The Sex Addiction Podcast For High-achievers and Entrepreneurs

Out of all the things I have seen lead to sex addiction relapse, this is the big one:

Men shaming themselves by accident. 

I get it… when you have done things you never thought that you would. And when you have hurt your wife in ways that will change her forever. It’s easy to beat yourself up. I know I did.

But, we know that shame is the #1 killer in sex addiction recovery. So, we need to be careful HOW we beat ourselves up.

In this episode, I talk about how to navigate the balance between remorse and shame.

I also talk about self-forgiveness and what you need to be cautious of that may lead you to relapse.

You cannot shame someone into changing. And you cannot shame yourself into change.

Focus on HOW you allowed this to happen and WHY you compromised your integrity. You will get far more out of recovery this way than focusing on shameful behavior.

I talk about shame a lot in my book. The High Achiever's Guide to Sex Addiction Recovery: A Proven Blueprint for Successful Professionals to Overcome Sex and Porn Addiction. You can find it here on Amazon and Audible: https://a.co/d/0139OJz5

If you’re a high-achiever, executive, or entrepreneur looking for a recovery group full of like-minded men, visit my website to fill out an application: https://successfuladdict.com/

Dayle Brenner and I talk about what we both agree is THE KEY to long-term sex addiction sobriety.

Dayle is a certified sex addiction therapist, and she is passionate about creating lasting change.

She and I both have no interest in helping men get sober… we want to see them recover.

Sex addiction recovery will not work if you are just checking off the boxes. Your recovery needs to become something that you are convicted about.

Like entrepreneurship, conviction is what differentiates the average and those who excel.

In this episode, we talk about how someone becomes convicted in their sex addiction recovery and where to start if you aren’t yet convicted.

If you want to reach Dayle, her website is here: https://www.daylebrennerwild.com/

If you have not yet read my book, I talk a lot about convicted recovery and the steps required to step into it. My book can be found here on Amazon and the audiobook on Audible: https://a.co/d/0j6eRiQR

If you want more information on joining one of my recovery groups, visit my website here: https://successfuladdict.com/

Disclosure is one of the most challenging things couples must manage after sexual betrayal. It’s also the most complicated part of the process.

For sex addicts, they fear that their wife will leave them once they hear about all of the sexual acting-out behaviors. They often think disclosure will not be helpful, but rather traumatize their wife by filling her head with details and fuel for mental imagery.

For partners, they often want the process to accelerate. Waiting another few weeks feels unfair and like torture. It’s also common for them to ask about every little detail in an effort to regain a sense of reality and safety.

For disclosure to work, it needs to be done correctly.

In this episode, I talk about common questions and misconceptions couples face when heading into disclosure.

While I am not a disclosure expert myself, many of my colleagues are excellent at helping couples through it. If you have questions or need a referral, send me an email to roland at successfuladdict.com

Communication is everything when in the crisis stage following infidelity.

One of the biggest pains in early sex addiction recovery is the damage that has been caused to the marriage.

Learning how to communicate effectively is key in the first 2 years of sex and porn addiction recovery. 

Betrayed partners need a sense of safety and stability. Because trust is gone, communication is all they have to stand on. If you cannot communicate in a way that feels safe and reassuring, you will certainly experience far more relational stress in the first 2 years.

In this episode, I interview Debbie McRae (certified sex addiction therapist). Debbie specializes in working with betrayed partners and couples healing from infidelity.

We talk about the most common communication mistakes we see in betrayal recovery and how you can avoid them.

If you want to get in contact with Debbie, you can find her website here: https://www.debbiemcraecounseling.com/

If you are a business professional, executive, entrepreneur, or business owner looking for a group full of like-minded men to connect with in recovery, visit my website here to apply: www.successfuladdict.com

The concept of the “root cause” is a bit oversimplified. Sex addiction is a complex problem that originates from many aspects of your life.

In this episode, I help men grasp the size of compulsive sexual behavior and how complex recovery really is.

Complex does not mean difficult… But it does mean that you will need to take this seriously if you want to achieve lasting recovery.

For the married men listening to this, trust is off the table after you betray your wife sexually. You will need to prove to her that you know how to prevent this from happening again.

At the end of the episode, I give men some ways that they can help uncover the complexities of their process addiction so that they can create an effective recovery plan.

If you have not yet read my book, I spend most of it helping men uncover the “why” behind their sexual acting out. You can find it here on Amazon and on Audible: https://a.co/d/0j6eRiQR