Hot Seat Coaching: Breaking Free From “Better, But Not Free”In this month’s Hot Seat Coaching session, I had the honour of supporting one of our queens, Kerry, as she bravely shared where she feels stuck in her recovery journey.She’s weight-restored, she’s come so far, and life is so much better than it was — yet she still feels held back by fear of further weight gain, family conditioning, and old stories from childhood. Sound familiar?This conversation is such a powerful reminder that:✨ “Better” is not the same as free✨ Our fears are often inherited, not our truth✨ It’s possible to love your parents AND break free from their beliefs✨ Inner child work is key to moving forward✨ You don’t have to settle for “good enough” — you get to have true freedom💬 Powerful quotes from the episode:💬 “Weight-restored isn’t the same as being free — freedom is an inside job.”💬 “What would you say to your 12-year-old self if she asked: how can I be happy?”💬 “We’re all children in adult bodies until we do the deeper healing work.”💬 “You can’t wait for the world to fall in love with itself — you get to choose to be the inspiration now.”💬 “Don’t stop at better. Keep going until you’re free.”This coaching session will resonate with anyone who feels like they’re in limbo: no longer in the depths of an eating disorder, but not fully free either. If you’ve ever thought, “I’m scared to take the next step forward,” this one’s for you.Resources & Links:💙 Join my FREE support group: https://victoriakleinsman.com/free-support-group/💙 Work with me: https://victoriakleinsman.com/💙 Follow me on Instagram @victoriakleinsmanofficial💙 Become a coach: https://victoriakleinsman.com/become-a-coach/
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How the F*ck to Actually Surrender?!
This episode is a little different, queens — I recorded it while out walking with my dog Hiro and baby Koa. It’s raw, unedited, and full of truth. The message was burning in my soul, and I knew I had to get it out to you right now.I’m talking about surrender — what it really means, why it’s essential in eating disorder recovery (and in life), and how you can begin to embody it.So often we fight reality, fight our bodies, fight our feelings… and that constant battle is exhausting. True freedom begins when you drop the rope, let go of control, and learn to trust.In this episode I share:✨ Why acceptance comes before surrender✨ How control is an illusion (and what it’s really costing you)✨ Practical metaphors that make surrender more tangible✨ The difference between “giving up” and “letting go”✨ How grief and trust play a huge role in true recovery💬 Powerful quotes from the episode:💬 “Acceptance is giving up the fight with reality — surrender is embodying that acceptance.”💬 “If you’re clinging on to control like the edge of a cliff, the only way to freedom is to let go.”💬 “Control is an illusion — the cost is always greater than the gain.”💬 “Surrender isn’t weakness, it’s the wisest and most self-loving thing you can do.”💬 “When you surrender, you lean into trust and faith — even when you can’t yet see the net that will catch you.”If you’ve ever wondered how to actually surrender — in recovery, in your body, and in life — this episode will give you both the wisdom and the practical tools to start.Resources & Links:🖤 Join my FREE support group: https://victoriakleinsman.com/free-support-group/🖤 Work with me: https://victoriakleinsman.com/🖤 Follow me on Instagram @victoriakleinsmanofficial
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GLP-1, Mental Hunger, Self-Abandonment & Nervous System Regulation — Q&A
This month’s Q&A episode is a deep dive into the real, messy, beautiful work of recovery.I’m answering powerful, personal questions from women in my group coaching programme (shared anonymously) – and I know you’ll see yourself in so many of them.We cover:Feeling threatened by GLP-1 weight-loss drugs, especially when loved ones are taking themProtecting your recovery when diet culture feels louder than everSetting boundaries around triggering conversations and environmentsHow to get back on track after slipping into delayed eating patternsNavigating mental hunger without fear of “repeating the past”Daily and in-the-moment nervous system regulation tools for ED recoveryFacing an osteoporosis diagnosis and fears about stopping exerciseLetting go of the “good listener, easy one with no needs” identityUnderstanding self-abandonment and building more balanced relationshipsHow to actually use “What would love do?” as a recovery toolIf you’ve ever felt like the world is pushing you back into weight loss obsession… if you’ve been scared of gaining weight and “still being disordered”… or if you’ve struggled to meet your own needs in relationships – this conversation will meet you where you are and help you take the next step forward.🌹 Want your question answered in next month’s episode?Join my group coaching programme – you can try it for a month and, if you decide to stay for the year, you’ll get that month refunded.Resources & Links🖤 Join my FREE support group: https://victoriakleinsman.com/free-support-group/🖤 Work with me: https://victoriakleinsman.com/🖤 Follow me on Instagram: @victoriakleinsmanofficial
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Uncovering the Soul Self: Healing from Anorexia and Bulimia with Victoria
In this powerful conversation with Courtney from Boston College, I go deep into my personal journey with anorexia, bulimia, binge eating, and – most importantly – the role shame played in all of it.I open up about:💬 My first experiences with food restriction at age 9 – and how it was modelled to me at home.💬 Why I believe so many binge eating diagnoses are actually misdiagnosed bulimia.💬 How perfectionism, overachieving, and people-pleasing kept me trapped for decades.💬 The difference between the suppressed self and the soul self – and how to know which one you’re feeding.💬 The rock-bottom moment on my kitchen floor that changed everything.💬 Why shame thrives in secrecy and can only truly be healed in relationship with others.💬 The deep connection between childhood needs not being met, shame around simply being human, and developing an eating disorder.💬 How I learned to face my fears, stop being a victim to myself, and choose recovery every day.💬 Why body image work was the missing piece in my healing – and how I used social media to normalise my bigger body.This is a raw, unfiltered, and deeply human conversation. If you’ve ever felt “too much” or “not enough,” if you’ve struggled to love yourself in your body, or if you’ve wondered why recovery feels so damn hard – this one is for you.💬 Favourite quotes from this episode:💬 “Every single thing we do or don’t do is either an act of love or a cry for love.”💬 “Shame keeps us stuck, silent, and separate – the only way it heals is in the light.”💬 “Allowance always creates space for choice.”💬 “Whatever you nourish will flourish – your suppressed self or your soul self.”💬 “Recovery is guaranteed if you’re willing to face your fears.”Resources & Links:🖤 Join my FREE support group: https://victoriakleinsman.com/free-support-group/🖤 Work with me: https://victoriakleinsman.com/🖤 Follow me on Instagram: @victoriakleinsmanofficial
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Is Intuitive Eating BS? Can Binge Eating become a habit? Our Take on IE, Set Point & More
What If You Trusted Your Body Fully? | Listener Q&AThis week, Julia and I are diving into your brilliant questions once again… including some BIG ones that almost every recovery warrior asks at some point. Things like:🌀 How do I get my period back if I’ve been weight restored for a while?🌀 Will I ever stop gaining weight?🌀 What if binge eating becomes a bad habit?🌀 Is intuitive eating secretly diet culture in disguise?🌀 How do I deal with body-shaming parents?🌀 And what the hell is going on with the total fatigue that hits after finally starting to eat again?!We also touch on the difference between binge eating vs emotional eating, why it’s so normal to fear your metabolism is broken, and how recovery reveals the deeper work that’s waiting for us beyond food and body image.💬 “When we say yes to someone else when we mean no, we’re saying no to ourselves.”💬 “Binge eating is always a reaction to restriction — emotional eating is something different.”💬 “If you want to control your set point weight, you’re still not free.”💬 “People pleasing is not a personality trait. It’s a trauma response.”If you’re in the midst of recovery and wondering if what you’re going through is normal — this episode is for you. We’re giving it to you straight, with lived experience, compassion, and a few F-bombs for flavour.Resources & Links🖤 Join my FREE support group: https://victoriakleinsman.com/free-support-group/🖤 Work with me: https://victoriakleinsman.com/🖤 Follow me on Instagram: @victoriakleinsmanofficial
About The Body Love Binge - Eating Disorder Recovery Podcast
The Body Love Binge is the podcast for you if you’re SO DONE with living in the hell hole of an eating disorder.
If you’re ready to dig deep & truly meet yourself (most likely for the first time in your life) in order to reach REAL recovery from anorexia, bulimia or binge eating, then you’re in the right place.
I'm your host, Victoria Kleinsman, a food freedom & body love coach, eating disorder & abuse survivor who's on a mission to love & support millions of women to come back home to self-love & intuition eating.
If it's possible for me, it's possible for you too! ❤️
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