A Millennial Mind

• THIS Is Why You're A Chronic People Pleaser! (+ How To Fix It!) Annalie Howling | A Millennial Mind

  Are you tired of saying yes when every part of you is screaming no? In this week's episode of A Millennial Mind, I sit down with Annalie Howling — performance coach, trauma specialist, and boundaries queen — to unpack the truth about people pleasing, approval addiction, and why so many of us feel guilty putting ourselves first. We dive deep into the psychology behind saying yes, how it’s linked to childhood conditioning, and what it actually takes to stop caring what everyone thinks. If you’ve ever been called “too nice,” struggled to set boundaries, or felt drained trying to please everyone — this one’s for you. ✨ Who It’s For: Chronic people pleasers who can’t say no Anyone struggling with guilt, shame, or overgiving Women tired of being the “good girl” Anyone learning to protect their peace & energy 💡 What You’ll Learn: Why people pleasing starts — and how to break the pattern How to set boundaries without guilt or fear The link between self-worth and saying no Practical tools to stop overgiving & reclaim your energy If you’ve ever thought, “I’ll just do it to keep the peace,” this is the episode for you. It’s time to stop being 'liked' - and start being respected. 00:00 Introduction – Why We People Please 01:05 Meet Annalie Howling: Turning Pain into Purpose 04:20 The Truth About People Pleasing and Self-Abandonment 08:30 When Helping Others Becomes Self-Harm 12:45 The Guilt of Saying No 15:20 The Connection Between Guilt, Shame, and Self-Worth 18:40 Trauma, Control, and Learned Helplessness 23:10 Why Some People Resist Healing 26:00 Narcissism, Victimhood, and Emotional Boundaries 31:10 How to Set Boundaries Without Feeling Selfish 35:45 Understanding Shame in People Pleasing 40:15 Fawning: The Hidden Trauma Response 45:30 Healing from Childhood Shame and Conditioning 49:50 Recognizing and Validating Your Own Trauma 54:10 Breaking Generational Patterns of Guilt 58:30 Setting Boundaries with Family and In-Laws 01:02:10 Why “Good Girls” Struggle to Say No 01:05:00 Speaking Up When It Feels Uncomfortable 01:09:30 Letting Go of the Need to Please 01:12:00 Final Reflections – Living Unapologetically 🔔 Subscribe for more discussions on mental health, personal growth, and healing! / @shivanipaupodcast ✨ Connect with Millennial Mind ✨ Podcast Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/amillennialmind Shivani Pau Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/shivani.pau Subscribe on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/shivanipaupodcast Performance Planner: https://my-performance-planner.myshopify.com/ Let Me Change Your Mind 🧠 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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• Can Energy Healing Really Fix You? Scientist & Reiki Master Explains All | A Millennial Mind

  What if everything you’ve been taught about healing is only half the story? In this episode of A Millennial Mind, I sit down with Lekhmi, founder of The 111 Approach - a celebrity Reiki Master and intuitive healer who blends science and spirituality to explain how energy healing really works. I used to think Reiki and energy work were a bit “woo-woo,” until my own experience changed everything. We talk about the science of energy healing, how your nervous system and emotions affect your body, and the small ways you can start to self-heal and reconnect with your intuition. If you’ve ever wondered “is energy healing real?” or just want to feel more grounded, calm and connected - this episode is for you. ✨ Who It’s For: Skeptics who want to understand the science behind energy healing Anyone curious about Reiki, vibration, and holistic health People looking to reduce stress, regulate their nervous system, and reconnect with themselves ✨ What You’ll Learn: How energy healing and Reiki actually work The link between emotions, the nervous system, and physical health Why intuition and frequency are key to self-healing How to tell real healers from fakes in the wellness space Simple ways to restore balance and heal your body naturally 00:00 Introduction and Initial Skepticism 00:51 Exploring the Concept of Energy Healing 01:16 Guest Introduction: Luck Me and Her Unique Approach 02:53 Personal Experiences and Changing Perspectives 04:34 Understanding Reiki and Energy Healing 05:55 Childhood Intuition and Suppression 12:09 Reconnecting with Intuition and First Reiki Experience 14:36 Skepticism and Scientific Perspective 18:32 The Science and Practice of Reiki 28:29 Personal Stories and Spiritual Connections 38:20 A Childhood Intuition 39:34 The Power of Intuition and Skepticism 40:38 Gut Health and Intuition 41:23 Energy and Vibrations 42:30 Embracing Emotions and Healing 42:46 Connecting with Intuition and Energy Healing 44:42 Personal Stories of Energy Healing 49:22 The Placebo Effect and Healing 51:04 Scientific Studies on Energy Healing 52:13 Reiki in Hospitals 52:48 Identifying Genuine Practitioners 57:03 Empowering Self-Healing 01:03:23 One Minute Wellness Practice 01:09:12 The Power of Collective Meditation 01:14:11 Crystals and Energy 01:17:39 Final Thoughts on Energy and Intuition self 🔔 Subscribe for more discussions on mental health, personal growth, and healing! / @shivanipaupodcast ✨ Connect with Millennial Mind ✨ Podcast Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/amillennialmind Shivani Pau Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/shivani.pau Subscribe on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/shivanipaupodcast Performance Planner: https://my-performance-planner.myshopify.com/ Let Me Change Your Mind 🧠 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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• Biohack Your Way to Health (On a Budget!) | Coral Pearl | A Millennial Mind

  What if you could feel incredible with more energy, focus and calm without spending a fortune? In this week's episode of A Millennial Mind, Coral Pearl breaks down the truth about biohacking: what it really means, how to start biohacking on a budget, and why you don’t need expensive supplements, trackers or cold plunges to optimise your body and mind. Coral shares practical, science-backed ways to support your nervous system, balance your hormones, improve gut health and boost natural energy. She explains how small, affordable biohacks — from better sleep and sunlight to real food and mindset shifts — can transform your wellbeing, longevity and mental clarity. We talk about the habits our ancestors lived by, the modern wellness myths that keep us sick, and how to eat, move and live in a way that supports your biology. I wanted to have this conversation because Coral makes wellness and biohacking feel achievable again. No elitism, no pressure — just simple, evidence-based tools to reconnect with your body and feel like yourself. If you’ve ever felt lost in the health space or overwhelmed by expensive trends, this one will remind you that real health starts with simple, accessible habits. These are all real-world examples that Coral has tried and tested herself to turn her life around and, she says, improve her health for the better. ✨ Who this episode is for Anyone curious about biohacking, wellness or longevity but unsure where to start Listeners tired of expensive wellness trends and quick fixes People looking to improve gut health, nervous system balance and natural energy Those wanting to understand the science of stress, recovery and nutrition Millennials searching for affordable, realistic health and lifestyle habits 💡 What you’ll learn What biohacking really means and how to do it on a budget The low-cost daily habits that improve focus, energy and mood How to regulate your nervous system naturally The connection between nutrition, inflammation and mental health Why modern wellness gets health wrong and how to simplify it 0:00 - What if everything you’ve been taught about health is wrong? 1:00 - Why Coral stopped trusting traditional medicine 3:05 - The “ancestral living” lifestyle explained 5:00 - Biohacking isn’t just for the rich — here’s how to start for free 7:30 - Grounding, breathwork, and sunlight: the ultimate morning trio 9:45 - Coral’s wild morning routine (and the headband hack!) 11:10 - How biohacking changed her energy, sleep & focus 13:20 - The truth about mouth taping and deep sleep 15:10 - Why blue light might be ruining your health 17:00 - How to calm your nervous system instantly 20:00 - The trampoline trick that boosts your mood 25:30 - Coral’s 5AM morning routine & discipline secrets 29:00 - Her full step-by-step health routine revealed 33:00 - From vegan to ancestral eating — why she switched 36:00 - Are plant-based diets actually bad for you? 39:00 - What pesticides are doing to your gut 42:00 - The 3 foods Coral would *never* eat again 45:00 - The shocking truth about milk and pasteurisation 47:00 - How to find what really works for your body 49:00 - Coral’s message for anyone feeling stuck in their health journey Follow Coral Peal: https://www.instagram.com/coral.peal 🔔 Subscribe for more discussions on mental health, personal growth, and healing! / @shivanipaupodcast ✨ Connect with Millennial Mind ✨ Podcast Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/amillennialmind Shivani Pau Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/shivani.pau Subscribe on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/shivanipaupodcast Performance Planner: https://my-performance-planner.myshopify.com/ Let Me Change Your Mind 🧠 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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• My Emergency C-Section At 30 Weeks Pregnant & NICU Experience | Rhona Eskander | A Millennial Mind

  Note: Some topics discussed might be triggering. In this deeply personal and heartfelt episode of 'A Millennial Mind,' I sit down with one of my closest friends, Dr. Rhona Eskander, as she opens up for the first time about her harrowing journey into motherhood. From experiencing a traumatic miscarriage and the emotional turmoil that followed, to navigating the complexities of fertility treatments, and finally, the unforeseen challenges of a high-risk pregnancy that led to an emergency C-section and a NICU stay for her baby, Rhona bravely shares it all. This conversation sheds light on the silent struggles many parents face, the societal pressures around fertility, and the importance of mental health and support during such times. I am incredibly grateful for Rhona's vulnerability and hope this episode fosters understanding and compassion for those facing similar battles. Please listen with care, and if you know someone who might benefit from this, share it with them. ✨ Who This Episode Is For Anyone who has faced pregnancy loss or fertility struggles Mothers navigating premature birth or NICU experiences Women processing grief, anxiety, or trauma after childbirth Parents learning to find strength and gratitude through adversity Anyone seeking an honest look at modern motherhood 00:00 Opening Up About a Personal Journey 00:05 The Miscarriage Experience 00:20 Navigating Fertility Challenges 00:34 Emergency C-Section and NICU 00:52 Introduction to the Episode 02:17 Rona's Fertility Journey 03:05 Egg Freezing and Societal Pressures 05:12 Struggles with Conception 06:06 The Miscarriage and Its Aftermath 07:05 IUI and Pregnancy Success 15:15 The Trauma of Miscarriage 24:40 Pregnancy Journey and Mental Health 30:40 Concerns About Baby's Growth 34:58 Discovering the Gentle Birthing Method 36:02 Dealing with Placental Insufficiency 36:54 The Pressure of Not Showing During Pregnancy 38:57 Navigating Public Perception and Body Image 42:26 The Trauma of an Emergency C-Section 49:15 The NICU Journey 51:05 The Importance of Mental Health and Support 01:07:28 Reflections on the NHS and Final Thoughts This week's episode includes a paid advertisement for Better Help. You can get your exclusive discount as a Millennial Mind listener using the link ⁠www.betterhelp.com/millennialmind⁠ to start your therapy journey and become your best self. 🔔 Subscribe for more discussions on mental health, personal growth, and healing! / @shivanipaupodcast ✨ Connect with Millennial Mind ✨ Podcast Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/amillennialmind Shivani Pau Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/shivani.pau Subscribe on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/shivanipaupodcast Performance Planner: https://my-performance-planner.myshopify.com/ Let Me Change Your Mind 🧠 🔑 Keywords / Tags pregnancy journey, miscarriage story, pregnancy loss, emergency c-section, 30 weeks premature, premature birth, NICU baby, motherhood journey, fertility struggles, pregnancy complications, maternal health, emotional healing, premature baby story, Rhona Eskander, A Millennial Mind, Shivani Pau Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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• Healthy Phone Habits: Are You Being Controlled By Your Devices? Dr Martha | A Millennial Mind

  In this episode of 'A Millennial Mind,' I sit down with Dr. Marta Deiros Collado, a clinical psychologist with 20 years of experience and a mother of two. We dive into the hot topic of smartphones and social media, exploring whether they're helpful tools or harmful threats, especially for children and parents. Dr. Marta shares her insights on the fear and misconceptions surrounding technology, and offers evidence-based strategies for finding balance and boundaries in our digital lives. We also discuss the impact of screen time on relationships and mental health, and how parents can build healthier tech habits for themselves and their kids. If you've ever struggled with screen time or are concerned about your children's digital habits, you won't want to miss this enlightening conversation. Please don't forget to like, follow, and subscribe to support more meaningful and impactful discussions like this. ✨ Who This Episode Is For: Anyone who feels anxious, guilty, or overwhelmed by their phone use Parents trying to help children build healthy screen habits Millennials and Gen Z struggling with digital burnout or social media anxiety People who want to create boundaries with technology without a digital detox Anyone curious about the psychology of screen time and mental health 💡 What You’ll Learn: Why notifications trigger anxiety and how to calm your brain’s response The science behind phone addiction and emotional overstimulation How to build a healthier relationship with social media and tech Practical tools to set digital boundaries at home and work How parents and kids can find balance and connection offline Why technology itself isn’t bad, it’s how we use it that matters Jump to: 00:00 Introduction: Are Smartphones a Tool or a Threat? 01:06 Challenging the Smartphone Narrative with Dr. Marta 02:07 Meet Dr. Marta: Clinical Psychologist and Mother 02:39 The Dual Nature of Smartphones: Tool and Threat 03:23 The Emotional Impact of Smartphone Use 04:34 The Importance of Awareness and Mindful Use 05:46 The Role of Technology in Modern Life 08:09 The Science Behind Smartphone Use and Its Effects 08:56 Addressing Misconceptions and Media Fear-Mongering 10:23 The Balance Between Technology and Human Experience 15:02 Smartphone Habits and Compulsive Behaviors 36:25 The Impact of Smartphones on Relationships 38:52 Balancing Screen Time and Family Time 40:08 Deciding When to Give Kids Smartphones 42:26 Navigating Social Pressures and Exclusion 45:28 Building Trust and Open Communication 48:12 Creating Healthy Digital Habits 51:21 The Impact of Social Media on Self-Esteem 01:01:46 Setting Boundaries and Family Phone Pledges 🔔 Subscribe for more discussions on mental health, personal growth, and healing! / @shivanipaupodcast ✨ Connect with Millennial Mind ✨ Podcast Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/amillennialmind Shivani Pau Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/shivani.pau Subscribe on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/shivanipaupodcast Performance Planner: https://my-performance-planner.myshopify.com/ Let Me Change Your Mind 🧠 phone anxiety, social media anxiety, smartphone addiction, digital burnout, digital wellbeing, screen time anxiety, notifications stress, tech and mental health, social media balance, phone detox, screen time habits, parenting and technology, kids screen time, mindful tech use, digital balance, Dr Martha Deiros Collado, Shivani Pau, A Millennial Mind Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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