfort. If we don’t measure those things, we miss the point.

We also discuss the removal of the boxed warning language on vaginal estrogen and how correcting misinformation has already improved prescribing and access. Fear limited care for years. Data changes that.

We cover:


Why education on vaginal estrogen and GSM is essential


The research gap in testosterone therapy for women


The importance of pelvic floor physical therapy as first-line care


Informed consent and nuance in surgical conversations


Ongoing barriers to hormonal access

The big theme? Women are living longer — and our healthcare system needs to evolve with them.

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Thanks to our sponsor ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Midi Women's Health⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. Designed by midlife experts, delivered by experienced clinicians, covered by insurance.Midi is the first virtual care clinic made exclusively for women 40+. Evidence-based treatments. Personalized midlife care.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.joinmidi.com⁠
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Today I talk with the producers, directors and star (Cindy Eckert) of The Pink Pill out on Paramount +

 @thepinkpillfilm  

Aisling Chin-Yee, Director: @aislingchinyee 

Cindy Eckert: @cindypinkceoExecutive Producers: Julie Bristow (Catalyst), Abby Greensfelder (Everywoman Studios), Vibika Bianchi, Aisling Chin-Yee and Joanna Griffiths (Knix). 

Now streaming on @paramountplus @paramountplusca

M Factor Screening March 22 Bellingham, WA

Listen to my Tedx Talk: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Why we need adult sex ed⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

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Thanks to our sponsor ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Midi Women's Health⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. Designed by midlife experts, delivered by experienced clinicians, covered by insurance.Midi is the first virtual care clinic made exclusively for women 40+. Evidence-based treatments. Personalized midlife care.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.joinmidi.com⁠
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