This episode is a happy goodbye to all the good parenting goals we are sending off to sea. There is only so much we can prioritize, so much energy, so many battles to fight and hills to die on. Today, we each share three parenting goals we really do value, but can't value enough to keep beating our heads against the wall for.Mentioned In Today's Episode:Sarah Knight's TED Talk "The Magic of Not Giving a F***"Our conversation with S. Bear Bergman where he talks about choosing 2-3 things to teach our kids.Our conversation with James and Lucy Catchpole where they talk about limitations as the parameters for a particular, beautiful life.As Always:Check out Caitlin and Rebekah's Book Shop! Here you can find every book mentioned in our episodes, as well as a few additional faves.Use this link to get a 25% discount on a PokPok subcription! And if you haven't listened yet, check out our interview with PokPok creators, Esther and Melissa.We would love to hear from you! What are the parenting goals you're ditching, dropping, toasting, gently releasing?🍎 Apple🟢 SpotifyFind Rebekah on Substack & Caitlin on Instagram ✨
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🎙️ Parenting Advice That Doesn't Suck with S. Bear Bergman
Today on Scratch That we chat with the tender and wise trailblazer S. Bear Bergman. We found Bear when we fell head-over-heels in love with his parenting book, Special Topics In Being a Parent. Unlike so many parenting advice we've read, Bear's approach felt adaptable and possible. It was only after we booked our interview that we realized Bear is a BFD. A founding member of the very first Gay/Straight Alliance, Bear has spent the last several decades telling stories, writing books, and inviting humans into greater justice, equity, and inclusion. He is brimming with deep insight, flexible scripts, and the most non-judgmental advice. We're excited to share our conversation with you💛Tune in to hear us talk about:🍳 The two-ingredient recipe that makes the tone of Bear's parenting book different from so many others.🔬 The part about trial and error that Bear thinks we don't talk about enough.🤝 Collaborative vs controlling parenting.🔨 The part of parenting differently than you were parented that no one talks about.🔎 A clarifying strategy for the chaotic parenting moments when so many things are going wrong.🚮 Figuring out what parenting priorities to simply let go of. Trading a family tree for a family garden.🚫 The 2 kids' shows Caitlin and Bear CANNOT abide by.Mentioned In Today's Episode:Special Topics in Being a Parent: A Queer and Tender Guide to Things I've Learned About Parenting, Mostly the Hard WaySpecial Topics in Being a Human: A Queer and Tender Guide to Things I've Learned the Hard Way about Caring For People, Including MyselfThe song Bear added to our collective Scratch That Spotify playlist – "Might as Well Dance" by Patty LarkinAs Always:Check out Caitlin and Rebekah's Book Shop! Here you can find every book mentioned in our episodes, as well as a few additional faves.Use this link to get a 25% discount on a PokPok subcription! And if you haven't listened yet, check out our interview with PokPok creators, Esther and Melissa.We would love to hear from you! 🍎 Apple🟢 SpotifyFind Rebekah on Substack & Caitlin on Instagram ✨
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🎙️ Parenting Advice That Doesn't Suck with S. Bear Bergman
Today on Scratch That we chat with the tender and wise trailblazer S. Bear Bergman. We found Bear when we fell head-over-heels in love with his parenting book, Special Topics In Being a Parent. Unlike so many parenting advice we've read, Bear's approach felt adaptable and possible. It was only after we booked our interview that we realized Bear is a BFD. A founding member of the very first Gay/Straight Alliance, Bear has spent the last several decades telling stories, writing books, and inviting humans into greater justice, equity, and inclusion. He is brimming with deep insight, flexible scripts, and the most non-judgmental advice. We're excited to share our conversation with you💛Tune in to hear us talk about:🍳 The two-ingredient recipe that makes the tone of Bear's parenting book different from so many others.🔬 The part about trial and error that Bear thinks we don't talk about enough.🤝 Collaborative vs controlling parenting.🔨 The part of parenting differently than you were parented that no one talks about.🔎 A clarifying strategy for the chaotic parenting moments when so many things are going wrong.🚮 Figuring out what parenting priorities to simply let go of. Trading a family tree for a family garden.🚫 The 2 kids' shows Caitlin and Bear CANNOT abide by.Mentioned In Today's Episode:Special Topics in Being a Parent: A Queer and Tender Guide to Things I've Learned About Parenting, Mostly the Hard WaySpecial Topics in Being a Human: A Queer and Tender Guide to Things I've Learned the Hard Way about Caring For People, Including MyselfThe song Bear added to our collective Scratch That Spotify playlist – "Might as Well Dance" by Patty LarkinAs Always:Check out Caitlin and Rebekah's Book Shop! Here you can find every book mentioned in our episodes, as well as a few additional faves.Use this link to get a 25% discount on a PokPok subcription! And if you haven't listened yet, check out our interview with PokPok creators, Esther and Melissa.We would love to hear from you! 🍎 Apple🟢 SpotifyFind Rebekah on Substack & Caitlin on Instagram ✨
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🌪️ How do we parent in public??
Do you find yourself feeling extra wobbly when you're parenting in front of other people? Do you care what strangers think when your kid is having a meltdown in the grocery store or at grandma's house? Us too, friends! US TOO. Why is it so hard to hold onto ourselves/our parenting values/the ground beneath us when we're parenting in front of other people? And how else might we think about these moments?Tune in to hear us talk about:🙄 The icky part of parents commiserating with other parents.🏆 The twisty need we have for our kids to "behave" in public to validate our parenting.🤹 The trickiness of toggling multiple roles at once.🫧 How kids disrupt, for good and for bad, our bubbles built on "adult" social rules.🚨 The unique threats for disabled parents when parenting in public.🔭 2 reframes we're practicing for fraught parenting-in-public moments.As Always:Check out Caitlin and Rebekah's Book Shop! Here you can find every book mentioned in our episodes, as well as a few additional faves.Use this link to get a 25% discount on a PokPok subcription! And if you haven't listened yet, check out our interview with PokPok creators, Esther and Melissa.We would love to hear from you! Solidarity? Advice? Laments? We're here for it💛🍎 Apple🟢 SpotifyFind Rebekah on Substack & Caitlin on Instagram ✨
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🌪️ How do we talk with our kids about the scary stuff in the world??
How do we talk to our kids about war, death, families being separated, floods, guns, violence, any of it? Should we shield them as much and as long as possible? Should we hold their hand as we tell them what we know to be real? How do we balance protecting our kids with equipping them? These questions feel important, the stakes feel high, we're doing our best, and making it up as we go. Today we dive into it as we try to figure out how we want to navigate the conversations that scare us.Tune in to hear us talk about: The sticky conversations Caitlin loves diving into with their kid and why some topics feel so much harder.🇺🇸 How our parents' talked with us about politics in the 90s.🪦 The very different responses we had to our kids seeing dead animals and the one thread we share.📚 How Caitlin is using books and stories as invitations and bridges into hard conversations.🪧 The conversations Rebekah had with a fellow protester that illuminated how she wants to move through today's politic landscape with her son.⚙️ A potentially measured and responsible new strategy to equip our kids for the scary realities of today's world.Mentioned In Today's Episode:What Makes a Baby by Cory SilverbergAs Always:Check out Caitlin and Rebekah's Book Shop! Here you can find every book mentioned in our episodes, as well as a few additional faves.Use this link to get a 25% discount on a PokPok subcription! And if you haven't listened yet, check out our interview with PokPok creators, Esther and Melissa.We would love to hear from you! What helps you navigate conversations (with your kids or anyone else!) about the scary things happening in the world right now? And what book recommendations do you have? For any age! What are the book that are helping you understand our history and humanity?🍎 Apple🟢 SpotifyFind Rebekah on Substack & Caitlin on Instagram ✨
About Scratch That: Parenting & ReParenting Off Script
Scratch That is a weekly podcast with queer illustrator Caitlin Metz and disabled storyteller Rebekah Taussig, two friends trying to figure out how to be parents and people at the same time. Caitlin and Rebekah delve into heartfelt, honest conversations with caregivers who are going off script, starting from scratch, and building alternate paths. Join our community on Patreon!
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