Angry At The Right Things

Relationship expert Dr. Jessica Higgins joins Bronwyn for a deep conversation about attachment wounds, emotional vulnerability, and healthy communication in intimate relationships. We discuss how to truly "win" an argument, how to work with anger, and what each individual can do independently to heal the relational dynamic.

As the host of the Empowered Relationship Podcast, Dr. Jessica helps people navigate the terrain of long-lasting intimacy more skillfully and mindfully. Through her coaching and online course, clients transform pain into love and connection. Dr. Jessica Higgins has over 20 years of experience helping clients achieve successful results.

www.DrJessicaHiggins.com

Bronwyn's CE trainings for therapists: www.integrateanger.com

Who knew empathy alone can be harmful, while compassion is life-giving? Bronwyn's conversation with psychologist and Duke Professor Dr. Noga Zerubavel enlightens us on the difference, which is vital for everyone with empathy -- not just those in the helping professions. We are empowered how to move toward compassion in practical ways. 

 

Noga’s Compassion Slogans as Micropractices: 

My calm is part of the healing

I meet suffering with steadiness and skill

Empathy is the doorway; compassion is the path.

From absorbing pain to offering care.

Active presence rather than immersion.

Care but don’t carry.

Stay open, stay grounded, move into helping

Compassion acts where empathy aches.

Hold the pain lightly, hold the person steadily.

Let empathy guide action, not paralysis.

Strong back, soft front (Roshi Joan Halifax)

Feel enough to understand; stay grounded enough to help.

I respond to suffering by offering care, support, or help.

Link to Noga's book: https://www.newharbinger.com/9781648484650/integrating-mindfulness-into-psychotherapy-for-trauma/

Noga Zerubavel, Ph.D., is a licensed psychologist and co-founder of Arise Psychological Wellness and Consulting. She is also Medical Assistant Professor in the Department of Psychiatry and Behavioral Sciences at Duke University School of Medicine, where she is involved in clinical education and research. She is author of the book Integrating Mindfulness into Psychotherapy for Trauma. She is the former director of an adult psychotherapy clinic for trauma survivors at Duke, where she led a trauma consultation team and supervised clinical psychology interns, postdoctoral fellows, and psychiatry residents. Dr. Zerubavel regularly provides trainings for mental health providers, health care providers, and other organizations on topics related to trauma, mindfulness, clinical supervision, as well as issues of sustainable practice (clinician wellness, burnout, secondary traumatic stress, empathic strain, and trauma-informed organizations).

Humans are springs that become blocked when we don't allow painful feelings to flow through us. When we judge our anger, relating to ourselves as our parents related to us, it causes us to invert anger we feel toward others onto ourselves, fueling perfectionism and self-harm.

Bronwyn's CE trainings for mental health professionals: https://www.integrateanger.com/

We were designed to blossom, and this starts when we see the goodness within us, becoming for ourselves the mirror we never had. This creates a strong energetic biofield emanating from us, which repels parasitic people and elicits respect from others. The outside mirrors what is within.

Bronwyn's CE trainings for mental health professionals: https://www.integrateanger.com/

Meditation can create dissociation and anxiety, but reflection brings closure to inner chaos by seeking understanding. Ruminating thoughts are evidence our brain is stuck on a problem needing our attention. Our mind is brilliant, and we can learn to work along the grain of it's design.

 

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