Are you in a relationship? Come and join me for this episode where I share seven key issues I see in couples who come to me for counselling. This episode will help you reflect on where you might want to bring some focus in your relationship. There's also a free download that goes with this episode, which is designed to support you and your partner to accurately identify and agree on 'What's wrong' in your relationship - the starting point of making anything better!
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Ep 87: Re-balancing the mental load
The mental load refers to the cognitive and emotional load of 'holding everything together' in our day to day lives - constantly thinking ahead, managing, planning, balancing needs. This concept names a reality of our lives. But, then what? If you want to move forward with re-balancing the mental load in your life, particularly if you're in a relationship, or you're a parent, then this episode is for you. I explore: - What the mental load actually demands of your brain - How the mental load might relate to your own 'issues' - Systems - How to get motivated to do things differently Also, there is a free resource you can use to work through re-balancing the mental load. It's available at www.charlottecummings.nz
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Ep 85: How to apologise
In some of my work with clients recently, I've recognise that the art and science of apology has been an area where many people are falling over. You're a human. You're going to make mistakes. Things are going to land for people in a way that creates an impact you never intended at times. You'll offend, hurt, and get people offside. So, how do we best put things right? In this episode I step you through the five Languages of Apology (Dr Gary Chapman's model - the creator of the Five Love Languages). And, I offer some of my general observations about what makes an apology go well. This will have particular benefit for partner relationships, though there is also lots of content here that will be applicable to other settings too - with kids, friendships and co-workers. Enjoy!
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Ep 83: Helping your child through bullying
It's back to school time in New Zealand, and for many kids that means going back to some really tough social challenges in the school environment, including bullying.Parents being equipped to respond confidently when their child is experiencing bullying is super important. There are LOTS of things you can do to support your child. Join me for this episode, and come away feeling empowered that you have some tools to help your child.
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Ep 81: How to help your child transition back to school
It's that time of year when the back to school nerves hit for our children. They're real. They deserve response. And there are lots of ideas in this episode to equip you to set your child up for a smoother transition back to school.
It is one of my pet peeves that we just tell children "You've got this" and "It will all be OK" when they are actually really worried. In this episode I talk about how to get to the bottom of what your child is actually afraid will happen, beyond the presenting issues.
There's a whole lot of ideas, so I know there will be some inspiration for everyone :)
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