A Millennial Mind

Are you staying because you want to… or because you’re scared to leave?In this solo episode, I talk about what happens when nothing is “wrong” but staying no longer feels honest. On the surface, this episode is about me and my partner becoming digital nomads and testing life in Dubai, Miami, and LA. But underneath that, this is really a conversation about choosing the unknown when staying feels safer but smaller.This episode is for you if:You’re in a relationship that looks fine but feels misalignedYou’re stuck in a job you’ve outgrownYou’re scared to start over, speak up, or choose yourselfYou keep waiting for certainty before you make a moveWe talk about:Why “good enough” is the hardest place to leaveThe fear of being judged for your choicesThe sunk cost fallacy (and why it keeps you stuck)Why trying is not the same as committing foreverHow to stop living through the eyes of other peopleYou don’t need certainty.You don’t need permission.You just need courage for the first step.🎧 If this episode resonated, make sure you subscribe — it helps this conversation reach the people who need it most.Thank you for being here 🤍🔔 Subscribe for more discussions on mental health, personal growth, and healing! / @shivanipaupodcast

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When a relationship looks perfect on the outside but feels deeply wrong behind closed doors, leaving can be one of the hardest decisions you’ll ever make ❤️‍🩹

In this episode of A Millennial Mind, I sit down with Nelly Patel, known from Married at First Sight UK, to talk openly about her marriage to Steven Springett, what really went on behind the scenes, and why she ultimately chose to walk away.

Nelly shares the reality of being in a toxic relationship under public scrutiny, the emotional confusion that comes with mixed signals, dishonesty and power imbalances, and how cultural expectations made leaving even harder. We talk about losing self-trust, recognising red flags too late, and what it actually takes to let go of a relationship that’s hurting you.

This is an honest conversation about toxic dynamics, self-worth, and choosing yourself - even when it’s painful, public, and misunderstood.

00:00 Trailer: leaving a toxic relationship
01:12 Meeting Steven on MAFS UK
04:05 Early red flags in the marriage
07:40 What the cameras didn’t show
11:10 Feeling confused and doubting myself
15:05 Dishonesty and broken trust
19:30 The impact of public pressure and opinions
24:10 Cultural expectations and staying too long
29:45 Realising the relationship was toxic
34:20 The moment I knew I had to leave
38:50 Life after MAFS and rebuilding self-trust
43:30 What I’ve learned about relationships
47:55 Advice for anyone in a toxic relationship

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If you’ve been doing all the “right” manifestation work but still feel stuck, frustrated, or like nothing is landing — this episode is for you. In this conversation on A Millennial Mind, I sit down with renowned astrologer Debbie Frank to explore why manifestation often feels blocked, and how understanding timing, alignment, and your own inner patterns can change everything.

We talk about divine timing, free will vs fate, and why forcing outcomes can actually create more resistance. Debbie explains how astrology isn’t about prediction, but self-awareness — helping you understand when to push forward, when to pause, and how to work with your natural rhythms instead of against them. This episode is a grounding, practical reframe of manifestation that feels calm, empowering, and deeply reassuring.

🤍 Who This Episode Is For:
Anyone who feels stuck despite trying to manifest change
People frustrated with manifestation that “isn’t working”
Those curious about astrology but sceptical of fluff
Anyone navigating a transition or waiting for clarity
People wanting to understand timing, alignment, and readiness
Listeners feeling behind, blocked, or out of sync with life

✨ What You’ll Learn:
Why manifestation can feel blocked even when you’re doing the work
The role of timing and alignment in creating change
How astrology can support self-understanding (not control)
The difference between forcing outcomes and allowing flow
Why feeling stuck doesn’t mean you’re failing
How to let go of pressure and work with your natural cycles
A calmer, more grounded way to approach manifestation

00:00 Trailer: Manifestation, timing & astrology
01:05 Why manifestation feels blocked
05:10 Astrology explained without prediction
08:00 Free will vs fate in manifestation
11:15 Why timing matters more than effort
15:05 Wanting something vs being ready for it
19:00 How forcing outcomes creates resistance
23:40 Understanding divine timing
28:25 How astrology helps you align with your cycles
33:00 Signs you’re pushing the wrong chapter
37:10 Letting go without giving up
42:00 How to stop forcing manifestation
47:05 What alignment actually feels like
52:30 A calmer way to manifest change
57:10 Trusting the timing of your life

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One of my goals this year is to create with more intention and that starts with audio. If you’re starting a podcast, filming YouTube videos, or recording voiceovers, sound quality matters more than people realise. You can have the best ideas in the world, but if the audio isn’t clear, people click away.I’ve been using the Shure MV7i, and it’s genuinely become part of my setup clean sound, easy to use, and perfect whether you’re recording at home or on the go.If your New Year intention is to stop overthinking and just start creating, this is your reminder: raise your standards, back yourself, and begin. Get you mic here: https://tinyurl.com/bdchrs3n AD 

Self-doubt can quietly shape your decisions, relationships, and confidence often without you even realising it. In this episode of A Millennial Mind, I sit down with behavioural scientist and performance expert Dr Shadé Zahrai to unpack why so many of us struggle with self-trust, imposter syndrome, and feeling “not good enough”.

We explore the psychology behind self-doubt, why confidence doesn’t come before action (it comes after), and how your self-image directly influences the life you build. Dr Shadé shares science-backed tools to stop second-guessing yourself, challenge your inner critic, and start backing yourself — even when it feels uncomfortable.

If you’re stepping into a new chapter, navigating change, or simply tired of holding yourself back, this conversation will help you move forward with more clarity and self-belief.

Who This Episode Is For:
Anyone struggling with self-doubt or imposter syndrome
People who constantly second-guess themselves
High-achievers who feel like they’re “faking it”
Those wanting to build real self-trust and confidence
Anyone stuck in overthinking, comparison or fear of failure

What You’ll Learn:
Why self-doubt isn’t a personality flaw
The science behind self-trust and confidence
Why action builds confidence — not the other way around
How imposter syndrome actually works
How to quiet your inner critic
Practical tools to stop overthinking and start acting
Whether personality really can change (and what science says)

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Use code CHRISTMAS20 for 20% of tickets to my workshop- valid for 72hours only! Get your tickets here: https://my-performance-planner.myshopify.com/pages/upcoming-workshopIn today’s solo episode, I’m sharing the most vulnerable decision Nikhil and I have ever made. We’re moving abroad. Not because we have everything figured out, not because life pushed us, but because we’re choosing growth over comfort, even when it feels terrifying.This episode is the real story behind why we’re moving, what led to it, and the fears, guilt and emotions that come with leaving family, friends, work, and the only place I’ve ever lived.I talk about:🌍 Why we’ve always dreamed of living abroad☀️ How weather, energy and environment impact your happiness💭 The mindset of moving before you feel ready🏠 Renting, break clauses and the judgement we received👪 The guilt of leaving family + future kids growing up differently💸 Money, ambition and wanting more for your future💛 Choosing opportunity instead of waiting for permission✈️ The cost of change and why we’re doing it anywayIf you’ve ever felt stuck, afraid to take a risk, or worried about making the “wrong” decision… this episode will feel like a conversation with someone who gets it.
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