ADHD Mums

You take your child to the doctor. You tell them this isn't fussy, this isn't a phase. They tell you he'll grow out of it. Maybe it's his tonsils. Maybe you're anxious. Maybe your boundaries aren't strong enough. You leave the appointment knowing something isn't right, and starting to wonder if the something is you.
What We Cover
Why ARFID gets missed for years while professionals chase tonsils, grommets, and dental work
What happens when every silver bullet surgery makes zero difference and the grief that follows
The cruise ship that didn't work, the buffet that didn't work, the Woolworths smuggling run that came too late
Refeeding syndrome — when your malnourished child's body goes into shock from being fed
The PEG surgery, the six-week wait that should've been six months, and a five-year-old dancing in the lounge room for the first time
The cognitive impact of three years of malnutrition and the guilt of not pushing harder, sooner
Why mum's intuition keeps being right while siloed specialists keep passing the buck
The mental load of cooking the same crepe, the same rice mound, the washed meatballs — every single day
What it costs to keep advocating when no one believes you

More About Tracy
Free Resource
Facebook Group — for parents in this loop who need other mums who get it: https://facebook.com/groups/adhdmumspodcast
External Support Tracy Mentions
Eating Disorders Families Australia (EDFA)
Butterfly Foundation

Paid Resource
The Meltdown & Shutdown Guide for Mums & Children
https://adhdmums.com.au/product/navigating-meltdowns-strategies-for-parents/
Episodes on ARFID & Tracy's last episode
S3 EP58: Things That Look Like Bad Parenting But Are Actually Neurodivergence (Tracy) — https://adhdmums.com.au/podcast_episode/episode-58-neurodivergence-and-parenting
S2 EP81: You've Tried Everything… They Still Won't Eat: Real Strategies for ARFID at Home — https://adhdmums.com.au/podcast_episode/episode-81-youve-tried-everything-they-still-wont-eat-real-strategies-for-arfid-at-home/
S3 EP46: ARFID, Eating Disorders & the Neurodivergent Body: What We Got Wrong (Marie Camin) — https://adhdmums.com.au/podcast_episode/episode-46-arfid-eating-disorders-the-neurodivergent-body-what-we-got-wrong/

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You can talk your daughter down in two minutes. Then you turn around and tell yourself to stop being such a f*cking embarrassment.
Same brain. Same mum. Two completely different voices within minutes.
🧠 What we cover in this episode:
Why you can co-regulate a child in two minutes and tear yourself apart for the rest of the day
The "good girl" reflex and how we absorbed an inward voice between six and twenty-six
Why co-regulation is a directional skill — and most ADHD mums have only built it pointing outward
Why the inward channel isn't empty — it's full of RSD running threat assessment on you
Why "be kinder to yourself" has never worked (and isn't going to)
Why gratitude journals, affirmations, "filling your cup," and "talk to yourself like your best friend" don't fix this
Why softness towards yourself can feel like a threat to the structure holding everything together
The identity layer — being "the regulated one," the calm mum, the one who handles it
The one thing that actually works — and yes, you'll feel ridiculous doing it

💭 This episode is for you if:
📥 Free Resource:
➡️ Energy Accounting Guide — for when you've worked out the cup isn't empty, it's got a hole in the bottom of it. A free guide to figure out where your energy is actually going. 👉 Download here
📓 Want to go deeper?
The ADHD Values & Planner is for when you realise being "the regulated one" has become an identity, not a choice — and you want to find your way back to what actually matters to you. 👉 Get the planner here
🎧 Related Episodes:
S1 EP9: An RSD Story — Taking My Own Advice 👉 https://adhdmums.com.au/podcast_episode/an-rsd-story-taking-my-own-advice-s1-ep9/
S3 EP35: You Were the Good Girl. That's Why You're Falling Apart Now. 👉 https://adhdmums.com.au/podcast_episode/episode-35-you-were-the-good-girl-thats-why-youre-falling-apart-now/
S3 EP53: QUICK RESET: Self-Care Feels Nice. Self-Regulation Keeps You Alive. 👉 https://adhdmums.com.au/podcast_episode/episode-53-quick-reset-self-care-feels-nice-self-regulation-keeps-you-alive/

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Sometimes the only thing that got you through the day was the iPad.
And then you scrolled past a clip telling you screens are rewiring your kid's brain. Causing ADHD. Making them socially broken. And your stomach dropped.
You weren't being lazy. You were trying to regulate yourself before you said something you'd regret.
But the guilt arrived anyway. Right on cue.
This week, Amanda Moses — senior psychologist, ADHD and autism assessor, the woman who actually trains other psychologists in this space — sits down to go through the Osher Günsberg clip line by line. The one with the neuroscientist claiming 'digital ADHD' is now the majority of cases. The one your mother-in-law sent you. The one that made you feel sick.
Amanda brings the receipts. None of them say what he said they said.
What We Cover
The 'digital ADHD' claim — and what the actual heritability research says (74-80%, by the way)
Why your phone notification is not going to give you a heart attack, no matter how many amygdala fight-or-flight diagrams someone draws
The 'still face' babies story — what the research actually shows about distraction
Why online connection counts — especially for autistic women, regional mums, and anyone who can't just 'turn up to playgroup'
Why this kind of content hurts the women who can't afford a psych session and are already running on guilt

About Amanda:
Check out Amanda's Management Strategies for ADHD.
Check out Amanda's social media here
Amanda's References from this episode:
https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC11472914/
https://doi.org/10.1371/journal.pone.0306910
https://www.frontiersin.org/journals/psychiatry/articles/10.3389/fpsyt.2024.1441191/full
https://link.springer.com/article/10.1007/s00787-022-02130-3#Sec25
Check out Related Episodes
S2 EP82: ADHD or PTSD? Why So Many Women Are Misdiagnosed (Amanda Moses) https://adhdmums.com.au/podcast_episode/episode-82-adhd-or-ptsd-why-so-many-women-are-misdiagnosed-with-amanda-moses/
S3 EP34: Is It Social Anxiety — or Is It Autism (Amanda Moses) — https://adhdmums.com.au/podcast_episode/episode-34-is-it-social-anxiety-or-is-it-autism-with-amanda-moses/
S3 EP4: The advanced ADHD + Neurodivergence Myths.. Busted — https://adhdmums.com.au/podcast_episode/episode-4-the-advanced-adhd-neurodivergence-myths-busted/

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There's a script around Mother's Day that doesn't account for any of us.
You're meant to want a candle, a coffee, a sleep-in, and to look visibly grateful at the end of it. If you can't name what you want, you're ungrateful. If you do name it, you have to manage it. If you stay quiet, you spend Sunday night cleaning up the wrapping paper from your own gifts.
This episode is the one underneath that script. The maths nobody's saying out loud. The reason your brain blanks. And one small thing to try this Sunday — not to fix the year, just to notice what the silence is actually doing.
This episode is for you if
He asks what you want and your brain just stops
You always say I don't mind, whatever's easy and then feel a bit hollow when Sunday's over
You've spent Mother's Days managing other people's mothers and have nothing left for your own
You're a single mum and Sunday is just another Sunday, except this one's worse
You're grieving — your own mum, the version of motherhood you wanted, or both
You've been telling yourself for years that you're just too sensitive

Related episodes
S2 EP88: I Made the Lunches, Booked the Table, and Still Felt Invisible (Mother's Day)
S3 EP35: You Were the Good Girl. That's Why You're Falling Apart Now.
S3 EP18 Quick Reset: Why You're Bad at Asking for Help and What to Do Instead
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Half the conversations about AI are men in San Francisco telling you it'll change everything. The other half are people telling you it'll destroy the planet and your children's future.
Neither of those people are doing the school run, the NDIS application, the lunchboxes, or holding it together at 9pm.
This episode is for the mum in the middle. The one who's curious but hesitant. The one who's already using it but feels weird about it. The one who tried it once, got a creepy answer, and shut the tab.
Leticia Andrack has worked in AI since 2014. She's autistic, ADHD, PDA, dyslexic, French, and a mum of two neurodivergent girls. She's not selling you anything. She's just telling you how to use the tool without it using you.
This episode is for you if
You've used AI to write the email you couldn't face — and felt a bit guilty about it
You're worried about the data, the environment, your kids' futures, and you can't tell which fear is real
You've vented to ChatGPT and it agreed with you so hard you almost did something you'd regret
You don't know the difference between Claude, ChatGPT, Gemini, or which one to even open
You feel behind, and behind feels like another thing on the list
You're sick of being mansplained to about technology

RESOURCES & REFERENCES
To connect with Laetitia Andrac - check her out here
Understanding Zoe platform - check it out here

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