The BPD Bunch

Have you ever felt like one small thing turned into ten different emotions before you even knew what happened?In this episode, Xannie, Solène, Madhurima and Dan continue their conversation on emotional lability and go deep into what has actually helped them regulate their emotions instead of getting swept away by them. They talk through the skills, mindsets, and reframes that took years to build, including a metaphor for emotions as delivery drivers that keep showing up until you actually open the package.This one gets into checking the facts versus running with interpretations, why distraction is only useful short term, what “not caring” actually means in practice, and why grief doesn’t always show up on schedule.Topics include:* BPD and emotional regulation* Emotional lability in BPD* Wise mind and DBT skills* Checking the facts* Rumination and BPD* Fear of abandonment* Sitting with uncomfortable emotions* BPD recovery and healthier reactionsIf you’ve ever felt like your emotions were driving your life instead of the other way around, this episode is for you.This season, we’re discussing BPD through the lens of the Alternative Model of Personality Disorders (AMPD). To meet criteria for BPD in this model, a person must have difficulties in at least two areas of personality functioning (Criterion A): identity, self direction, empathy, or intimacy, along with four or more pathological personality traits (Criterion B): emotional lability, anxiousness, separation insecurity, and depressivity (which are sub-traits of negative affectivity), impulsivity and risk taking (sub-traits of disinhibition), and hostility (a sub-trait of antagonism).In the first two episodes of the season, Dr. Carla Sharp, Dr. Frank Yeomans, and Dr. Alex Stein explain what the AMPD is, how it changes from the current categorical model, and how the BPD diagnosis is changing. In case you missed it, here are the links:Watch part 1 hereWatch part 2 here___🌟 Love what we do? Your support fuels these important conversations on BPD and mental health. Consider joining our Patreon community to help us continue this valuable work and unlock exclusive content. Every contribution makes a difference! 🌈✨ 🔗 Support us on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/thebpdbunch ________About Us: The BPD bunch is a YouTube talk show, featuring a panel of people who are in functional recovery from Borderline Personality Disorder. Each week we discuss BPD-related topics to help give you insights into the different ways BPD can be expressed in someone’s life. We also cover the different paths we followed on our recovery journeys to give you hope and direction for your own ❤️ Thank you for being on this journey of healing with us!________Disclaimer:This video is for education only and is not meant to provide professional medical advice, diagnosis or treatment.

Have you ever felt like one unanswered text, one cancelled plan, or one disagreement meant your entire relationship was falling apart?For many people living with BPD, emotional pain doesn’t feel “bigger than it should.” It feels completely real. In this episode, Xannie, Madhurima, Dan, and Solène share what emotional lability actually felt like from the inside: the panic, the shame, the explosive reactions, the endless rumination, and the belief that every emotion was telling the truth.Together they talk openly about relationship spirals, favorite people, emotional whiplash, shame after emotional outbursts, fear of abandonment, and the long process of learning that emotions don’t have to control your actions. The conversation is brutally honest, deeply validating, and full of moments that many people have experienced but rarely say out loud.In this episode:*BPD and emotional dysregulation*Emotional instability*Fear of abandonment*Favorite person relationships*Rumination and overthinking*Emotional permanence*Relationship triggers*Recovery from BPD emotional dysregulationIf you’ve ever felt like your emotions were running your life, or that losing one person would destroy you, this conversation is for you.This season, we’re discussing BPD through the lens of the Alternative Model of Personality Disorders (AMPD). To meet criteria for BPD in this model, a person must have difficulties in at least two areas of personality functioning (Criterion A): identity, self direction, empathy, or intimacy, along with four or more pathological personality traits (Criterion B): emotional lability, anxiousness, separation insecurity, and depressivity (which are sub-traits of negative affectivity), impulsivity and risk taking (sub-traits of disinhibition), and hostility (a sub-trait of antagonism).In the first two episodes of the season, Dr. Carla Sharp, Dr. Frank Yeomans, and Dr. Alex Stein explain what the AMPD is, how it changes from the current categorical model, and how the BPD diagnosis is changing. In case you missed it, here are the links:Watch part 1 hereWatch part 2 here___🌟 Love what we do? Your support fuels these important conversations on BPD and mental health. Consider joining our Patreon community to help us continue this valuable work and unlock exclusive content. Every contribution makes a difference! 🌈✨ 🔗 Support us on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/thebpdbunch ________About Us: The BPD bunch is a YouTube talk show, featuring a panel of people who are in functional recovery from Borderline Personality Disorder. Each week we discuss BPD-related topics to help give you insights into the different ways BPD can be expressed in someone’s life. We also cover the different paths we followed on our recovery journeys to give you hope and direction for your own ❤️ Thank you for being on this journey of healing with us!________Disclaimer:This video is for education only and is not meant to provide professional medical advice, diagnosis or treatment.

Have you ever been told, or told yourself, that this is just who you are? That the most you can do is mask it, manage it, survive it?In this episode, Xannie sits down with clinical psychologist and treatment researcher Dr. Shannon Sauer-Zavala to explore one of the most contested questions in BPD recovery: can your personality actually change, or are you just learning to perform differently?Dr. Sauer-Zavala breaks down the science behind personality trait change, explains how her treatment BPD COMPASS targets the underlying drivers of BPD symptoms rather than the symptoms themselves, and challenges the pervasive belief that personality is fixed. Xannie shares her own experience of discovering, unexpectedly, that she had already changed. The conversation is equal parts clinical clarity and lived honesty.In this episode:* BPD and personality change* Can traits like negative affectivity and impulsivity actually change?* BPD COMPASS treatment explained* The alternative model of personality disorders (AMPD) Criterion B* Treating BPD without years-long specialist waitlists* Why suppressing emotions makes them stronger* Impulsivity, trust issues, and emotional rage in BPD* What recovery actually looks like from the insideIf you’ve ever been told your personality is the problem, and that the best you can hope for is to hide it better, this episode is for you.This season, we’re discussing BPD through the lens of the Alternative Model of Personality Disorders (AMPD). To meet criteria for BPD in this model, a person must have difficulties in at least two areas of personality functioning (Criterion A): identity, self direction, empathy, or intimacy, along with four or more pathological personality traits (Criterion B): negative affectivity (emotional lability, anxiousness, separation insecurity, and depressivity), disinhibition (impulsivity and risk taking), and antagonism (hostility)In the first two episodes of the season, Dr. Carla Sharp, Dr. Frank Yeomans, and Dr. Alex Stein explain what the AMPD is, how it changes from the current categorical model, and how the BPD diagnosis is changing. In case you missed it, here are the links:Watch part 1 hereWatch part 2 here⸻ Find more from Dr. Sauer-Zavala:Website: https://www.shannonsauerzavala.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/self.made.personality/___🌟 Love what we do? Your support fuels these important conversations on BPD and mental health. Consider joining our Patreon community to help us continue this valuable work and unlock exclusive content. Every contribution makes a difference! 🌈✨ 🔗 Support us on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/thebpdbunch ________About Us: The BPD bunch is a YouTube talk show, featuring a panel of people who are in functional recovery from Borderline Personality Disorder. Each week we discuss BPD-related topics to help give you insights into the different ways BPD can be expressed in someone’s life. We also cover the different paths we followed on our recovery journeys to give you hope and direction for your own ❤️ Thank you for being on this journey of healing with us!________Disclaimer:This video is for education only and is not meant to provide professional medical advice, diagnosis or treatment.

Have you ever completely fallen apart over something small… only to realize later it wasn’t really about that thing at all?Sometimes emotional overwhelm isn’t caused by one moment. Sometimes it’s weeks of stress, fear, shame, exhaustion, criticism, bad luck, and pressure piling up until one final thing breaks the dam.
In this minisode from The BPD Bunch, a side conversation turns into an honest discussion about emotional overwhelm, crying in public, shame, recovery, and what happens when emotions finally catch up with you.
The cast shares stories about breaking down at work, crying in front of authority figures, feeling embarrassed by emotional reactions, surviving impossible weeks, and learning that sometimes the healthiest thing you can do is stop fighting your emotions and let yourself feel them.
What starts as a tangent becomes one of the most honest conversations from the recording session.

We talk about:
* BPD and emotional overwhelm
* Shame after emotional reactions
* Crying in public
* Emotional sensitivity
* Fear of criticism
* Recovery from BPD
* Emotional regulation
* BPD and workplace stressIf you’ve ever felt embarrassed by your emotions, judged yourself for having a hard day, or wondered why one small thing suddenly pushed you over the edge, you’re not alone.
For the next few weeks, we’re taking a short break from our AMPD deep dive and answering some of your questions instead. Don’t worry though, we’ll be back on June 24 to pick up where we left off.⸻ 🌟 Love what we do? Your support fuels these important conversations on BPD and mental health. Consider joining our Patreon community to help us continue this valuable work and unlock exclusive content. Every contribution makes a difference! 🌈✨ 🔗 Support us on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/thebpdbunch ________About Us: The BPD bunch is a YouTube talk show, featuring a panel of people who are in functional recovery from Borderline Personality Disorder. Each week we discuss BPD-related topics to help give you insights into the different ways BPD can be expressed in someone’s life. We also cover the different paths we followed on our recovery journeys to give you hope and direction for your own ❤️ Thank you for being on this journey of healing with us!________Disclaimer:This video is for education only and is not meant to provide professional medical advice, diagnosis or treatment.

Have you ever changed your entire personality just to keep someone from leaving?
In this episode of The BPD Bunch, Xannie, Katja, and Solène welcome new cast member Dan for an honest conversation about BPD, foster care, relationships, parenting, treatment, and what recovery actually looks like when life is still complicated.
Dan talks about crashing after a breakup, begging and pleading, losing himself in romantic relationships, being afraid of the BPD label, and learning through two years of treatment how to build a life that feels calmer without losing the fun parts of himself.
We discuss:
* BPD and relationships
* Fear of abandonment
* Losing yourself in love
* BPD recovery
* Parenting with BPD
* Therapy for BPD
* Identity disturbance
* Dating after treatment
* Radical acceptance
* Men with BPD
If you’ve ever felt like being loved meant becoming whatever someone else needed, this episode is for you.👇 Find Dan:Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/share/18uWfKAUMv/?mibextid=wwXIfrInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/danstone8484UPLOAD SCHEDULE UPDATE: BPD Bunch brunch episodes will now standalone from the season, and will be uploaded the first Sunday of every month! (Usually, that is! Xannie was sick last week so its one week behind🫠)_____🌟 Love what we do? Your support fuels these important conversations on BPD and mental health. Consider joining our Patreon community to help us continue this valuable work and unlock exclusive content. Every contribution makes a difference! 🌈✨ 🔗 Support us on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/thebpdbunch ________About Us: The BPD bunch is a YouTube talk show, featuring a panel of people who are in functional recovery from Borderline Personality Disorder. Each week we discuss BPD-related topics to help give you insights into the different ways BPD can be expressed in someone’s life. We also cover the different paths we followed on our recovery journeys to give you hope and direction for your own ❤️ Thank you for being on this journey of healing with us!________Disclaimer:Although several of our panelists work in the mental health field, we are all coming to you as people in functional recovery from BPD, and are not here to provide professional medical advice, diagnosis or treatment.