What I Let Die Podcast

You don't need credentials to hold space for grief.
You just need care. A space. And the courage to stay. In this final episode of Season One, we walk through the how-to of starting your own grief circle—from the kitchen table to the community center to a Zoom call. Whether you've never hosted a space like this before, or you're ready to return to one with more intention, this episode offers a warm, practical guide to making room for what hurts and what still matters. We explore the rituals that help us listen to grief—like composting, funerals, eulogies, and emotional autopsies—and we reflect on how our inherited beliefs about death shape what we're willing to name. In this episode, we explore: * How to host a grief circle, step-by-step * What to say when you're not an expert * 4 grief rituals you can try inside your circle * Why silence, honesty, and curiosity are enough * How to confront your personal grief mythology Visit bringingflowers.org to join our grief + joy work with Thea Monyeé. And join the ILID course waitlist here. Thanks for walking through this first season with me.
May your grief gatherings be messy, honest, and enough.

This grieftending episode is full of rituals that meet you where you actually are. In it, I offer you small grief practices for real life. Not just retreats. Not just deep dives, but daily, doable rituals. We named grief myths and we honored non-body deaths (Kananápo). We asked: What do you want to stop carrying, and start composting? We explore: Micro-Funerals (for endings and expired expectations) The Audio Mirror (unfiltered voice journaling) Composting Grief (turning loss into future nourishment) Episode 12 will close the season. It's a how-to for grief circles. A soft, useful structure for collective tending. Tune in for it.

Final episode in the Grief in Community arc of What I Let Die What happens when you're grieving and trying to show up for your kids at the same time? What happens when you're the one responsible for someone else's emotional safety, while still unraveling inside your own pain? This episode is about that. It's about the parents, caregivers, aunties, mentors, and chosen family members trying to hold it down for the young ones—while carrying grief that isn't always named, understood, or supported. In this final episode of our Grief in Community arc, I'm speaking directly to the tension of grieving while parenting, and parenting while grieving. I talk about what happens when we try to hide our pain. What happens when we overexpose our kids to it. And what can shift when we just start being more real, more resourced, and more reflective about it all. I also share a piece of my own parenting-while-grieving story and offer some questions and frames to help you explore what grief is teaching—through you, and through the children watching you. 🔎 In this episode: Talking to kids about grief without shutting them down The "absent-but-sorta-present" parent How untended grief impacts your caregiving What our caregivers' grief taught us (and didn't) What grieving out loud can make possible ✨ Core Questions to Sit With: How did your parents or caregivers grieve around you? What are the children in your life learning from how you grieve? What kind of grief conversation would you have, if shame wasn't in the room? Let's continue this conversation inside the WILD Chat Room.

In this episode, Akilah S. Richards reflects on the journey so far inside What I Let Die, pausing to honor how physical death has shaped her relationship with non-physical losses. She weaves in the concept of Kananápo—the grief that comes from endings that don't involve a body—and explores how tending to body death can grow our capacity to hold what we can't see but deeply feel. Grief and joy show up together here, as they often do. With metaphors rooted in permaculture and practices from the ILID course, Akilah reminds us that our grief-tending skills are also joy-growing skills. This one is an offering of tenderness, clarity, and invitation. In this episode: A reflection on body death and its teachings The grief-joy connection, grounded in everyday language An invitation to keep practicing with what grief leaves behind Tap in further at bringingflowers.org, and join the ILID waitlist to continue the work of honoring and releasing.

Episode 8: Grieving Together: Why Our Communities Need More Grief Literacy What does it take to hold space for someone else's grief without making it about us? And what if we stopped waiting for the "right" words and just started witnessing each other better? In this episode, I'm reflecting on what I've learned about grieving in community—from grief at work to grief in friendships to the subtle, daily losses we rarely name out loud. I'm also sharing a personal story that changed the way I show up when people around me are hurting. "When we are allowed to grieve out loud, without being asked to shrink or perform, we begin to remember each other differently." This one's about the skills we all need to practice if we're serious about showing up for the people we love. Tap in, then come drop your reflections in the WILD Postmortems.