Formed by Jesus Podcast

https://formedbyjesus.com/peacemaking/people-of-peacemaking/

PROVERBS 1
Four kinds of people.
Wisdom begins with knowing who is actually in the room.

01
The simple
is the untrained.
Open, inexperienced, easily influenced: not evil, just unformed. The simple absorb the values of whoever surrounds them. When someone sins against you, it's worth asking: did they actually know better? Sometimes they truly didn't. That doesn't make the sin okay, but it changes how you respond.
REQUIRES TRAINING
Patience, and someone to show them the way of Jesus.

02
The young
is the unproven.
This isn't only about age; it's about experience. The unproven know the right answers but haven't faced the pressure that tests them. They know suffering requires faith, but they've never walked through devastating loss. Knowledge can be gained in a moment. Wisdom is proven over years of pressure.
REQUIRES OPPORTUNITY
Room to try, fail, and grow.

03
The fool
is the unteachable.
Proverbs doesn't treat foolishness as harmless immaturity but as a heart that resists God's wisdom. A fool doesn't just reject correction; they reject you for giving it. They'll blame-shift and change the narrative, keeping you focused on the details of the conflict so you never address the condition of their heart.
REQUIRES BOUNDARIES
There is a place for drawing the line.

04
The wise
is the unoffendable.
The wise are never the perfect ones; they're the teachable ones. They learn to love correction. They'd rather be righteous than be right. And being unoffendable isn't about never feeling offended. It's about refusing to let offense make your decisions.
REQUIRES HONOR
Don't spend all your time trying to fix fools while ignoring the wise voices God has already placed in your life.

Four kinds of people.
Wisdom begins with knowing who is actually in the room.

Scripture as Mirror: The Freedom Behind Confrontation

In 1964, Norman Rockwell painted "The Problem We All Live With" for Look magazine. It depicted 6-year-old Ruby Bridges walking to her first day of school during desegregation, escorted by headless US marshals, with a tomato splattered on the wall behind her meant to resemble blood.

Rockwell received more hate mail from this image than any other in his career—not from Black Americans, but from average citizens angry that he showed something true, real, and ugly about America. It wasn't the content that made people uncomfortable. It was the confrontation.

Here's what's profound about the painting: Where are you positioned as the viewer? Rockwell made you both an observer of the image and a participant in the story. It forced viewers to confront who they really were in light of the Black American story.

Scripture works the same way. It's a mirror that confronts us, challenges us, and calls out our assumptions about God, the world, and ourselves. The question is: will we look intently at what we see, or will we walk away?

## The False Self and Fig Leaves

Genesis tells us Adam and Eve were created naked and felt no shame. They lived in wholeness and vulnerability without fear of confrontation. But after eating the forbidden fruit, their eyes were opened. Genesis 3:7 says "they realized they were naked, so they sewed fig leaves together and made coverings for themselves."

The fig leaves are a physical symbol of a spiritual reality. When confronted, our inclination is to hide—from others, from ourselves, and from God.

Our version of fig leaves today is what psychologists and theologians call **the false self**—the version of ourselves we project to others to hide our weakness, woundedness, and wickedness.

- **Weakness**: The parts we're insecure about—our fears, personality quirks, things we feel unconfident in
- **Woundedness**: Our embarrassing history, family of origin, trauma
- **Wickedness**: Our sins, failures, willful disobedience—the anger we can't shake, the addiction we can't break free from, the pride in how we treat others

The false self is a coping mechanism based on self-reliance rather than God's love and providence. What are you hiding behind? Your busyness? Your personality ("I'm just not wired that way")? Maybe even something good you're subtly putting before God—your family, career, health?

## The Four Levels of Sin

Early church fathers and mothers understood how deep the false self goes. They identified four levels of sin:

**1. Gross Sins** - Obvious wrongs most people would agree are bad: sexual immorality, deception, greed. These are easy to identify but also easy to use to make ourselves feel better. "I might have an anger problem, but at least I'm not an alcoholic."

**2. Conscious Sins** - Things that are socially accepted but at odds with Jesus' way: How do you spend your money? What media do you consume? How do you talk about others? These confront not just our behaviors but our will and freedom.

**3. Unconscious Sins** - Sins of motivation: doing the right thing for the wrong reasons. Dysfunctional relational patterns others experience in us. You might not yell at your spouse, but do you harbor years of bitterness?

**4. Attachments** - Good things that become bad things because of our reliance on them. Success in ministry. Career. Family relationships. If we lose these, we question who we are. A false self built on career success crumbles after retirement.

## Looking Intently Into the Mirror

James 1:23-25 says: "Anyone who listens to the word but does not do what it says is like someone who looks at his face in a mirror and after looking at himself goes away and immediately forgets what he looks like. But whoever looks intently into the perfect law that gives freedom and continues in it... will be blessed."

Scripture has power to show us who we really are if we're willing to look intently. Most of us approach the Bible cognitively—asking about context, author, genre. These are good questions, but if that's where we stop, it's just a higher form of control.

Try going deeper:
- How do I actually feel in response to what I'm reading?
- Where do I come alive? Where do I feel resistance?
- What aspects of my life are being touched?
- What do my reactions tell me about myself?

**If you don't feel resistance to anything when reading the Bible, you're probably not reading enough of it.**

When you feel challenged, discomforted, or exposed—that's an invitation to submit something in your soul to God. God forms us most deeply in the places where we are least like Jesus.

## The Gift of Confrontation

James says whoever looks intently finds "the perfect law that gives freedom."

Freedom from the false self you're killing yourself to construct. Freedom from wounds you'd rather hide than heal. Freedom from the weight of sin you'd rather manage than confess. Freedom from the fear of being found out.

Remember how God responded to Adam and Eve's fig leaves? He went looking for them. He didn't wait for them to get their act together. He found them, confronted them, and even though He kicked them out of the garden, God went with them.

What if that's how God is trying to call out to you today? What if the sign you're waiting for isn't behind a dream, vision, or miracle? What if it's behind confrontation?

**What are you hiding behind? What part of Scripture are you ignoring out of fear? What if that's exactly how God is trying to get your attention today?**

You don't have to cover yourself up to be seen by God. If you've given your life to Him, He's already forgiven you. The sins you're hiding, He's already paid for.

Let the mirror do its work.