The FASD Success Show

When you’re parenting on high alert for years, your nervous system eventually tries to protect you. Sometimes that protection looks like numbness, irritability, shutdown, or going through the motions. In this episode, Jeff Noble sits down with Michael Harris, known online as FASD Elephant, to break down the science of blocked care and the small, realistic ways caregivers can find their way back to connection.
In this episode you’ll hear
 • What blocked care is and why it happens when stress stays too high for too long
 • How the stress response can shut down your social engagement system and make you feel emotionally flat
 • Why anxiety keeps pulling you into worst case futures and how to come back to the present moment
 • The difference between self regulation and auto regulation and why auto regulation is the real level up
 • A one minute grounding tool you can practice anywhere even when life is loud
 • How to use “the gap and the gain” to track real progress when it feels like nothing is changing
 • Why grief and ambiguous loss often hide underneath anger and resentment
 • How to avoid toxic positivity and build something steadier and more sustainable
Start here first
 Caregiver Kickstart Workshop (free): https://www.fasdsuccess.com/fasdworkshop2026

Watch the full episode on YouTube
 https://youtu.be/2jcTNnkMfR0

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Listen on Spotify
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Resources mentioned
 FASD Elephant (Michael Harris): https://www.facebook.com/fasdelephant

Michael’s email: [email protected]

Michael’s writing hub: https://medium.com/@FASDElephant

Praise for Change: https://praiseforchange.com

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The biggest free training for families is back. We start with a new brain-body approach to aggression that stops the blame. Then, we tackle Advocacy in Action—giving you the tools to talk to professionals and teachers who just don't get this hidden disability. Finally, we build your blueprint for long-term stability and support.
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Episode #187 The FASD Brain and Connectivity with Dr. Raja Mukherjee
What if many of the struggles we see in FASD are not about behavior at all but about how the brain sends and receives messages?
In this episode of The FASD Success Show, Jeff Noble sits down with Dr. Raja Mukherjee, one of the world’s leading experts in FASD psychiatry and brain development, to explore what brain connectivity really means for individuals living with FASD across the lifespan.
Dr. Mukherjee explains how prenatal alcohol exposure affects the way different parts of the brain communicate with each other and why this can show up as inconsistency, fatigue, emotional overwhelm, and difficulty with daily life tasks even when someone appears capable on the surface.
Together, Jeff and Dr. Mukherjee unpack why independence is often the wrong goal, how interdependence supports regulation and mental health, and what caregivers can do differently when they understand the brain through a connectivity lens.
In This Episode You’ll Hear
• What brain connectivity is and why it matters more than IQ or motivation
 • How miscommunication between brain regions affects regulation, memory, and behavior
 • Why skills can look “there one day and gone the next”
 • How stress and overload disrupt already fragile brain networks
 • Why total independence is not a realistic or healthy end goal for many adults with FASD
 • How interdependence supports long term success and wellbeing
 • What caregivers and systems get wrong when they focus on compliance instead of connection
Why This Episode Matters
This conversation helps caregivers, professionals, and individuals with FASD move away from blame and toward understanding. When you see challenges as connectivity issues rather than character flaws, everything changes including expectations, support strategies, and outcomes.
Dr. Mukherjee brings decades of clinical experience and research insight to a topic that caregivers have been living for years. This episode offers clarity, validation, and a brain based framework you can actually use at home and in advocacy conversations.
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Resources and Links
Learn more about The FASD Success Show
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The biggest free training for families is back. We start with a new brain-body approach to aggression that stops the blame. Then, we tackle Advocacy in Action—giving you the tools to talk to professionals and teachers who just don't get this hidden disability. Finally, we build your blueprint for long-term stability and support.
Register: fasdsuccess.com/fasdworkshop2026
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What if independence is not the finish line we should be chasing for individuals with FASD?
In this episode of The FASD Success Show, Jeff Noble sits down with Chris Fillion, an adult on the FASD spectrum, foster parent, and national advocate, to talk honestly about what adulthood with FASD really looks like when support is done right.
Chris shares his lived experience navigating mental health challenges, the justice system, social services, and burnout, and how everything changed when the focus shifted from doing life alone to building the right team around him. Today, Chris is the Vice President of the Manitoba FASD Coalition and the Executive Director of FASD Mentors of Change, helping reshape how systems understand success for adults with FASD.
This conversation challenges one of the most exhausting myths caregivers carry, the belief that success means total independence. Instead, Jeff and Chris explore why interdependence, regulation, and community support are the real foundations for long term stability and growth.
In This Episode You’ll Hear
• Why independence is often the wrong goal for adults with FASD
 • What adulthood with FASD actually looks like beyond the labels
 • How anxiety treatment and mental health support can unlock capacity
 • Why having a support team is a strategy, not a failure
 • How lived experience advocacy is changing systems from the inside
 • What caregivers can learn about planning for the long game
Why It Matters
So many caregivers lie awake worrying about the future, wondering if their loved one will ever be okay on their own. This episode offers a powerful reframe.
Success is not about doing everything alone. It is about building a life that works with the brain you have, supported by people who understand it.
Chris’s story is proof that progress is real, timelines are different, and with the right scaffolding, adults with FASD can build meaningful, connected lives.
Resources and Links
FASD Mentors of Change
 https://fasdmentorsofchange.ca

Chris Fillion
 https://chrisfillion.ca

Manitoba FASD Coalition
 https://www.fasdcoalition.ca

New Directions
 https://newdirections.mb.ca

Join our free FASD Success Facebook Group
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Watch full episodes on YouTube
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Full show notes and resources
 https://www.fasdsuccess.com/podcast

The biggest free training for families is back. We start with a new brain-body approach to aggression that stops the blame. Then, we tackle Advocacy in Action—giving you the tools to talk to professionals and teachers who just don't get this hidden disability. Finally, we build your blueprint for long-term stability and support.
Register: fasdsuccess.com/fasdworkshop2026
Support the show

Trigger warning: This episode discusses suicide, self-harm, and mental health crises.
In this powerful and compassionate conversation, Jeff Noble sits down with Dr. Carly McMorris — clinical psychologist, associate professor at the University of Calgary, and leading FASD researcher — to talk about one of the hardest and most important topics in the FASD community: mental health.
They break down how to recognize the signs of crisis, why individuals with FASD experience such high rates of anxiety, depression, and suicidality, and how caregivers can respond with calm, informed strategies instead of fear.
You’ll learn:
 • Why up to 90% of individuals with FASD experience mental health challenges
 • How to tell the difference between a bad day and a mental health crisis
 • Why “go low and go slow” works — for your loved one and for you
 • How to use the FASD Mental Health Toolkit in real life
 • What caregivers can do when the system doesn’t respond
 • The hope behind new research on mental health and suicidality in FASD
If you’ve ever felt scared, unsure, or alone in supporting your loved one’s mental health, this episode will give you knowledge, validation, and tools to move from fear to understanding.
Resources & Links
🔗 Mental Health Toolkit: canfasd.ca/mental-health-toolkit

🎧 Episode 141 with Emma Jewell: fasdsuccess.com/blog/141-discover-a-new-mental-health-tool-with-emma-jewell

🎧 Episode with Dr. Jacqueline Pei: fasdsuccess.com/blog/FetalAlcoholSyndromementalhealth

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The biggest free training for families is back. We start with a new brain-body approach to aggression that stops the blame. Then, we tackle Advocacy in Action—giving you the tools to talk to professionals and teachers who just don't get this hidden disability. Finally, we build your blueprint for long-term stability and support.
Register: fasdsuccess.com/fasdworkshop2026
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Episode 184: Laurie Anderson The Power of Showing Up
What if success as a caregiver wasn’t about getting everything right, but about showing up again and again?
In this heartfelt episode of The FASD Success Show, Jeff Noble sits down with long time community leader and coach Laurie Anderson to talk about what it really means to keep going through the hardest seasons of caregiving with compassion, connection, and calm.
Laurie shares her journey from confusion to confidence, what she’s learned from years of moderating our 5,000 member FASD community, and how she’s redefining success after retirement and decades of advocacy.
In This Episode You’ll Hear
 • Why consistency and connection regulate the brain better than perfection
 • How Polyvagal Theory explains why community calms the nervous system
 • What success looks like when you measure by regulation, not results
 • Why rest and recovery are just as important as advocacy and action
 • How Laurie’s story can help you see your own progress even on the hard days
This conversation is part science, part story, and full of heart. A reminder that you don’t have to fix it all. You just have to keep showing up

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Full Show Notes: https://www.fasdsuccess.com/podcast
The biggest free training for families is back. We start with a new brain-body approach to aggression that stops the blame. Then, we tackle Advocacy in Action—giving you the tools to talk to professionals and teachers who just don't get this hidden disability. Finally, we build your blueprint for long-term stability and support.
Register: fasdsuccess.com/fasdworkshop2026
Support the show