In This Body

What if your nervous system is asking to be understood, not managed?

In this episode, Ailey sits down with Alexis Florentina, a Somatic Experiencing Practitioner, to explore how nervous system regulation has become another form of self improvement, and why that can leave us feeling even more disconnected from ourselves.
Drawing from her own experience with chronic illness and medical trauma, Alexis shares a gentler approach to embodiment, one that honors leaving the body as a valid survival strategy and recognizes that healing cannot be forced. Together, she and Ailey explore safety, titration, and the subtle signals that tell us when our nervous system is ready and when it is not.
The conversation also unpacks common misunderstandings about regulation, anxiety, and activation, offering a more compassionate perspective on emotions that are often treated as problems to solve. They discuss the difference between stress and trauma, the role of creativity in healing, and why aliveness, not perfect regulation, may be the real measure of healing.
If you have ever felt pressure to do embodiment the "right" way, this conversation offers a more spacious and supportive path forward.

In this episode:
3:35 An Invitation Back To The Body
4:16 Lexy's Training And Origin Story
11:21 Holism Over Mind Body Polarity
16:46 Regulation Isn’t A Task
21:47 What Trauma Feels Like Clinically
28:15 Writing Creativity And Aliveness
37:13 Meeting Fear Without Fixing
44:59 Fawning People Pleasing And Needs
49:17 Your Body Is Fighting For You

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What happens when you leave a belief system, but your body is still living by its rules?
In this episode, Ailey sits down with poet and spoken word artist Arielle Estoria, author of The Unfolding, to explore faith deconstruction, embodiment, and the journey of coming home to yourself after years of being taught to be smaller.
Arielle shares how embodiment became tangible through everyday choices, from embracing her natural hair to redefining movement, beauty, and self trust on her own terms. Together, she and Ailey explore the grief of losing community when belonging is tied to belief, and the freedom that can emerge when life expands beyond rigid definitions of right and wrong.
The conversation also examines the nervous system impact of religious conditioning and how healing often happens through small, repeated experiences of safety, creativity, and authentic connection.
Throughout the episode, Arielle offers practical tools for reconnecting with the body, including journaling, movement, interoception, self expression, and learning to trust your own inner knowing.
If you are navigating religious trauma, self acceptance, or the challenge of trusting yourself again, this conversation offers language, permission, and a gentler path forward.
In this episode:
3:09 What Being In Your Body Means
7:41 Growing Up Baptist And Feeling Small
13:43 How Conditioning Shapes The Nervous System
16:05 Artistry As A Way Home
19:23 Faith Deconstruction And Conditional Belonging
29:42 Being Loved Without Shrinking
35:14 Telling Fear From A True No
46:33 The Permission Slips She Wanted Sooner
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What happens when the grief carried inside the reproductive body is never fully named?
In this solo episode, Ailey speaks to miscarriage, endometriosis, adenomyosis, infertility, reproductive surgery, and the quiet grief so many people are forced to hold alone. Drawing from both her clinical work and personal experience, she explores what it means to live in a body shaped by pain, loss, diagnosis, and scar tissue.
Ailey examines how easily self trust can erode when symptoms are dismissed and answers are delayed, and how that experience impacts the nervous system and relationship to the body itself. She also explores the growing conversation around endocrine disrupting chemicals, reproductive health, and the complex realities many women are navigating inside modern environments.
From there, the episode moves into pregnancy, miscarriage, ambiguous loss, and the ways grief can remain invisible when there is no ritual, language, or collective witnessing around it.
This conversation offers a compassionate and grounded space for anyone navigating reproductive grief, chronic pain, or a changing relationship with their body.
In this episode:
2:53 Naming Reproductive Loss Out Loud
11:58 The Bigger Pattern In The Data
22:48 When Systems Shift Blame Onto Women
32:37 Miscarriage As Postpartum In The Body
40:22 Microplastics In Placentas And Loss
45:33 Surgery, Scar Tissue And Proprioception
49:03 Healing Through Witnessing And Choice
53:18 Where To Go Next And Share
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What if anger is not the final destination, but the doorway to something deeper?
In this episode, Ailey sits down with depth psychologist and author Vanessa Bennett to explore the complexity of anger, healing, and what happens when righteous rage becomes the place we live. Together, they examine how anger can protect us while also shielding us from deeper emotions waiting underneath.
Vanessa shares how Jungian psychology, embodiment, and somatic healing can work together to create a more expansive understanding of trauma and identity. The conversation explores inherited pain, collective patterns, and the difference between ego work and deeper soul work, especially in today’s online healing culture.
Ailey and Vanessa also unpack Vanessa’s “Trinity Wounds”: the witch wound, sister wound, and mother wound, and how they quietly shape relationships between women through mistrust, competition, and disconnection.
This episode offers a grounded and nuanced look at healing, one that honours the reality of harm while also asking what becomes possible when anger no longer has to carry everything alone.
In this episode:
4:00 Safety And Stability In The Body
7:25 Why Depth Somatics Feels Different
9:54 Collective Unconscious And Shared Pain
21:53 Ego Work Versus Soul Work
33:12 The Witch Sister Mother Wounds
44:16 Why The Enemy Within Is Hard
47:02 Righteous Rage Versus Real Power
58:04 Owning Your Part Without Blame
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What if pleasure is not about learning new techniques, but learning how to feel safe in your body?
In this episode, Ailey sits down with sex therapist and sexologist Aleksandra Trkulja to explore the connection between body image, nervous system regulation, and intimacy. Together, they unpack why shame, self criticism, and disconnection from the body can create real barriers to pleasure, arousal, and desire.
Aleks shares insights from her work in eating disorder recovery and explains how control can begin to feel like safety. The conversation also explores the fawn response in sex, the difference between compliance and consent, and why learning your body’s subtle signals can transform the way you relate to intimacy.
From there, Ailey and Aleks move into practical ways to reconnect with desire, beginning outside the bedroom through everyday experiences of pleasure, sensation, and preference. They also discuss co regulation, trauma informed pacing, and the role the nervous system plays in connection and sexuality.
If you have ever felt disconnected from your body or unsure how to access pleasure in an embodied way, this conversation offers a compassionate and grounded place to begin.
In this episode:
4:41 Why Body Hate Blocks Pleasure
11:01Eating Disorders And False Control
17:08 Body Image Patterns In Sex
20:53 Shame Based Messages About Sex
28:03 Desire As A Relearned Skill
34:15 Trauma Informed Safety And Pace
40:22 Co Regulation In Intimacy
45:19 Curiosity Over Shame
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