Ep 97: How to feel good enough, accept yourself, and put yourself first
In this episode of Ask Charlotte, part of the Feel Better Podcast, I continue the theme of building a healthier relationship with yourself by answering three powerful listener questions:How do I make peace with my weaknesses, faults, and failures?I share ways to bring compassion to your past, capture the lessons you’ve learned, and balance your strengths and weaknesses so you can move forward with greater peace.How do I feel good enough?I talk about why self-worth isn’t fixed and how liking yourself is something you can actively build. I draw on narrative therapy, reflect on my own journey, and introduce my “make your own cake” analogy. How do I put myself first?I explore how to reconnect with your own desires and goals, strengthen negotiation skills, work through emotional barriers, and build routines that support you. I also challenge the idea that self-care is only about being better for others—it matters because you matter.This episode is packed with practical strategies, personal reflections, and compassionate reminders. My hope is that it encourages you to treat yourself with more kindness, and to believe that you are TOTALLY worthy of care and attention.
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Ep 96: Want more connection in your relationship? Try these things
Want more connection in your relationship? Do these things.Feeling distant from your partner? You’re not alone. Disconnection is one of the most common challenges couples face—but the good news is, there are simple, practical ways to restore closeness.In this episode of the Feel Better Podcast, I share research-backed strategies and everyday habits that can bring you and your partner closer. From understanding “bids” for connection, to creating meaningful daily rituals, ways to share deeper feelings, to putting away your phone and finding small, enjoyable moments together—this is your roadmap to feeling more connected in your relationship.You’ll learn:The Gottman Institute’s concept of bids and why they’re game-changing.Why little rituals like greetings, hugs, and check-ins matter more than you think.How to create rhythms of connection that work in real life (not just in theory).Ways to share feelings (not just facts) to deepen intimacy.How to smooth out conflict so it doesn’t erode your closeness.If you’re ready to feel more like a team again, this episode will give you practical reminders and encouragement to reset and reconnect.✨ Want to go further? Check out my couples’ program Give Me 10 Minutes—a simple, six-week reset for your relationship. Find it at charlottecummings.nz.
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Ep 95: Ask Charlotte - speaking kindly to yourself, recovering from purity culture, and what to do with 'you' time
🌿 How do I speak to myself in a kinder way?💭 How do I begin to heal from purity culture?⏳ And what do I do with my precious time away from kids and my spouse?These are the three big (and very real) questions I’m answering in today’s Ask Charlotte episode of the Feel Better podcast — all sent in through my recent question box on your relationship with yourself 💛Together we’ll explore:✨ How to break the habit of negative self‑talk and replace it with real, grounded reassurance✨ What recovery from purity culture can look like, including reclaiming your relationship with your body and your beliefs✨ Practical ideas for using your alone time without guilt — and how to rediscover what actually feels good for youThis episode is all about strengthening your relationship with yourself so that you can show up in life with more clarity, self‑compassion, and energy.🎧 Tune in now on the Feel Better podcast — let’s talk about what it really takes to feel better in your everyday life.
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Ep 94: What to do when relationship change feels exhausting
💔 Working on your relationship can feel exhausting — like nothing’s working and everything is harder than it should be. But there is a way through.In today’s Feel Better podcast episode, I’m giving you a pep talk filled with practical ways to stay hopeful while your relationship is in the thick of change. You’ll learn how to:💛 Spot the strengths you and your partner each bring to the table💛 Build a support system around you💛 Break down change into small, doable steps💛 Map out what really needs work (instead of staying stuck in vague “we need better communication” loops)💛 Keep hope alive by drawing on stories of others who’ve made big changesThis episode is all about helping you hold on to hope, find reassurance, and keep steady while you do the work of building a stronger future together.🎧 Tune in now on the Feel Better podcast — your reminder that change is possible and relationships can be worth the work.
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Ep 93: Ask Charlotte - Betrayal, How to Decide to Stay or Leave, and Getting Through "THE ICK"
Welcome to Ask Charlotte - the fortnightly series within the Feel Better Podcast, where I answer listener questions. In this episode, I answer three brave listener questions about love, betrayal, and staying connected in marriage.💔 Question One: Can couples recover from betrayal?❓ Question Two: How do you decide whether to stay or leave?🥀 Question Three: What if I feel so emotionally detached that intimacy gives me the “ick”?I share practical advice, hopeful stories, and compassionate insights — from rebuilding trust after infidelity, to setting clear markers of change, to rediscovering emotional needs and intimacy.Whether you’re navigating betrayal, wondering if you should stay, or feeling stuck in disconnection, this episode offers hope, guidance, and a way forward.
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