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You did Pilates every week for a year. Then you bought the reformer so you'd never have to drive there again. You haven't done Pilates since.
Now there's a new idea that won't leave you alone, and it feels exactly like the last one did on day one. So how do you know if this one's real?
That's the ADHD hyperfocus question a listener sent in. She's been a teacher for 27 years. For the last few years something's been building in her: she wants to start a neurodivergent-affirming school. She's even gathered a small group who want in. But she's asking whether it's her real direction, or just another collection of ADHD ideas.
I didn't feel qualified to answer that. I've moved house more times than I'd like to admit, and I once had a magnificent pros and cons list for a move to acreage. Every reason on it was true. Two years later, we're moving back to the beach.
So I went looking for a better way to tell a hyperfocus from a real passion than checking how strongly you feel it. The feeling is where most of us go first. It's also the one thing that can't give you the answer.
There's the graveyard of hyperfocuses: the garden beds, the online course with no modules done, the podcast that got two episodes. Most of us read that pile as a verdict on our character. It might be the most useful data you've got. Then there's the advice ADHDers get about new ideas, like 'finish what you start before you start something new'. That one was never going to work for a brain that makes this many ideas.
And there are three tests to try before you quit the job, or buy the gear.
Related episodes:
When You Keep Starting the Same Thing – And It Never Gets Finished
Tis the Season to Overspend: ADHD Mum vs. Impulse Shopping

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References
Hoogman M, Stolte M, Baas M, Kroesbergen E. Creativity and ADHD: a review of behavioral studies, the effect of psychostimulants and neural underpinnings. Neuroscience & Biobehavioral Reviews, 2020.
White HA, Shah P. Uninhibited imaginations: creativity in adults with attention-deficit/hyperactivity disorder. Personality and Individual Differences, 2006.

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You rolled forty identical socks into pairs the night before your mum arrived. Then unrolled them all on Monday.
The hack works. It's worked for six months. So why does it feel like you're getting away with something?
This Mum Hacks starts with a voice memo about forty pairs of identical white socks and ends with a confession about mine. In between: the two piles every objection from your inner critic falls into, the one question that sorts them, and why a sociologist would say you might be running your whole house like the guest toilet.
More mum hacks: The Mum Hacks collection
Free guides and printables: ADHD Mums free resources
References
Goffman, E. (1959). The Presentation of Self in Everyday Life. Anchor Books.
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A nurse who gives out meds all day found May's script in her glove box in July. Still in the chemist bag.
She bought the pill box with the days on the lid. Put it next to the toothbrush, like everyone says. It worked for two weeks. Then one morning she looked straight at it, and she was already in the car.
The verdict she landed on: careless with the thing that matters most.
It might not be that. Your brain files anything that never moves as background. The fridge humming. The shirt on your back. The pill box that's sat by the toothbrush for a fortnight. The filter doesn't check how much something matters. It only checks whether it changed since yesterday.
This Mum Hacks episode is about why 'next to' fades, why 'in the way' doesn't, and a quick check for when a hack that was working quietly stops.
Related Episodes
QUICK RESET: The Hallway Hook That Saved My Sanity → https://adhdmums.com.au/podcast_episode/episode-38-quick-reset-the-hallway-hook-that-saved-my-sanity/
Mum Hacks: 'I Wasn't Consistent Enough.' It Lasted Eight Months. → https://tr.ee/baskets
All the QUICK RESET episodes → https://tr.ee/quickreset
All the ADHD medication episodes → https://tr.ee/medication
Resources
A Guide to ADHD Medication → https://adhdmums.com.au/product/a-guide-to-adhd-medication/
ADHD Mums free resources → https://adhdmums.com.au/product-category/free-resources/
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Have you ever fought for years — the waitlist, the referrals, the appointments where nobody believed you — finally got the diagnosis, and then sat in the aftermath feeling nothing? Have you ever had everyone around you exhale and tell you how relieved you must be, while you felt flat, wrung out, and grieving something you couldn't even name — and then guilty, because didn't you get exactly what you asked for?
You're not ungrateful and you're not doing it wrong. There's a real thing that happens after the diagnosis you fought for, and almost nobody warns you it's coming. Erica Lee sat in it for nine years and wrote it down.
About the Guest
Erica Lee is a Western Australian educator and mother of two neurodivergent children. She's written a memoir about parenting through diagnosis, advocacy, and the emotional adjustment that follows — the flatness, the grief, and the fight that doesn't end at the answer. She speaks candidly about what motherhood actually looks like when the expectations shift and the support systems get tested.
Find Erica Lee’s memoir, The Bond Between Us - https://hawkeyebooks.com.au/products/the-bond-between-us-a-mother-s-journey-raising-two-neurodivergent-hearts
Website: https://www.ericalee.com.au/
Instagram: @ericalee_writes.
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Have you ever found the old laundry basket in the garage, full of paint tins, and couldn't say when it stopped being the laundry basket? Have you ever said 'I fell off the wagon' about towels?
You keep a list of every system that stopped. This short episode is about what that list is actually recording — and the one question to run on any hack before it goes on there.
Related Episodes
QUICK RESET: The Hallway Hook That Saved My Sanity → https://adhdmums.com.au/podcast_episode/episode-38-quick-reset-the-hallway-hook-that-saved-my-sanity/
All the QUICK RESET episodes → https://tr.ee/quickreset
Free resources
ADHD Mums free resources → https://adhdmums.com.au/product-category/free-resources/
Join the ADHD Mums Facebook group → https://facebook.com/groups/adhdmumspodcast
All episodes → https://adhdmums.captivate.fm/listen
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