S9 E31 - Laura the inventor, the miscarriage cradle.
This one’s for the women who’ve been told to “just move on,” for those crying in the shower or clutching their partner’s hand at 3am. Because miscarriage is one of the hardest, loneliest things you’ll ever face. It deserves to be spoken about, felt, honoured.In this episode, we talk about the panic, the fear, and the sheer helplessness of managing a miscarriage at home. When you realise you don’t have a manual, no one’s told you what to expect, and suddenly you’re dealing with it on your own - scared, heartbroken, and trying to keep it together.We talk about:What it’s really like to go through this without immediate medical support - the frantic Googling, the “what do I do now?” moments, and the fear that no one seems prepared to address.The crushing loneliness of it all. When the world carries on scrolling through baby showers and gender reveals, and you’re just trying to make it through the day.How normal it is to feel panic, fear and disbelief. You’re not weak for feeling them. You’re human.The different ways people cope - from baths and blankets to complete emotional shutdowns. There’s no one right way.How the lack of clear guidance makes it so much worse. The not knowing, the silence, the absence of proper information.Using everyday things - towels, bowls, slotted spoons - as makeshift lifelines. Because sometimes, that’s all you’ve got.The power of emotional support: your partner’s hug, your friend’s text, your mum showing up with tea. They all matter more than words can say.How healthcare responses can feel cold or clinical, leaving you unseen when you’re at your most vulnerable.And most importantly, how sharing your story connects you to others who’ve been there. This is how we build a tribe - by speaking the truth.Big love to the Dignity Care Network and the Miscarriage Collection CradleWe also want to give a massive shout-out to the Miscarriage Collection Cradle from Dignity Care Network. Because when you have to deal with the physical side of loss, you deserve care and dignity - not improvisation.The cradle was designed with compassion and practicality in mind. It’s used inside the toilet bowl, with a removable insert to keep everything secure and separate. It allows you to collect gently and hygienically, without direct contact or distress. It was developed with healthcare professionals and families who’ve been through miscarriage themselves, and it makes an impossible situation that little bit more bearable.It’s about giving you control, privacy and respect at a time when you feel you’ve lost everything else. It’s small, simple, and incredibly meaningful.You can find out more at dignitycarenetwork.com.
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