The Mental Healness Podcast

Why 75% of Marriages That Start as Affairs End in Divorce. Does an affair ever actually lead to a "happily ever after"? The data says probably not. In this video, self-aware narcissist Lee Hammock breaks down the grim statistics of relationships that start through betrayal.While it may feel like "destiny" in the beginning, the transition from a secret affair to a legal marriage is a psychological minefield. We discuss why only 3-7% of affair partners ever marry, why the divorce rate for these unions is a staggering 75%, and the "Trust Deficit" that poisons the relationship from day one.Key Topics Covered:The "Unreality" Bubble: Why affairs die in the real world.The "Once a Cheater" stigma and internal suspicion.The lack of social support and family isolation.Why a "Soulmate" born in a lie can't handle the truth.Stop living in the fantasy and start looking at the facts. Stay Aware. Stay Healed.

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"Was it all a lie? Did I ever actually matter?" In one of his most requested deep-dives, Lee Hammock answers the question that keeps every survivor awake at night. Discover the difference between being "loved" and being "useful," and learn how a narcissist’s lack of object constancy allows them to discard you without a second thought. This is the closure you’ve been looking for.
Key Topics:
Why you mattered as a "Tool," not a "Person"

The science of Object Constancy in Narcissism

Why they don’t mourn the relationship like you do

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Are you "Pain Shopping"? In this episode, self-aware narcissist Lee Hammock breaks down the compulsive urge to check an ex's social media. Learn why your brain is addicted to the "Digital Self-Harm" of seeing their fake new life and how narcissists weaponize their profiles to keep you stuck in the trauma bond. It’s time to close the "Pain Store" and start your real recovery.

Key Topics: > * The Dopamine Trap of "The Scroll"
Why the Narcissist's "New Life" is a Billboard, Not a Reality

How to Break the Compulsion to Check Their Page

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Did the "fairytale" end as fast as it started? In today’s live session, we are connecting the dots between the intense Love Bombing phase and the cold, calculated Reverse Discard.As a self-aware narcissist, I’m pulling back the curtain on the internal "playbook" used to create a trauma bond. We’ll discuss why narcissists use intensity to bypass your boundaries, the psychology of "Baiting a Breakup," and why you feel like you’re losing your mind during the devaluation phaseThis isn't just about labels—it's about pattern recognition and your psychological safety. Whether you’re currently in the "honeymoon phase" or you’ve just been discarded, this live Q&A is designed to give you the clarity you need to stop the cycle.In this stream, we cover:The 4 Stages of the Narcissistic CycleWhy they "bait" you into ending the relationshipHow to protect your nervous system from the "High-Low" addictionReal-time Q&A: Your hardest questions answered from the "inside."

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1-on-1 Coaching Calls: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://link.me/mentalhealness⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
All My Link: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://beacons.page/mentalhealness ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

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In the world of Cluster B personality disorders, NPD (Narcissistic Personality Disorder) and BPD (Borderline Personality Disorder) are often called "cousins" because they can look identical on the surface, especially during a blowout argument.

Is it Narcissism (NPD) or Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD)? Self-aware narcissist Lee Hammock breaks down the core differences in 2026. Learn why one is driven by ego/admiration and the other by a desperate fear of abandonment.

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My Courses: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://courses.mentalhealness.net⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
1-on-1 Coaching Calls: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://link.me/mentalhealness⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
All My Link: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://beacons.page/mentalhealness ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Follow on Instagram/TikTok: @mentalhealnesss

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