The Worst Girl Gang Ever

NOTE : Ollie joins us from the fire station having just gotten back from a call out - the sound is not what it could be - apologies! 

A break from the norm for us with a mid-week episode for those in Hertfordshire & those willing to travel! 

Ollie Dent is a fire officer who joined us with his partner for a previous episode talking about their loss and the difficulties he had at work following their experience. 
Since then, Ollie has done great things in raising awareness within the emergency services and has organised a Baby Loss Awareness Day at his fire station in Hatfield. 

It's on Tuesday 13th October - 9.30 - 4.30, and will be supported by us, sands, Zion's lighthouse, aching arms and the silence of TFMR - all organisations looking for the same thing - a change in how these experiences are supported. 

If you'd like more info - please email Ollie Oliver.dent@hertfordshire.gov.uk

We are The Worst Girl Gang Ever Foundation. We’re all about bringing people together who are going through the tough stuff — baby loss, infertility, and everything in between — and making sure no one has to face it alone. Our community is full of honesty, compassion, and real talk, offering support, understanding, and hope when it’s needed most. You can find out more and connect with us over at www.theworstgirlgangever.co.uk

Cathryn shares her story of IVF, the devastating loss of her daughter Freya, and what it really means to keep living when your world has completely changed.
She talks openly about the relentless highs and lows of fertility treatment, the heartbreak of losing Freya, and trying to navigate grief in a world that doesn’t always know what to say or how to show up.
Cathryn also shares the importance of keeping Freya’s memory alive and creating a legacy for her, the people and support that helped her through the darkest days, and why we desperately need to keep talking about baby loss - even when those conversations are difficult.
We also talk about parenting after loss, the complicated emotions that come with moving forward while carrying someone with you, and the impact grief can have on relationships, family and everything you thought life was going to look like.
It’s raw, heartbreaking and full of love - a conversation about Freya, grief, survival and finding a way to carry it all.
During this episode we talk about a facebook group for those in Bristol and Bath - here is the link to join if you are local https://www.facebook.com/groups/1219410566556112
We are The Worst Girl Gang Ever Foundation. We’re all about bringing people together who are going through the tough stuff — baby loss, infertility, and everything in between — and making sure no one has to face it alone. Our community is full of honesty, compassion, and real talk, offering support, understanding, and hope when it’s needed most. You can find out more and connect with us over at www.theworstgirlgangever.co.uk

This week we chat to Liz from oop north. 

Liz suffered the loss of her baby whilst on holiday for her 30th in Portugal. She and her husband Chris faced language barriers, different hospital procedures and a challenging lack of empathy whilst facing the most difficult days of their lives. 

Liz talks us through her diagnosis of an incompetent cervix when she got back to the UK and how that medical terminology affected her mental wellbeing. 

Following their loss, Liz and Chris have gone on to have baby Archie, Liz speaks about the anxiety during her pregnancy and how she advocated for a cervical stitch. 

Liz wanted to come on the podcast to share a story of hope for anyone diagnosed with an incompetent cervix. 

We are The Worst Girl Gang Ever Foundation. We’re all about bringing people together who are going through the tough stuff — baby loss, infertility, and everything in between — and making sure no one has to face it alone. Our community is full of honesty, compassion, and real talk, offering support, understanding, and hope when it’s needed most. You can find out more and connect with us over at www.theworstgirlgangever.co.uk

This week we talk to Suzanne from Galway about her baby’s diagnosis of T21 and high drops. 
Suzanne had to have additional scans during her pregnancy because medical professionals ‘hoped’ her baby would die naturally, to prevent her from travelling to England for a termination for medical reasons. 

This was not the case & the day before she was due to fly, the hospital cancelled her appointment because a lift was broken and then, when she arrived in Liverpool, she was told that they didn’t have a surgeon and would need to be transferred to Middlesborough. All this while trying to navigate the devastation of knowing that she wouldn’t be bringing home her baby. 
During the transfer, she was asked to take a box with her and later discovered that inside the box were the instruments that were needed to carry out her termination. 
This is a devastating story and a clear demonstration of the pain caused by current abortion laws. 
Taboo exists, and Suzanne highlights this bravely and articulately. 
During the episode we speak about a support group that Suzanne has found huge comfort in, "Let Me Choose" or Leanbh mo Chroí - they can be found at https://lmcsupport.ie/about

We are The Worst Girl Gang Ever Foundation. We’re all about bringing people together who are going through the tough stuff — baby loss, infertility, and everything in between — and making sure no one has to face it alone. Our community is full of honesty, compassion, and real talk, offering support, understanding, and hope when it’s needed most. You can find out more and connect with us over at www.theworstgirlgangever.co.uk

This week we spoke to Natalie, 

Following 3 rounds of IVF, the final resulting in a missed miscarriage, Natalie speaks about how she has begun to navigate being childless not by choice. She talks about her experience of fertility testing and IVF and the difficulties she had both physically and emotionally, with medical professionals. 

We speak about expectations, misconceptions and how to look after yourself properly. As a therapist herself, Natalie learned that she would need to make some changes to protect and restore her mental wellbeing and that those changes would come with guilt. 

We explore guilt, shame and how it feels to be ambivalent about becoming a parent, before having that decision taken from you. 

A very thought provoking episode. 
We are The Worst Girl Gang Ever Foundation. We’re all about bringing people together who are going through the tough stuff — baby loss, infertility, and everything in between — and making sure no one has to face it alone. Our community is full of honesty, compassion, and real talk, offering support, understanding, and hope when it’s needed most. You can find out more and connect with us over at www.theworstgirlgangever.co.uk