Sex With Emily

If anal play sounds like something you'd have to grit your teeth through, I want to change your mind about one thing first: a painful first try isn't your body's final answer. It's usually a sign something was rushed, unprepared, or out of your control, not proof this isn't for you.

In this episode, I'm walking through my five-step, comfort-first framework for exploring anal: getting a real yes before anything starts, setting yourself up for success, warming your whole body up first, moving in layers instead of straight to penetration, and learning to actually read your body's feedback. I'm also busting a few myths along the way, including the one that penetration is the goal at all.

Pleasure, not performance. Let's get into it.

ABOUT EMILY:

Emily Morse is a Doctor of Human Sexuality, author and host of the #1 rated Sex with Emily podcast. Known as a renowned sexologist, Dr. Emily has helped millions of people around the world navigate their sex lives. Her candid and often funny conversations challenge cultural taboos, misinformation and awkward sex talks to create a future where people can deeply connect and embrace pleasure-filled lives. Because, life is too short for bad sex.

CONNECT:

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WANT MORE?

Visit the Website: ⁠https://sexwithemily.com/⁠ which includes FREE guides.

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Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Go to ⁠http://sexwithemily.com/coaching⁠ to apply!

This episode is sponsored by:

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Chapters:

00:00 Cold Open / Welcome to Sex with Emily

01:24 Why Your First Time May Have Hurt

02:08 The Five Step Framework (Meet Dr. Emily)

02:56 Anal Isn't All or Nothing

03:44 Your Nervous System Is the Real Sex Organ

04:07 The Two Rings of Muscle, Explained

04:49 Step 1: Start With a Real Yes

05:28 The Receiving Partner Is Always in Charge

06:00 Step 2: Set Yourself Up for Success (Hygiene)

06:41 Lube, Toys, and the Pre-Talk

07:17 Step 3: Warm Up Your Whole Body

08:22 Step 4: Move in Layers, Not Pressure

09:59 Step 5: Listen to Your Body and Talk About It

10:51 Busting the Biggest Anal Myths

11:11 Recap: The Five Steps to Try Anal Comfortably

11:58 Outro & Where to Find More
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Let's talk about what actually happens when real people finally stop holding back in the bedroom… because the best sex education doesn't always come from experts. Sometimes it comes from a husband who spent months asking for something his wife wasn't sure about, or a couple whose 20 year marriage took a very unexpected turn on a dance floor in Anchorage, or a woman who spent years unable to orgasm with a partner and finally got there in the last way she ever expected.

In this episode I'm reading three real listener success stories out loud, and I promise you will learn something from every single one of them.

ABOUT EMILY:

Emily Morse is a Doctor of Human Sexuality, author and host of the #1 rated Sex with Emily podcast. Known as a renowned sexologist, Dr. Emily has helped millions of people around the world navigate their sex lives. Her candid and often funny conversations challenge cultural taboos, misinformation and awkward sex talks to create a future where people can deeply connect and embrace pleasure-filled lives. Because, life is too short for bad sex.

CONNECT:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/

X: https://twitter.com/sexwithemily

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/sexwithemily

TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sexwithemily

Threads: https://www.threads.net/@sexwithemily

WANT MORE?

Visit the Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ which includes FREE guides.

Free Downloadable Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/

Text With Me: https://sexwithemily.com/text

Receive Sex Tips On The Regular: https://sexwithemily.com/subscribe

Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Go to http://sexwithemily.com/coaching to apply!

This episode is sponsored by:

Bellesa: EVERYONE who signs up wins a FREE Rose suction toy with their order! https://www.bboutique.co/vibe/emilymorse-podcast

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Chapters:

00:00 Introduction

02:46 Story 1: The Pegging Journey

06:00 Why Receiving Changes Everything for Men

08:30 What Happened After She Said Yes

10:15 How One Conversation Transformed Their Whole Relationship

14:45 Story 2: The Threesome That Started on a Dance Floor

19:00 What Made It Work and What They Learned

22:00 Story 3: Her First Penetrative Orgasm

24:00 How She Finally Got There

25:18 What All Three Stories Have in Common
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Let's talk about why you don't want sex with your husband anymore… and why the answer probably has nothing to do with your libido. If you've been lying next to him quietly hoping he doesn't reach for you, and then hating yourself for feeling that way, this episode is going to change the way you see what's actually happening in your body and your relationship. Because the story most women tell themselves at this moment is the wrong one entirely. I'm walking you through a four part desire check in that will help you stop asking the question that keeps you stuck and start asking the one that can actually lead you somewhere.

If desire has gone quiet in your marriage, this one is for you.

ABOUT EMILY:

Emily Morse is a Doctor of Human Sexuality, author and host of the #1 rated Sex with Emily podcast. Known as a renowned sexologist, Dr. Emily has helped millions of people around the world navigate their sex lives. Her candid and often funny conversations challenge cultural taboos, misinformation and awkward sex talks to create a future where people can deeply connect and embrace pleasure-filled lives. Because, life is too short for bad sex.

CONNECT WITH EMILY:

Best Sex Ever Tour: https://sexwithemily.com/events

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TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sexwithemily

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WANT MORE?

Visit the Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ which includes FREE guides.

Free Downloadable Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/

Text With Me: https://sexwithemily.com/text

Receive Sex Tips On The Regular: https://sexwithemily.com/subscribe

This episode is sponsored by:

Bellesa: EVERYONE who signs up wins a FREE Rose suction toy with their order! https://www.bboutique.co/vibe/emilymorse-podcast

Chapters:
00:00 Introduction
01:23 You Are Not Broken
02:24 The Four Part Desire Check In
02:53 Step 1: Is Your Body Pulling Away From Everyone or Just Him
03:51 What the Pattern Is Actually Telling You
04:26 Step 2: What Is Your Body Protecting You From
04:42 Emotional Safety and Unresolved Conflict
05:37 Burnout and the Mental Load
06:25 Unresolved Hurt and Resentment
08:12 Step 3: Rule Out Physical and Mental Health Factors
08:31 Hormones, Medications, and Your Nervous System
09:13 Step 4: Rebuild Safety Before You Rebuild Desire
09:34 Affection Without Expectation
10:56 The One Sentence to Start the Conversation
11:37 What Your Body Has Been Trying to Tell You
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Can you love one person and still want someone else? Are you and your partner actually on the same page about your relationship rules, or just assuming you are? And is porn really the problem it gets blamed for? In this episode, we’re getting into the conversations couples rarely have out loud, because there’s no single “right” way to do a relationship. The goal is getting honest about your desires, your boundaries, and what you’ve actually agreed to together. If you’ve been assuming your partner agrees with you on things you’ve never actually talked about, or wondering whether porn is really the issue in your relationship, this one’s for you.

#SexWithEmily #EmilyMorse #Monogamy #RelationshipAdvice #Relationships

ABOUT EMILY:
Emily Morse is a Doctor of Human Sexuality, author and host of the #1 rated Sex with Emily podcast. Known as a renowned sexologist, Dr. Emily has helped millions of people around the world navigate their sex lives. Her candid and often funny conversations challenge cultural taboos, misinformation and awkward sex talks to create a future where people can deeply connect and embrace pleasure-filled lives. Because, life is too short for bad sex.

CONNECT WITH EMILY:
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/
X: https://twitter.com/sexwithemily
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/sexwithemily
TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sexwithemily
Threads: https://www.threads.net/@sexwithemily

WANT MORE?
Visit the Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ which includes FREE guides.
Free Downloadable Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/
Text With Me: https://sexwithemily.com/text
Receive Sex Tips On The Regular: https://sexwithemily.com/subscribe
Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Go to http://sexwithemily.com/coaching to apply!

This episode is sponsored by:
Bellesa: EVERYONE who signs up wins a FREE Rose suction toy with their order! https://www.bboutique.co/vibe/emilymorse-podcast

Chapters:
00:00 Introduction
00:24 Why Non-Monogamy Is Everywhere Right Now
02:30 How Normal Is Non-Monogamy
04:15 I Crave Sex With Other Women When I Travel for Work
06:30 We've Been Together 20 Years and Want to Open Up
08:45 What to Talk About Before You Open Your Relationship
10:30 First Time Having Sex With a Woman
13:00 Go Slow, Stay Curious, Let Her Teach You
15:00 Why Do Women Get Mad When Men Watch Porn
17:30 When Porn Becomes a Relationship Problem
19:45 What Porn Really Brings Up and How to Talk About It
21:00 The Conversation You've Been Meaning to Have
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Let's talk about the five lies about men and sex that might be quietly destroying your marriage… because most couples aren't fighting about sex. They're fighting about connection, rejection, and feeling unseen, and nobody ever gave them the language to say that out loud. In this episode I'm breaking down the five most harmful myths about male sexuality that I see playing out in long term relationships over and over again, from "he just wants sex" to "men don't take rejection personally." Once you see these lies for what they are, the dynamic between you can start to shift. I'm also giving you one conversation to have this week that can completely change how you and your partner understand each other. And the best part? You don't have to do a single thing you don't want to do to get there.

ABOUT EMILY:

Emily Morse is a Doctor of Human Sexuality, author and host of the #1 rated Sex with Emily podcast. Known as a renowned sexologist, Dr. Emily has helped millions of people around the world navigate their sex lives. Her candid and often funny conversations challenge cultural taboos, misinformation and awkward sex talks to create a future where people can deeply connect and embrace pleasure-filled lives. Because, life is too short for bad sex.

CONNECT WITH EMILY:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/

X: https://twitter.com/sexwithemily

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/sexwithemily

TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sexwithemily

Threads: https://www.threads.net/@sexwithemily

WANT MORE?

Visit the Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ which includes FREE guides.

Free Downloadable Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/

Text With Me: https://sexwithemily.com/text

Receive Sex Tips On The Regular: https://sexwithemily.com/subscribe

Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Go to http://sexwithemily.com/coaching to apply!

This episode is sponsored by:

Bellesa: EVERYONE who signs up wins a FREE Rose suction toy with their order! https://www.bboutique.co/vibe/emilymorse-podcast

Chapters:

00:00 Introduction

01:21 Lie 1: His Whole Agenda Is Sex

02:45 Lie 2: Men Don't Need Emotional Intimacy

04:10 Lie 3: Men Are Always Ready for Sex

05:20 Lie 4: Sex Is Just Physical for Men

06:15 Lie 5: Men Don't Take Rejection Personally

07:45 The Cycle Nobody Talks About

08:30 Two Different Languages of Connection

09:00 Try This: Notice How He Reaches for Connection

10:05 Responsive Desire Explained

12:00 The One Conversation to Have This Week

13:30 Questions to Ask Each Other

14:30 What Couples Are Really Fighting About
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