In this episode of the Sex with Emily podcast, we dive into the complexities of commitment by exploring our contrasting perspectives—one of us grappling with a fear of merging in relationships, the other reflecting on a tendency to overcommit. We unpack how childhood experiences, parental relationship models, and societal pressures shape our views on intimacy, boundaries, and compatibility. From the gamification of dating culture to generational differences in approaching relationships, we examine the challenges Gen X and Gen Z face in defining commitment. We also discuss the emotional weight of erectile dysfunction and the unrealistic expectations placed on male sexuality. Through honest conversation, we question traditional norms and explore the idea that commitment doesn’t have to be one-size-fits-all—sometimes, a redefined or intermittent approach may lead to healthier, more fulfilling connections.
Show Notes:
00:00:00 - Commitment Phobia
00:02:21 - Commitment & Relationship Anxiety
04:40 - Commitment & Childhood Trauma
07:39 - Commitment Phobia & Dynamics
10:25 - Commitment, Casual Sex & Polyamory
13:10 - Commitment Issues & Attachment
15:14 - Avoidant Attachment & Dynamics
17:41 - Commitment vs. Incompatibility
20:00 - Commitment & "Perfect" Partners
22:20 - Dating Exhaustion & Sex Drought
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The Ultimate Guide to Having Better Sex
This podcast episode tackles five common sex questions: communicating about sex and trying new things; improving oral sex; spicing up the sex life; increasing sex drive; and lasting longer. The episode emphasizes open communication as key to better sex, offering practical advice on navigating awkward conversations, addressing defensive responses, and prioritizing individual needs. Specific techniques for improving oral sex, addressing low libido (including medical and psychological factors), and dealing with differing sex drives are discussed. Several listener emails are addressed, providing personalized advice on various sexual challenges, including premature ejaculation, delayed ejaculation, and overcoming discomfort with oral sex. The episode also recommends resources like Ian Kerner's work and suggests strategies for increasing sexual satisfaction and communication within relationships.
Timestamps:
00:00:16 - Top 5 Sex Questions
00:03:30 - Improving Sex Communication
06:57 - Overcoming Barriers to Sex Talks
09:33 - Communicating Sexual Needs
15:43 - Boosting Sex Drive
18:49 - Libido & Relationship Issues
21:29 - Spice Up Your Sex Life
24:19 - Relationship Sex Issues
29:40 - Mastering Oral Sex
44:04 - Listener Questions & Intimacy
55:49 - Premature Ejaculation Issues
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How to Build a Relationship That Actually Lasts Forever
In this episode, we explore the science of lasting relationships with insights grounded in the Gottman Method. Discover the four behaviors that predict divorce with 94% accuracy, why emotional connection is key to great sex, and how couples can deepen intimacy with better communication—not perfect compatibility. From sleep-deprived parents to long-term partners, this conversation is packed with research-backed tips to transform your love life.
#love #relationship #divorce
Timestamps:
00:00:00 - Relationship Success & Gottman Institute
03:14 - Couple's Coffee Shop Love Story
06:33 - Predicting Relationship Success/Failure
10:03 - Four Horsemen of Apocalypse
17:03 - Relationship Workshops & Education
20:22 - Post-Baby Relationships
23:50 - Relationship Challenges & Communication
27:25 - Deepening Relationships Through Dates
30:23 - Rediscovering Shared Dreams & Values
46:33 - Factors in a Great Sex Life
1:00:00 - Prioritizing Relationships & Intimacy
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1:13:00
Why Your Sex Life Isn't as Good As It Could Be
In this powerful episode of Sex with Emily and Shroter, we’re joined by Dolly, a renowned sexological bodyworker featured in Cosmopolitan and Hustler, for a deep dive into somatic sex therapy and the true path to embodied pleasure.
Dolly opens up about her healing journey after a sexless marriage—how breathwork, mirror work, and intentional self-touch led her to reclaim her body and reawaken her desire. Together, we unpack what it means to stop performing and start feeling, breaking down the difference between orgasm and climax, and how to explore your body with curiosity, not pressure.
Timestamps:
00:01:08 - Healing Journey: Sex & Pleasure
00:07:17 - Post-Divorce Healing & Femininity
10:57 - Embodied Sexuality & Vulva Mapping
14:10 - Vulva Mapping & Frustration
20:06 - Embodiment, Self-Touch & Vulva Hug
23:50 - Vulva Hug Meditation Practice
32:03 - Vulva Anatomy & Trauma Release
43:41 - Reclaiming Your Vulva: Love & Healing
46:16 - Expanding Orgasmic Potential
01:00:51 - Q&A & Vulva Hug Meditation
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1:11:07
Beyond the Body Count: Reframing Sexual History in Dating
This week on Sex With Emily, we're tackling one of the most harmful and outdated questions in modern dating: "What's your body count?" In conversation with holistic psychologist and trauma expert Dr. Scott Lyons, we explore the troubling origins of this term, once used to count military casualties, and how it’s been repurposed to judge sexual history, often unfairly targeting women. We unpack the double standards rooted in purity culture, the insecurities this question provokes, and the shame it can breed in both high and low numbers. More importantly, we discuss why the number of sexual partners has nothing to do with sexual skill, emotional readiness, or compatibility.
#intimacy #love #relationships
Timestamps:
00:00:00 - Body Count: A Sex-Positive Discussion
00:03:00 - Judging Past Relationships
05:51 - Body Count & Insecurities
08:24 - Why Judging is Wrong
10:46:38 - Historical Shame Roots
13:22 - Societal Shame & Body Count
15:47 - Regrets & Sexual Experiences
18:13 - Reframing the Conversation
22:44:04 - Ditching the Question
25:38 - Addressing Relationship Insecurities
37:53 - Pleasure, Goodbyes & Outro
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