ADHD Mums

• 43. QUICK RESET:   Mum hack meal planning for when you're already burnt out.

  Meal planning was built for neurotypicals. That’s why it breaks ADHD mums.In this Quick Reset, Jane calls out the shame trap of “just get organised” and explains why meal planning feels impossible when it demands six executive functions at once. From frozen meat to kids refusing everything you bought, this episode offers ADHD-friendly hacks for surviving dinner when you’re already on the edge .What We Cover in This EpisodeWhy meal planning is an executive function overload, not lazinessThe invisible cost: six domains firing at once — predict, remember, plan, shop, cook, cleanWhy “future you” can’t be trusted to follow perfect systemsHow to design a “burnout menu” for your worst daysTheme nights, breakfast-for-dinner, and recurring online orders as ADHD-friendly toolsWhy bubble baths don’t fix brain fog — but survival food doesThis Episode Is For You If…You hate meal planning, cooking, or even thinking about foodYou keep forgetting key ingredients or end up with “nothing to cook” after shoppingYour kids’ picky eating, ARFID, or sensory issues make one-meal-fits-all impossibleYou feel guilty for not sticking to meal plansYou want hacks that actually work on burnout days, not Pinterest fantasy boardsClaim: “Meal planning reduces executive function load, supports emotional regulation, and creates predictability for ADHD households — especially when meals are visually structured, repetitive, and simplified.”🔍 Research & References for Show Notes:Executive Function and Planning Impairments in ADHD Barkley, R. A., & Murphy, K. R. (2006). Attention-Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder: A Clinical Workbook (3rd ed.).Highlights impairments in planning, organisation, and future thinking in ADHD adults and families. Recommends routines and external structures for managing daily demands. Decision Fatigue and ADHD Baumeister, R. F., et al. (2008). Ego Depletion: Is the Active Self a Limited Resource? Journal of Consumer Research, 36(4), 543–556.Explains how repeated decision-making (like “What’s for dinner?”) leads to emotional exhaustion and poor impulse control — especially in people with existing cognitive load issues.Routine and Predictability Reduce StressPelham, W. E., Fabiano, G. A. (2008). Evidence-Based Psychosocial Treatments for Attention-Deficit/Hyperactivity Disorder. Journal of Clinical Child & Adolescent Psychology, 37(1), 184–214.Shows that structured routines like planned meals and consistent eating times reduce behavioural stress in ADHD children.Visual and Repetitive Meal Systems Help ADHD HouseholdsTuckman, A. R. (2009). More Attention, Less Deficit: Success Strategies for Adults with ADHD. Recommends simplifying meals, using visual lists or repeating favourite foods to limit overwhelm and improve follow-through in ADHD adults.Link Between Blood Sugar Stability, Nutrition, and Emotional RegulationBenton, D., & Donohoe, R. T. (1999). The Effects of Nutrients on Mood. Public Health...

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• 42. HORMONES: HRT, ADHD & Perimenopause: What No One’s Explaining to Women

  Night sweats, meltdowns, migraines, brain fog — and still dismissed as “mum stress.” For ADHD women, perimenopause isn’t weakness — it’s biology colliding with a system that refuses to notice.In this episode, Jane speaks with Dr Lara Briden, naturopathic doctor and author of Hormone Repair Manual, to unpack what perimenopause really looks like for ADHD women, why blood tests often come back “normal,” and how body-identical hormone therapy can help.What We Cover in This EpisodeWhy blood tests often miss perimenopause — and why “normal” doesn’t mean wellHow ADHD and hormones collide to intensify brain fog, rage, and sleep problemsThe role of histamine, thyroid, and iron in brain fog and exhaustionWhat HRT actually is — body-identical vs synthetic hormonesWhy antidepressants are over-prescribed when perimenopause is misdiagnosedPractical survival tools: progesterone, circadian rhythm resets, and magnesium — because bubble baths don’t fix brain fogWhy perimenopause is puberty 2.0 — a transition, not a failureThis Episode Is For You If…You’re over 37 and struggling with new rage, brain fog, or sleep issuesYou’ve been told your blood tests are “normal,” but you feel brokenYou’ve been dismissed with antidepressants when your body was screaming hormonesYou’re curious about how HRT interacts with ADHD and stimulantsYou want validation that perimenopause isn’t hysteria — it’s biology in transition🧠 Resources for YouPerimenopause Symptom Tracker – Free self-check to see if what you’re experiencing might be perimenopause. Download here →Perimenopause ADHD Brain Fog Kit – Practical tools for mums dealing with brain fog, memory slips, and hormone chaos. Find it hereReferences & Resources MentionedDr Lara Briden website: https://www.larabriden.com/ Hormone Repair Manual — Lara’s book on navigating perimenopause:Lara Briden’s guide to natural treatment ideas for premenstrual mood symptoms: larabriden.com/top-6-natural-treatments-for-premenstrual-mood-symptomsInsights from Dr Jerilynn Prior in the final bonus session of The Hormone Whisperers: tanyaborowski.com/shop/p/the-hormone-whisperers-may25-recordingsRelated ADHD Mums EpisodesThe Perimenopause Crash — Progesterone, Stress, and the Rage Nobody Warned Us AboutHistamine + Hormones: Why You Feel Like You’re Falling Apart🎧 Listen now: HORMONES: HRT, ADHD & Perimenopause — What No One’s Explaining to Women — on Spotify, Apple, or

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• 41. CONFESSION: Mums wrote in anonymously… and what they shared wrecked me

  ⚠️ Content Warning : This episode contains heavy confessions. These themes may be triggering for listeners with trauma histories or postnatal depression. Please listen with care and step away if you need to.These confessions prove you’re not broken, you’re not failing — and you’re definitely not alone.For the first time, Jane reads out anonymous confessions from ADHD mums — funny, dark, and painfully honest. These stories reveal the rage, exhaustion, shame, and survival that so many mums carry in silence. Instead of being dismissed as “bad parenting” or “not coping,” these confessions remind us: you’re not alone.What We Cover in This EpisodeFunny confessions that prove executive dysfunction runs the household (baby wipes on benches, noise-cancelling headphones at dinner)Heavier truths: rage in the chemist carpark, yelling at toddlers, dreams of driving awayHow shame grows in silence — and why saying it out loud breaks its gripEmotional dysregulation as central to ADHD, not a personal flaw (Dr Russell Barkley’s research)Why rage, dissociation, or shutdowns are survival responses — not weaknessHow sharing these confessions created relief, validation, and solidarityThis Episode Is For You If…You’ve screamed in the car or fantasised about running awayYou feel guilty for yelling, but can’t seem to stopYou’ve wondered if you’re the only mum who feels this wayYou crave relief from the shame spiral of “I should be coping better”You want to hear the raw, unfiltered truths other ADHD mums finally said out loudIf you’ve carried shame in silence, this episode will feel like exhale.References & Resources MentionedDr Gabor Maté — parenting doesn’t create dysfunction, it exposes where we’ve been unsupportedDr Russell Barkley — emotional dysregulation is central to ADHD, not secondaryADHD Mums Confession Box — share your truth anonymously and reduce the shameADHD Mums Facebook Group — connect with mums who get itRelated ADHD Mums EpisodesQuick Confession: 10 Things That Scare Me as an ADHD MumQuick Confession: I Don’t Always Like Being a ParentQuick Confession: Can You Love Someone and Still Dread Sex?🎧 Listen now: CONFESSION: Mums wrote in anonymously… and what they shared wrecked me — on Spotify, Apple, or adhdmums.com.auOptional Support If you’re struggling, you don’t have to go through it alone. In Australia, you can call Lifeline on 13 11 14 or PANDA on 1300 726 306. If you’re outside Australia, please reach out to local crisis...

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• 40. HORMONES: The Perimenopause Crash – Progesterone, Stress, and the Rage Nobody Warned Us About

  Perimenopause can feel like being blindsided by a hormonal crash no one prepared you for. Mood swings, rage, insomnia, and anxiety get dumped in the ‘mum stress’ basket — as if biology crashing is just bad attitude.For ADHD mums, the mix of perimenopause and neurodivergence is like juggling knives while the floor gives way. This episode calls out the silence around perimenopause, explains the real biological shifts at play, and validates the lived experience of being dismissed when your body is in crisis.What We Cover in This EpisodeHow plummeting progesterone and rising stress hormones fuel rage and anxietyWhy ADHD + perimenopause is a double hit to emotional regulationThe invisible cost of being told ‘it’s just motherhood’Why the system ignores women’s health at this stage of lifeThe importance of recognising biology, not blaming characterThis Episode Is For You If…You’ve felt overwhelming rage or mood swings that don’t make senseDoctors, family, or friends have minimised your perimenopause symptomsYou’re an ADHD mum exhausted by exhaustion, sleepless nights, and slammed doorsYou need language that validates your experience instead of pathologising itYou’re ready to understand what’s really happening to your body🎧 Listen now: The Perimenopause Crash — on Spotify, Apple, or adhdmums.com.au🧠 Resources for YouPerimenopause Symptom Tracker – Free self-check to see if what you’re experiencing might be perimenopause. Download here →Perimenopause ADHD Brain Fog Kit – Practical tools for mums dealing with brain fog, memory slips, and hormone chaos. Find it here📚 Related Resources:Kylie Smart (ADHD & women’s health naturopath) — DIY Your ADHD course with ADHD Consultation Package Dr Lara Bryden’s book on perimenopause — one of the few that actually explains what’s happening instead of gaslighting youADHD Mums Shop — resources and free assessment tools for ADHD and autism🎧 Other Episode with Kylie Smart:S1 E43 PMS and ADHD S1 E48 Supplements and ADHDJOIN THE COMMUNITY:Have questions or want to connect with other ADHD mums? Join our supportive Facebook group here and dive into the conversation. No question is too small, and I love answering in a group format!FOLLOW FOR MORE:Get daily tips, insights, and relatable content for ADHD mums by following me on Instagram, Facebook,...

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• 39. CONFESSION: Can You Love Someone and Still Dread S*x?

  ‘Not tonight’ isn’t rejection — it’s survival. You can be deeply in love, feel safe and connected, and still feel absolutely no desire for sex. For neurodivergent mums, it’s not about being broken. It’s about being depleted. Burnout, overstimulation, resentment, and chronic executive load all take a toll — and desire doesn’t grow in captivity.This episode names the unspoken truth: you can love your partner and still dread intimacy when your nervous system is tapped out.What We Cover in This EpisodeWhy love and desire aren’t the same thingHow ADHD, burnout, and motherhood impact libidoThe difference between rejection and depletionVoices from ADHD mums on how sex feels in burnoutWhy desire needs space, safety, and energy to returnSmall ways to honour yourself without guilt or shameThis Episode Is For You If…You’re in a healthy relationship but feel no desire for sexEven the thought of being touched feels like one more demandYou’ve been told ‘sex is proof of love’ but feel otherwiseYou’re burnt out, touched out, or running on emptyYou want to know you’re not broken for feeling this wayReferences & Resources MentionedEsther Perel — Psychotherapist and author whose work on intimacy highlights that desire needs space and autonomy to thrive — two things ADHD mums are rarely afforded.ADHD Mums Facebook Group — A safe, supportive space where thousands of mums share the unfiltered truth about ADHD, burnout, intimacy, and the realities of daily life.ADHD Mums Jotform Confession Box — An anonymous space where mums contributed raw, honest experiences about sex, exhaustion, and survival with ADHD.🎧 Other Episode with Kylie Smart:S1 E43 PMS and ADHD S1 E48 Supplements and ADHDIf you’ve ever felt alone in this, these episodes prove you’re not.🎧 Listen now: Can You Love Someone and Still Dread Sex? — on Spotify, Apple, or adhdmums.com.auJOIN THE COMMUNITY:Have questions or want to connect with other ADHD mums? Join our supportive Facebook group here and dive into the conversation. No question is too small, and I love answering in a group format!FOLLOW FOR MORE:Get daily tips, insights, and relatable content for ADHD mums by following me on Instagram, Facebook, TikTok or YouTubeLEAVE A REVIEW:Love this episode? Your review means everything! It helps other mums find this content and feel...

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